₦airaland Forum

babyfaceafrica:
Be firm.... She has to leave..people need to be considerate now..maybe you are the gentle type,that isbqhybahe wants to play on your intelligence... Courtesy demands she let's you know before coming to your house, you have been magnanimous, be firm and let her know..don't shout or anything..just tell her frankly...all this family matter don tire person

Thanks

Odilafta1:
family wahala

My brother, this one pass wahala

Tenkobos:
So family guy is on nairaland too? Interesting

Looking at the time I dropped this post, you would agree it's eating me up as I can't find sleep.

Please go to bed if you have got nothing better to say

thorpido:
They want to kill you?Abeg is there any other sibling your wife has,guess that one is coming too?

Op,if you ask her to leave and she doesn't,what are you going to do?Throw out her things and push her out?

I think you just need to spell it out to her that she can't keep staying and tell her you give her a certain amount of days to sort herself out.

You will need to bear,however.

When she was 2 weeks old in our house, I informed wifey that she has just 2 more weeks to stay then leave.

As for what I will do, when they all go to church on Sunday, will simply change the lock to the gate, while her things will be well arranged waiting for her at the garage.

babythug:
You've been more than fair enough! Even the older brother has got to leave, he has a job now you said?

Let wifey know firmly that the funds being used to cater for extra mouths you want to begin to invest it in a capital project.

Your action will be seen as harsh but you really can't please the world...

Your inlaws are somewhat shameless may I add!!!

The funny part is that the older brother cannot replace a dead bulb even in his own room he occupies. He even goes as far as taken food to work daily, not minding that he will eat when he returns.

Already informed wifey, that he will be leaving by December as I have tried.

Thanks a bunch

Hello, please I need a suggestion about an issue eating me up.

I am married with a child. My brother in law(wifey's immediate elder brother) has been living with us for the past 3 years now, and started working for about a year plus now.

Mother in law(wifey's mother) has equally been with us for the past 8 months now, came for omugwo, but we had to plead with her to stay since we are yet to get a maid.

A month ago, while on our way to work(i and wifey), she got a call from her elder sister married with a kid, that she is in our state of residence(she stays with her hubby in another state) that she is headed for our house. Wifey asked why she did not inform us ahead of time, she gave an excuse.
Wifey dropped the call and informed me, I said no problem since she is already in town, thinking it's just a visit. I returned back from work to notice she came with her son of about 2 years. Apparently, she is having issues with her hubby and has come to stay as she came with bags.

After a week, I called wifey informing her that we can't accommodate her sister and baby given that their mom and brother is already with us, coupled with the prevailing economy situation. Wifey agreed with me and informed the sister that she will need to sort herself out as she have limited time with us.

It's getting to a month now, the sister isn't talking of leaving, when wifey confronted her, she claim to be expecting cash to rent a house so she can move.
Early this week, I asked wifey to tell her that I can't keep them further(her child and her) any further as it's eating my finance deep.

The issue now is that I have informed wifey that I am fed up and will be asking her to leave this week. Will my action be seen as wickedness?

Note: she has never met me to at least ask for further stay, or at least tell me she wants to put up with us.

Will my action be too extreme?

pro2010:
Going by your logic, Saraki, Gej, Dino, Tinubu and even ibori (if not for a Uk court) et al are all innocent/noncorupt because no Nigerian court has found them so. Wake up mr man and reason like an adult.
The cause of this banter contrary to your claim is your misconception and unfounded allegations surrounding the case. Inviting the CBN to account for how private investors asset was handled is a very welcomed measure.

Thought we were on the same page till you mentioned those names.

Odogwu, biko gasie ike nnam!!

pro2010:
Lol...Nah you be confirm Onye Akuko here, you keep misleading your bunch of mentally lazy online illiterate followers. Mr man stop talking about issues you know little or nothing about. A criminal is a criminal, it doesn't matter if he was caught by a Christian, muslim, hausa, effik or ibibio!

There you go again, if you have been following my posts you would have noticed I have nothing with tribe as I never talked about it. So needless mentioning those
tribes.

Secondly, I know you are exposed so you would equally know a suspect remains an accused until proven guilty by a competent court of law. Can't remember any anti graft body securing conviction against Akingbola, Jim, Elumelu, Atuche etc.

