₦airaland Forum

Princess80:
Arent u a lil bit sad that u are to vote someone who u have no idea who he is?

Woman let's me clear ur mind

We saw what Tinubu did as a state governor..i wasn't told but i witnessed it

Thank God for social media that doesn't forget and delete past stories

Anambrans were praying for Peter òbí tenure should end on time then ... don't doubt me...stop shouting and claiming that failure called Peter òbí is ur messier all because u want igbó presidency

He ran away from Anambra immediately after his tenure as governor ends went to Lagos and live....did Tinubu left Lagos for any southeast state to live

If u 're not here to tell the truth pls don't quote me again

Someone that can't rule ordinary Anambra state wants to rule the whole 36 state...u wants to kill him

AlafinofEnugu:
Meanwhile Asiwaju will still steal the show in absence

That's is the main thing

Tomorrow people won't talk about those that participate

I swear Tinubu na Starboy

GorillaApp:
The problem of this country is tribalism and religion

Thunder quench you're mouth dis

ATLIEN2027:
Mumu man.
Atiku is now in crack.

This coming election no con let's the Cameroonian man get sense again

Chai

SmartPolician:
What do these people mean by a politician who has governed a state not having the capacity to lead Nigeria?

To date, Umaru Musa Yar'Adua remains one of most celebrated Nigeria's president, despite the fact that he even ran the country as a sick man.

Yet, these shameless things keep saying that an agile, intelligent and knowledgeable former governor has no capacity to run the country.

These idiots have no shame at all.

He govern a state and his people are praying to God that his tenure should quickly end on time

Because of Igbo presidency the same sets of people keep shouting OBI the messier (Messier kill u there) and they also forgot that social medias would never forget how this fake messier Bleep Anambrans up just thesame way Buhari did

Opmic:
Instead of we Nigerians to join hands and stand against evil, rather some of us choose to support it

Judge this question

You as a Boss..ur employees worked for 18days...am very quiet sure that u would pay them the 18days job not 30days

Cmanforall:
Let him share the ones he has

Baba don store billions inside him room

Derajoyce:
When I decided to see a therapist, it seemed unnecessary. My close friends thought I was handling life reasonably well and didn’t see what I needed to adjust or correct. They weren’t wrong. The preconceived notion of the purpose of therapy in Nigeria is still closely related to witnessing extreme signs and effects of mental disorders, such that, when a person appears outwardly fine and functional, therapy is almost frowned at.
What do you need therapy for? was the question I got.
Still, I knew I wasn’t functioning properly. I knew my coping mechanisms were catching up with me and it was only a matter of time before I crashed. Here’s how I went from decision to my first therapy session. If you intend on taking the steps below, I strongly advise you consider this whole process as a long-term project you’re willing to commit to.

Step One: Decision
Deciding was the scariest part because deciding that I needed therapy meant admitting that there was an issue and I wasn’t equipped to handle it on my own. It also meant becoming willing to pay for therapy and willingly subjecting my mind and emotions to the scrutiny of an outsider. It meant letting go of my coping mechanisms – in time I would come to know that this was the toughest rock to throw away. As an adult, no one can make this decision for you. You have to commit to the process out of your free will.

Step Two: Make a list
Finding a suitable therapist for you. Google is an ally here, however, information on the therapy services offered in Nigeria are scattered across multiple websites and I needed more than one google search to find the right mental health practitioner to work with. First, I googled mental health practitioners/psychologists/psychiatrists in Nigeria and made a list of all the names, numbers, emails and addresses I could find. Luckily, some websites are more explicit than others.

Step Three: Ask Questions
With a list in hand, I narrowed my options to speciality, years of experience, cost, duration of treatment and gut instincts. This is where the emails and phone numbers come in handy. I sent out emails introducing myself, specifically stating where I got their contact and then, requesting the following information:
• Location
• Area of speciality
• Certification
• Years of experience
• Preferred treatment approach including duration, frequency and cost.
It’s important to be clear, direct and polite when requesting information. Keep in mind that you will be paying for these services, as such, ask what you need to know. Fortunately, I got responses almost instantly and for those who didn’t respond via email, I proceeded to call. Make an effort to reply to every email, especially when you do not intend on pursuing the conversation, it’s basic courtesy.

Step Four: Choosing the one
After narrowing my options to two psychologists based on the factors mentioned above. It came down to who I felt comfortable with after talking via phone calls. In this case, follow your gut. The psychologist I choose made me feel a sense of joy and peace, in that moment, that was all I needed.

