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PhonesRe: Huawei Y6 Wants To Kill Me by Ajilenu: 5:01pm On May 27, 2022
Authoreety:
Y7 na machine!
how the phone spec be?
PhonesRe: Pics Of My Oppo Phone by Ajilenu: 4:58pm On May 27, 2022
Channah1:
Where are all the these Yaba left patients coming out from?
why Dem dey always tackle you? LMAO!!

The other time it was your and one lady like that lol. Don't be offended but it's just so hilarious. I wish I could insert an emoji tho looooll grin

Anyway, how's the experience with the phone like? I'm looking at getting something affordable for my baby sister
PhonesRe: Omo Where Airtel Main Office For Ikeja by Ajilenu: 4:54pm On May 27, 2022
bmdmix15:
I think they no longer @ shop right
do a simple google search
PhonesRe: Help!! My Phone Has Been Giving Me Serious Headache. by Ajilenu: 4:53pm On May 27, 2022
donaldking10:
fixing a faulty I.C on a phone mother-board is quite difficult.
even the engineers we have at Carl-Care are still rubbish.
no matter where you take that phone to, i'm afraid you would still be experiencing the same issues, unless you can send it to the original manufacturers of the phone.
if not, i'd suggest you just look for a way to sell the phone & get a new one to save yourself from the headache.
which carlcare is rubbish? How do you know they are rubbish?
PhonesRe: Help!! My Phone Has Been Giving Me Serious Headache. by Ajilenu: 4:50pm On May 27, 2022
Omo! That's too bad. iphone and their big wahala
PhonesRe: Infinix Note 12 G96 Price And Features In Nigeria by Ajilenu: 4:47pm On May 27, 2022
Would have loved to see the image of this phone
PhonesRe: Recommend A 60k Phone. by Ajilenu: 4:45pm On May 27, 2022
SunshineHQ:
pixel 3 is available for sale. 090 2135...0446
My guy, I don get your number, atleast make I follow you chat normal lol. Your guy Skywalker240 nko?
PhonesRe: Recommend A 60k Phone. by Ajilenu: 4:44pm On May 27, 2022
chariisGRACE:
The AO series from Samsung is the shitiest line of smartphone in the world when you are looking at it from the expectations one would have in them because there are manufactured by Samsung.

Talking about the AO3, Even GSMArena do not know the processor onboard this phone. It is shvt.

I'll even recommend a Tecno Spark or Infinix Hot over the Samsung AO series.
I'm telling you. Yet people don't know this
PhonesRe: Recommend A 60k Phone. by Ajilenu: 4:43pm On May 27, 2022
stiffstick:
Neatly used Redmi note 8
Ram: 3gb
Storage: 32gb
Phone only
No scratch
Price: 50k
09129154684
35k?
PhonesRe: My Terrible Experience Shopping With Jumia Nigeria by Ajilenu: 4:41pm On May 27, 2022
That's why buying from onsite is better. All these online dey tire person. I can only buy online from TECNO store cos they are very reputable
PhonesRe: Is The Xiaomi Poco F3 A Good Phone To Buy? by Ajilenu: 4:39pm On May 27, 2022
KINGJAJA888:
Nairalanders, Would you recommend the Poco f3 for someone in 2022?
provided it's a good device why not? But personally, I'll prefer TECNO cos they are newer
PhonesRe: Phonecareikeja Is A SCAMMER! Beware Guys by Ajilenu: 4:20pm On May 27, 2022
Just be careful next time. Sorry for the money lose
RomanceRe: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by Ajilenu: 4:09pm On May 27, 2022
NLElder:
First of all don't be quick to judge me. I am just here for matured help/advice cos I am fast loosing it. I am sure if it's abroad I will to told to go meet a therapist.

I am a young man in my early 40s and married for 9 years now with 2 kids. My nature of work is such that I am living on another town 5hours away from my family. This has been the case 6years out of the 9 years I am married. I have never really enjoyed my marriage as a young man cos I am always driving up and down every weekend to meet my family and when I got a promotion with more responsibility I reduced it to every 2 weeks, and as the stress of work and driving became more stressful, I now go every month. I have tried all my best even till date to see if I can get another work in the same state my wife and kids reside to no avail and my wife can't leave her work in the state join me as she is in a federal government establishment that has no branch in the state I live and work.

