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 Family › Re: I Need Your Help And Honest Advice by akininNC(m): 2:06pm On Oct 09, 2008 |
Well this is where your argument falls flat. If you believe most Nigerian men go home to roost then you should not have married one. You have insulted all Nigerian women by saying they will shut up and take it. I can guarantee that you have not met that many Nigerians because if you have you would not be making all theses general statements. I cannot imagine any man treating my sisters that way and expecting them to shut up and put up. You are half Jordanian and the same can be said about them but I know it is not true but I have taken the time to learn a little about the society. You cannot make general statements about a whole culture based on your very limited contact with a few people. You are educated and it is important for you to learn about the culture or else your relationship is destined to fail. I stayed with my "white" wife for 20 years. Does that make me the rule or the exception? The same goes for my brother and sister. I can go on and list over twenty friends that I grew up with in Boston married to foreigners and still married, none of them have decided to go home to roost! |
| Family › Re: I Need Your Help And Honest Advice by akininNC(m): 8:37pm On Oct 08, 2008 |
@ Simi and Leilah, If your approach to marriage is to worry about the prospect of your man running back to Naija and being sneaky with your man then your relationship is doomed to fail. I will remind you again that if the relationship was entered in to with love love and honesty you have nothing to worry about. I am a Nigerian man and I have no intention of running back home and leaving my children to fend for themselves. To Simi Would you feel differently if the man you were talking about was Brazilian and he left you for another woman, would you be making these same idiotic statements. It seems to me that both you and Leilah seem to have picked the wrong man and you seem to then put all Naija men in the same boat! |
| Family › Re: I Need Your Help And Honest Advice by akininNC(m): 5:01pm On Oct 07, 2008 |
Leilah, Naija food is ideal for saving. I live alone and I freeze everything from stew to cooked meat and broth. You can boil your ground onion and tomato mix and have stew ready in 30 mins. All it takes is better planning. Hopefully you like Nigerian food! Keeping the house in order just takes a little cooperation. You have spoken to him, lets see how long before he reverts back to his old self. Hopefully he wont but if he does call him out but I know as a Nigerian man you have to have the proper approach. |
| Family › Re: A Racial-marriage Problem! by akininNC(m): 8:58pm On Oct 06, 2008 |
@Leilah Whats wrong with wanting an Irish lass, just keeping my options open! After all you are half Irish, and we have been conversing, I might be an Anglophile maybe American women are not for me! Most Nigerian women do not do any of that pampering, this is 2008 most of them have seen the light. If you want that type of woman you better go back to the village. |
| Autos › Re: A Sad And Terrible Experience With Inspiredmen by akininNC(m): 8:49pm On Oct 06, 2008 |
I wonder if we can start a website to report good and negative car buying experience on line. We have the Better Business Bureau over here in the US and most reputable business belong to it. It tells prospective clients what their business practices are as well if they have any complaints lodged against them. It works both ways, if you have good business practices, you have high scores and it also show what steps you have taken to resolve any disputes. |
| Family › Re: I Need Your Help And Honest Advice by akininNC(m): 8:41pm On Oct 06, 2008 |
@ Leilah Fancy meeting you here, but how long has you hubby been overseas? I am of a different mindset, I actually enjoyed cooking, I cooked everyday for my two kids almost everyday for the lenght of the marriage, the cleaning I am not very fond of. Depending on how entrenched he is in the Nigerian culture you should be able to talk to him about it. I do not agree that you need to hire a maid to clean for 3 people and probably with all you have on your plate now you might not be able to afford it. The only approach that would have worked with me was a non confrontational approach. Try it after making love, both of you are not stressed, both are feeling good(hopefully  )Try to be direct and say honey, I need a little bit of help around the house, no yelling and no raising of voices. ps I am going to correct you again but this is not a Nigerian problem but a communication problem. Also it sounds like you are newly married, since your daughter is only 3 so you are still in your feeling each other out. |
