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AbujaCitiBlog:
Hegoats like you is why she stayed up till this moment! Cursed fool!

I didnt fancy her style too but this is harsh nau

Ruke1989:
Close your eyes pick any one. What is most important here is escaping from this country successfully. Don't let village people delay you over confusion of which to choose until the opportunity expires

Thanks

Dear Nairalander,
I just got offers from two universities in UK. Ulster's university to study MSC management and university of chester to study MSC international finance.
I am still considering which to choose, putting into place factors such as availability of part time jobs, acceptance rate of the university and affordability of basic life necessities such as rent and food in the area where the universities are sited ie chester and Belfast.
Pls help a brother out

Boss13:
Chief you're in a toxic marriage. If the genders were interchanged and the story was posted here on Nairaland, these misandrists would advise your wife to leave you and claim you are toxic.

Unfortunately your wife has emasculated you and now controls you. Oga, you have been lied to by feminist movement group that they best way to treat a woman is to stay peaceful. I am married and I will tell you - they are liars and they aim to control and suppress men.

Your wife and you have invested over a decade in your marriage and have 3 children. Chief, if you are unaware of your manhood, let me be the first to tell you that your wife's value has diminished. No serious man will consider her seriously other than to have sex with her. Also, you are too predictable for her and in all honesty, she truly regrets marrying you - forget the lies being told she spoke out of anger. She only expressed the truth when the opportunity presented itself.

Finally, you can choose to be emasculated and suffer in your marriage or be a man and put your wife where she belongs - a help mate and not your leader.

Am happy we have people that reason with their brains here. Nice one!

solelymade:
Bros, you have no problem ooo... You need to switch you love language to words of affirmation. It has to be a deliberate thing, not an afterthought.

Start telling your wife how beautiful she looks and incomparable to any woman out there. Compliment every appearance, every look, every purchase, engage her with programs too. Buy gifts too, hang out more with her. Travel if possible within and outside Nigeria. But talk more about her and how much you still love and how great she looks.

She's feeling old and thinking in her mind you don't fancy her that much anymore apart from being your kids mother. Women as they age begin to feel less appreciated and threatened, their body means a lot to them, they see younger ladies and other women as a threat because you are an endangered species and the considerations in you is so great. You can see from her actions she's consciously trying to protect you because in her imagination she's at war with other women. She is only overreacting to her fears. Tell her she has nothing to fear, let your sane friends subtly tell her how lucky she is to have you.

God will give you wisdom ooo.

So the best way of expressing insecurity as u put it is by emotionally abusing her partner?
are u for real?

ademidedavid:
Thanks so much my brother, i so much appreciate this piece...

God be with you and yours

It is the advise that supports ur wifes bad behavior that u seem to respond to. Oga, u don't want to hear the truth!

AsianTotal:
Bro, it will pay you more to focus on yourself and how to please your wife to forgive you for hurting you. Polygamists are known to live happier, healthier and longer than monogamists. Leave Ned Nwoko Alone and work on yourself. Just try your best to apologies to your wife, buy her more gifts and hand over all of your salaries to her so she can decides how much you need for your upkeep. You need to completely submit to your wife so that peace can reign.

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You are not a serious person! So u reward bad behaviour with apologies and gifts?

adubiay:
]I have been with my wife for 20years, married for 10years. This is the most complete comment I have read here, most of the previous comments are one sided, @OP take this advice, use dictionary if u have to, if not at 70 years u will realised u stop living the day u got married

U are filled with wisdom bro!