The scenario so far shows you that I am not enjoying a healthy sex life with my wife, but being someone brought up to respect the marriage institution, I have resigned to my fate and taken life as I have seen it. To make matters worse, with due respect to my wife, she suffered female genital mutilation and you know it affects women's sex life and their man is always worse off for it. In summary we lead a routine boring sex life in the few occasions we even get to have it. However, the 6 years I have lived and worked in another state, I have never cheated or thought of cheating on her despite all the cold lonely nights I have to spend alone. I am a kind of introvert and never hide it from people that I am married. Some will be like "u no get side chick"? I will say no.

The problem started 4 years earlier out of the 6years in the city I live and work. Since I am always lonely and bored in my crib, I mostly do video calls with my wife and kids daily or chat online with friends to keep my mind busy and avoid unnecessary tensions that will remind me of the lonely boring life I was living. This also keeps me away from sexual urges if I feel any as a fool-blooded young man I was. It was in one of these online chats that I got close to one young lady of about 30. We really got close through chatting and graduated to exchanging numbers. I always make it known that I was married to everyone I meet and she was no exception. We became best friends online and kept our limits as married man and a single lady would. We became curious and excited to meet each other live when we found out we were in same city.

We arranged a harmless date in a restaurant in town were we really got to know more about each other. I found out that she was a struggling young girl teaching in a private school with NCE and was unable to proceed to degree level due to lack of funds. Her salary wasn't even up to 18k and she was squatting with one lady in very uncomfortable circumstances. After that 1st live meeting, a very good friendship ensued but entirely platonic .

All these past 4 years before I met her, I cook for myself and go to market by myself. One Friday she called and I did not immediately pick cos I was in the kitchen. I called her back later and told her I was cooking and she jokingly asked if she could help. As at then she was yet to come to my place, so I told her if she really wanted to help then I would come and pick her up and that was how for the first time in 4 years, a lady visited me in that town. It felt awkward. It did not take long for me to find out how homely she was...washed plates, tidied everywhere, and finished up the cooking. I really felt at peace and started getting worried at the same time. We spent time chatting but kept our distance and nothing happened between us and I dropped her off later where she was squatting.

After that, our friendship went to another level and the visits became more frequent but still nothing happened between us. I got to know she was a well brought up lady that still had values and I also confirmed she had no man as at the time she met me. She said she had always wished to be married before now and never believed she would reach 30 and still be single.

I know my story is getting rather long, so let me try to wrap up. In summary, she started having issues with the family she was squatting with and didn't have enough money to rent a place of her own. I didn't have enough to rent for her either as I was already carrying a lot of financial responsibilities for her by then...monthly stipend of ₦10k to add to her salary, tolletries, making hairs and even helping out with her sick mum hospital bills.

So without a 2nd thought, both of us decided she move into my place. Inside me I knew it was somehow but I think by then we were already in love with each but maybe living in denial.

So she moved in and that was it. Yes, we started having sex, uncomfortably at 1st but later became 2 sex maniacs. It was as if she was sent to compensate me for my horrible marriage sex experience I have endured all these years. We couldn't have enough of each other. In fact when I want to travel and see my family, she breaks down crying. I knew it was more than a side chick matter. In fact this lady gave me a fulfilled sex life that I swear if it's in the olden days I wouldn't mind taking her as a 2nd wife. Months grew into years and our passion for each other grew to the point that we got jealous of the opposite sex calling us. She even starts frowning when my wife calls or tears will start running down her eyes. People, I became so confused. We both knew we have gone too far and yet were not ready to end it.

I even because part of her own family cos I go with her to see her sick mum and played a prominent role when she died. I don't know her older siblings knew if I was married or not , but I think she confided in her older sister who seemed to like me so much and only warned her to be "careful."

After 2 years, she started agitating about marriage so much that she said she needed to move out of my place. That as long as she is with me, she might not get married since it's obvious I wasn't going to marry her no matter how much both of us pretended about it. Deep inside me I knew she was right and I couldn't be selfish to keep her from meeting single suitors but I felt an inexplicable pain in my heart as if a part of me was about to be cut off. However, I forced myself to assist her to get a place and yet she on her own kept coming to my place every weekend until she moved in again leaving her place wasting for over 2 months., only going there once in a while to pick things..

All the 2 years we were together she was open and truthful to me about relationships she was now trying to build with single guys she hoped would marry her. I was already feeling bad inside me that she was about to leave my life, but she kept assuring me that she was with me and truly told me everything happeneing in the new relationship she was building.