Step Five: Consultation
As a first-timer, the consultation fee wasn’t cheap. The average fee range from my research was between N15,000 to N30, 000 for one consultation session, scheduled between 45mins to 1 hour. I didn’t know what results to expect, so whatever figure I saw seemed comparatively large compared to ten other things I could be using the same amount for. My rationalization was, my mental health is as important as my physical health and it is 100% my responsibility to take care of myself. Secondly, I considered it an investment on myself with unmeasurable returns on investment. Most therapists will ask for a consultation fee before diagnosis and discussing a treatment plan. In my case, my therapist was based outside of Lagos. I had to travel out of town for an in-person consultation session. There are therapists who offer a virtual consultation option. I opted for an in-person consultation because of its added benefits. An in-person consultation is necessary to carry out an accurate mental health diagnosis, as everything matters including tone of voice, body language, choice of words etc. I welcomed the opportunity of leaving town for a few days as a chance to break my routine and to be fully present.

Step Six: Personal Cross-Examination
The journey from the airport to the therapist’s office was nerve-racking. All I had to compare my expectations of therapy sessions were brief scenes from movies. Not knowing what to expect made me nervous. I walked into cream white walls, a black armchair and a lady smiling broadly across the table. That smile was helpful but, before I knew it, I blurted, “how long will this take? I can spare only four weeks to fix this.” She replied, “we’ll need to first find out what the issue is and take it from there.”

Step Seven: Treatment plan and payment
A day after the consultation session, my therapist emailed the diagnosis from the tests I had taken, together with her proposed treatment plan and costs. Before that, we had discussed the cost of each therapy session during the enquiry process. So, I had an idea of how much to budget. However, it is only after the diagnosis that you can know for sure how many sessions you might need. As stated earlier, the journey to a healthy mental state is 100% your responsibility and it’s important to work with a therapist who ensures you don't forget this.
We scheduled a call to discuss every item on the treatment plan, what I should expect and what frequency might produce the most effective results. I settled for one session per week, spread across twelve weeks.
However, there were three items included in the plan that I didn’t think was necessary, as I had already incorporated those aspects into my daily routine. Next, I made payments for the first six sessions. I did this to test the waters. Most therapists in Nigeria will prefer such bulk payments before commencing treatment. From my research, the average range per session was N10,000 to N35,000.
Please note: There are mental health facilities that offer pre-planned packages for significantly less.

Step Eight: Get a journal
Before therapy I rarely journaled. When I did, there were random thoughts about work. Journaling my thoughts every morning helped me see the thoughts that I ruminated on. In my case, they were neither helpful nor productive. Also, it helped me keep track of my progress from my therapy sessions, the tasks I was given and how well I incorporated those tasks into my daily life. As I said, it’s a project y’all.

Step Nine: Embracing Spirituality
When you begin therapy, one of the things you’d quickly realize is, your therapist cannot change you. The change has to come from within you. What your therapist does is help you navigate your mind, habits, emotions and spot patterns. They help you spot the patterns, label the issue and help you understand how to manage or eliminate the issue. The keyword here is help.
Therapy definitely helped to uncover and label the issues I was facing but it was God who healed my pain. My therapist said how fast a person heals depends on how much they are willing to unlearn. Some people take two months, others take years. On my journey, I found what encored me was the truth that, healing, peace and joy were already available to me and all I had to do was learn how to open myself to them. These weren’t things I had to work hard to achieve because God has already provided these to all His children, and those who believe it, receive it.

Step ten: What to expect
Nothing remains the same after therapy. It could become worse; it should become better but nothing remains the same. It could become worse if you succumb to the temptation to quit. The reason is, often we develop strong coping mechanisms to deal with trauma and the effects of trauma and sometimes, these coping mechanisms become comfort zones. Letting go of what you know isn’t the easiest bone to crush. This is where having a close support system to cheer you on comes in handy. It’s important to have two or three people to lean on when it becomes difficult.
For the most part, learning about myself and my proclivities were and is still intriguing and humbling. I have seen myself grow tremendously in such a short time and the biggest takeaway is, external things didn’t need to change for me to experience a more fulfilling life. I’m learning to start where I am, using what I have to become more while enjoying peace, joy and health.

Don’t be afraid to take the first step. Enjoy the process!

This post originally appeared here: https://derajoyce.medium.com/read-this-before-seeing-a-therapist-in-nigeria-223a37389b38

Ur therapist is at which state ?

Ahmad880881:
oga did you catch him with your bare hand?

Don't mind them

News from Sowore Sahara report company always full of fake and talking about APC always

Why be say na only PDP they usually take APC and LABOUR PARTY go court for the matter wey no concern PDP

You worked for 18days u 're expecting 30days salary

No be juju be that ?

Praxis758:
I dare them to publish details of all their emoluments for the world to see.

Them go show u something else calling it salary

ATLIEN2027:
Loser.
Pandora pathological liar Obi tuary will be lucky to win a single state.

