₦airaland Forum

Penguin2:
Kwankwaso is doing the lord’s work to Obi ticket by ensuring that Kano votes are wasted so that neither Atiku nor Tinubu uses it to their advantage.

I keep saying it that Kwankwaso is even helping the Obi ticket more than he would have done if he was on it.

Eyah...i love the way u keep on consoling Obidenz

Cheeryfeet:
You don't know what you are saying. You will be shocked how far they will go, you think it was a fluke winning Argentina.

Am a Messi fan
Check my comment again

Globad:
So says the person that vowed to delete his nairaland account and all other social media accounts if Tinubu won the APC ticket

You're not a man of your words.

That's why he his Peter òbí supporter

Obi too doesn't keep to his words

Why did they like saying Messi Argentina anytime Argentina loose

Bit if Argentina had won...it's only based on Argentina won

ceejay80s:
I thought World Cup starts next year

I even think it's was December untill last week when I checked fixtures and saw 20th of November

firmon:
Atiku should have just allowed Obi run. Would have been an easy ride for PDP.

You can't understand

PDP delegates from the north would rather votes for South West or South South than voting for Igbos

If Obi had won PDP primary election..in the north it's would av been massive victory for Asiwaju even before the election day

This is the bitter truth...we all know that if this country separate Hausas will suffer it most thats why APC governor's are supporting Tinubu with all there strength beca they know that this country might av problem if no igbó or yoruba wins the presidential election...ATIKU is just a joker and the northern elders and governor's knows that for sure because they knw if yoruba and igbó elders join the separation agitation

RockHard:
Smh. This charlatan is ready to trade the ambitions of his party's candidates in Rivers just like that Talk about desperation. May we not Labour in vain. God abeg o.

Can u imagine Òbí spitting out this nonsense
What should happen to those that contested for Senate..Rep.. state Assembly.. Governor under Labour party...they should just labour in vain just because of his own selfish interest

How can he became the president of this country without having a sitting governor senator state assembly

PrinceOfLagos:
Chei , Obi is wicked

But Dino Melaye is wickeder

If you know you know

Realguyman1:
It maybe this commissioner is talking about another Lagos somewhere else, "maybe in Chad or Burundi". This can't be the Lagos Tinubu turn to Paris when he was governor of Lagos State(according to senseless APC supporters).

When Lagos state comes out and says that something is in poor state

In Anambra that something Lagos refers to as bad condition is refer to as best condition in Anambra

This pastor dey use church disguise ni jàre

Which kind of foolish ushers would put on those naked dresses

Sennators:
Any Man or Woman that is planning to vote for Shettima and Tinubu will never know peace

U mean will never know peace like your family

don't care what other people do, I just hope they use contraception and avoid diseases

BATified2023:
Igbos will always think otherwise

Their ipob plan B presidency is already crashing like packs of cards cos people eye don dey open to their deciet


Imagine soludo saying obi left nothing n one hungry nairalander with borrowed data is talking down on soludo

Which kind borrowed data or u meant Free Opera mini daily 50MB

ytdivine:
The biggest asset one can get is land. Nigeria is blessed with this but unfortunately this potential is under utilized. I converted every space within my compound to garden with variety of vegetables, fruits, crops and tubers.

I can't remember when last I buy oranges, pears, banana, plantain, sour sops, pawpaw, ugu, oha etc from market as I have all this within my home some in commercial quantity.

This thread is to encourage everyone to go back to agriculture in small available space within your disposal.
I will be posting pictures to support my claims.
Please share your opinion on this

Which area did u base in Kwara
Am a student of Alhikma university ilorin
Agricultural science

I need consultation from u on ways to go about it from beginning

inoki247:
lol when will Lagos opposition even get it right it seems dey av been jazed..

Just as APC jazzed Peter òbí to move out from PDP...

If Atiku and Obi contest under PDP Tinubu should just forget it

But Tinubu jazz worked on PDP

Kwankwaso and Obi that pulled out

And they both ganged up against AOC during 2019 presidential election

Life Drama

Princess80:
Arent u a lil bit sad that u are to vote someone who u have no idea who he is?

Woman let's me clear ur mind

We saw what Tinubu did as a state governor..i wasn't told but i witnessed it

Thank God for social media that doesn't forget and delete past stories

Anambrans were praying for Peter òbí tenure should end on time then ... don't doubt me...stop shouting and claiming that failure called Peter òbí is ur messier all because u want igbó presidency

He ran away from Anambra immediately after his tenure as governor ends went to Lagos and live....did Tinubu left Lagos for any southeast state to live

If u 're not here to tell the truth pls don't quote me again

Someone that can't rule ordinary Anambra state wants to rule the whole 36 state...u wants to kill him

AlafinofEnugu:
Meanwhile Asiwaju will still steal the show in absence

That's is the main thing

Tomorrow people won't talk about those that participate

I swear Tinubu na Starboy

GorillaApp:
The problem of this country is tribalism and religion

Thunder quench you're mouth dis

ATLIEN2027:
Mumu man.
Atiku is now in crack.

