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jamalnation:
read
Nehemiah 10:37–38

Again, who is the levite in our modern day church?
Mind you, a pastor aren't a levite

jamalnation:
read numbers 18:20-32

And according to you, who are the levites in our modern day Christianity?

jamalnation:
to me you are wrong

Read malachi 3: 10

He is over right. Read Deu 14:29

TEYA:
I read verses 22 to 29. Very interesting. But they will not like what it says. They will look for another verse that will say they should give the whole of it to daddy else God will not bless them.

Trust me, no other verse asked them to give cash or their tithe to a pastor or man of God.

Tithe is a straightforward instruction carved out to assist the Levites(who neither work, trade or engage in any form of money making venture). Not a pastor, man of God, G.O, apostle, minister etc who engages in money making ventures and have inheritances.

Have you ever heard the word MONKS? They are the only people fit enough to be likened to the levites, as they live and die in the monastery, same as the levites who live and die in the temple

Akolawole:
You can be benevolent to the poor even unbelievers do that but Tithe is to be paid to your local church where you are 'fed'.

Tithes are paid into church NOT to Pastors.

You were never commanded to pay to a church, but to share with the widows, orphans, strangers and levites of your place of worship. What these means is that you are to participate in the tithe. Deu 14:22-29

Honour2:
God bless you sir. God demands obedience ,not choosing which of his word to obey but to obey in everything and trust that he will do his part as we do our part.That is when our obedience is complete and his blessing upon our lives sure.

The book of malachi you quoted was not talking about cash.

Secondly, you may need to read chapter 2 of same malachi to understand what it was referring to. The message was simply urging the children of Isreal to repent from their sinful ways and return to God. It was equally urging them to stop neglecting the levites, as they(levites)have all left their calling which is just to serve God, and start engaging in other ventures to make ends meet, since the other tribes have stopped remembering them with their tithes as commanded by Moses.

Remember, the main function of tithe, was to encourage the levites who have no inheritance, not to make the pastors and Bishops to become rich.

bedspread:
GOOD FOR U.... but if am to tell u wat I know about Tithe, I'll say u paid ur Tithe in the wrong way.

He paid his tithe in the right place 100%

Tithes are meant for 5 categories of people;

1. The Levites.
2. The widows.
3. The Ophans.
4. You(the payee)and yes I mean you.
5. Strangers.

Kindly read Deu 14:29.

Thank you

agadez007:
Seems like that is the Trademark of Ijaw people,checkout Harrysong and E-money crew,after bathing him up,harrysong bite the Finger which fed him by calling kcee "empty gallon he helped to fill",even after Kcee and co saved him from his Stepmother wey show am pepper

now Another Ungrateful Ijaw fool insulting another who helped him to his feet

How did he help him? Taking someone to the bridge and leaving him halfway aren't help you know?

OKorowanta:
I disagree bro.
I would say worst to Timaya if I was Rafioso for defamation.
He said during his clap back rant to Eedris dat Rafioso and di rest under him couldn't blow.
If na u won't u feel bad?
He can as well insult Eedris without bringing other guys down.
Jokes aside Timaya got style and some melody but he ranks among the artiste with the most senseless lyrics after
his first album inspired by Eedris.
Imagine dis... "anywhere I go d pipo dema say Timaya you too much eh"
Dis are mostly the kind of lyrics u found in Timaya's songs.
He should thank God dat gullible Nigerians still appreciate his music no mata the lyrics.

Aside Timaya and psquare, no other Nigerian artist can host an overnight show and people won't be bored. As in. You will dance and have fun to the fullest.

As for lyrics, how many Nigerian artist have good lyrics?

Evablizin:


Leave the poor lady alone rather pray and fast together with your family for liberation with faith,for there is power in the name of Jesus to break every chain,don't forget to find something you can do no matter how little it is ,because faith without work is vain.God will see you through.

Leave the poor woman alone you say? Did you read the part where she had to lie to his boss to get him fire?

How many sane women goes to their hubby's office to lie against him to get him fire

Kinzo12:
Apart from those mentioned above, there is uneven rivalry among staff (a lot of staff backbite others to get some juicy desk functions) , promotion is not your right but privilege, even if you meet up with your KPIs scorecard, cost containment drive could rub it off on you and so on.

