₦airaland Forum

adosjun:
Then love bug search no more becos i'm ready to be dat man . Dat will make u laugh n forget your name. Also a uniport alumni, in is mid 20's. Applicant.

lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Pls forgive me. "forget her name"? lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

jay bee:
u r the cockroach in me cupboard

lol!!!

check this, "the apple in me eyes" lol!!!!!!!! Heard that alot in those days. Funny though, they were people i'd never even seen before!

Okija_juju:
They didnt know any better

lol!!!! Yeah, you r rite.

SA Goddess:
LOL, maybe that is the reason, I just don't want to mother anyone, maybe that is why I frown at them

lol!

lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Pls forgive me. lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Honestly your thread is hilarious

To be candid, pls and pls don't pretend to be what you are not. Let her see your current situation and accept you for whom you are. I believe love will always find a way. Wish you the best.

Okija_juju:
Too much spice ruins a beautiful meal.

You young ladies atimes dont know when to stop. Y'all are so caught up in your MTV world that you dont even realise that the older dude you are dating isnt into that kind of crap anymore.

Maybe older chicks should counsel the younger generation, although I seriously doubt y'all would listen.

U are right bro, the same goes for older men. They are more romantic and less dramatic. They listen to you and show a high level of maturity.

SA Goddess:
How come none of these youngsters ever look in my direction?

Cuz you never smiled at them! With just a smile, you'll get the candy 

yemo offa:
Simple question can u do without a woman out of your own freewill?

Ask Elton John.

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
this question is as silly as CAN YOU DO WITHOUT FOOD?!

If you are Prahlad Jani

Mr Anus:
man cannot live by Womanliness alone, it is written

Seems to me you are all about Womanliness.

rubi:
@Casa
I think she is asking for assistance once in a while. For me cooking should be a hobby at least for the sake of health

No rubi, she's not asking for assistance once in a while, she actually meant him taking over the Kitchen according to the Poster.

martin1:
NA2day!marriage don end b dat.

lol!

JANC:
I believe u're above 18. Pls post matured stuffs.

lol!

hatch#:
^^Make you leave this MUGU abi na MAGA sef !
Didn't she also tell you that when you guys marry,you will also help her carry the pregancies on her behalf !

Spyker:
Chei, see correct woman for Nairaland. Thank you for this comment, Nwa yi Oma.

@Poster, dump that lazy girl before you begin wash pant. Afterall, you don dey cook already. Wetin come remain (Chestfeed the baby?)

Just wondering if this is for real. It's like watching the Jerry Springer's show. lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So, what does she get to do And don't forget you will still do the normal late night duty.Lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Dude, you r sooo funny. lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Acidosis:
Honestly, I'm hearing this for the first time. Are you a Nigerian? If yes, then your ancestors will never forgive you, if you marry her with that silly principle

lol!!!!!! yeah, they wont.

hanzi:
I and my girlfriend has been into relationship for some years and it is heading towards marriage. But the problem is who do the cooking and the housework?

To her she believes that a caring man always cook for his woman. When I say “always", I don't mean three times a week, I mean everyday i.e wake up in the morning and prepare breakfast for her and the children and also do some of the house work.At evening you should rush back to cook the dinner because the wife and children need to eat. The truth is, it is the way she was raised to understand. She is really a nice girl but I will be sincere with myself. I can't see myself doing housework at alone at the cookings.

As a man, I see it as bring myself so low. I need advice on how to make her understand this.

lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Pls forgive me. lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Moralistli:
sorry,
i mean a gal should marry who loves her.

@
Adaybola, u are making a whole lot of sense. wish i could reach you.

Drop ur email, will add yu on messenger.

rubi:
@Adaybola Thanks for your contribution and honesty

My pleasure

chiogo:
Interesting story. However, it seemed you didn't really know what you wanted while you were with the guy. Maybe it has to do with your age - girls tend to be superficial when they're young. Your case doesn't apply to all females in the same situation, depends on your reasons for not loving the guy, really. And no, you can't try to love someone, it just happens. When you have to put so much energy, then the feelings probably aren't there.

Some people would have moved on from their ex like you did and never come back because they had valid reasons for doing so and knew what they wanted in a partner besides the superficial stuff.

You are right to an extent but it seems you don't understand me.  If i may ask, is leaving someone who loves you with their whole heart and are always there for you no matter what for a silly fantasy of "tall-handsome-comfortable-romantic and perfect man" makes sense to you? I didn't love him cuz i was looking at all the wrong qualities. I liked him a lot, i enjoyed the intimacy we had, i enjoyed his company but "he just wasn't attractive enough"! Is that a valid reason to end a relationship that was so great?? Or because of some silly fantasy? 