This coming election no con let's the Cameroonian man get sense again

Chai

SmartPolician:
What do these people mean by a politician who has governed a state not having the capacity to lead Nigeria?

To date, Umaru Musa Yar'Adua remains one of most celebrated Nigeria's president, despite the fact that he even ran the country as a sick man.

Yet, these shameless things keep saying that an agile, intelligent and knowledgeable former governor has no capacity to run the country.

These idiots have no shame at all.

He govern a state and his people are praying to God that his tenure should quickly end on time

Because of Igbo presidency the same sets of people keep shouting OBI the messier (Messier kill u there) and they also forgot that social medias would never forget how this fake messier Bleep Anambrans up just thesame way Buhari did

Opmic:
Instead of we Nigerians to join hands and stand against evil, rather some of us choose to support it

Judge this question

You as a Boss..ur employees worked for 18days...am very quiet sure that u would pay them the 18days job not 30days

Cmanforall:
Let him share the ones he has

Baba don store billions inside him room

Derajoyce:
When I decided to see a therapist, it seemed unnecessary. My close friends thought I was handling life reasonably well and didn’t see what I needed to adjust or correct. They weren’t wrong. The preconceived notion of the purpose of therapy in Nigeria is still closely related to witnessing extreme signs and effects of mental disorders, such that, when a person appears outwardly fine and functional, therapy is almost frowned at.
What do you need therapy for? was the question I got.
Still, I knew I wasn’t functioning properly. I knew my coping mechanisms were catching up with me and it was only a matter of time before I crashed. Here’s how I went from decision to my first therapy session. If you intend on taking the steps below, I strongly advise you consider this whole process as a long-term project you’re willing to commit to.

Step One: Decision
Deciding was the scariest part because deciding that I needed therapy meant admitting that there was an issue and I wasn’t equipped to handle it on my own. It also meant becoming willing to pay for therapy and willingly subjecting my mind and emotions to the scrutiny of an outsider. It meant letting go of my coping mechanisms – in time I would come to know that this was the toughest rock to throw away. As an adult, no one can make this decision for you. You have to commit to the process out of your free will.

Step Two: Make a list
Finding a suitable therapist for you. Google is an ally here, however, information on the therapy services offered in Nigeria are scattered across multiple websites and I needed more than one google search to find the right mental health practitioner to work with. First, I googled mental health practitioners/psychologists/psychiatrists in Nigeria and made a list of all the names, numbers, emails and addresses I could find. Luckily, some websites are more explicit than others.

Step Three: Ask Questions
With a list in hand, I narrowed my options to speciality, years of experience, cost, duration of treatment and gut instincts. This is where the emails and phone numbers come in handy. I sent out emails introducing myself, specifically stating where I got their contact and then, requesting the following information:
• Location
• Area of speciality
• Certification
• Years of experience
• Preferred treatment approach including duration, frequency and cost.
It’s important to be clear, direct and polite when requesting information. Keep in mind that you will be paying for these services, as such, ask what you need to know. Fortunately, I got responses almost instantly and for those who didn’t respond via email, I proceeded to call. Make an effort to reply to every email, especially when you do not intend on pursuing the conversation, it’s basic courtesy.

Step Four: Choosing the one
After narrowing my options to two psychologists based on the factors mentioned above. It came down to who I felt comfortable with after talking via phone calls. In this case, follow your gut. The psychologist I choose made me feel a sense of joy and peace, in that moment, that was all I needed.

Step Five: Consultation
As a first-timer, the consultation fee wasn’t cheap. The average fee range from my research was between N15,000 to N30, 000 for one consultation session, scheduled between 45mins to 1 hour. I didn’t know what results to expect, so whatever figure I saw seemed comparatively large compared to ten other things I could be using the same amount for. My rationalization was, my mental health is as important as my physical health and it is 100% my responsibility to take care of myself. Secondly, I considered it an investment on myself with unmeasurable returns on investment. Most therapists will ask for a consultation fee before diagnosis and discussing a treatment plan. In my case, my therapist was based outside of Lagos. I had to travel out of town for an in-person consultation session. There are therapists who offer a virtual consultation option. I opted for an in-person consultation because of its added benefits. An in-person consultation is necessary to carry out an accurate mental health diagnosis, as everything matters including tone of voice, body language, choice of words etc. I welcomed the opportunity of leaving town for a few days as a chance to break my routine and to be fully present.

