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ireny:
I have the mindset that when a guy cry, I tag him a weakling. I see guys who cry in the presence of their girlfriend as a pretender and they are manipulative. Please if someone appose the notion, should please explain to me, cause I don't want to wallow in my own mentality.

giftforlife9:
Oh my God, she need 40k to fix her hair and we just start dating last week,

she say i should prove it to her that i really love her by giving her the money to fix her hair.

Where the hell am i going to get that kind of money from,

i dont know what to do because i really love her.

b1327:
Build it 1st let it function so pple we c it b4 u start makin noise

gbingafa:
Hi everyone,

I suspect my BF of cheating on me because in the past 6 months some things happened that make me thing so :

1. we are in a long distance relationship (could give you the background but it would be too long). It was OK for almost 4 of the 5 years we spent together. We would see each other every other week and have a good time. Our main issue: our unmatched libidos.
We had a fight about that, once again, in may and i was so mad that i went too far and told him that i couldn't take it anymore. That maybe trying to conceive in these conditions wasn't a good idea after all; also told him that anyway i couldn't have a child with someone who doesn't want to marry me… Don't remember all the details but it ended with me basically telling him that we needed a break.
after that, he never came to see me again in…six month.
I knew i hurt him so i decided to apologize and do my best to make it up to him. I was the one traveling every time to see him. I did that with no problem for like 3 months and then i started to think he was taking it too far.

2.Then i had an anonymous call and a voice mail one sunday, from a woman calling me with my nickname (only known by my family and my BF). This woman was asking me if he was with me and if she could talk to me.
When asked, he told me it was is youngest sister, that he gave her his old cell phone last time he visited them in ivory coast. I know this is a lie cause he never introduced me to his sisters and we never talk or interact.

3. In september, he went MIA for 2 weeks. We use to call each other every day, at least once but during that time he would never take is phone when i called. He would call me back hours later for 1mn and hang up. He asked me multiple times to text him instead. The few times we talked on the phone, the line was so bad, like when you call in africa ! At some point, i heard very distinctly the sea in the background when he was supposed to be in Paris ! I confronted him about it. He basically told me he had enough of my criticism and suspicions and that if i was so miserable with him i should find a better fit

4. The cherry on the cake is that he told me few weeks ago that he would not be there for christmas nor near years eve (we used to spend them together). He said he had to go to ivory coast for traditional ceremonies. I know they suffered some losses in their family this year but this ceremonie's timing comes very conveniently !

So here i am, feeling in my guts that he's cheating but with no decisive evidence of it. I don't know what to do…Do i pretend to be blind like my sisters and african friends tell me to, or do i track him down in order to expose him like my french friends tell me ?
The only good point (not sure but let it be in the + side) is that although he say's is not ready to get married, he want us to have a child. We're both 35 and i have some fertility issues so it's about time for me…
We've been TTC since may and have seek an RE to help with the matter. He's totally cooperative and even took medical exams and whatever.

So i'm totally confused here. If he's in a relationship that is so important to him that he would:
- lie to me and travel to spend 2 weeks with her
- let me down and travel again to spend new years eve with her
- take the risk to make me so mad that we almost broke up
why does he then keep TTC with me ?
What could be his plan than ? If i get pregnant, he will not be able to keep it from her…
BTW i'm searching a job in Paris too. The first time i asked him what our living arrangement would then be he told we that "of course", we would move in together. Then again, let's say i find a job in a month, i'll be in Paris by march. If he tells me to take my own place, we're done and i think he knows it. If i move in, it will not be possible for him to keep dealing with this situation…
Again, what (sick) game is he playing ? What should i do ? Is it possible that i am really making all this up ?

Fabdedon:
lol what were you actually thinking?

Fabdedon:
I and this babe were taking a romantic walk down the
street one cool night.
I grab her hands, draw
her closer kisses her & said,

"Baby! You know I so
much love you. There's no one here. Its just us. Let's do
WEEWEECHU.


She looked around & said,
"My love, I don't
want to do WEEWEECHU please. Let's just hold hands & cuddle.

"I agreed.After a while,
I asked her again,

"Oh baby! Please my love! Let's do WEEWEECHU!"

She replied:
"Baby'm, don't rush me. I don't want to do it. I
just want to be wrapped in your arms."

I calmed down.After a longer while, i could'nt hold it any longer.

I told her,
"My heartbeat, its not fair oh! Let's do WEEWEECHU nah! Since last year oh!"

