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frozen70:
That's very good of you

Just be calm while she ragges, with time you will understand her and how to avoid funny drama from her

Women are drama queen's

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hmmmm, they are indeed

Please have they started administering covid vaccines?

If yes, where can i get vaccinated please?

mariahAngel:
“Whenever I try such...?”

Omo! You don enter!
You go marry who pass you!

Difficult in the sense that things get difficult.. financially and others

BROWNEMMANUEL26:
Go and sit down, women like controlling men but when yawa gas na dem go dey beg up and down.
Op believe this manipulator at your own peril. What nonsense your wife controlling u emotionally and pocket wise

Well understood......my thanks

Ofadaman:
Rule number one ,never let her know how much you earn, never let her know how much you have saved up, never let her know how much you're expecting to come in.

But have a lawyer and manage your will, take care of home and give her for the family upkeep

Yes, you are right because it actually worked and works for some people but when ever i try such, things get difficult.....

The more reason i am open with my finances

Dailyparrot:
There's nothing to get into bro.

How can you be accountable to your wife for ordinary 1k missing from your own wallet?

Your weakness is why you resent her. It actually irritate most women when their husband fails to be a man.

Yes, i get but i pray you find a woman that you deserve.

UjuJoan2:
This story is not complete!!!

Except you want us to believe that your wife has a mental problem.

There is no smoke without fire!

1. Yes, when she was nagging and shouting for just 1k, i told her is it not my money that why is she so vexed and told her to let it go but all was in vain and i asked if she was crazy.......then i moved out of our room to the kids room where she followed me and told me those words

2. She is in her rightful mind....very sound mentally

RightToReject:
No matter how you might try hard to gloss over the fact that you're not happy with your position in the union, and by extension, do not have the kind of liberty and peace of mind you desire, the fact remains glaring to me. Unfortunately, your condition will get worse if you embrace the idea of infantilizing her petty attitudes and trivializing her cruel words and acts like most have suggested to you - treat her as a grown-up woman and always expect her to act as one. The more you enable these vices, the more they fester, thereby draining and ruining you. Take your mental, psychological, and emotional health seriously for your good; stop jeopardizing them. So far, you have been using servility to sustain your relationship with her. I do not envy you. Servility is as bad as cruelty; neither condone them nor expect and accept them from others.

Love your wife, but don't pander to her whims and caprices. Pandering to her whims and caprices is not love/maturity/civility. Enact an ethical philosophy that will be binding to everyone; let it be both a standard and a bond that will hold the two of you. So far, you have neither been in the driving seat of your home nor your dominion. You've been subjugated. To take your rightful position in the union, squash your subsisting emotional connection with her which was based on the lust you have for her from the inception of your contact with her, and which is the reason why she has been meting out abuses, not just having authority over you. You've been a slave to your lust all this while. Let any new emotional connection you will have with her stem from the quality of her soul (submission/fairness) rather than her physical beauty/material possessions. That is the difference between loving your wife and falling in love with your wife. This will entail you giving up lust/greed and saying good-bye to feeble-mindedness. You can get this done fast if you have some knowledge about mental/psychological transmutation.

So, you must be scrupulous and gumptious; else, you cannot make an effective change or lead fairly. When you succeed, it will be a win-win situation for you, her, the children, and the family at large, with everyone in a healthy state of mental, emotional, and psychological health. If she truly hates you, however, or has never had an altruistic interest in you or has always had ruinous intent towards you, she'll resist every attempt you will make to institutionalize fairness for all as the order of the day and would rather wish to opt out of the union. So, if you won't mind losing her in principle, then consider remaining subjugable to her. If she rejects love/fairness, and if you don't want her to wittingly or unwittingly opt-out of the union, give her an overdose of her medicine so that she will become a slave to you instead.

One of the highest and most fulfilling points of living is reaching the height of not minding losing anyone/anything in principle and staying conscientious.

Hmmmmm, thanks so much my wise friend

I appreciate all you have written and will definitely look into it.

