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kristina1:
So being active on nl means you av no ambition,which means u are immature?

MizMyColi:


[size=5pt]Okay, this post is a classic example of The Epistle Of Romance According To Coli[/size]



So, you’ve been called a LovePeddler, you’ve been labelled “cheap or finished goods”. You’ve been told either directly or indirectly; by words and/or action that you could never possibly attract the man/woman of your dreams.

There’s this nagging voice inside of you which keeps reminding you – especially at those moments when you decide to pick up the pieces of your life and move on – that you’ll never be good enough, that you’ll keep having failed relationships, that Love, no matter how badly you desire it could never happen to you!
In your quest for true love, you’ve probably lost count of the number of guys/ladies you’ve dated and or slept with. Perchance, you now subtly consider yourself abominable and unworthy of a good man/woman.

I am here to implore you to change that mind-set, change it because Good is about to happen to you, change it because your worth and value could never be determined by your actions. Every condemnation or guilt that you feel within is either from you or the cosmic rebel, certainly not God (or whichever name you know Him by) such thoughts cause more harm than good in the long run. You must reject them.

You are whole, you are worthy, you are a perfect representation of all that is good. You are royalty, you are beautiful. What you think of yourself right now is inconsequential as long as the eternal truth stated ^^^ above remains

imho, *nodding my head* you should fall in line

Yes, you find yourself making the same mistakes over and over. Yes, you keep doing those things which you know quite well are against your principles and they upset the inner core of your being. More oft than not, you consider yourself a failure having not been able to live up to your set values, principles and orientation.
Deep down, beyond your popularity, beyond that killer smile/charm and figure/build you possess, there are those moments when you do some deep soul searching and all you consider yourself as is “One Colossal Mess!”

Well, Guess What

[size=14pt]YOU ARE NOTHING SHORT OF THE BEST THERE IS.[/size]

There are those times too, when you know – deep within, that you’re one priceless treasure who’s just getting most of his/her priorities wrong. Sometimes you feel you have it all together, only to realize you’ve been living an illusion.
Listen Sweetheart, there is hope for you, hope for your future and the fact that you’ve read to this length means you desire real change in your life.


So, I’m going to ask two questions:

1.In as much as you desire a package deal for a Husband/wife, considering your flaws, do you really believe you can attract a man/woman that noble/virtuos in your lifetime? In other words, when it comes to romantic relationships, is your head thought in tune with your heart thought?

2.What value do you place on yourself?

If your answers to the above questions were in the negative, or quite hazy – You are welcome to read on .

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Now, all you need do is make a conscious decision this moment, to take charge of your life and in cooperation with your maker, create the kind of experience you sincerely desire of life.
You’ll need a journal with which to write down the things you desire in your man/woman of the future and your life as a whole. You’ll also make a bullet list of positive confessions, which you should recite whole-heartedly at least 2 times daily or as you’re led. Let those words become a part of you, when conversing with people, look for a way to infuse those words in your conversation.

If you used to think and say “Love only happens in movies” you could change that phrase to something like – “Love Can and Will Happen to Me”
If you used to think of yourself as unworthy and incapable of attracting AND sustaining anything good in your life, you might wanna cancel that thought process by confessing “I am good, I am worthy, priceless people and things are attracted to me, for I am priceless!”

If you continue ^^^ this way, you’ll feel peaceful and stronger, with a sense of direction and perspective.


Thank you for taking time to read.

While writing this piece, a very good e-friend’s siggy to’ally resonates:
“We CANNOT become what we need by remaining what we are


It gets better!

afanide:
Depends on the kind of past life u lived. U dont xpect a Lady to easily let go off ur past if u were a rapist, robber, killer, etc. It will only take time and it depends on the kind of words she gets from her place of worship.

Nothing is unforgivable on earth. Unnless you gone against the Holy Spirit

iceberylin:
Waitn this one dh yarn

Midehi:
I have never been so loved like this and i love him dearly too.
pls hit this thread if you are truely in love but if you are not dont bother and please no insult, this for real...i just tank God i have found true love again..

yuncka:
No, Ur sugar level is so high dat U now taste it.

HemmanuelRichy:
Do you also schooled in France?

chidiezeh:
Why are you so hard headed. They don't want You and you
can't change that. Begging won't change that, and prayer won't
change that -- Stop thinking that God wants to bless you with
somebody that doesn't want you.


You won't see the right one until you stop crying over the
wrong one. God doesn't send you love that doesn't want you!


Stop begging, get some self-respect, their No is not The end of
your life, it may be The beginning of your joy..... wipe the tears,
dust off the dirt, hold your head up and start living... Don't
crawl up and die because they no longer want you.. There are
bigger and better fish in the Sea...


Goodmorning my people!..