She reluctantly
agrees!
So as a sharp guy i immediately grab her closer to me, hugs
her tight, brings out my guitar strapped at my back and then i started singing:
.
.
"WEEWEECHU A MERRY CHRISTMAS!
WEEWEECHU A MERRY CHRISTMAS! WEEWEECHU A
MERRY CHRISTMAS! AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!!!"
.
.
See their dirty minds!
Happy sunday and a Merry Christmas in Advance Romancelanders

barbiee:
I have been dating this guy for 4 yrs and we keep having this same fight over and over. We quarel today and settle tomorrow then act like nothing happened until we fight and settle again. Most times its my fault but being the gentleman that he is he always takes the blame and appologises. I admit I have major issues with guys in general and I'm punishing him unintentionally. Ok.. Let's go back in time, I had this belief while growing that all guys are cheaters if they don't cheat on you while you are alive they will marry the next girl they find when you are dead. My dad cheated on my mum, my elder sister's husband cheated on her which caused her to move out of her husband's house with a 2 yrs old baby and an 8 mnths old pregnancy, my boyfriend lost his mum 2 yrs ago and now his dad is married to another woman who doesn't know how his ist wife struggled with him when they where poor till they made it and my first boyfriend cheated on me with my friend so we broke up barely 2 mnths in2 the relationship and it took me a while before I said yes to my current boyfriend making him my 2nd bf and I'm his ist gf. Our families are already so close and we might get married next year when I graduate from school. Anyway during our chat-fight he made some statements which got me thinking. I am just goin to copy and paste some things he sent to me..
(I used to send u msgs a lot back den Bt I stpped because it made me luk lyk am fooling my sef.. Do u call me to kw wat am going tru.. Ur expression of Love towards me Killed d passion I had towards U.. I hv been bearing it nd hoping dat u will change 1 day but it's nt working.. A woman has d power to hold her man nd make him go crazy abt her Bt urs is nt so.. I kw I hv my serious Fault but ur attitude towards dis relationship has so much increased it.. I kw am angry now Bt let d truth b said.. U re jst too proud to accept dat u love me.. How frequent do u send me msgs jst to express hw u luv me or emotional msgs.. I permit u to try sum1 else if daz going 2 make u kw hw it feels wen u date sum1 who is hidden 4rm u..). Pls don't get those msgs wrong, I love my boyfriend and I don't want to marry anyone else. He is the closest person I have come to trust and I don't want to lose him. How do I make him feel loved? I love fairytales and cartoons but why can't I express my love in real life? My mum always used to tell me don't trust any guy.. They are all the same, what can a guy do for you that you can't do for yoursef? With that I have become so independent to the extent my pastor heard me telling someone oneday "what is the big deal about marriage? I don't tink I want to get married unless to have children" and he told me to see him for counselling which I have not done till today. Anyway, I won't be posting this here unless its urgent. I want to fix this. I have even tried setting an alarm to remind me to call everyday, it worked for about 2 weeks or so. I don't want him to feel unloved or that he is missing out on something. Pls romance experts how do I come out of my closet and embrace love? He paid me a suprise visit yesterday.. Said he has been thinking of me and he is making provision to get me a live rose as a gift. He is the sweetest thing and he doesn't deserve someone who has given up on luv. How do I learn how to love and show it? Thanks in advance.

striktlymi:
Did he do all that before she agreed to the relationship?

Bimfo:
Pls how Old are U, OP

Just tell Us U r missing him, and we will tell U what to do..

U ave been ignoring him for 2 weeks, so what else do u want? U r now coming here to Complain.. Are U this stūpid Or U r just naturally Stūpid

Funjosh:
Do you go to bed with anger
Do you fight in the dream
Some questions need to be answered.

soccerinfo9ja:
If you are goodlooking and u get used to it omg u better not lose it or u will leave the rest of ur life hating urself and society. People see it as trivial but in honesty humans are very shallow and they always respond to u based on how u look subconsciously! U think its a normal thing for guys to see u as a boss everywhere u go even if they dont know u, or for girls to treat u like ur their bf even if u two only just met , well its not normal!!! other people are mostly ignored by society!! A friend of mine that is very goodlooking started to smoke ,drink , lose appetite for eating so much and lose sleep for weeks and he lost a fair amount of his fineboy due to red eye and pale dry face (for only a few weeks tho) and thats when he realised that OMG people no longer treated him like a boss !!! People mainly ignored him and all he had left was his personality which is zero by the way since his looks was good enough to carry him everywhere. He felt like crying, girls didnt even want to look at him twice or talk to him he was like a shadow!!! Then after a while of abstaining from weed , cigars, excessive alcohols and good sleep and rest he gained his default fineboy which nature gave him natuarally back......and my nigga went out and again every guy was famzing him and the girls were all flirting and starring again!!! My guy sees life from a different angle now because most of u just think life is ordinary yall dont realise that the little things we ignore on a daily basis can totally affect how society treat you.!!!
THE REAL DISSADVANTAGE OF BEING GOODLOOKING IS HAVING NO PERSONALITY WHICH 90% OF GOODLOOKING PEOPLE ARE GUILTY OF, SOME DONT EVEN KNOW IT YET!!!

Lesson: if ur goodlooking u better have a good personality or else if that shii fades u'll almost weep when u realise people only liked u for ur face and body!!!