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Culture › Re: African Weddings From All Over! by AKobo4urthought: 11:31pm On Mar 11, 2013*

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 4:02am On Mar 04, 2013

all4naija: That I know of, there is no 100% freedom to everything. It is getting late into the night here.

Nice having some comments with ya!

Right back at you man, Goodnight. Still disagree with you though.

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 3:54am On Mar 04, 2013

all4naija: No! It is not really what I am on about you highlighted in my comment.In many corporate settings and society you are not allowed to wear anything that violate their codes of dressing. That is what I mean right there. Yes, it all depends on you but the society you are in tells a lot about it as well. There is no 100% freedom everything you are hinting on.

And who the hell said that?!?!?? Is this a rule or something, that I don't know about. I want to know who made this ridiculous SHiity rule so I can have a one on one with them. Since I don't see any police officers, or more accurately a fashion police arresting me for wearing my traditional attire, then I'm guessing you are the person that made this law. But for yourself that is. Because I know damn well, people wear whatever the hell they want to wear, because there is 100% freedom when it comes to dressing yourself.

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 3:37am On Mar 04, 2013

all4naija: Hahaha... Did I say you should change your way? No. Do you look odd on your traditional clothes to people? Yes. Do you know the origin of what you are attaching so sense of belong or something else as traditional clothes? No. Is it okay to wear traditional clothes every where you go in such society? No. I my trying to make you hate traditions? No. So, there are more Nos to the question that prove why is it not odd than yes. That alone is something to consider when you are defending your traditional clothes in a non-traditional society. Indeed, I think you would do the same of another culture wearing their in your own community.Why? it is because it looks odd to you, even when it looks interesting to others. Would stop you from wearing it? No, it depends on you.

Exactly my point! Now you see what I'm saying. It will all come down to you! If you want to wear your traditional attire to wherever, no one can tell you not to! That's why traditional attires should not be restricted to just traditional occassions! If you are scared of what people will think of you, or looking different then you will decide not to wear it out. At the end of the day, it is all on the person, and not some "code of dressing" e.t.c

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 3:20am On Mar 04, 2013

all4naija: Lol... You are looking for Yes or No. If that is it, then I say affirmative yes.

People walk up to you in the church never told you to take your so called traditional clothes off. Did they say that to you? In a free society you are allowed freedom to many things but the society has codes of dressing. For you coming with something different will make you look odd. Not only that it points out you are either new or don't know anything about the society.

To cut the story short, although I don know anything about those names you have calling those clothes, it right to learn one or two things about the people you leave with. Oddity is a signal of wanting to be different. To be different in sense of what that means to the world we have seen the consequential effects.

I think it is right to wear your traditional clothes for traditional occasions and move along with what you are part of. This is your generation not your forefathers, man.

I wasn't looking for a yes or no answer, I just wanted you to go in depth on your claim on how they are not traditional attire. Which you haven't done. Because we have a freedom to where whatever the heck we want, we are not restricted to dress just one way in a certain place. And just so you know, If you were to wear a traditional clothing to a setting that isn't "traditional" a lot people would give you odd glances, but with every odd glances, there is someone else that will totally admire what it is that you are wearing. Because I know that the few time I wore my ankara to class, I had people tell me how much they liked it, I even had some people ask me for the place they can get it from. Like I stated before there is nothing odd about wearing your traditional attire in public, but it will be odd for a person that feels uncomfortable and embarrassed. Oh & between there is nothing wrong with being different, because if we were all the same, and the world dressed alike and looked alike. This world would be one heck of a boring place. I personally embrace my difference, and allow people to accept me for it. I won't change myself, just because I want to be like everyone else, and want to gain acceptance.

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 2:48am On Mar 04, 2013

all4naija: But, I state clearly what qualifies for traditional clothes - like the Zulus,etc. These ones we show around as though they are traditional clothes for the reason they are associated with traditional activities, should be meant for those activities. We are continously begging the question here after pointing to Zulu clothes,etc.

Similarly, you would look at somebody odd coming to your community marriage on corporate suit. Let be sincere with ourselves here.