Once again, i am grateful

frozen70:
You don't need to be heart broken with such word because she will still say the worst

If you know that you are responsible at home and you provide for your family, leave her let her entertain you with her mouth

But if you are not meeting up, try and meet up

A woman must and will always nag especially when things doesn't work her way

Thanks so much, i do all my responsibilities and even give her money just incase any necessity comes up.......

pay the kids fees, live in a very comfortable environment and all those.

Heartheart:
OP your wife doesn’t hate you I’m 100% sure. She might just be frustrated and going through a lot. Let her know what she said to you really hurt you and you wouldn’t like her to say such again. You need to communicate whatever you don’t like to her, don’t just keep it inside. Since your wife is very expressive you need to open your mouth too and let her know how u feel. I feel it’s communication issue that’s the problem between u too. Please don’t keep malice.. she cares about you.

Thanks so much heartbeat......exactly what i saved her contact with, will do the needful.


bless you

Ofadaman:
You think Ned Nwoke tell his wife how much he has in his wallet..

You mincing words man......Ned have more than 3 wifes


his unopenness has led him to such.......

Never ever compare yourself with him please

Dailyparrot:
There's nothing to get into bro.

How can you be accountable to your wife for ordinary 1k missing from your own wallet?

Your weakness is why you resent her. It actually irritate most women when their husband fails to be a man.

Ohhhh, noted

wish you success in your endeavours

Dailyparrot:
You're an irredeemable SIMP

Get into it before condemning

Marriage, one of the easiest ways to die.......


Marriage saves and marriage kills


Make your choice and choose it wisely.

[quote author=CrownDthrone post=104604731][/quote]Amen though she appreciates me alot but fear of the unknown.....

reddingtonblack:
Like you get bro, its funny .... topics i read from males on NL romance section sometimes make me doubt if saying there are few real men is not an overstatement.
on another thread one is even asking if he is responsible for a 3month old pregnancy when the r/ship is barely 2months .... is it that people can no longer think n sort themselves or is intuition going extinct

Marital situation is so funny, yes so funny........the yorubas will say enikan lomo.

We become so inexperienced when we find ourselves inbetween the devil and the deep blue sea

all the same....i appreciate bro

afomon12:
March 1st applicant and still waiting. Its not making sense anymore. Its over 5 months !!

Ah, why not send a reminder mail?

Daytrader1:
Tell her you want a divorce, since she's regretting, even tho you don't mean it, tell her when she's calm, her reaction would tell you the truth, energy don't lie

I cant laugh trader........she will just use that to frame you that you have someone else the more reason you pushing for a divorce.

it will now become yam pepper scatter scatter

COOL10:
Form the comments, you could tell that 90% of marriages are like this. Some, even worse.

Truth be told.. ...people die in silence in marriages

Marriages have led some people to their early grave.....

rafikii:
The amount of disgust I felt while going through this thread is uncalled for, at the rate OP's marriage is going I expect another post from him on this section soon enough complaining about how his wife runs his home and makes every minute decision and tells him when to eat and shit...if every marriage go be like your own then I'd advice every single man out there to die in the arms of olo.shos and baby mamas.

Think about your life OP.

To someone it is a perfect marriage because most marriages are worse....he who wears the shoe knows where it pinches.

i will advice you wait, get married, feel the experience and share the experience if it survive the test of time.


anyways, i appreciate

ImaIma1:
Never ever gone out without your family? Even when hanging out with friends? Men need their time with their friends sometimes. I even refuse some outings because I want "me" time.

She monitors your finances so much that she notices 1k is missing...haaaa . Me I don't even want that kind of monitoring o. It is well.

You know your wife. Use her mumu button for her nau.

Things we do for love....

thanks alot

Kondomatic:
My confusion here is not what she said but why she said it.

So being married means that I will have to give account of every penny spent from my own wallet?

Well, it has helped some family but it will be more appreciated when the woman also respects the man by ignoring insignificant amounts......