Yes and yes, you can fall in love with someone overtime, if only we can try to see the good qualities in them. Respect begets love and love grows over time.

All am telling her is to be careful and search herself and have a good reason for ending what she has now. Atimes, we don’t appreciate what we have until we loose it cuz most times we keep searching for “whatever we believe will make us happy” we never seem to realized that we had it all along. As the Yorubas will say “nkan ti a wa lo si Sokoto, o nbe ni inu sokoto wa” .

@SA Lady,

thanks sis, u r right. If i should get an opportunity to get a man like my ex again. , i will definitely do it right!

Pls pardon the long story, I just want u to get my points. I had a similar experience, my first b/f was so crazy about me that he worshipped the ground I walked on. The problem was, I just couldn't love him cuz of his look (he’s not ugly but not just hot enough "in my estimation". I tot I was too beautiful to be his. I cared about him and appreciated him but try as I could, I just couldn't love him. I told him I didn't love him but he kept telling me I would with time. After 5 years and still feeling the same way, I couldn't go on with the relationship. In fact, to make him break up with him I cheated on him (the most despicable thing I’ve ever done). He caught me, forgave me and was still willing to move on with me (he proposed) and I tot he was silly. Eventually I left him five years ago. Now, I realized I was just immature and chasing shadows. I actually wanted a hot looking man, comfortable, romantic, perfect, lol!!! So silly rite? After several relationships, I saw reality and I realized I didn’t love him cuz I didn’t want to. Am 5”6, he’s 5”7 and I love tall guys. The other guys I dated were fine alrite, hot bods and all that stuff but they made me taste hell (heartbroken, over and over again) I went back to my ex three years ago but, it was too late. He found someone better and finer than me, he currently works in the oil and gas sector, (he’s so fine I could hardly recognize him). Fortunately, he's happily married now with the said lady and very comfortable. I envy his wife. Well, am still single (trying to be happy) but I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I could have loved him if I had tried to see his inner beauty.  Pls think carefully, “atimes the things we chase in life is like shimmers in the pond”.

papa190:
the rich cheatable girl all the way~

but marriage i would stick wit the poor marriagable gurl after i have wrecked the rich cheatable girl~

lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Eyah:
A “cheatable guy” is among the Misfortunes that a woman could ever have. Nothing is permanent in this life, money will come and go, but the poor faithful guy will stay unto you.

Jokes apart and let's be honest here, how many Nigerian ladies can date "a poor guy"? Very few i guess.
Secondly, "the poor faithful guy" is JUST FAITHFUL cuz he ain't got moni, once he got moni, trust me you'll see a new him (except in divine cases which is like 1 out of 100). Money has a way of changing peeps. I can't stay with the rich dude who treats me like that and neither can i date the poor faithful dude cuz I got to face reality and poverty is not part of it "FOR ME". I guess i would have none of them.

Deep Soul:
^^Sometimes, you shd make an effort at making sense. Not all the time oh! Just sometimes

lol!

maximized:
I think say you be virgin

lol!!!! Yes now! I never know anything o! Me just tink say they r kind of good in bed "in my imagination"
Abi @ 30 i for suppose don do am?

papa190:
so sinderella went ahead 2 marry without informing me~

This marriage nor go work,

Goes ahead 2 look for a MARK4 to blow James head

lol!!!

mexxyaaron:
ok,

It appears u are attracted to muscular guys dear.Me i dey go carry weight oooooo one two one two, continues

lol!!!!!!! yea, I love tall guys with muscles (makes me feel protected sort of) and they are kind of good in bed, lol!!!!!!!. Unfortunately, i always get to share them with other ladies.

Mr Anus:
Its funny how some guys say that black women are materialistic, The freakin truth is that they (guys) aint got money!!!
Women should be treated like Diamond, and not like bread, gaaadeeemit!!!!

Love you baby!

mexxyaaron:
@bola

hi,when u mean dwayne johnson do u mean the ex wrestler e.g the rock come actor now pls.

Yea Emeka.

Mr Anus:
dont like love, dont like money, but i worship Womanliness

I bet you do!

Well, u said it already, "Personal taste". I love Hrithik Roshan and David Bechman too but Usher?

SA Lady:
It takes two - three maybe four to tango I guess.

lol!!

I hate pretence and i will just say it the way i view it.

Love is good, money is good too. So, LOVE+MONEY=HONEY.

rokiatu:
hmm beauty is really in the eyes of the beholder. I don't find Dwanyne hot but I get what u are
saying.

It's more than the face dear. Check the physique! Men, Dwayne is HOT!!!!!