Lol, I feel like you are avoiding my question, I have asked it 2 times now, and you still haven' t give me the answer that covers it. Okay let me remodify it, The ones "we show around" as our traditional clothes, when we (you, not me) know that they are not the legit "traditional" wear do we still wear them to "traditional" occasions?

Yes, people might look at the person in corporate suit as odd, but will they go up to the person and tell them to take it off? I don't think so. And at the end of the day it all comes down to what that PERSON feels about what they are wearing, It will all comes down to if they are comfortable and confident enough to wear a suit to an occasion like that, same goes to someone who is comfortable enough to wear an ankara to work. If you are comfortable and confident enough, you won't feel odd.

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 2:25am On Mar 04, 2013

all4naija: I said earlier they are meant for traditional occasions. So, let them be for those activities. The actual thing that falls into traditional clothes for Africans ,in the light of defending traditions, is like what Zulu people put on and other of our forefather ritual regalia as originators of the traditions wore then. So, claiming to be traditional about clothes only beat me to the reason why other see it odd in the first place in the church premises in a different society. What do you expect of the people to think at the first instance?

I am not going about being different but the lack of sense about who we are as human beings. We are often times bent on differentiating ourselves from other. Either to prove something or just for mere share of sense of belonging. I think the world still needs to get out of these traditional segregation thing. I think it is only a matter of time.

LOL @ the zulu attire, as much as I know my ancestors came from Ile-Ife, so i don't know about that zulu stuff. But just one question, why are they only meant for "traditional occassions" if they are as_____ you have said______ "not traditional" to begin with? How you feel about what people think of it, is your own problem. But saying we aren't different is a bit of a stretch, even a blind person knows that we human beings have our differences. It all begins with cultural practices, and it goes on to what part of the world we are from. Saying we have similarities is something, but saying we don't have any differences is like lying to yourself.

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 1:51am On Mar 04, 2013

all4naija: Lol... The point you are on about is different. Traditional name are really traditional unlike clothes we called traditional clothes. Even at the expense of your name there is first-hand though of not thinking you are from within not until your name is said. To be odd is not actually the issue but the sense you have about the oddity as in the case of your so called traditional clothes. It is like going to corporate office on bare. The society you are in is totally different and they have their on code of dressing. to be different will definitely attract attention because what you are putting on is odd.

However, you still haven't proved the origin of the traditional clothes you are wearing to me.

How is it different? It all still has the same concept. If traditional clothing is so "untraditional" then why do people find it difficult to wear it out to a different setting? Honestly it shouldn't be a problem then since it is all clothes Right? Wrong! because you yourself have not telling me the major reason why this traditional clothes are not for "untraditional occasion" And what the hell do you mean by different "code of dressing" , the last time I checked you can dress however you want!, If I wake up tomorrow and i decided to wear my ankara, or my aso oke to work, nobody in their right mind is going to come up to me and tell me to take it off. Would I get a few odd glances, Yes absolutely, but is it because the dressing is odd, Absolutely not! Be honest the only reason you wouldn't wear traditional attires to a different setting is because you will feel uncomfortable to the way people will look at you, and think of you. Not because the clothes are odd, but because the looks you will be getting will be odd. & Why would people give you that look? because the clothes are different. & Why will you feel uncomfortable, because you are embarassed of being different!

And as far as the origin of my traditional clothes, the last time I checked ankaras, aso oke, e.t.c are associated with africans regardless of where they come from. undecided

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 1:32am On Mar 04, 2013

all4naija: No! Not that.You are carrying this sense of what you are wearing as traditional yet without having understanding of the origin and it makes you look odd. To get odd is not the issue but the sense of idea you have about it too. We have seen the consequence of looking odd. Don't tell me it is not having any effect on you already. That traditional clothes are not actually what they are they are just over-exaggerated to be what they are not.

I have on but I would wear it for traditional occasions like the traditional marriage, to add a sense to it. If not wearing it in a community like the one you find yourself all the time is odd.