Anyway I want to believe this story is false. I take all that I have read with a pinch of salt but if true then the op needs help. Some of you just open ur mouths and talk, none of u is thinking about the psychological trauma that such demeaning words have on someone. How can a right thinking person open her mouth and voice out such vengeful word to one she calls her husband?. I doubt some of this comments supporting the woman wouldn't have supposed the victim is a woman, they expect the man to take all lightly just because he is a man. Everyone talks of physical abuse but none talks of a greater form of abuse, the emotional one mostly pepertauated by women.
What we know we can't take, pls let's not dish it out, I don't support abuse in any form from any party. Now to u Mr man, u have being a very soft man, I won't want to use the word weak and ur wife having noticed it is using it to her advantage.
I have noticed that women don't respect easy going men, they don't take them seriously. The hardened ones that don't send them are the ones they respect, ur wife is letting hell loose over a missing 1k from ur wallet and u are here singing her praises? Mr Man, if truly what u said was what happened then u really need prayers as I can see that ur wife has fully emasculated u and she needs a serious scolding, never to try such again! What even gave her that right to search ur wallet in the first place? Is that how u search hers?
I feel pity for the young men of this generation o, most of us have totally lost it. And to all of u supporting the woman's action that he should pet her, kiss her bla bla bla, u all need help. Most of u esp ladies won't condone such if the op was ur beloved brother
Its high time u stood ur ground Mr man, women don't respect gentle guys. They prefer those they can constantly keep under their armpit!
And no one should come here and tell me that am saying all this cos am single cos am not. Happily married for over 4 years and still Counting, My wife adores me as I do to her and both of us respect boundaries!
I come in peace..

Twoclans:
@ OP please what exactly do you want to come and do in Nigeria .The country has cast ohhh,let me just tell you.

My humble solution to your problem , go back to your wife.Try and turn a blind eye to her trouble and behave yourself .Whatever you do make sure you dont leave canada.

If you come back to Nigeria without Money,naija babes will show you their true colour.

Please don't take this advise cos the way i see things, u both might end up killing each other am sorry to say this, esp if u av a very low threshold for nonsense. If there's someone she listens to or respect like her folks , then u can explore the option of reporting her to her them ..
I will advise you park out of that house and go live somewhere for the time being to allow u cool your head. That things are not moving fine for now is not the end of the world bro. Continue working hard and pray and all will be well and like one person suggested, pls don't bother coming back to Nigeria, the country don cast! and pple like us are looking for ways to jakpa and the reverse is not an option at all..

Nashoji:
so because a man marry you, he should discard his mom abi? Aunty you are 1001 percent replaceable and my mom isn't. If you don't like it like that, you can move. My mom's picture must be on my wall and there is nothing you can do about it if you happen to be my wife. You can only grumble and that's all or you go your papa house

Y are some guys even trading words with all these senseless females who want a man to forget his family and those that he has known before he met them just because he married them? Una get time o

Toks2008:
Calm down bro, i no dey fight you. YES i read about other stories too but they all pointed to the same direction.

A guy walks into your room and you call him a thief and he said NO, he is only their for something else...how do you prove to the world that he came to steal from you? you could charge him for unlawful entry.

This guy was always seen doing something with his hands inside his trousers and using a file to conceal. He could be doing a whole lot of things and even if he was masturbating, that does not contravene any unlawful act cos the pnis was not exposed.

You should not only read but learn to interpret.

All the best,.

I love ur sense of maturity, ur type are very rare here. Welldone

I am yet to see the pictures as discussed

Am interested

chumaZ:
Nairalanders I need your advise, please pardon my grammar and my typographical errors as I am under pressure, I will try and make this story short in order not to bore you guys

I finished school 2016 and went for NYSC on Abuja 2017. Unfortunately for me, I ran into my best friend supposed fiancée since I know her too well, we bonded till one day she asked to know where I stay in Abuja, but because I was staying with my aunty, I couldn't take her to my place....

One Friday morning I got a call from my bestie that his girl is down, that I should take her to hospital, I left whatever I was doing and rushed down to Apo resettlement. When I got there her fiancée was in good condition to my greatest surprise, she begged me not to let my friend know, that she needed attention and all that. She didn't know it will got to this extent, and I agreed with her and bid her a goodbye but she wouldn't let me go until I kiss her.... I swear I had no option if that would make her free me because she was creating a lot of drama already. I kept cool and avoided this girl till I left abuja after NYSC and never mentioned anything that happened between her and I to my friend.