Mind you, the cause of our long debate is because the court is asking them(CBN led by the then governor saint Sanusi) to come and account for what they did with Cecilia's assets.

pro2010:
Do I have to spell everything out for you? How can you get conviction for a big criminal like Akingbola from a messed up system like Nigeria? Temperate region is where the snow falls, it conotes developed societies. I don't know or did not say that Sanusi is a saint, but anybody that thinks Cecilia, Akingbola and co should not be in jail for their handling of the banks, is either very naive(has no knowledge about the case) or very corrupt!

Story story!!! Mr convicter. Kindly assist EFCC with his prosecution.

As for the snow falls, you can as well subtitute it with ice block so our environment would become more temperate. ONYE AKUKO

pro2010:
Believe it at your peril...truth ko truth Ni! Those CEO are lucky they tried a shit like that in a place like Nigeria...they would have never seen the sun again if they had tried it in the temperate region.

What temperate region are you talking about exactly? Are you trying to hype Sanusi for his actions?

Like I said earlier, what held him from nailing Akingbola and Co? Hope you knew how Akingbola case ended

aolawale025:
When Aig and Wigwe were EDs, Sanusi was a GM at UBA. After he left UBA he joined FBN and became ED, months later he became MD and shortly after CBN governor.

Now men with indebt knowledge of what I am talking of are here. Tell him

aolawale025:
When Yar adua took over. Shortly after Soludo tenure ended. Now Saraki took Sanusi to Yar adua. Sanusi and Saraki attended king college together. And Sanusi became CBN chief after people like Mutallab(FBN chairman then) also weighed in. That was why the man Sanusi appointed as interim MD at intercontinental wrote of all Saraki loans worth billions. Akingbola is still trying to fight for justice because the man was cheated greatly

Another man with sharp memory.

The man they appointed for intercontinental was Saraki's boy who handle's all his financial dealings and his staff named Mahmoud Alabi. He ended up clearing all Saraki's bad loans with the bank

vickylincon:
the first about soludo..the guy tenure don end already. These banks, if you are a financial analyst..you will agree with me that these banks are going down already. check their bad debts and the way they give out loans, these directors live as if they own the world. Am not saying sanusi is saint. but he took the right step. I just don't agree with you when you said sanusi was on a vengeful mission and soludo was forced out

If you had read my following post's, you would have seen were I pointed out that the masses were clamouring for Soludo's re appointment whereas a certain cartel felt otherwise. Mind you, as at the time HRH emerged as the CBN governor, they were sound MD's ahead of him already. So why him?

pro2010:
You guys are conjuring some fictional pictures to make yourselves happy. Who is Aig and Wigwe to influence Sanusi? Were does the power configuration come from?

Landlord nobody is painting anything. If you think you have a point please air it and educate us. That's the whole essence of this forum.

Hope you were aware Aig was a management staff in GTB before leaving to form Access bank, whereas Wigwe was the brain behind Access. Please were was Sanusi or rather, who was Sanusi during that time?

Rolly83:
My friend you deserve a very cold bottle of beer from me.This is the most informed post I have read all day...Thank u my brother!

Thank you jaree!!!

That was how they kicked out Soludo(natural Tombo) for a brewed drink(kaikai) just because the prof noticed their game and came up with a resolution that all banks will be doing their end of financial year at the same time, to fish out the weak banks who has been feeding on other stronger banks to survive. They felt he will put sand in their garri, they all blocked his re appointment even when the masses were clamouring for Soludo.

Help me ask them what his successor achieved aside victimisation, awarding contact and allowances to his babe and being booted out before the end of his tenure?

vickylincon:
some are true but he had sentiments to it

Kindly point out the alleged sentiments you are talking about.

vickylincon:
are you really serious? I will advice you say what you know. or are we not talking about the same Cecilia?

Oga, please point out Cecilia's crime with clear facts.
How was Oceanic formed, and who laboured for it?

I am not saying she is a saint, but she never deserved what happened. Please ask yourself how the bank had been surviving with the heavy pay they dole out to employees and shareholders if the going wasn't good and smooth?

Yes she might have overfed herself, but she ensured her employees and shareholders were properly fed as well.

larryUG:
Bros you are right. Aig and Wigwe Used Sanusi to set up Akingbola. The point is that Tony frustrated Sanusi out of UBA. so Sanusi wanted to pay him and Jim Ovia back. Its unfortunate Cecilia was the scapegoat. As for doz access bank guys that bought over intercontinental even though they were owing him, i dont know what to say

Oh my God!!! God bless you real good. Never wanted mentioning names so it won't sound funny or personal. Thank God someone has just vindicated me.

