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MISSCONGENIALITY:
The only time you should stop worrying is when she stops trying to know what's going on around you. When she sees you looking at a lady and keeps mute or doesn't care how you spend you money anymore.
That's when you should be worried.

Oh thanks alot.....well she do promise to stop but she just cant maybe because she cant fight her feelings.

Gratitude

reddingtonblack:
@ademidedavid, wow you've being married for ten years nd you still take the words of a nagging wife to heart ..ALOL ! bro haba naw you should know women better by now there is nothing they can't say when angry, a man must learn to take there words with pinch of salt.
Naturally, women are secretive when it comes to expressing there true feelings hence why i see them as sarcastic being, there is no way to know if a woman loves you or not other than her commitment. Bro i am even surprise you're just hearing 'i hate you" after 10yrs your wife must have being very discipline TBH its nothings let her moves count

The more reason its a big blow to me......but i guess i have to get used to it now.

MY sincere gratitude brother

reddingtonblack:
@ademidedavid, wow you've being married for ten years nd you still take the words of a nagging wife to heart ..ALOL ! bro haba naw you should know women better by now there is nothing they can't say when angry, a man must learn to take there words with pinch of salt.
Naturally, women are secretive when it comes to expressing there true feelings hence why i see them as sarcastic being, there is no way to know if a woman loves you or not other than her commitment. Bro i am even surprise you're just hearing 'i hate you" after 10yrs your wife must have being very discipline TBH its nothings let her moves count

The more reason its a big blow to me......but i guess i have to get used to it now.

MY sincere gratiture brother

ogbenimax007:
sir cool your mind they are all the same... My wife always tell me she regret marrying me whenever we had misunderstanding but she never 4 once think abt we going our separate ways

Hmmmm, what a relieve, thanks alot brother

Ekpeitut:
People say things they don't mean when they're angry. It's normal. Tell her to be calming down.

Lastly are you known to always give out "quick 2k or 1k" to "less privileged" ladies?

No i am not into any lady neither do i spend on any lady.........


althesame, thanks

mrblessed:
Why would your wife police you over a mere one thousand naira that did not come from her directly? The picture you painted, from not wanting to take her out, to accusations of being drunk and flirting with your eyes, shows a man who has been thoroughly emasculated, and whom his wife does not have a scintilla of respect for.

The fact that she resumed her toxic behaviour at home is a clear pointer that you have endured rather enjoyed the ten-year marriage. To me, her enunciation of hatred to your person is not a Freudian slip; it's actually what forms her sheer disregard for. It's now too late for you to write this wrong without causing a fundamental injury to your marriage.

Exactly, any wrong tried to be corrected might look like i now for advice else where.

yuping:
You are one of his best gift and reward, she just want to say something that will hurt you.
Draw her close, look into her eyes at the heat of the moment and says to her I Love ❤️ You Too.

Hmmm, thanks so much will for this piece.......will give it a trial.


Bless you and yours

Emperormartin:
Just have sex with her... That woman loves you

This might not really work because she always want matters settled before anything and i cannot rape her.


althesame, thanks alot

Stereotypes:
After 10 years of marriage, 3 kids na now she begin hate? hate wetin
Tell her you hate her too then finish the hate with beta knackson.

You made me smile after she said those words..........

thanks for this.........but i know it cant work until we both have a one to one talk.

JaneYave:
All are good advice so far. Be careful of *Kandeed's* .It is better to be a Simp to your wife and enjoy peace than to be a super man to the world while your home boils.
To add more, when you left to be in the kids room, you left her lonely, in an angry mood she said that. Pardon her! Study careful the first three advice.

Thanks so much.....i have to read this over and over again.........the needful will be done.

God bless you and yours

Newboss:
You sound like one of those weak simps. You gats drop her ass and move so as to be the man that she can respect. This one na see finish o. She has zero respect for you, forget a those yeye "women are emotional" talk. That's manipulation.

Hmmmmm, move forward after 10years with 3 kids?

This decision will definitely affect my kids which i will not want to do........

Anyways, thanks so much

Afamsi:
Sometimes it is anger that reveals the hidden things of the heart. While sometimes angry people want to say anything to see that they hurt your feelings though in their heart of heart they know they are not being realistic.

I wish this is the case ........

i sincerely wish so!

Gratitude

nzeobi:
You already said your wife is a difficult person.

Know the the type of things that you tell her and always try to avoid any form of confrontation.

FOod for thought......

thanks so much

Bless you

Kandeed:
This is hitting you hard because you've been too weak....take it or leave it being to weak on women is a suicide mission.

Read some folks up there saying go to her, pet her bla bla. unfortunately for you OP that's not the language a woman understands. if she said all that, the next thing you should do is not go to her or ask why (you'd only ensure something worse than that is said to again) let her come herself begging .

Tbh I still don't understand how men find it hard to put women in their place and act manly like true House Heads.