Fast forward to October 2020, my friend called me that her fiancée has an event to attend in Yaba Lagos for a week and want me to accommodate her since I stay in two bedroom apparent alone, I refused and suggested it was better he get a hotel room for her, my friend said the girl have not been to Lagos that it would be better she stays with someone who's familiar with Lagos. I contacted a female friend I know to see if she can stay with her, but my friend's fiancée' complained the place will be far from where the event would be taking place, my best friend was now seeing me as wicked person and I don't wanna help his girl. I had no option than to allow her to come stay with me, I made sure I invited my sister to stay with me for the one week, to avoid temptation. But my sister couldn't stay for a week because of some personal issues, that's how I was left with my best friend fiancée, I don't wanna talk about what I pass through staying with her alone but I ended up having sex with her which I regretted bitterly, when she left Lagos back to anambra I pleaded with her not to chat me nor call me, but she wouldn't listen. She's always chatty and sending me nude which I finally blocked her.

A week ago, my bestie called me that he was in Lagos and would want us to meet, I was reluctant, because I can't stand him after what happened between me and his fiancée, when I got to the bar (venue) the face I saw around his table were kinda strange aside one of our old friend who was with them. Uncle no even allow me finish greeting before I know it a broken bottle have landed on my hand, his target was my face but thank God I defended on time, that's how my blood spilled everywhere and his friends tried to calm him down while other ones was giving me general beating like a common criminal. Thank God police arrived on time, I might have been a dead man today over a girl I never wanted to help.

Please I need help on how to go about this and clear myself from whatever this girl told my bestie, from the little I heard, she claimed I raped her during her stayed with me. Although I have got a lawyer now who is handling this issue but I still wanna clear myself before my friends, none of them believes me maybe because of my lifestyle back in school. Even my family are aware of this ugly issue and are calling me bumper to bumper, because me and my bestie are from the same village and we are like family friends. I don't know how to clear my name. Please help me. I am depressed already, I can't believe my OG tried killing me.

Chumaz abi?after reading some of ur comments, I av come to conclude that u av no conscience and that u don't feel remorseful over what u did still surprises me. U saw the greenlight and took full advantage cos u had the intention even b4 it happened eventually.. And honestly, u deserve all and even more that ur friend tried doing but then, I am happy that he didn't kill u. U not worth it!

BREYZ:
Hello bro. This dude broke the bros code, why knack the fiancee of his friend? This is a serious issue. Even if the girl in question is loose, isn't he suppose to avoid any form of attachment between them? He betrayed his friend and people like him don't deserve anything good.

Bro, I get u and he should stop calling him his friend, he's worst than an enemy. But then, both of them are not worth him soiling his hands with blood. He should rise above this and move on biko!.. Like I said, I can't be imagining such because of two unscrupulous elements I once cared for..

PrinceMajestic:
so he should let that fool kill him?

I never said so, both of them should respect themselves.... At least the offorken knows who his enemies are.. As harsh as i may sound, He should move on.. and thank God he just dodged a very big problem in the future

BREYZ:
That's someone else's fiancee he slept with not just a girlfriend. A fianciee.

I saw that! so u will take the life of another cos of a fiancee and bring ur own life to an end?
Now ask urself is that fiancee as u call her, not a wife o, worth d shedding of blood?
U really shock me bro, me don't put woman matter for head

BREYZ:
If I were your friend, you won't be here telling this crap of a story. I would have made your death look like an accident. You had 101 ways to avoid these but your betrayed your friend. That's his fiancee you slept with not girlfriend bro. He should have shot you at a close range not with a broken bottle

So u will kill another cos of a woman u are not even married to?

PrinceMajestic:
You shouldn't have involved lawyer at all. Just arrange men to map the sick bastrd. 20k is enough for you to take the idiot down. But you fuvk up fvckin that hoe but that doesn't mean the pussy nigga has to harm you. Kill him b4 he kills you,withdraw case from lawyer and use street credibility. Also cripple his bitch when you catch her. Great Spirits of Kings guide and protect you,nothing will happen to you but u must revenge what the bastrds did to you

Bros are u for real?He should get himself in trouble because of a daughter of jezebel? How do u guys even reason?