He wanted being the MD of UBA at all cost, but Elumelu needed someone who understands what the brand stand for and one who is enovative. So he ran to first bank were his aim was quickly achieved politically. Bisi Onasanya was so mad when thus happened because he (Bisi) had worked for it.

That was how they end up selling intercontinental bank to the both names you just mentioned for peanut. How can a debtor who could not pay his debt suddenly have enough fund to buy his debtor?

holyfather:
Someone should tell me this is not true.

Oga, try digesting my post gently, you will pick the facts as clear as 10D cenima.

Old bankers with great insight of the system could bear me witness of the happenings I posted earlier.

But you know what? That same CBN governor was not allowed to finish his tenure. KARMA!!!

That same CBN governor introduced a tenure of 10 years maximum for MD's with the single aim of kicking out those sound MD's I talked about, forgetting that they have paid their dues as some of them like Jim Ovia, Cecilia and Akingbola have paid their dues by providing both cash, resources and enebling environment to keep them flying till some cartel brought in their jealousy

benedictnsi:
hmm.... this woman that singlehandedly made Oceanic Bank to liquidate.... SMH for her

Say only what you know. Oceanic bank and intercontinental bank were not just solid, but firm and making great profits. Mind you, Oceanic bank was the best paying bank then whereas intercontinental bank was winning the best brand back to back.

Those banks and their MD's were victimised because of personal beef. The then CBN governor and his team felt they have had enough just because certain MD's like Tony Elumelu, Jim Ovia, Erastus Akingbola and Cecilia Ibru have been at the helm of affairs even when the then CBN governor just just joined banking.

Did you ask yourself what led to the then CBN governor emerging as one even though he has just been appointed an MD of first bank a couple of months earlier?

Same way the same cartel saw that Soludo was removed as CBN governor to ensure someone ready to fight their dirty fight emerged to paint the aforementioned. But since they couldn't get the big fishes(Jim & Elumelu) Cecilia became the sacrificial lamb.

Hope you are equally aware that till date they could not convict Akingbola or point out his wrongs? Rather they hurriedly sold a whole intercontinental bank for 16b to a man owing same intercontinental 17b.

Now, who is fooling who?

It is only an insecure man that will ask the wife to stop appearing on point just because he is scared of loosing her. What attracted me in the first place if not for her being on point and in trend.

Mind you, there is a big difference between being trendy and on point and appearing like an invitation to treat.

Modesty is the watch word!!!

opeyemmmy: Mine is January 3rd. Gotta travel 11 hours on January 2nd.



Same to you, bruh.
OP's question is borne out of curiosity. Lotta people are facing the same dilemma (I'm not spared).



Thanks boss!

Guy, are you serving in Osun?

Mummytea: Wow! Seriously? But i must confess ur PPA is very okay oh. I even have a friend there. Wah batch r
u?

It's not what you think oo. Though accommodation was provided by Ospoly for all corpers posted to the school.

Omo! Na strict marking ooo, you resume 8/9am to close by 4pm daily. No careless traveling because you might be asked to come to work on Saturday for one thing or the other. In fact, I weak

Thought it was just me, Ede camp Osun was harsh. Sat under the sun for like 3hours on the 2nd day of the camp. My complexion changed to two colours.

At a stage i wished I collected an exemption letter. Though the hostels and environment were neat, water, fan in d hostels, sockets to charge phone etc were all available.

Was so angry when I learnt i was posted to Osun state polytechnic to lecture, wanted ghosting my PPA. Anyway, God dey

Posted to Osun state polytechnic Iree, in Borikpe LGA. I hear say much work dey there oo

Is there anyone going from ph? Was also posted to Osun. Going from ph, it's about 9hours from ph. Leaving with first bus on Tuesday morning (7am).

God can heal a broken heart only if you can give him all the pieces.

Abeg make una no pour me hot water oo. Na talk i just talk

You guys are funny, so the guy should have started dancing because she said sorry.

Do you understand what the word DAFT really mean? An insane, mad, silly or s.tu.p.id person.

Any woman that calls a man she has been with for 3years plus a MAD man will definately call her HUSBAND same in the future.
Some words are just unsuitable especially for a LOVED one.