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Lovisious:
wel said my dear

oshorstan:
What a World!!!!! I would love to have a one on one discussion with you sir

GogobiriLalas:
It's a cultural thing, maybe we need to talk about it

hegelian:
Am actually with the op on this...the level of supremacy fight among black is alarming.
I lost a very wonderful woman cos my parents forbade us from marrying outside Ilorin, I had to scope the lady into doing abortion cos when I figured she wasn't from Ilorin, I was scared to death.....I still surfer from that till now though I have been able to win myself over from mental slavery....in fact I have ditiched religions, and can marry from anywhere without any care in the world with what anyone think or say...the level of hatred and pretencr is just too much...the Christians hate the Muslims and the Muslims hate the xtians as well yet they laugh and play along as if nothing is wrong but deep down they know....I can't live with such again...
Africa will never progress until there is a paradigm shift which I doubt will ever happen

ojibole:
Wow this is so far the best write up I have read on nairaland...you hit the nail on the head.

auntysimbiat:
nice one op

MrBrownJay1:
ok then, let us all "assume" that black people abroad dont say "hi" (or smile at us, for no damn fukcing reason) because we are not united... as if thats what they do in Africa, or thats a trait that we should automatically get embedded in our dna as soon as someone catches a plane to the west.

MrBrownJay1:
when some people are struggling to make ends meet, you now want them to come and chit chat with you and smile when their main focus in life is to figure out how they gonna quench their empty stomach....lol!

by looking down on what african brothas are doing, using these isolated cases to judge the whole nation, this man indirectlykeeps this nonsense well alive...

here is a clue:

- if you meet blacks in the street and they avoid eye contact, then just say "Hi" and see how they will respond.
- why would Africans marry each other when they have the choice to marry from different races?! are you saying that blacks MUST marry blacks?!
- before people can fight for a common cause, they should have the same cause in mind... and sadly, their next meal is the only common cause in Nigeria!

My expectation from Nigerians is very tamed. I have to have low expectation in order to be sane. When I started this movement in Nigeria I foolishly thought people will respond fast to mental liberation movement because I felt they have suffered enough and nobody wants to stay in such situation forever. Now I know suffering has no limitation.

Now I know, no matter what happens, I don’t see people coming up to fight for a common cause. Mind you I don’t mean a political fight. But a fight that is led by an ideology. Not some political fight orchestrated by some selfish politicians for their own gain.

If something will change, it will be from a freak of nature. We are not aware enough to fight for a just cause. We think of it, we don’t like the situation but to get up and do something, NO. We will procrastinate it. We believe one day we are going to or God will come and do it for us after some intensive prayers.

These are some of my reasons, I have lots of them, but these will do for now.

History:
Go back in history, black people don't have a very good track record of coming up for themselves. Yes, there were here and there sporadic events in the history of people coming up, but not like the battle of Waterloo, Normandy or Dunkirk or the French revolution. Not even the Arab spring. The only people even closer are the Igbos. (That is another story.)

I look at past events I am not enthusiastic. Yes, you will read here and there where people came up and fight. When people don't fight for a common goal they don't bind. Without bonding people don't work together effectively. This lack of bonding in Nigeria starts from the family circle, and all the way to the head of the country's leadership. It is this lack of bonding that makes family members to rip others off without feeling sorrow.

No One Wants to Blink First.
When two animals stare at each in a face off, the one that blinks first loses. When it concerns the biting issues in Nigeria, like corruption, no one wants to blink first. That means no one who is today seen as a champion of corruption wants to repent publicly and start fighting corruption. Have you ever seen someone on Nigerian TV or in the church who has repented publicly and is now giving testimony on how he or she was once a very corrupt person but after finding Jesus he is now an anti-corruption crusader? That would be very powerful. Black people don't do such a thing. We will lose our face and be stigmatized forever.

We Don't Really Love Each Other
I often wonder when I see Africans outside Africa. Most black people will walk past each other without even greeting each other. Black people in America think they are superior than other blacks. In Europe, you have The English blacks, The Dutch blacks, the Belgian blacks, etc. Each of these blacks don't like each other. They don't come along and they hardly marry each other.

It is easier to get married to a white Belgian woman or a man than to get married to someone from Congo. Black people will hardly do that. How many Nigerians do you know who is married to a person from other African countries? Yes, I know you will point to someone very far away. Compare to how many Africans are spread around the world. I often wonder why Nigerians who have lived in foreign countries for a long time, then come back to marry from their tribe. Why not marry to that Ijaw person who have been very nice to you over there. I don't get it. I think because the Ijaw person is seen as a foreigner. So if you can't marry one how can you ever work together with one.

We have these small habits here and there that set up back subconsciously. That is why we are not really succeeding.

So if two black people encounter each other in the street of Amsterdam, they will stare straight to the far distance just to avoid face to face contact. The only ones that will come to you are the newcomers who want something from you. Once they are settled they will start staring forward like the others.

We Are Too Divided
We are too divided mentally, emotionally to ever get someone collectively done for the common purpose of all Nigerians. Even when you divide Nigeria into twenty the problem will still be there because the problem is in the head and not outside it.

My mother use to say to her children, let no one come home with an Igbo woman, hmm. Coming home with a Yoruba or and Hausa or even a Bini person was worse. Then I came home with a white one. Chai, as punishment, I was ostracized for 20 years. My father didn't speak with my wife for 20 years. Not even hello.

When we were kids we were not allowed to play with the neighbours' children, because some were Igbos, the others were Binis, my best friend was a Benin boy. But there were not many Esan boys around because for God sake we were in Benin city, and not Uromi. It was even forbidden to play with the only Esan children around because their mother was a certified witch. She was later rumoured to have killed her husband of 30 years who died of cancer. I never saw her fly, but they say she does that every night. However, my mother assured me later that witches don't cross the ocean so she couldn't harm me in America or Europe. What a relief!

I guess what I am saying is we are not emotionally mature yet to come together and fight for a common cause and leave prejudice and tribalism behind. It may never happen. It is only when that day comes that we can start making progress.

Meanwhile, I will keep up my writing and video making. Probably, someone might learn something.

blackfase:
What you apologizing for? Your piece is spot on....

SmartchoicesNG:
Ekiti people don't bear yakubu jimoh john. In fact Moslems are a rarity in Ekiti. Op must be from kogi.

gwama:
Does pastor put a knife under your throat so that you give the dime ??

onuhabel1:
Ntoor! Nd Am Nt Poor Nd It Didnt Reach Fp. If U Want Fp Go Garner News Of Crime Or Celebrity Wt Pix N U Shal Hat D Fp N Not Being Envious Of God's Blessed. No More Reply 4rm Me So D Thread Wud Die #-_

BlueAngel444:
Mtcheeeeew, I thought you were taking this through a biblical context

onuhabel1:
izit ya money? n y are u shouting d namez of d moderators. let me tel u, no fp 4 dx trash