You have said well bro but i do put her in place of my sister and since i do not want any man to maltreat my sister the more reason i might not be able to do this.........not becuase i am weak but because i am humane

Thanks for this piece anyways

UKBobo:
Na ex-wife talk na

Abeg expanciate

crackhaus:
If after 10years of marriage and 3 kids, my wife tells me she hates me and regrets marrying me, I will just start laughing...

Ohhhhh, why please?

She looks more beautiful, well packaged than all these younger ladies and you will never believe she has 3kids.....


you will never ever.......

bukatyne:
Ask her why

I sincerely wish

libertyfather:
No biggie it out of anger and about taking her out dont take to such bar again, take her to cool restaurants thay only couples , bf and gf hangout no side attractions....those olosho twerking will be like there ones you come wen she's not with you..make one come greet you.....my brother ur finished

Okay bro, suggestion noted.


Thanks so much.

Franzinni:
Bros nah normal levels ... women are emotional they say anything to win the confrontation that is how they are built

But I think there is more to the outburst but it profits nobody but the devil for me to start putting ideas in your head.

Just handle it in the most logical way... don't let emotions cloud your mind ... that is a. Woman's department.

Thanks so much my brother, i appreciate and God bless

pocohantas:
Ask her, she would be in a better position to answer you. Some of us here would say NO, some would say YES. After that we leave you to your troubles and face our lives. Which may be better or worse than yours.

Hmmm, i appreciate......

May God be with you and yours

sola12:
U are lucky boss... She is still crazily in luv with u. She is only trying to protect n preserve her territory. Draw her close n give her better piping. Moreso women could be funny at times wen they are angry. Learn to forgive and forget!!!

Okay, thanks so much.........

I also thought of this but the words were too heavy.....

Well appreciated

My greetings nairalanders,
I am married for 10years now and blessed woth 3 wonderful kids but my woman is a bit difficult.

To cut the long story short, i went out with a colleague on friday and due to the fact that the kids are on holiday, i took my wife along because she was already raising the roof bout my outing ( NOTE: I have never ever gone out without my family to avoid wife's palava).

On getting there, she complained i was looking at some ladies lustfully which was not at all.......just trying to figure out some important things in my head. After which she complained that i was drunk.....lo and behold i wasnt because i dont take beer, i only take red wine, bullet and spinnorf......which i took a red wine and bullet before leaving the house and also took 3 bottles of spinnorff ( I was never drunk with all of those)

Fast forward to today, i am very open with my finances guess one of my mistakes.........she noticed that a thousand naira (#1000) was missing in my wallet and all means to explain to her proved abortive even though i give her money for things she love like body cream, cloths and others but after all nagging, i was vexed and went to the kids room which i politely asked her to let me be at the moment because i cant withstand her nagging over a thousand naira but she persisted and i have to shut the door against her but she opened it and told me she hates me and regret marrying me.....sounded like the rapture sound initially but later realised it actually came from my woman, my mother of my kids!!!!

i still cant place those words.....could it be out of anger or she actually mean the words for real?

Please help a heartbroken brother.

WummieWummie:
Please help with the message you sent. As in what did you write in the mail?

Hello,

I am (name as written on passport) with Application number ********* and UCI ********.

This is in regards of my application submitted on the 14th of April, 2021 with no update till date after NSE request was made by IRCC.

I also write in respect to my application that shows "your action is required".

I hereby attach a letter with respect to mybank statement ticket ID and password of my sponsors, letter of explanation on why i could not submit the IELTS test result as required, my wedding and family pictures, my husband employment confirmation letter and my children's birth certificate for your further action.

Many thanks.
Name:
Application no:
UCI




I also sent a webform to back it up........

and my eligibility started the next day

Best of luck

Vee1998:
please can you share a draft of what was sent

Hello,

I am (name as written on passport) with Application number ********* and UCI ********.

This is in regards of my application submitted on the 14th of April, 2021 with no update till date.

I also write in respect to my application that shows "your action is required".

I hereby attach a letter with respect to mybank statement ticket ID and password of my sponsors, letter of explanation on why i could not submit the IELTS test result as required, my wedding and family pictures, my husband employment confirmation letter and my children's birth certificate for your further action.

Many thanks.
Name:
Application no:
UCI




I also sent a webform to back it up........

and my eligibility started the next day

Best of luck

tourphland:
What email did you send it to?

nrobi-im-enquiry@international.gc.ca
nairobi@international.gc.ca
nrobi-immigration@international.gc.ca

Lianna2020:
Amen

Thank you very much

tourphland:
How does one know the branch handling one’s application??
No updates on this thing at all.. hmm

Send mail to them and complain.....i did it yesterday and my eligibility started today

tourphland:
Did you do an upfront medical?

Yes, i did upfront medical

tourphland:
Did you do an upfront medical?

Yes, i did upfront medicals

April 14th applicant

Eligibility started today

i pray it ends in praise

Dear applicant, this is to inform you that your health case has been submitted to the embassy.

please is there cause for alarm?

Please does IOM send message when medical case is sent to embassy?