₦airaland Forum

decatalyst:
Oga, be constructive!

Check his antecedent please.

tesppidd:
Stop deviating.

Nothing like grassroots mobilization.

It was not an NURTW election or touts fighting to install a chief agboro.

It was a supreme court case.

Very easy case for the Supreme court for that matter.

tesppidd:
What's the meaning of this nonsense?

What is the meaning of singlehandedly?

The Amaechi case was a very easy case at the supreme court.
They already had a precedence about election victories belonging to the political party and not the candidate.

The case was a no brainer at the supreme court.

People should stop overstating Wike s contribution.
He did nothing more than 10 percent.

The only thing he did was being an organizer and paying the lawyers who fought the case.

Wike did not do anything extra ordinary.
Also they were a group. Abe was there, Uchendu was there, Chukwu and others were there.

What else did Wike do for Amaechi?

Let me remind you of some of the things Amaechi did for Wike.

1.Odilli sanctioned Wike to be LGA chairman because Wike was close to Amaechi. Yes Amaechi gave Wike that connection.

2.Amaechi made Wike chief of staff.

3.Amacehi gave Wike a lot of contracts as Chief of Staff which he never executed.

4.Amaechi made Wike minister of education.

5.Amaechi as governor led protest to EFCC when Wike was bundled and locked up by EFCC.

Stop twisting facts.
As political allies they benefited from each other.

But Wike benefited like 80 percent from Amaechi.

Enough with all these PDP and Wike propaganda that he made Amaechi governor.
That is a very silly and naive assertion.

Amaechi is Wike's master anytime any day.

bixton:
With all due respect to the governor of Rivers State, he is not in any way my superior. He is my junior at the Bar and in politics. “

I love the bold statement by Senator Magnus Abe.
And certain persons some where are saying CRA is a boy to Wike..........
I still wonder where and how did they arrive at that.

tesppidd:
lemme guess

1.Wike was the one who made Amaechi the governorship candidate.

2.Wike fought karate with Obasanjo when Obasanjo substituted Amaechi's name.

3.Wike fired some gun shots to make Amaechi governor.

4.Wike was in the supreme court panel that made Amaechi governor.

What exactly did Wike do for Amaechi?

There are some lies that keep being repeated they begin to sound like the truth.

The best Wike did was employ lawyers to fight Amaechi's case.
And it wasn't just Wike; there was Abe, Uchendu, Chukwu and some others who worked together to fight in court.

tesppidd:
This issue has gone on and on and on.

Both men couldn't put pride aside and work for the party.

Abe is equally guilty.


I have not seen that politician in Rivers, and in Nigeria at large who doesn't try to impose his successor.

Wike and his supporters have mouth to talk and accuse Amaechi of imposition and godfatherism.

1.Last year's local government elections; Wike handpicked 99 percent of the chairmen in the 23 LGA's.

2.The 2019 PDP primaries for assembly, reps and senate; Wike handpicked 99 percent of the candidates contesting from next week.

3.By 2023 Wike will handpick his successor.

So Amaechi is not doing anything extraordinary.

Sometimes when consensus is done, the leader of the party most times has the biggest say.

What we now have is a Magnus Abe who now feels very big; as big as Amaechi. And cannot be dictated to.

Abe should be more humble in dealing with a man who is bigger than him politically.

APC has got 2 senators and some legislative seats and political appointments because Amaechi singlehandedly made it so.

Yes it is true that someone like Odilli made Amaechi and Amaechi cannot be seen haggling words with Odilli in the media.
This is between Abe, Wike and Amaechi; and in-between the 3 of them, they have benefited more from Amaechi in terms of political patronage.

Abe and Wike cannot fool everybody, they can only fool some.

We know the role that Wike played when the problem between Amaechi and Abe was just beginning with that very first judgement.

ogawisdom:
Biblically a wife is a subordinate to her husband. She is meant to submit to him in an ideal situation. Love and submission defines goldly marriage n standard, man loves woman submit.

ogawisdom:
U r obviously a kid n far from an elder

Elder0001:
You lack wisdom.

ikuoma4rea:
My wife just developed an attitude that is quite disturbing.just because l get her involved in any project in the house by contributing her own share because she works so that we can get something better for the family.Anytime time l control her she says stuffs like after all my money was involved.but her income is more than mine but l ensure that the rent and running of the house is been handled by me except for the cooking that sometimes l just give her what l have to add to what she has.l could not watch a program just because she was watching a program and when l insisted she disconnected the television set and left with the cord to her room after all l joined my own money in purchasing the television set.she is always against me going to club and hanging out with friends,did that last nite and when l got home she refused to open the door and l had to put a call to the mum before she opened the door at 4am.she is working and earns more than l do but can't l have peace in my own house without her throwing tantrums on me even without been worried about our neighbors.what do l do to have my freedom and respect back because l don't get any respect from her anymore.little things she tells the mum and she calls to start advising me which l find uncomfortable .confused right now.we have 2 kids now.need good advice.