| Family › Re: A Racial-marriage Problem! by akininNC(m): 7:57pm On Oct 06, 2008 |
Leilah:@ Leilah, Why are you worried that you will be dumped because you are not Nigerian? If you entered the marriage as a loving couple not under other pretext you will grow old together. I did not leave my wife because she was not naija, as a matter of fact I stayed a lot longer than an American would have because there is such a stigma attached to divorce in my family. Do you have any kids? Stop thinking about your differences, think more about what you have in common. I am getting ready to find my ticket for the graduation, maybe I can find myself a nice Irish lass over there! |
| Food › Re: What Did You Cook Today? by akininNC(m): 4:43pm On Oct 05, 2008 |
@ topic Made fried rice with a little curry flavor and moi moi. I have not made moi moi in probably 10 years. It came out nice. I used my chinese bamboo steamer to cook it. Nice to have another use for that damn thing. I live alone so I will be eating this for awhile. Thank God for the deep freezer! |
| Family › Re: A Racial-marriage Problem! by akininNC(m): 3:57pm On Oct 04, 2008 |
Leilah: |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: Usa Economy Is Falling by akininNC(m): 8:59pm On Oct 03, 2008 |
We are insulated to some extent because banks are not exposed to subprime mess that we have over here, but make no mistake about it Nigeria will be adversely affected if the US economy under performs. Our major export is pegged to the dollar, our currency is pegged to the dollar and our reserves is in dollars. |
| Family › Re: A Racial-marriage Problem! by akininNC(m): 8:51pm On Oct 03, 2008 |
Leilah, Like I said, as I have gotten older(I am in my 40's), I have started to feel like I have more to offer Nigeria than the US and I think it would be easier with a Nigerian woman who understands the culture. I felt totally different in my 20's when I had absolutely no intention of going home. I actually had a period when I did not go home for 15 years but my dad passed and I started to see things differently. I could find someone that is not Naija but understands that there are cultural differences and what we believe in the west is not the same as in Nigeria. My sister is married to a Nigerian man but she acts differently when the in laws are around than when she is alone with her husband and she is as westernized as I am. You sound like you understand the culture a little bit and I wish you all the happiness in the world. |
| Family › Re: A Racial-marriage Problem! by akininNC(m): 3:32pm On Oct 03, 2008 |
@ Leilah We are in the process of going through a divorce but I put in 18 long years. I left home @ 13 so cultural difference was not an issue, we just were not compatible. My family actually swung way over to the other side, 3 of 6 kids married caucasians. Two are still married. My father never saw color and I think that kind of the way he raised us. Although I must say that in the interest of honesty my sister who is married to a Scottish man hardly considers herself a Nigerian anymore and if I had to do it all over again I probably would have married a Nigerian woman. I never thought I would ever want to move back home but after my father died, I have felt the pull of the motherland. |
| Family › Re: A Racial-marriage Problem! by akininNC(m): 2:06pm On Oct 03, 2008 |
Leilah:You sound so bitter like a woman scorned. Plotting revenge is not going to make her feel any better. Her goal should be to find a way to move without this idiot. I was married to a white woman as well and my father accepted those kids as his own, so it really depends as to what relationship she has with the grandparents. I certainly could not have abandoned my children and expect my father to welcome me with open arms. @Tara If you have a relationship with the inlaws please cultivate it, send pictures, keep them updated on his progress. If they are of any means, they will visit and seek him out. I know my father would have. keep your chin up, you are young and remember the future is not for us to see. |
| Car Talk › Re: I Got Robbed At Gunpoint In The U.s.a by akininNC(m): 4:34am On Oct 03, 2008 |
@poster. Thank God you are safe, but we all know that Newark is one of the highest crime cities in the US. As with any major city, you always have keep you eyes wide open. I am glad that you and your child came out safe. |
| Autos › Re: Toyota Camry: What Distinguishing Features? by akininNC(m): 1:49pm On Oct 01, 2008 |
Also the grill on the SE is different. It is a honeycomb design. |
| Food › Re: Recipe For Meatpie (naija Style) by akininNC(m): 3:02am On Sep 30, 2008 |