HemmanuelRichy:
This past weekend, I did something I thought I was never capable of doing. I had sex with another man who wasn't my husband. Yes, you read right. The best part about it is that I feel great *dancing*. I thought I'd hate myself for doing it. But I don't. I thought I'd regret it. But I don't. I thought I'd feel some guilt. But I don't. In fact I can't wait to meet my lover again. Once again - *dancing*.

I love my husband, don't get it twisted. He's the father of my four children. We have been together for 23 years. But you see, he was never a faithful man. Not from the first day. He cheated when we dated. He cheated when we got married. In fact, he has another baby by another woman. A love child he had while we were married. I stayed. I never cheated. He slept with a friend. I stayed, I never cheated. He slept with 6 of his female staff, I stayed I never cheated. He slept with so many random women, I stayed, I never cheated. He even slept with our neighbour, I stayed, I never cheated. Then he said something
You see, I saw a text on his phone which he sent to one of his lovers. The lady had apparently had an abortion for him and she was threatening to contact me to tell me about their affair and guess what my husband told her?
'even if my wife catches me on top of you on our marital bed, she will ask us to continue, go into the kitchen make my dinner and still make love to me that same night on that same bed so please feel free to contact her. She's not going anywhere"

You see, he's wrong! His cheating affects me. For 23 years I have had to endure his constant philandering. My husband is rich so the women are plenty. I have cried, I have pleaded, I have threatened but it never stopped. And he thinks I'm okay with it. He thinks I am not going anywhere. Oh but he's wrong. I am going somewhere alright. To another man's bed.

I'm stuck with this man, 23 years and four children. And I love him with my life. But I'm done being the wife he thinks will catch him on our marital bed and give him a standing ovation. He wants to cheat? Well, two can play that game. After 23 years, I try now? I feel so liberated. I can't wait to meet my lover this weekend again. The last time was amazing. *dancing*
(saw this post online)

What is your opinion about this woman?

A friend says she's not totally wrong and not totally right as well.

HemmanuelRichy:
This past weekend, I did something I thought I was never capable of doing. I had sex with another man who wasn't my husband. Yes, you read right. The best part about it is that I feel great *dancing*. I thought I'd hate myself for doing it. But I don't. I thought I'd regret it. But I don't. I thought I'd feel some guilt. But I don't. In fact I can't wait to meet my lover again. Once again - *dancing*.

I love my husband, don't get it twisted. He's the father of my four children. We have been together for 23 years. But you see, he was never a faithful man. Not from the first day. He cheated when we dated. He cheated when we got married. In fact, he has another baby by another woman. A love child he had while we were married. I stayed. I never cheated. He slept with a friend. I stayed, I never cheated. He slept with 6 of his female staff, I stayed I never cheated. He slept with so many random women, I stayed, I never cheated. He even slept with our neighbour, I stayed, I never cheated. Then he said something
You see, I saw a text on his phone which he sent to one of his lovers. The lady had apparently had an abortion for him and she was threatening to contact me to tell me about their affair and guess what my husband told her?
'even if my wife catches me on top of you on our marital bed, she will ask us to continue, go into the kitchen make my dinner and still make love to me that same night on that same bed so please feel free to contact her. She's not going anywhere"

You see, he's wrong! His cheating affects me. For 23 years I have had to endure his constant philandering. My husband is rich so the women are plenty. I have cried, I have pleaded, I have threatened but it never stopped. And he thinks I'm okay with it. He thinks I am not going anywhere. Oh but he's wrong. I am going somewhere alright. To another man's bed.

I'm stuck with this man, 23 years and four children. And I love him with my life. But I'm done being the wife he thinks will catch him on our marital bed and give him a standing ovation. He wants to cheat? Well, two can play that game. After 23 years, I try now? I feel so liberated. I can't wait to meet my lover this weekend again. The last time was amazing. *dancing*
(saw this post online)

What is your opinion about this woman?

A friend says she's not totally wrong and not totally right as well.

kilokeys:
africanized posts please..
cos naija chics don't always roll this way.

u call, they never do.
u stop calling, they dont call
u call much later, and u get the " u have forgotten about me, shey?" response.

menix:
Guy 4 ur mind now u dey my head abii...

Get dis chic wey b single mum wit 3 kids frm diff. Fada, abeg watin she be? I guess Nun

Daninya1:
A family friend of ours waited patiently for 7years before his wife accepted his proposal... Now, they are happily married.
Psychologically, when a lady meets a man within 5 seconds, she knows if she likes him ..
Within 10 seconds, she knows if she can go on a date with him ...
Ladies, with this fact on our finger tips, why do you still put up a strong font and still play hard to get..
Guy-how long can you wait for a lady to accept your proposal to go on a date with you??..

OGAofBOSS:
Hello guys,
I believe many people have their reasons for entering into a relationship late/early.
When should a person get involve in a relations?
Your opinion are highly welcomed.

Gooci:
which luck?? with goal aggregate, we edged you people. na unna de use away goal scale thru us. if we wan beat you, yu de alwyz edge unna ni