iloputaife:
It’s a long story but I will try to keep it brief.
About 6 years ago I dated a lady from Delta State from the Urhobo tribe. Along the line she got pregnant.
Although the relationship did not end in marriage I did not at any time deny responsibility for her pregnancy and I went with my mother to see her father when he requested a meeting

Due to a serious medical condition she had the pregnancy was a very difficult one but she eventually had a beautiful healthy baby girl. She spent a total of 32 days in the hospital and run up a bill of over N1 million which was eventually paid with some help from her family.
Due to her prolonged stay in hospital she was forced to resign from her job but she was lucky to get another job several months later.
After the baby was born she continued living with her parents cos I was still adamant I was not going to marry her however, I was seriously willing to give it serious reconsideration.

What made me suspend the decision to formalize our relationship was that I noticed that she was becoming unnecessarily rude and insultive to me.
I will give an instance, there was this one time she called me on a Wednesday while I was at the library preparing for a professional exam to tell me that the baby’s provisions had finished and that I should send some money and I said I wasn’t going to send any money cos I had previously sent money about 2 or 3 days before; the next thing she did was to start raining insults on me on the phone.
Later that weekend on Saturday I went to visit her and our baby at her parents house and after I had sat down in the living room her mother accosted me and said “I no like the way way you dey talk to my daughter” and just as I was getting ready to defend myself this lady flared up and started shouting “you’re crazy, You’re crazy, stupid man” etc.
I immediately stood up and made to take my leave and much to my surprise this lady followed me out of the house into the compound raining insults on me.

While all this was going on her mother was present but she did not make any effort to ask her to stop. I found this very intriguing and shocking at the same time cos I am from the eastern part of Nigeria, Anambra state and where I come from no woman will stand by and watch her daughter insult her husband or father of her child.
This happened about 6 months after our daughter was born and she was lying on the sofa in the living room when it happened.

I should emphasize here the lady in question is a well spoken and relatively well exposed graduate and not some lay about but it just so happens that for some reason pigin English is the lingua franca in most Niger Delta homes.
I stayed away for over 3 months after this incident happened but I was surprised when I eventually went back and her father did not bother to ask me why I stayed away for so long.

Things continued this way until our daughter was a little over 2 years old and was about to start school.
We had a discussion and agreed that she should start school in September of that year, however, I was surprised when all of a sudden my baby mama’s mother came out of the blues and said that our daughter should be enrolled to start school in April and I kicked against it since it was not the original plan and I was not ready to let her dictate to me how to run my affairs.
They enrolled her in April and paid the fees since I said I would stick with the original plan.

From then on our relationship soured further and I stopped visiting altogether but my mother who incidentally is quite fond of the lady continued to visit them until eventually she too stopped cos they made her feel unwelcome through subtle body language.
Please note that prior to the breakdown in our relationship I had always been involved in my daughter’s life, I went to the hospital the day she was born, I participated at her christening, then her first and second birthday parties.
One of my mother’s complaints was that whenever she visits they will be making comments in their language while she’s seated there with them.
Much later after our daughter started school I sent some money for the payment of my daughter’s school fees and my baby mama sent the money back to my account and as a result I just ignored and left her to her own devices.
Much later after I had stayed away for a while I decided to open an education fund account for our daughter and I was told to bring her passport photograph and a copy of her birth certificate.

I asked her mother to send me a copy of her birth certificate and she refused and as a result I could not open the account.
About 2 or 3 months after this incident when schools were on a long holiday she decided to take our daughter on holidays to the United Arab Emirates and part of the requirements was that the father must sign a Consent Form cos our daughter bears my surname; when she called and told me about it I agreed to sign it on the condition that she would give me a copy of our daughter’s birth certificate.
I went to their house, gave them a copy of the bio data page of my international passport and signed the forms on the assumption that I was dealing with someone with integrity.

After about 1 week she still had not sent me a copy of the birth certificate as agreed so I sent her a reminder on WhatsApp and she blocked my number immediately.
As a result of this I suspended all communication with her until I was about to leave Lagos for an engagement which lasted about 2 years.
Before I left I bought some cartons of biscuits and packs of Ribena fruits drinks which our daughter would take to school as refreshments.
When I got there her parents were very hostile and almost refused accepting the stuff but I left them in their compound after they had been offloaded from the car.

There are some other incidences which I have omitted for brevity.

Now the issues is that want to see my daughter but I have no desire to visit them at home.
I sent a text message to my baby mama to request to see my daughter in a public place of her choice and she ignored it.

I want to further pursue this matter legally but I want to know if there are further remedial actions I can take before I resort to this.