Spoken like an Elephant employee

greatnaija01:
no time to Judge you bro.... KARMA is there for you..


NEVER REPAY EVIL FOR EVIL. Overcome Evil with GOOD.

Abeg shift with your bag of karma. Where was karma when the dad is jollofing with his prophetess mistress?

eyinjuege:
Why is it wrong for a woman to show off her achievements?
Why does it pain people so much? If she buys a car, is it wrong for her to ask them to pray over it in church? I'm sure that's how the church people knew she got a car.
Or was she expected to hand over the car to her husband, and she should continue entering public buses? He can always use the car when she's not using it.
Please some things are not relevant at all.
It's wrong of her to travel without telling her husband. But you cannot stop her travelling to get money to raise her children if their father isn't living up to his responsibilies.
We have to just face reality, hunger is no man's friend.

Never said she should hand over the keys to the hubby, neither did I say the man is responsible. But let's not preach what we can't do in our individual homes.
I bet you can't behave like the wife in your matrimonial home.

As for the wife showing off which you are supporting, my car and properties have me and my wife's names on it. I did not mean mr and mrs, my first name, her first name and our surname is on all the documents. So forgive me if I see it as unusual for her to be making known that it's her personal property.

I trust you equally read were the son said he was instructed my his mom not to allow his dad use the car. When there are issues or differences at home, let's keep the kids out of it, rather than teaching them hatred and bad blood.

prestigiouslady:
And your mum isn't in sorrow? when she has a husband that is not responsible enough to cater for his family yet she had to take the wheel to provide for the family. To worsen the matter, he couldn't bridle his manhood and got another woman pregnant...so you think your dad hasn't make your mum miserable enough
if this is how you'll shift the whole blame on your mum, I really feel for her.
There are some matters that "sorry" doesn't resolve, the consequences are still there...infidelity to the extent of fathering a child outside marriage is one..
If tables were turned, will you be here seeking for advise??
If your mum's way of healing is to show off her hard earned money, let her do it...
I'm not in support of what she's doing but if that's her own way to get the pound of flesh back, so be it.

Did we read same story? Did you read the part where he said the wife has been travelling often without hubby's permission? As in a married woman going out of state without notifying her husband.

She equally buying a car and making the whole neighbourhood know is her personal belonging as well as the church, is not enough punishment shey?

The man failed in his responsibilities by not providing adequately for his family, and again failed bitterly for fathering another child with a stranger.

In all, the man, the wife, as well as the son failed to make their family work. The son should be ashamed of himself for not being able to address his parents, and allowing the family to break to this point.

Op, call your parents to order. If possible threaten them with leaving the house without returning again till peace is restored. I belive your mom is getting all the wealth for you as the only child, then pressure her into doing the right thing before the family becomes history

Evaberry:
very few men are victims of domestic violence. Women always bear the brunt of a man's anger


No matter what a woman says or does, a man should never hit her, a man is physically stronger than a woman so hitting her will inflict serious physical damage, whereas a woman may not cause any real harm to a man.

Op the husband in your write Up should have quietly left the compound and go relax somewhere until he was sure his wife had calmed down. when a woman is angry she throws all reason and caution to the wind, it therefore falls on the man to be understanding and reasonable


Engaging in a fisticuffs with a woman is wrong and should be condemned.

Are you from this planet? The man should have left and return after the wife is calmed? As in, he should have surrendered his balls at once.

I wonder the type of advice you will give people close to you. You saw no fault in all the woman did, I pity your man

Gidobaba:
Assuming the bible didn't make it clear that we should bring our thithes into His tabernacle, i would have been paying my tithes into the lives of people whom are less privileged.

Have you tried reading Deu 14:22 down?
Tithes are meant for the following'sj

1. Levites
2. Widows.
3. Orphans and
4. Strangers in your land.

Mind you, you are to share(partake) with the levite, and not hand over your tithe to him.

ipobarecriminals:
did they force u to siddon there?Listen. up,wherever u worship/grumble/ nothing change, leave there or God will leave 7.U can't be paying ur tithe and never see change.That one nor dey happen in RCCG,WINNERS,4SQUARE,CCC.even Catholic.