Step Six: Personal Cross-Examination
The journey from the airport to the therapist’s office was nerve-racking. All I had to compare my expectations of therapy sessions were brief scenes from movies. Not knowing what to expect made me nervous. I walked into cream white walls, a black armchair and a lady smiling broadly across the table. That smile was helpful but, before I knew it, I blurted, “how long will this take? I can spare only four weeks to fix this.” She replied, “we’ll need to first find out what the issue is and take it from there.”

Step Seven: Treatment plan and payment
A day after the consultation session, my therapist emailed the diagnosis from the tests I had taken, together with her proposed treatment plan and costs. Before that, we had discussed the cost of each therapy session during the enquiry process. So, I had an idea of how much to budget. However, it is only after the diagnosis that you can know for sure how many sessions you might need. As stated earlier, the journey to a healthy mental state is 100% your responsibility and it’s important to work with a therapist who ensures you don't forget this.
We scheduled a call to discuss every item on the treatment plan, what I should expect and what frequency might produce the most effective results. I settled for one session per week, spread across twelve weeks.
However, there were three items included in the plan that I didn’t think was necessary, as I had already incorporated those aspects into my daily routine. Next, I made payments for the first six sessions. I did this to test the waters. Most therapists in Nigeria will prefer such bulk payments before commencing treatment. From my research, the average range per session was N10,000 to N35,000.
Please note: There are mental health facilities that offer pre-planned packages for significantly less.

Step Eight: Get a journal
Before therapy I rarely journaled. When I did, there were random thoughts about work. Journaling my thoughts every morning helped me see the thoughts that I ruminated on. In my case, they were neither helpful nor productive. Also, it helped me keep track of my progress from my therapy sessions, the tasks I was given and how well I incorporated those tasks into my daily life. As I said, it’s a project y’all.

Step Nine: Embracing Spirituality
When you begin therapy, one of the things you’d quickly realize is, your therapist cannot change you. The change has to come from within you. What your therapist does is help you navigate your mind, habits, emotions and spot patterns. They help you spot the patterns, label the issue and help you understand how to manage or eliminate the issue. The keyword here is help.
Therapy definitely helped to uncover and label the issues I was facing but it was God who healed my pain. My therapist said how fast a person heals depends on how much they are willing to unlearn. Some people take two months, others take years. On my journey, I found what encored me was the truth that, healing, peace and joy were already available to me and all I had to do was learn how to open myself to them. These weren’t things I had to work hard to achieve because God has already provided these to all His children, and those who believe it, receive it.

Step ten: What to expect
Nothing remains the same after therapy. It could become worse; it should become better but nothing remains the same. It could become worse if you succumb to the temptation to quit. The reason is, often we develop strong coping mechanisms to deal with trauma and the effects of trauma and sometimes, these coping mechanisms become comfort zones. Letting go of what you know isn’t the easiest bone to crush. This is where having a close support system to cheer you on comes in handy. It’s important to have two or three people to lean on when it becomes difficult.
For the most part, learning about myself and my proclivities were and is still intriguing and humbling. I have seen myself grow tremendously in such a short time and the biggest takeaway is, external things didn’t need to change for me to experience a more fulfilling life. I’m learning to start where I am, using what I have to become more while enjoying peace, joy and health.

Don’t be afraid to take the first step. Enjoy the process!

This post originally appeared here: https://derajoyce.medium.com/read-this-before-seeing-a-therapist-in-nigeria-223a37389b38

Ur therapist is at which state ?

Ahmad880881:
oga did you catch him with your bare hand?

Don't mind them

News from Sowore Sahara report company always full of fake and talking about APC always

Why be say na only PDP they usually take APC and LABOUR PARTY go court for the matter wey no concern PDP

You worked for 18days u 're expecting 30days salary

No be juju be that ?

Praxis758:
I dare them to publish details of all their emoluments for the world to see.

Them go show u something else calling it salary

ATLIEN2027:
Loser.
Pandora pathological liar Obi tuary will be lucky to win a single state.

If care is not take he may even loose his state to PDP due to the greediness of there red cap elders and don't forget there uncles usually betray themselves when it's involves money matter

Southwest governors always bringing investors to there states

Southeast people will never blame there past and present governors for there unfortunate life

I pity southeast sha

No be this guy campaign for Peter òbí last week on Twitter ni

Felixamos:
But people mumu well, well oh.. APC dey campaign to save Nigeria from APC and some brainless idiots here dey support them? Them do una? Another set of idiots na the mikanites...

I'll be voting for the first time in this coming election and the candidate I'll be voting for is Peter Obi..
No be say him dey perfect but when you put all the presidential aspirants together, na only Obi I dey see..

No mind them jare

Just like Peter Obi former PDP member and some munis still campaigning for thesame rotten egg