So because life wouldn't be easy for people because they are different, we should make it a priority to try to fit in. Sorry to break it to you sweetheart, but when you are a foreigner in any place you are automatically different. It all starts with your name, then your accent, then your color, and it goes on and on. I have seen a lot of africans try to change the things that make them different from others, thus makes them a foreigner, you have Nigerians with their original name of chukwuemeka changing it to christopher, because it makes them fit in more.Changing their accents because it makes them sound like everyone else. While in reality trying to fit in and act like everyone else is losing a part of yourself. Why not actually embrace what makes you different, and have others accept you for it than try to fit-in in order to gain acceptance? You had be thinking to yourself what does this have to do with traditional attire? well it all dates back to that "chukwuemeka to christopher" thing again, where people drop what makes them different from others to fit in. Thus you can wear traditional attire in "traditional occassion" but don't have the guts to where it out to a different setting because you are going to get a few odd glances.

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 12:54am On Mar 04, 2013

all4naija: Lol. They become traditional clothes when they are treated so, not the way they are worn. If you look closely to make traditional clothes what they are is familiarity and are associated with certain type of group or people in a society. The so branding of clothes being traditional has been over-exagarated in the sense that we are entitled to make it looks out of place where as we are the ones getting odd. The simple reason why I quoted earlier the famous Roman's quote.

There is nothing it takes away from the perception of things but only prove you are different. In the gathering you seem to making yourself look different and strange in this regard. Most of the idea of African traditional sense of clothing comes from Far East and the orient. It is a fact we use this things to over-exaggerated what stand for tradition. Tradition in the modern world is no longer a thing restricted to group of people but to the world culture. The world is becoming bigger than mere clothes to prove a thing to stand different from the other from a traditional perspective.

So to summarize everything into a few words, what you are really trying to say is that; It is wrong to be different, and we should all make it a priority to try to fit in, and wearing what you feel is your traditional clothes makes you "stick out" and look odd, and it comes across as trying to be better than others. Noted.... Quite fascinating.

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 12:36am On Mar 04, 2013

all4naija: Okay. If you are taking that direction. Why are they now traditional clothes?

This feels like deja vu. Like I stated in a recent post, they become traditional clothes or wear because they are worn in a certain way, I.E aso-oke, saris, hanfu, shalwar kameez, diraac, kurta, zuria. e.t.c

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 12:30am On Mar 04, 2013

all4naija: Jeez! I am not talking about the fabric. I am talking about your traditional cloths origin. There is a difference there.

And traditional clothes are not made from a certain fabric?? I.e swizz lace. Hello!

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 12:24am On Mar 04, 2013

[quote author=tpia@]you see what you want to see.

i guess you refuse to notice the ones dressed in regular clothes.[/quote]My response was to the person claiming that cultural attire where for "cultural occassions", I honestly don't know the purpose of yours. undecided

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 12:23am On Mar 04, 2013

all4naija: Indians, Bengali and Pakistani. Check the origin of their traditional cloths and compare it to yours. However, if what you are alluding to is to prove your culture in the church it proves a point you are going to look odd. Excepting if you want to continue living an oddity life in church by wearing your traditional cloths all the time.

What I mean is if you are ready to defend your traditional cloths you have to search for the origin first to better understand what you are defending. Try to do a research about your traditional cloths man.

The fabric use for salwar kameez are also made from all around the world, I.E india, china, malaysia, e.t.c My point was you are here preaching about "They are only meant for cultural occasions and not common place" but you tend to forget that those attire like the western one's are also clothes. If you can wear them to "cultural occasions" why not wear them to regular place too, or is trying to fit in that important? or the opinion of people?

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 11:27pm On Mar 03, 2013

all4naija: Your so called traditional cloths are questionable. I think you haven't really done a thorough research to find out where it came from. I doubt, it might be from Indonesia or Middle-East. We should stop behaving odd to prove a point in another man's land. While you are in Rome behave like a Roman and stop fooling yourself. That cloths can be meant for traditional occasions not regular church that it will makes you look out of place.

Hmm Interesting..... I will love for you to go preach this gibberish to the many Indian, bengali, and pakistani students I see walking around in their salwar kameez on campus. Wonder how they will feel about that.