Offorken:
Chima you know I don't talk much, I don't care about your lame excuse nor believe you... U can get de whole lawyers in Nigeria but I what I will do is what I will do, nobody can stop me... You can't mess my relationship up & go free. I swear u will pay.... u didn't even tell me all things as brother, you come here to yarn trash, we shall see

If this story is true, offorken I truly understand how u feel, the betrayal, d anger! Trust me I have witnessed it first hand. Ur friend truly messed up, believe me he's not worthy to be called a friend, so u av every right not to forgive him. But come to think of it on s brighter note, u should be happy. Oh yes, u heard me, be happy. It's like God just used him to save u a very big mistake that u would av regretted if u av eventually married that ur girl.
She would av continued her Philandering even if u av married her. Honestly, when I see guys kill themselves over ladies I begin to wonder, when there are so many girls, good ones o begging to be hooked up with, y kill urself over one unserious one?
Pls don't try anything u will later regret becos of a lady who isn't worth it. Let ur friend be, karma will visit him when the time is right... peace!

hmnnn. I honestly do not get the need for the exchange of insults here. Y can't we just do this like civilized and matured folks. The seller has stated his price and if u r not ok with it as a buyer, u move on
Even the seller wasn't prpfessional, y trade words with ur intending buyer no matter how annoying they may sound to u?
we really need to grow up in the country, life isn't as hard as it seems abeg

dear tiwa, incase u see this, just make sure u succeed the third time. Cheers!

angelfallz:
Nice write up. But let me ask,
why marry a nagging woman in the first place?

Also, why pacify her nagging with gifts?

Why leave your own house to avoid a nagging woman?

If a man can't find peace in his own house because of a nagging woman, then it's time to send the nagging woman packing.

Your opinion about nagging women encourages men to condone nagging women.

Three gbosa for u my brother. Honestly, the way some people go about this marriage thing with women eh, it makes me feel like men av become slaves and must fear women. A house fully catered for by a man, y condone nagging in the first place ? the op was even saying buy her gifts, like seriously? isnt that an invitation to more endless nagging?and no one should give me that bullshit that it's because am not married because I am. My wife respects me and I respect her, she knows her place and dears not nagg unnessarily. Maybe u guys out there condone it and takes all thrown at u by ur wife's because u are men and it is expected but pls don't make it look like it should be so with all others. Respect and mutual understanding should be key

[quote author=mrkings84 post=91424897]I had to carefully read the comments here just to see the level of condemnation of this terrible crime by our people here, but lo and behold, it looks like nothing serious really happened.

Gush.... This is seriously serious!
So no yelling, abuses, no calls for justice, no plans for peace/violent protests, no human rights sighted, no gender inequality group saying anything, no one demanding her puna b scattered with a sledge hammer, still yet to see the pictures of the said Hali ma...... It's Ok!!
It's ok....[/quote
Very annoying my brother my brother and I don't blame the fools

One thing I have noticed about the women of this generation is their inability to judge issues objectively without bias esp the ones that concerns men and women. They r so quick to take sides with the women whether she's at fault or not. A mans penis was cut off by his murderous wife and some see nothing wrong in that! Another idiot was blaming polygamy
What happens to walking away like u all always say if the table was turned? Whoever sees nothing wrong in this act, I wish same for their sons, brothers n to the men they hold dearly....that's if fate permits them to have any.

NwaIgboBoy:
I never knew some families can lie .... untill last week that a guy went for robbery unfortunately he was caught and killed by angry mob , now on his burial day this week only for his family to announce to the public that their son died from Covid-19 after showing serious symptoms.

Hahahaha brother, take am easy na

budosky:
Ha much for the matrix?

1.7m only sir

elmodee7:
. U r such a dull child . With and nation of 200 million people 6400+ infections what is the ratio . Fool

Pls what did he say that warranted that insult? Can't u pass ur message without unnecessary insult? Geez!

Anni3e:
Shut up. I have two very rich brothers, I have never demanded from them, my family knows their boundary and don't interfere in each other's business.

My dear. I don't trade words with people without upbringing and common sense! If u are wise as u claim to, u will respect other people's views and opinion and not bore us with ur family issue on nairaland since u r madam know it all.
U av two very rich brothers and so what! So those without rich brothers like u should go to hell.
Such a very raz and wicked soul