This is one of Amaka's recipes. Hope it helps. Meat Filling -small potatoes, diced and cooked (to save time, use frozen hash brown potato cubes) -lean ground beef (or chicken, or turkey) -frozen mixed vegetables, cooked (I use the peas, carrots and corn mix) -onion diced -red and green sweet peppers, diced - seasonings (salt, black pepper, onion powder, garlic powder, knorr/maggie etc, whatever you like) Dough 1/2 cup butter (1 stick) (it should be cold and hard) 1 1/2 cups flour 1 teaspoon salt 4-6 tablespoons ice water -Prepare the filling by browning your meat and spices. WHile it's cooking, stirfry your peppers and onion and veggies. Mix it all together. Taste and adjust seasoning to taste. -Once ground beef is cooked, add the diced cooked potatoes and heat for 5 minutes. (not too much potatoes). The main purpose is to aborb excesss liquid from the meat mixture, so that you don't end up with soggy meat pies. -To make dough: Sift together dry ingredients and cut the butter into the dry ingredients with a fork until mixture is crumbly. -While mixing with a wooden spoon, add water a tablespoon at a time until dough holds together in a ball (you may need more or less water. Just add small amounts at a time). If the dough is crumbly, add a little more water by drops until the dough stays together when you pinch it. -When dough comes together into a ball roll out the dough until flat. - Cut out circles (I use a giant cookie cutter for this). If dough becomes sticky or too soft put in fridge for 10 minutes to cool and then take it out again and continue cutting the circles. -Place meat stuffing in center of pastry circles. -Fold over and seal using a fork. -Bake on a lightly greased cookie sheet at 350 degrees for 35 minutes or until lightly browned. |
| Food › Re: Papper Soup by akininNC(m): 2:31am On Sep 30, 2008 |
naijacutee:I think it says ground crayfish in the recipe so it just mixes with the broth. I have tried and it just adds another dimension to the flavour. |
| Autos › Re: Inspired Men: The Best Auto Dealer On Nairaland! by akininNC(m): 3:07pm On Sep 27, 2008 |
@Jenju Well said. I am sick and tired of this thread, all that can be said has been said and it is time to move on. We are getting people who have no business commenting adding their 2 cents just for the sake of saying something no matter how idiotic they sound. Post the vin and let the buyer beware. End of discussion. |
| Food › Re: Urhobo Owofibo (oil Soup) Aka Owo Soup by akininNC(m): 6:45pm On Sep 25, 2008 |
@ phillip001 I like it, you are starting to shake in your shoes, you are feeling amaka slipping out of your hands, don't worry I will invite to the wedding and if you play your cards right I might even introduce you to one of the village girls. Just trying to show Amaka my culinary skills amongst my many talents ( apparently one of those talents requires me to sit in front of a computer screen all day) @ Amaka Please tell this young man already |
| Food › Re: Urhobo Owofibo (oil Soup) Aka Owo Soup by akininNC(m): 4:59pm On Sep 25, 2008 |
@ Amakaone You know I am lover not a fighter but when the situation calls for it you have to fight for your woman. Chivalry is not dead where I come from. The village elders are also waiting for me to come back home for the coronation so all I need is a queen! I have been to Queens NY but no luck so you are my last chance otherwise they will give the crown to another family. I know you dont want this on your conscience. Try this technique next time you are making stew. Add a little oil to be pot and pan fry your seasoned meats , add the rest of the seasoning, your onion and garlic after you have some color on the meat then fry a little longer, you should have some brown bits on the bottom, add water and cook normally. This gives a very flavorful broth and the meat comes out really moist as well because the pan frying. This is a french technique and you see it a lot in cajun cooking as well. Finger licking good. I will be posting my Nigerian influenced chinese fried rice soon that has been a favorite at a lot of parties soon. |
| Food › Re: Urhobo Owofibo (oil Soup) Aka Owo Soup by akininNC(m): 1:31pm On Sep 25, 2008 |
@ phillip001 I am sure I do not have to remind you about the story about David and Goliath  @ Amakaone I am on a regiment of human growth hormone, I know there is a growth spurt waiting to happen so please do not listen to this silly man  |
| Food › Re: How Much Do You Like 'Ponmo'? by akininNC(m): 10:24pm On Sep 24, 2008 |
Gamine:Very simple 1) Open mouth wide 2) Insert ponmo 3) chew slowly 4) swallow Let me know if you have any other question 2 Likes |
| Autos › Re: Cheap Luxurious Benz For 2.5 Million by akininNC(m): 10:15pm On Sep 24, 2008 |