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 11:07pm On Mar 03, 2013

phyl123: I agree with you a 100%, but the topic is about wearing it abroad, in the summer yes, but during the cold months how do you explain being African to the detriment of your health. Also some African atires are so bulky how do you wear a winter coat on top. Lets try and be reasonable here. The way you conduct yourself and your morality whilst abroad is far more important than your atire.

Lol @ detrimental to health, you are quite a jokester. I wouldn't go as far as to saying that. Would it be uncomfortable? yes, but detrimental? not really. But I understand what you mean though. And I agree with you with the way we conduct ourselves and our morality. But what I don't understand is africans back home, that are embarassed to wear their cultural attire.

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 10:44pm On Mar 03, 2013*

phyl123: How many of our Afrcan atires are actually made on african soil. Eg (Holandis, swiss lace.etc)? I believe we should wear clothes to suit occasions and be comfortable in not because of what other people might think of us.

Eventhough they are made in those places, there is still a certain way we wear them. The way we wear them is what pertains to every culture. Take the aso-oke for example, nobody wears them like the yoruba people.

Culture › Re: Strange Wedding Culture Where You Kidnap And Marry by AKobo4urthought: 10:36pm On Mar 03, 2013

That's quite an interesting tradition. I was just thinking that why the hell will the father of the bride reject the proposal if the guy is still going to marry the girl anyways? The "groom" still wins either way. Plus the father-in-law passes up a free beating, while his daugther is forced into marriage. undecided

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 9:21pm On Mar 03, 2013

ckkris: Is should be is, not ease, lift, not leaft. You can't continue to say things the way Headmaster did. They hadn't the opportunities available today. When you hear Abacha's son speak, you'll know his teachers are not the same as his parents'.
BTW, your tonality ease too aggressive. Are you angry?

[size=16pt]ITS CALLED AN ACCENT FOR A REASON!!! [/size]ACCENTS is the manner or way people speak. Because people have different accents, there is No "right" way to pronounce something.. Just as the Nigerians have their accents, so those the Ghanaians, and the Americans. Why else do Ghanaians pronounce "come" as "cam"? its because of their Accent. You go tell those Ghanaians that they are pronouncing it wrong. Sorry if I am offending you by sounding angry, but stupidity irritates me.

Fashion › Re: Male Student Wears Wrapper To School; Wins 20K Bet by AKobo4urthought: 9:15pm On Mar 03, 2013

[quote author=tpia@]is that your culture? huh

that's how they dress where you come from?[/quote]I don't understand your post? What do you mean by is that my culture? Where in my post did I mention that I was pakistani,or indian. I simply agreed with the kind fellow.

Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 9:04pm On Mar 03, 2013

To the Op of this post, thank you for posting this. It is a shame some people think anything that is western is the best. Its quite sad really.

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Culture › Re: Is Wearing Western Clothing Forsaking Your Culture? by AKobo4urthought: 8:59pm On Mar 03, 2013

ckkris: ON ACCENTS

The incumbent Senate President spoke recently on Tv, saying 'piss' is what the nation needs now. He meant 'peace'. Many Nigerians say seat when they mean sit. Torn is turn. Even in church you hear those that should know say omini potent instead of omnipotent.
Please let this Edo man not go around saying shursh for church, shange for change, and presuming nationalism. Its just being as wrong as many are on the streets of Nigeria. D o o.

And the point of your post is? Is it for us to change our accent, because YOU think its wrong? If it is, then im sorry to say but you are dumber than a rock. It can't possibly get dumber than this (well only on nairaland.)

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Fashion › Re: Male Student Wears Wrapper To School; Wins 20K Bet by AKobo4urthought: 5:17am On Mar 02, 2013

Maple: When has wearing wrapper by men in the Ibo society become a form of madness?

I respect the guy, eventhough he shouldn't have taken a bet to do what he did, simply wear a wrapper (an integral part of Ibo culture) to class. With his wrapper, he is still more decently dressed than lots of students out there on campus, who are dressing naked in the name of 'fashion'. Yet, you dont see security men blinking an eye....Chei! colonial mentality and inferiority complex has eaten deep into the Nigerian society.