You guys are just funny, were you instructed to give(bring) or pay(compel) tithe?

2. If tithe is a law, why do you still pay tithe since christ was the end of the law, and we were since saved by grace as we are no longer under the law, but lives by grace?

3. Kindly state what qualifies one a levite, and compare with the pastors of all the aforementioned churches.

Note; question 1 is optional, but question 2 and 3 are compulsory and carries 25 marks each.

Goodluck

ipobarecriminals:
let me tell u as a mata of fact,WINNERS. give widows/scholarship to students yearly from that tithes #Fact.

Was a winner for years before leaving.
No poor man's child/children were given scholarship all the years I spent there. No allow me talk abeg

lonikit:
at that, some pastors are still like levites

Kindly mention the pastors that are like levites in our present day.

Have you been to the monastery? Have you heard of the monks? Those are the people you may want to liken to levites, and not your pastors.

Levites lives and dies in the temple, just as monks lives and dies in the monastery. No pastor in this age lives according to the standard of a levite, they all have houses, mingle with friends and family, and have one possession or the other.

debspauly:
just like one 4 yr old girl in my neighborhood .....she is so spoilt ....when she came to stay with us because her parents traveled ..all that came out of her mouth was pussy and dick ....she even said she loved dick ....I was dumbfounded...... I dont know what to do ..or who to report to ...her dad is a lecturer ...and her mum ...an alcoholic ...who is still schooling....and her dad will never believe me ...I think he was the one that spoilt her.

You think the lecture dad spoilt her, and not the alcoholic mom?

Clap for yourself

I am too ashamed to even narrate my experience with my cousins daughter.

Years back when my cousin's daughter was about 5 years, I visited them and she rushed to sit on my laps. I saw nothing wrong with that not until she started rubbing my JT with her hands. With full speed I removed her hands and gave her a mean look thinking it was innocently done. The next thing she came again wanting to grab it, as in the way a grown woman would do with her partner. I quickly spanked her so hard that I was expecting her to cry or shout. She kept calm, meaning she is aware of what she is doing.

I know you might be wondering why I did not report to my cousin about the incident.
Guess what, the wife is known to have numerous lovers who she brings to the house as he works in another state. Everyone in the family is aware of this even his mother and extended family at large. They even make joke with it openly.

I know you may want to ask how I know about my cousins wife, if it's just because of the talks within the family.
Years back while I was still in the world, I attended the burial ceremony of one slay queen(a lady I met on facebook who openly asked if I am strong in bed as she needs wild satisfaction) and met my cousins wife in same gathering in another town dressing like she is looking for customers without her wedding band of course.

At times, this issue is simply caused by wayward parents who passed this act to their child

generationz:
Please don't yet throw her things out
Depending on the relationship the siblings have, since she is your wife's elder sis she might not be able to talk firmly to her thus not being able to pass the message across like you'll want it.


Sunday is a good day as everyone will be in a light mood, after church maybe after lunch you can call your sister in law aside, away from the others. Ask about her family issues and how far it is going. Then you tell her that it's not that you don't want them around o, in fact as everyone is here and keeping you and your wife company it's nice but as a young struggling man it is eating deep into your pocket and you would not like it to come to the day you can't provide for all of them.

Do this and see her reaction. You have to be as calm as possible too. I've squatted before and I tell you no one likes being in such position. Dialogue is a good weapon to settle brewing troubles.

Peace

Nice idea. But I see no brewing trouble here, how can she move into my house in disguise and have refused to at least talk to me about her intention to stay or so?

mikedimeji:
U just said my mind, if them no get shame I won't allow such. Bros I blame u 150%. Once one of her relative is around that's all I can't have two of them living in my house at the same time even if I my house is 7 bedroom. Brother the way forward is forward either u close ur eye to say No or u turn ur back to say No the most important thing is u've said No. give her ultimatum to leave ur house, u are not their relative, u are just an inlaw.

Thanks for the input.

YesNo:
How do you expect them to leave? when there is steady food for them to eat and even take to work in flask. when they have become so comfy.