She later moved out completely from my place after 2years on a new year day. She said needed to start the year on a good and clean note and had gotten serious with the guy that said he wants to marry her. I began to feel extreme jealous I couldn't explain. I knew it was not right but I couldn't stop myself. I tried my best and stopped calling or chatting with her but I still didn't find peace. One evening a month after when it was now clear that she has decided to get serious with the guy she said was coming for marriage, she visited me and and you can't believe it, we made hot passionate love. And when we were lying side by side, her new man called and she quickly ran into the toilet to answer him. I felt it was time I ended this whole thing, it wasn't looking right again.

So I confronted her why she was still leading me on when she is now in a marriage -bound relationship and she said because she still loves me and doesn't know how to let go of me. We cried together that it wiould be tough as we would soon separate from each other for life and she left. I cried like a baby as we made love again and she consoling me to try and teach my wife the things she does to me despite her FGM predicament.

The period she was with me, she was uncomfortable answering calls from her man and I got fed up and decided to investigate. So I went to the street where she showed me the guy lives(she was truly open to me and I give her that) and waited to see if she has started visiting him as she mostly denies and lo and behold, I saw her entering the guy's house. I felt a sharp pang of jealousy which I couldn't control. I picked up my phone after some minutes and started calling her, but her phone rang severally and she didn't pick. I was almost half-dead with jealousy. I cried iny heart and drove away. I sent her a text that because she was "enjoying" herself with her man she was now avoiding my calls. That maybe tbe guy was so good at it. She called about 2 hours later and really took offence that because she visited him and did not pick my call was simply because she doesn't want him to start asking questions and not necessarily that they were doing anything.

We quarrelled like never before and said hurtful things to each other and I asked her to return my key at my office the next day cos by then she no longer visited my house as she has really gotten serious with the guy. She returned the key and for over 2 months we stopped communicating and became strangers.

Instead of pushing her out my mind, I felt a daily torture looking through her Facebook pics, WhatsApp status, and other social media. I will go to her guy's street and painfully watch her enter his house from afar. I was fast losing my mind. I knew it was over for good and don't want her back but the obsession is yet to leave me till date. Everyday, I check her pictures and feels pangs of pain and jealousy as I see her lovely smiles. My people it's punishment and torture for me. I keep obsessing every second of my life about her. Who can help me? Something is definitely wrong. In one of her recent status, I saw her flaunt her hands with an engagement ring and I felt a sharp pang of sadness instead of happiness. People help me I am loosing it. Even though she has apologized to me and I too have apologized for the hurtful things we said in the course of our quarrel, my mind is still not at peace.

Even now presently she is engaged she still calls me and tries to engage me in friendly conversations but I will just be answering without interest. She even sent me a pic recently at a wedding she went to and I told her she should stop sending me her pics but should be sending to her man. She apologized and said she has taken note. Yet, I will feel bad inside me if I don't see her friendly chats which my attitude has made her reduce. Yet in all these, first thing in the morning I will quickly rush to check her pics, if she has made new posts, etc etc. I need help, I really do. Sorry my people for the long post but I really needed to empty myself to see the help I can get if any cos I want my normal sane life back. I have also prayed to God and asked for forgiveness for cheating on my wife ....I have no excuses for doing so but from the long story you can see it was never my intention.
I wanna ask you this. Do you still communicate with your wife like before? Has this ordeal affected the way you see and love your wife? Cos I'm afraid that you might not remain happy again.

What I would have advised you to do is.... Bro .. it might sound somehow but what would have happened if you married her as a second wife? Yes I know your wife won't have any of that but this is where being a man comes into play. You will explain to your wife what the distance is doing to your marriage and you can't seem to work your way around it hence you decided to have someone else.

I might be overthinking here cos I'm not the person this thing has happened to but there are alot of men having second wives this days and marriage is still going on good.

You might not remain the same again. Though time might be an ultimate factor to get over this but will you ever be happy again?
AutosRe: Our Keke Is Not ₦300k - Innoson by Ajilenu: 11:21pm On May 26, 2022
So how much is it if it's not 300k else the way people for rush am ehn.

Same way people were rushing Oraimo product when it first launched. Powerful brand!

CareerRe: Advice Me, I’m A Graduate, I’m Considering Learning An Handiwork by Ajilenu: 11:19pm On May 26, 2022
Since you already know what works best for you then go for it.

Have you tried the latest Oraimo powerbank? It's an absolute beast!!

CelebritiesRe: Portable Incorporates His Brand, 'Zeh Nation' (Photo) by Ajilenu: 10:46pm On May 26, 2022
Congratulations to the man. Cheers to him

Make I sha dey listen to him jam on Oraimo freepod pro

FamilyRe: Demond George: Man With 33 Children Speaks (Video) by Ajilenu: 10:45pm On May 26, 2022
33 children? I wonder why govt is allowing all these kinds of foolish child birth and we complain of over population everytime.