I am willing to explore other means first cos if I go the legal route then there is no turning back for me no matter the cost or inconvenience.

Once I start legal process on the matter I will not look back until we get to the logical conclusion of this matter.

I want people who are experienced in child custody cases to give me their opinion.

Please move this to front page:-

Lalasticlala

Mynd44

Dominique

Daeylar:
Keepingmum, imnotconfused, AFONAMARO, LewsTherin. Love your examples of how you keep your home going strong by working together. More strength to you guys.

Nwabundo38:
Awww. that's so sweet of you.

Daradared2:
wooow! u guys are amazing..... I thought my Husband got it all, seeing comment....Thumps up for u guys! Let make it work.....TOGETHER...

Many thanks!

When you understand your family is the essence of "MARRIAGE", you will gladly catch a grenade for them

Amicable22:
And you ended up judging her just by her appearance

bukatyne:
Very nice.

All HANDS on deck and everyone acting their routine.

Not I am tired, I am just helping you, it's your job etc.

I really wanna phase out live in help and have the kids start nursery school straight. I have seen my friends' kids turn out well and converse like adults not robots when they are home till three.

Their thought processes is on point.

bukatyne:
Great, considering you are even the daddy.

bukatyne:
Good evening house,

The Topic already explains itself.

In Lagos of today, how do a working couple with kids survive without a maid?

Practical examples pls.

olumyde:
Before creating this topic, I tried to search nairaland to see if there's something like this but I couldn't find. The closest I saw were advices on how to go about things when your parents object to your marital decision.

I am currently at a crossroad in my marital decision. My mother does not want me to marry my fiance because of her mother's behaviour.

This is not a unique issue and I know many people have faced something like that in the past.

I know all the advices but what I want to know experience of people who have gone ahead despite their parents' disapproval.

If you have gotten married without your parents' consent, what was your experience? Can you kindly share, so everyone can learn?

GreatDad19:
Hello nlanders

This is an update to my old thread from last month https://www.nairaland.com/4647838/wifes-vagina-loose-please

I experienced some negative feedback but was able to receive help from a generous lady who sent me a pm and advised me on what to do. I ended up buying what this said lady suggested for my wife and I thought at this point maybe this issue would be solved. Despite me avoiding this situation for years, I finally decided to address it after frustration.

After purchasing this item, I sat down with my wife in the calmest way possible to explain how I’ve not been satisfied sexually due to her giving birth. I explained to her that I felt her vagina had loosened after the birth of our child and I handed over the product that I had bought for her. My wife stayed silent all throughout the time I spoke to her. When I finished talking she gave me a very nasty look and left the room without saying a word and also eased as she left. Since that day I have been living in pure misery.

My wife has refused to sleep in the same bed with me, she has deprived me of sex. She barely cooks. Every time I try to talk to her, she shuts me or up or she doesn’t respond. She’s constantly on her phone talking to one friend or the other. Completely disrespecting me in my own house. Yesterday night was the last straw and we got into a heated fight. She compared me to one of her ex’s and claimed that it was a mistake that she married me. I ended up calling her all sorts of names and told her to leave my house. I called her mother, and she was begging on her behalf but I’m no longer tolerating her nasty behaviour. It was God that stopped me from slapping her yesterday, because I’ve never been insulted like that all my life. This morning she’s packed her stuff and she has left with our daughter.
At this point I’m falling out of love with this ungrateful woman. Since the birth of our child it’s been hell and I’ve tried my best. At this point I don’t know if I should just leave my wife or try to reconcile. I have tried to my best ability but she’s very ungrateful and miserable. I believe our marriage is dead at this point and I don’t think there’s any way to revive it. She has completely let herself go emotionally and physically. She doesn’t care about herself nor myself.

I just want to know the next wise step to take

Thanks.

Organism000:
There is nothing wrong with that, I am not as timid as most of you on this planet. Sex is nothing more than sensory hormonal stimulation for secretion of hormones.

Foolish boy.

Organism000:
Female Bi-Sexuals are my preference.

Top dogs for threesomes.

Afam4eva:
Which one is east and sout south. Therebare Igbo elements in the south-south, so you could have just married anotjer Igbo person from that area.

GENERALCASHMIR:
In totality there is no much differences between se and ss ,they are closely inter related ,am looking for sw and ne or sw and se

thecrush:
I would like to ask this big question!!

What is your take on inter-tribal marraige?

Will you marry someone whose culture and religious beliefs is totally different from yours?

What will sustain the marriage after some time?

If you have any experience, please share!

You may say "love conquers all" but for how long can one tolerate the culture difference.

Please lets discuss

[/b]This is not a war zone. Please speak your mind.... advantages and disadvantages.... I feel my own sister is entering what she may not be able to handle later on[b]

AMEzekiel:
This is true. Well done sir.

Ndipe:
Such tradition should be abolished.