SarakiBukola:
Pele. Sad to read.

But you're not in control...at all.

Maybe she actually misaligned it all

Xilsbridalhouse:
Sir, why would a female friend visit you ?

Never meant female friends because i sincerely do not have any for years now but like my cousins, distant cousins and my family friend kids that stays around my area

Xilsbridalhouse:
Thank God the real men commented more on your post than the so called wannabes Redpillers or Alpha males who might end up planting bad ideas in your head.

I don’t support her saying such to you, but humans are known to say hurtful words they don’t mean to their loved ones when angry, and if you really want to keep your home...you better learn to let it slide, forgive and move on. Later you can discuss this with your wife and how it got you broken.

Exactly what i have resolved doing but might take 2 or 3days though so she can calm her nerves

Xilsbridalhouse:
You are thanking those young guys who are probably jambites for giving you wrong advice ? Okay o!


Kontinue!

No one is an island of knowledge.......there might be some sense in the nonsense if you look at it in a different perspective

BROWNEMMANUEL26:
Exactly my thought. Op is one of the weak men out their.
1. For his wife to open her mouth and said that word means op forced himself on the woman or op enticed her with money before marrying her.
2. Op over pampered her during their courtship
3. Op tolerated some rubbish from onset
I do t just understand the kind of men we have this day, so so weakling and simps all over

Its not a matter of being weak or a simp its just appreciating and treating your woman right especially if you are brought up that way.........whats the essence marrying her if you cant make her feel like a queen only that shes feeling like a king in her queen's zone

money121:
You look other lady yansh abi you no Look?
Talk true ooo na we we dey here ooo

I was just looking amidst.......and was only thinking deep that these ones parents did naming when they were born....

Nothing more......why do such beside my woman, it is even insultive but she wouldnt just get

Kandeed:
taking an advice from a lady like JaneYave telling you to rather be a Simp is not what you needs to hear atm. she's just being distorted nothing more. and maybe you din get my point but I'm not trying to tell you to maltreat ur wife, you simply can't be the only one putting energy in ensuring a peaceful home. there are times you gotta yell at her, let her see you manly and stop being a sheep to go beg at every problem even when you know she's the one at fault, man you'd only end up compounding ur problems.

Sorry to break it to you, but simps suffers the most with a lil percentage of 0.1 people to understand and appreciate em. I've been in ur shoes, know how it felt and now I've changed and no lady born of woman can ever do shit or talk b!tch to me. you had better ignore her advice like I said she's basically just being Distorted, I mean isn't that what ladies do to each other??

Hmmm, i understand better now.......

Will sort things out in the best way.

My gratitude

Kandeed:
The funny thing is a distorted nigga here called JaneYave is telling him to rather be a Simp to enjoy his marriage than act manly. ademidedavid on the other hand is saying he doesn't want to maltreat her, who's talking bout maltreating ur wife??

What he doesn't know is that atimes some sort of violence will give you that peace you really seek. imagine always simping around over a woman?? man that's just a step from getting completely finished, cuz when ur wife can't even respect you bfr ur kids so what next?? how do you want ur kids to respect or get to obey you. OP fix ur home as quick as you can and return as the head of ur home and quit listening to distorted niggas like JaneYave

Thanks so much for this, will look into it

BROWNEMMANUEL26:
Don't mind all this simps here and their. Thank Jah for the kind of my personality towards women.
How could the wife even went as far as counting the money in his wallet, that's rubbish. I keep saying it that all this things started during their courtship and also I believe that op enticed his wife with money or materials things that's why things are like this on his side. And for him to bring it on this forum means the wife character dun choke up and he has no other consolate rather than here. Also this kind of wife are they type that commands who comes and goes in the house.

Very true, though i thought been open in ll areas will give me a happy home but its just not working......like she wants to be in charge and yes, no visitator can come to the house without her consent......females are not even allowed at all

crackhaus:
Laughing because I know she can not be serious...

This guy understood me perfectly.

Oh i get now, thanks alot.....