Anyway, Get Oraimo and enjoy the best music experience

PhonesRe: Note 10plus Vs A73 by Ajilenu: 2:21pm On May 26, 2022
Toma2:
Shey you no read the title?? They are both Samsung.
Samsung Note 10 plus(2 years old flagship)vs Samsung A73(latest midranger).
alright. How much is the note 10 plus
PhonesRe: Vivo Announces Global Debut Of X80 Series Flagship Smartphones by Ajilenu: 2:20pm On May 26, 2022
Kingsean:
exactly. so many Nigerians don't understand how smartphones work. they just follow trends
don't mind him
PhonesRe: My Samsung Note 9 Dont Update by Ajilenu: 2:17pm On May 26, 2022
SqueezedPant:
Go to xda but if it confuses you ,I can put you step by step on Whatsapp
okay. 08137137224
Jobs/VacanciesRe: The Dilemma Of A Young Graduate With Many Job Offers. by Ajilenu: 2:06pm On May 26, 2022
evuna:
My sister is 26 years and a graduate of Statistics from a federal university in the South East. There is an issue, more like a blessing. She had been writing aptitude tests since and failing but something remarkable is happening this year. She has been passing all the graduate trainee tests and interviews this year. She is at the final stage of Cerdar group, Stanbic, Meristem and Oilserv graduate trainee program. Just waiting for offer letters. She got an offer into Wema bank graduate trainee but rejected it because of 2 years bond. She is currently in Gt Bank graduate training school.


The issue is that KPMG just invited her for their test which is physical on Saturday. The Gt bank program runs from Monday-Saturday. I have been trying so hard to convince her to take take permission from the tutors at Gtb and go to write the KPMG test. She refused that she does not like Accounting as she read Statistics but she was open to it before this year and had been writing tests of different audit firms. I prefer KPMG to Stanbic and GT and want her to give it a shot.

She is 26 and this is her last chance at any graduate trainee program. Please what do you guys think? She is confused too.

KPMG ( yet to write the test)
GTB ( in training school already)
Meristem ( Waiting for offer letter)
Stanbic ( Waiting for offer letter)

Which among the above listed is the better choice for a graduate of statistics and is the KPMG test worth taking the risk. Please I need opinions from Nairalanders as I told her to allow me take my time to think about it.

Mods, please push to front page for more experienced professionals to help us. Thanks
I will speak cos I have worked with Gtbank before. Gtbank is a mad house but the money is good. If she gets transferred to where she'll have to interface with customer then it's gonna be quite stressful but she will definitely grow. For KPMG, I don't think the money is as good as Gtbank but except the name and the amount of knowledge she will gain. I will advice you to allow her make her decision but what you should tell her is at this stage, learning is paramount for her. Let her learn and not be money centric at this point else she wants to travel abroad.
PhonesRe: Which N100k Phone Has Incredible Camera? by Ajilenu: 3:27pm On May 25, 2022
[quote author=Ballack1 post=113112737][/quote]get the Camon 18, it's a newly launched model
PhonesRe: Which N100k Phone Has Incredible Camera? by Ajilenu: 3:26pm On May 25, 2022
TECNO CAMON 18, TECNO Pouvior Neo
PhonesRe: My Samsung Note 9 Dont Update by Ajilenu: 3:25pm On May 25, 2022
Freeko4:
You are totally wrong, All the Samsung S & note series i have been using are London used I purchased from Gsm village @ikeja and all can update. Starting from s6 plus, s7 edge, s9 plus, note 9, and lastly note 10 plus

There is a huge difference between London used and refurbished phone.

London used phone: The phones are original phones that have been used by a previous owner who is not in the same location as the new buyer, even if the warranty issued by the company it was originally purchased from is still valid, the new owner cannot take advantage of it.


Refurbished phone: Refurbish devices can be said to be a replicate, duplicate or the resemblance of an original digital devices like phones, tablets or laptops, also you can call this devices reconditioned

Note: an original phone can be called a refurbished phone once it has undergone repairs/change of parts. The original phone has been reconditioned.
what if they sold refurbished phone and called it London used phone to him?
PhonesRe: My Samsung Note 9 Dont Update by Ajilenu: 3:23pm On May 25, 2022
SqueezedPant:
You can flash custom roms on it ,there are different custom roms on it so just choose the best one
how can this be done?

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