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Peterosky:
.I have read through few of your replies, and all I can say is that you are a good husband. Do not mind the silly advice from some children on this platform. Or better still, learn never to take your marital issues to any third party. Odikwa very risky. Your wife maybe overreacting, but those words she spilled mean nothing. Again, learn never to bring your marital issues to nairaland,Facebook or even to your friend or any other person, it's very risky. Forgive her and move on,she truly love's you.And that's the reason for the jealousy,just that she's being over protective.Wish you the best in your marriage.

Thanks so much, i truely appreciate

God bless you and yours

Akuruoulo:
Bro it's very good u save ur home from any form of scene, and I bet u don't have intimate female friends would want to visit your home.

As a Married man it's only ur female relatives who should visit you, and if she is not ok with them visiting, then she has a big problem.

BRO U ARE THE BOSS , AND DON'T FORGET IT.
WOMEN CAN NEVER GO AGAINST THEIR GENDER NOR MATTER WHAT SHE DID , AND THAT TELL ALOT ABOUT HOW THEY WANT TO INSTALL THEIR SUPERIOR FEMINISTS AGENDA WEDA BY KNOWN OR UNKNOWN

She only accommodates just one of my cousin because she helps with house chores.....

Thanks so much for this brother....

Akuruoulo:
WE DON'T MEAN EVIL TO WOMEN BUT WE NEED TO CURTAIL THEIR THREAT

But we shouldn't curtail with threats to our own detriment......

Mgtow8:
Someone told you her real mind,being the simp you are ,you are still contemplating..only God knows that a mere girlfriend cannot even say such to me not to talk about a wife.DEATH TO SIMPS

Please, be patient with ladies before you commit murder.

Mgtow8:
Too many simps in this thread for my liking WOW

Not been a simp but just giving enough room to fight a good fight when the time comes

GabrielJ214:
As in ehn!!!! you just aired entirely my opinions on this matter

But those words can be fustrating at times......any ways, thanks

1kinggy:
She meant everything she said and she has been holding it for years. Go and do a paternity test on all the 3 children. If you're lucky one of the 3 kids may be yours.

And going forward, just know you are living next to a snake, she can strike at you at any time. You can't change her. You are at risk.

Ah, i dont want to think towards this angle at all.....altgough the 3 kids look so so much like me, they are the kind that cannot be denied.


Thanks so much

sandra50:
Oga if you don't start correcting your mistakes now you might end up dead..how can you be taking your family along with you every time you are going out(every time is bad)those people you hang po it with do they come with their families too?you can take them along some times but not always..how can you be explaining missing 1,000? women do too much..when they have a good man they would want to take advantage of him.. imagine having to explain how 1,000 got missing and it even became a very big problem..I can't imagine how many times you explain things in that how and how much you do to avoid problems..
If I were you I would change.. sit her down and give her a serious warning..that she needs to stop nagging and picking faults thereby making the house uncomfortable for you,that any other day she tries it you wouldn't take it lightly with her and if she dares any rubbish again just leave the house for days and come back when you like..when you come back do not explain anything even if you make peace with her..be ready for the malic that will come with this correction you are about to make..if she decides not to talk to you for days just let her have her time and any time she decides she is done with her malic then you start your own until she begs and promises to change..you are weak and she knows this that's why she is treating you like a child.

Brother, as if you are with me....this is exactly what i have been and it really pays off now and keeping her calm.....anything she believes i do not owe her explanations and i really have peace of mind.

AsianTotal:
Bro, it will pay you more to focus on yourself and how to please your wife to forgive you for hurting you. Polygamists are known to live happier, healthier and longer than monogamists. Leave Ned Nwoko Alone and work on yourself. Just try your best to apologies to your wife, buy her more gifts and hand over all of your salaries to her so she can decides how much you need for your upkeep. You need to completely submit to your wife so that peace can reign.

Okay, i understand you........thanks so much.

Gkemz:
You're living in hell under your roof. If she said those words, call for the attention of the elders she yeilds to their counsel. Also invite your priest. Express your dissatisfaction to them. If it means using divorce threat use it to make them understand how serious you are.

Divorce ke? She said shes not scared and ready to be a single mother

Nephilim:
She doesn't mean it! Ejoor! Women can be like that.

But na wa for this gender called women oooo

Olayetan:
Brother

You could tell it's out of anger but she didn't caution herself well to know some words carries heavy gravity.

Pls I understand how you feel but don't let the words get into your head, cux if you do, just know your home is about to crash n think of your children mental health.

I know your mental health is also at stake but you can handle that better than the young kids...

You have said well and the reality.

I will do so.
Thanks alot

Akuruoulo:
U DON'T WANT A MAN TO MALTREAT YOUR SISTER ; RIGHT ?
BUT DO YOU WANT UR SISTER TO MALTREAT ANOTHER PERSONS BROTHER ?
YOU ARE THE BOSS, AND U SHOULD KEEP UR SISTER OUT OF THIS BECAUSE IF SHE MALTREAT ANOTHER MAN THE SAME WAY YOUR WIFE IS MSLTREATING THEN I GUESS HE HAVE TO TAKE ACTION.
YOU HAVE TO BUILD YOU HOME THE WAY U WANT IT TO BE , AND NOT BELIEVING THAT'S A MERE WORD FROM HER.
SHE SAID ALL THAT FOR NO REASON, JUST GUESS WHAT WILL HIT YOU FINALLY WHEN HAVE A REASON TO BELITTLE YOU.
LISTEN TO WOMEN ADVICE AT UR PARIL BECAUSE THEY WILL NEVER GO AGAINST THEIR GENDER .
THAT'S YOUR HOME AND U MUST TO TALK TO HER ABOUT HER STATEMENT BECAUSE IT MIGHT NOT BE MERE AS U WOULD BELIEVE.