Is this just an attempt to drive traffic to his site?  No price No year |
| Autos › Re: Items For Sale by akininNC(m): 4:38pm On Sep 24, 2008 |
Why is everyone complaining about this man's prices. This is a free market economy thus the market will decide whether or not his prices are too high. He has not asked anyone for pricing advice. If you feel his prices are too high, simply move on. Nobody is holding a gun to your head and forcing you to buy!!!!! |
| Food › Re: Urhobo Owofibo (oil Soup) Aka Owo Soup by akininNC(m): 3:41pm On Sep 24, 2008 |
phillip001:we will settle this old school style, please pick your weapon of choice 1) hand to hand combat 2)old western gun battle 3)swords we will fight to death and the last man standing gets amakaone. @amakaone I have already ordered the gele materials and I am practicing wearing it out in public but I am getting weird looks in public, I hope I tied it correct because I can't imagine why they would be staring at me otherwise. lol ps I don't need senate approval,they have already been taken care off  (you know what I mean) |
| Food › Re: Urhobo Owofibo (oil Soup) Aka Owo Soup by akininNC(m): 4:35am On Sep 24, 2008 |
@ AMAKAONE I am ready with the dowry, where should I tell my ebi to deliver the goods, they prefer paved roads so that we dont have to transport on donkey!!!! And unlike these useless Naija men, I am an accomplished chef so your days in the kitchen are numbered !!!!! NO barefoot and pregnant for my wife slaving over a hot stove for my woman javascript:void(0);javascript:void(0);  LMAO on another topic how long can u keep apon in the freezer? whats the deal with with all these carbs in the ibo diet ever heard of the Atkins diet? |
| Autos › Re: FRAUD ALERT : Buyers Beware Of The Username Phammyus by akininNC(m): 3:11am On Sep 22, 2008 |
@ poster It seems to me like you have been waiting to find something to spring on Phammy. I used to work at a car dealership and the 1st thing an educated customer would ask for was a carfax report on any used car they were interested in purchasing. You can only allege fraud IF he failed to disclose all that is wrong with the vehicle before you purchased the vehicle. I guess what you want is a carfax history on every posting and that is not practical. This whole thread seems more like a personal vendetta to me. Well that is my 2 cents |
| Autos › Re: How Come No New Mazdas In Naija? by akininNC(op): 8:59pm On Sep 11, 2008 |
Yes I left those out because those sports cars will not survive Naija roads. The rotary engine is not something I would ever import to Nigeria, I speak to our techs in service and it is one horror story after another! |
| Food › Re: Does Anybody Here Has A Recipe For Egusi Soup? by akininNC(m): 6:00pm On Sep 11, 2008 |
@ amaka1 Do you have any idea how long ground apon lasts if kept in the freezer. I have had some for over 2 years. Should I throw it out? javascript:void(0); |
| Politics › Re: Imagine This Kind Of Nigeria by akininNC(m): 5:29pm On Sep 11, 2008 |
I came home in April and what I find every time I come back is that we are not closing the gap with all these industrialized nation, in fact it seems to me that we are regressing in a lot of areas. Unfortunately we as ordinary citizens can not improve a lot of the infrastructure, that has to be done by the government. Once these improvements are made then a lot of us hiding overseas will feel comfortable enough to come home and apply our expertise. I love my country but I am not willing to die for it because of armed robbers. In fact, I missed them by a month because they robbed our house at gunpoint a month after I left, I am now having second thoughts about my visit in october! |
| Autos › Re: How Come No New Mazdas In Naija? by akininNC(op): 5:12pm On Sep 11, 2008 |
The Mazda line consists of the following vehicle with various trim levels: Mazda 3 both sedan and hatchback Mazda speed 3 (this only comes in a 6 speed manual transmission with a lot of hp and compares very favorably with any small bmw) Mazda 5 mini suv Mazda 6 Mazda speed 6(this also only comes in a 6 spd man. trans.) suv lines are Mazda Tribute Mazda cx 7 Mazda cx 9 (this is a 7 passenger suv) As far as price, the mazda line is in line with toyota and honda. I will post pictures at a later date. |
| Autos › Re: How Come No New Mazdas In Naija? by akininNC(op): 9:42pm On Sep 10, 2008 |
@ promise72 Thanks for your input and I know we are creatures of habit in Nigeria as evidence by the fact we are still using the same building practice from 50 years ago. If you ever get a chance test drive either the speed 3 or speed 6 series, you will fall in love. thanks again! |