If care is not take he may even loose his state to PDP due to the greediness of there red cap elders and don't forget there uncles usually betray themselves when it's involves money matter

Southwest governors always bringing investors to there states

Southeast people will never blame there past and present governors for there unfortunate life

I pity southeast sha

No be this guy campaign for Peter òbí last week on Twitter ni

Felixamos:
But people mumu well, well oh.. APC dey campaign to save Nigeria from APC and some brainless idiots here dey support them? Them do una? Another set of idiots na the mikanites...

I'll be voting for the first time in this coming election and the candidate I'll be voting for is Peter Obi..
No be say him dey perfect but when you put all the presidential aspirants together, na only Obi I dey see..

No mind them jare

Just like Peter Obi former PDP member and some munis still campaigning for thesame rotten egg

FreeStuffsNG:
Lamba 2023 . Loriro. APC campaign has set sail tey tey. PDP is the architect of its own downfall.
check my signature for free stuffs!

Leave them oo....they think APC and labour party would fall for there stinky lie

Atiku wey never know wetin befall am

Five sitting governor's for ur strongholds comot hand from ur presidential ambition and u still get hope and dollar say u go win

PrinceOfLagos:
Ekun egbere

The north are destroying APC right before your eyes but Labour party is your problem

It's was Doguwa they were fighting with

Still read on news yesterday evening

So get the Bleep off

womenareapezz:
davido shouldn't have introduced chioma to that legal traditional ritualist called oooni of ife

Now sacrificed has been done

You are mad

Without asking the region u came from i already know with this ur senseless comment

Okortor:
IFEANYI ADELEKE jnr. Isn't dead but sleeping.

I believe there's something strange about this, I have the mandate to pray for his revival back to life, whoever has an info on how to reach the adeleke's should contact me ASAP!

You wan use this one cash out abi

kestolove95:
Ugly money wit no value

Serious hunger never catch u before..if person give u just #200 u go appreciate am like say na 200k the person gv u... na that time u go know say naira get value

Smithkafors:
You are not serious….PO performed more than Tinubu in all aspects of governance. Not by noise but by proof.

Health
Education
Security
Left without dept
Agriculture

How many times will we repeat the same thing. The link is all over Naira land for all to see.
How can you even compare PO with Tinubu?…No normal thinking person will do that.
Now tell me where Tinubu performed more than PO and back it up… waiting.

After all his achievement
He ended up living in Lagos

Are u sure that u are making sense at all ?

SamuelAnyawu:
Lol Those who believe Tinubu will lose in the North I just Dey laugh. The LP and PDP split has already given APC the winning ticket

That one still small...woke camp 5 states

E be like say Atiku wan willingly give Tinubu soft landing

Ok

cherishmichael:
This Nigerian banks are not organised oo, can't they use that girl's details to track her!!!.

Bank will just keep telling u to come tomorrow
Since the money is not that huge

Bank see the 40k as small change

I could remember that year i mistakenly sent 70k to a wrong account number

When i went to my bank and complained..they told me to come bk the next day for like 3 days it's was the security man that pitied me and told me to just forget about the money that since the money is not huge they won't answered me and those official i complained to may reverse bk the money to there own personal account without me knowing

babzo:
Chai...my fellow Nigerians. We are too gullible. Same thing followers of Buhari said in 2014. Very clean man, 1 wife, no girlfriend, only 1 house, only 1 bank account with Union Bank. He's drinking N20 sachet milo.

And GEJ: he had no shoes. Very humble man.

Yaradua: He saved N6 Billion in Katsina instead of stealing it. ( saving N6 Billion in 2007 in a state where 90% of the people are poor)

How is having a good son a sign you will govern Nigeria well? How do you even know the son is good? . Does Lucifer have any children he gave birth to?

Thesame way they scammed us in 2014 with Buhari daughter picture Zahra... saying the man that can produce this kind of beautiful daughter would surely give us the change we want

See where we are today

Our mumu no they too much ?

obynzo:
You are really a joker. Where on earth did they say Obi doesn't exist. The guys in the North actually talk about Obi or Atiku. Keep dreaming e go shock una

Who is giving u false hope ?

JASONjnr:
If you're poor in Nigeria, the law will always be against you, no master your innocence....


He was lured and probably threatened that if he refused, she will have the husband deal with him and he obliged and now facing it...

The thing happen for your presence?

Villa12:
Tinubu will teach Atiku politics 101

Obi doesn't exist

E don already they teach am my brr

Imagine northerners distrusting Atiku rally in a northern state Kaduna just because they only want Tinubu

Obi doesn't exist in the region called North

lhordspy:
Why are you consoling him. Allow him soak the floor with tears. He just started now, he still have another 8 more years to go.

Donate more bucket for him instead

OBIDIEND can donate there tears here and if he don full another one they i will go and bring it
But just full this one first