Hmmmm, many thanks brother.

Will work towards it.

Akuruoulo:
WOMEN HAVE FINALLY MADE SIMPS BELIEVE THEY ARE THE ONES WHO DESERVES BEEN MALTREAT.
I DON'T EVEN UNDERSTAND howTANDING UR GROUND TO RIDE UR HOME TO THE RIGHT DIRECTIONS MEANS MALTREAT TO HIM ...
To prove how cruel and DECEITFUL women can be, they are all SUPPORTING the man not to make a move to stop the doom that is about befalling him but they would want the man's head if reverse is the case .

Have u ever heard " a real man doesn't hit a woman " ?
It simply means a real man should simp, take abuses from a real woman only to become a real man .
No one takes women abuse on men as an issue only because they want men to believe they are mere servant to his queen wife .

OP SUFFER THE WAY U LIKE BIKO.
ITS YOUR HOME AFTER ALL , AND U CAN CHOOSE TO SWITCH ROLES EVEN WITH UR KIDS

Their is always a light to every darkness.

Thanks alot

chrizzyace:
I feel your pain bro, for me I don’t think she hates or regrets marrying you... She definitely loves you bro... don’t take those words to heart, also I think you both need to communicate more even if it’s a topic that would trigger a nerve... do it all with love and compassion. It would help cement those loopholes that’s causing all the misunderstandings... there’s no home that doesn’t go through all this. Handle it with love my brother everything will be alright...
Goodluck

Thanks so much my brother, i so much appreciate this piece...

God be with you and yours

Akuruoulo:
In ur own home she decides who come and go while u are listening to people who made her look like semi Angel

Walai, orelse the roof of the building will come down that day and i hate creating scene in my compound

Akuruoulo:
THIS IS THE THINGS U ARE SUPPOSED TO DO, AND LET HER KNOW IT SHOULDN'T REPEAT.

My gratitude

MNDY:
That is exactly the problem you have caused.
Pamper her and be hot with her when it is necessary too.

Hmmmm, she still tells me that i am the only that can handle her and put her in her place.

The reason i know its not about being weak, but she just want to cause commotion once in a while

faithugo64:
You are good man
Apart from being difficult a times (everyone has a difficult side) has she given you peace throughout the 10 years you have spent with her?
If yes, reconcile with her
That is what it means to be the HEAD, keeping your home in one piece!

Alot of persons encouraging you to go Hard on her are not even married (thanks to anonymity of the forum)
Imagine taking the advice of someone who is is yet to experience what marriage feels like.
Be careful of the advice you heed.

Thanks so much for this piece, the more reason i am trying to scrutinize every advices but going harder on her is surely not a way out.

Thanks a million

AsianTotal:
Yes, Ned Nwoko has three wives aNd maybe he will still have more. But he is HEALTHIER THAN YOU, HE IS HAPPIER THAN YOU AND HE IS IN CHARGE OF HIS HOME.

Do you live with him and his wife?

All marriages are happy outside except the truth be told.

Dont be deceived bro......If you see my marrige on a norms you will never ever suspect their are internal issues.

Brunosamel:
You have lost your frame bro you seriously need to start building it back and don't talk about finance with your woman never let a woman know your net worth and stop pleasing her.... I wish you the best

Thanks so much, i have been thinking of this.

Oldmutual:
No mind that one..he na know him blood group

I weak ooo.....because cutting off the head is definitely not the solution to head ache

sparko1:
I don't care how angry she is, or how hurtful she wants to make you, you need to draw a line, saying something like this in the presence of your children is a NO NO!

You need to show her this can never repeat, and maybe get an hotel for a couple of days, she needs to understand, saying something like that to you when your children are present is a deal breaker.

No man should be disrespected in front of his children, if you let it slide she will do it again until it becomes her habit, at which point your children begin to see you in a different light.

Sleeping outside might be another disaster.

Althesame, thanks so much for the piece of advice.

The children of the poor you have failed to train will definitely go after the rich........

Marcaroni, life with Naija Government na jeje oo



advice from an elderly elder

mamatee2:
I'm not sure what the update is all about.
Noone has mentioned that a decision was overturned with a ghost update after refusal.
Even then, anything is possible as what God cannot do does not exist!

Thanks alot

Iphiegrace:
So sorry about this delay,
When did you submit ?
NSE?

Normal route......submitted April 14th

mamatee2:
Sorry for the refusal.
Someone just experienced same - a ghost update after refusal.

Is there still hope please

makano:
You are not the only one in this shoe..

As usual, order for your GCMS notes.

Peace

Alright, thanks alot

Please house, i got a refusal yesterday and got a ghost update today.......

Is it normal?

This guy is not a thief ......only posing for a shoot with that machine.

or better still a proud thief who knows there is no punishment for him.

ademidedavid:
Please have they started administering covid vaccines?

If yes, where can i get vaccinated please?

Answer please