People like this will thank God for "touching your heart" to allow them to stay. in the start, They will do lots of "eye service" work in the house for you & your wife. Then, they become very comfortable cos they feel they have paid their dues and won your heart.

in the end, they will still be the very ones to spread bad news about you after all your sacrifice for them & people outside will never understand or even give you a chance to hear from you... especially if you & your inlaws are ibo tribe.

My brother, the thing tire me, the guy is not even doing like someone that have plans to live on his own, or settle down. No sense of commitment or so, always laid back and relax.

Ameeria:
Na wa o. Brother in-law, mother in-law and aunty in-law , all in the same house! Your in-laws are so shameless. You have more than tried, call a meeting and bare your mind. I mean call them all in a meeting... you are the head of your home.

Personally, I see no reason calling for a meeting with people I am doing a favour. Brother in law's issue is manageable as I was carried along and I agreed he come put up with us temporary, which I made clear that it's just for a year, now it's 3 years and counting.

For sister in law, she just have to go as I am getting mad each time I see her or the child. Imagine the child even trying to personalise my child's toy and other issues I won't want to mention. And the mom will see nothing wrong with it.

Evacroft:
I dont know how pple feel comfortable in peeps house this much. I know how u feel,two of my bil stay with us too and i can tell u its difficult if they dont always man up and do things in ur absent . U are lucky u are a man, a woman trying to put her feet down on this will be labelled a witch,put ur feet down and ask them to leave,asides mama. U are not mandated by law or custom to house them against ur wish. Let her go to her parent house or get a place asap since she doesnt even have the sense to talk to u. Ur house ur rules

That's the point, not seeing reasons to talk to me or carry me along.
Trust me, she must leave, only trying not to make it seem like a war

baby124:
Only you, your wife, your baby and your wife's mother should be in that house. Her brother and sister with her son should either find their own place or relocate to their parents house. You are not their father. Or doesn't their mum have where she is coming from?

Why is your wife allowing her family to turn your house into a hotel? You need to start taking more money from your wife for upkeep of all her family members. Trust me she will chase them away after a week of doing this. I hope she is working to feed all of them.

It's really eating my pocket deep and wide.
A case were a basin of garri( I did not say painter) finishes in 2 weeks, not to mention gas and other stuffs.

My conscience won't allow me leave expenses for wifey as she is not in support of their stay, since they are both older than her, she is applying caution so it won't be used against her.

tuscani:
Just do your best to accommodate them. Is just time. Remember they are your in-laws. It could have been you

Accommodate you say? The guy has been with us since 2014, is he planning to become my child? When will I start planning for my kids when a grown man is putting up with me?
Is 3 years not enough time?

pcguru1:
How old is he ?

A graduate, and above 28 years

ibizgirl:
Your best bet will be to convince your wife to get her family elders to settle whatever ish your sister inlaw has with her husband so that she can move back home. And start using style to help your brother inlaw look for house (just hint him there is a vacant 2 bedroom nearby). Don't let him wait till december before he starts searching ooooo, if not in another 3 months he will still be there.

Brother in laws case is as good as settled, he can't stay beyond december. I have tried

pcguru1:
Imagine sometimes I ask myself how come we are having useless men who can't contribute, even me I won't feel comfortable till i have contributed to the household to avoid looking like a leech, to even live with a relative dey even shame me sef. You tried a friend of mine that this happens to, as in having family in his crib, it reached a point that he started coming home extremely late, obviously chilling at beer parlour not sure if it has been settled or not, wife is not happy about him coming late and he's like the house is crowded and he can't be staying in his room all the time. got no advice for you mehn this one big pass me, but the bro does he earn well, if so he has to start contributing if he has to stay .

Not expecting him to contribute per say, but at least he should take care of his room and man up when I am not around.

Imagine PHCN dropping my wire while he is home, and he can't confront them to sort it out since I am not home. He will wait for me to return from work

Odilafta1:
Let your wife arrange a meeting with her family members and you,there you both can let them know their welcome is overdue.
Once in a while visit is enough,see finish is not good for marriage.

Thanks for your input