When I was in the university in Canada, I used to proudly wear Nigerian attires to class once in a while, lots of people respected me for that and I made a lot of friends, especially the white ladies and guess what, soon my fellow Nigerians on campus started wearing local attires on campus as well. If other foreign students like Indians, Scottish, Pakistanis, Arabs, indonesians etc are proudly wearing there traditional attires on campus, why shouldnt I?

BTW, I do see Somali men wearing wrappers with pride on the streets of Canada. I have nothing but respect for them whenever I see them. If one feels ashamed to display his traditional attire, then he/she deserves no respect from foreigners.

Thank you o jare, you have said it all. Its a shame that some africans especially Nigerians are so ashamed of their culture.

Islam › Re: Muslim Students Protest Discrimination Against Hijab In Lagos by AKobo4urthought: 2:03am On Mar 01, 2013

tevinsolt: there's a reason why they are called school uniforms. when you're not in school or at work you can wear whatever the hell you want.

That is a very ridiculous statement to make. What does wearing a school uniform have to do with wearing an hijab? Back in high school I had tons of muslim friends who wore the hijab, but they didn't have to take their hijab off because of some so called "uniform", and their hijab didn't interfere with their studies or the studies of others. As a school administrator it is rather unprofessional to suspend or mistreat students because of their religious believes. But then in a country like Nigeria, people don't really care about being professional or being fair. If the christian students get to be treated like they belong in the school, so should the muslim students. Wearing an hijab should have[size=14pt] nothing[/size] to do with getting a proper education. undecided

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Culture › Re: Yoruba Men♥ by AKobo4urthought: 1:39am On Mar 01, 2013

Ladies Ladies... chill!

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Christianity Etc › Re: Pope Benedict Finally Leaves Vatican City by AKobo4urthought: 1:21am On Mar 01, 2013

Nuff said

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Culture › Re: Nigerians Come In by AKobo4urthought: 8:13am On Feb 28, 2013

LMAO!!!!!! I found that blog post to be hilarious. I really wish people would stop posting things about somalia/somalis here on NL. Because quite frankly all they want is attention (when i think about it though, its quite understandable to want to get attention from people who you think are more superior than you. Especially if you come from a country like somalia.) and quite frankly we Nigerians don't care. This is not the first time people would wan to seek attention from Nigerians and it definately wouldn't be the last. That's they way things are when you are so awesome. Haters will always hate, and bad belle people will continue to be jealous undecided

Celebrities › Re: Picture Of Van Vicker & Family by AKobo4urthought: 7:22am On Feb 28, 2013

skales: Van vicker bro, dis lady musta been veyi veyi rich dat made u to marry her
Ugly big fish

Seriously mehn, dark skinned girls aint good in bed.. Most of them can't even go more than 2 rounds and always not secured with their hubbies.. Especially if he's handsome like me, they're so fulla hate and jealousy and most times reason like the Ibo people.

Dating a lady who reasons like Ibo people can be dangerous u know.

fellis: His wife is not fine....did he not see any fine girl to marry before he married her?

Wow! The level of stupi*dity on this thread is just blowing my mind. So, human beings can be this stu.pid?

Fashion › 16-year-old White Girl Poses In ‘african Queen’ by AKobo4urthought(op): 4:37am On Feb 27, 2013*

So I recently came across this article, and I find it to be totally absurd!! It is about a magazine named "Numero magazine" who hired a white model (Ondria Hardin) to feature on their "african queen" fashion editorial. What Irks me the most is that they colored this white girl to be able to pass as black, in other words they blackfaced her. Like there is a shortage of Black models and couldn't find any black girls that are suitable to shoot with, to add insult to injury the girl isn't even from any part of Africa. So what do you guys think about this??

Is this offensive or what? a little creepy maybe?

https://i.huffpost.com/gen/1009285/thumbs/o-NUMERO-MAGAZINE-AFRICAN-QUEEN-570.jpg?15

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Here is the link to the article:http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/25/numero-magazine-african-queen_n_2761374.html?utm_hp_ref=style&ir=Style

Foreign Affairs › Re: When Is The BBC Going To Stop Rubbishing Nigeria ? by AKobo4urthought: 10:12pm On Dec 07, 2012

@op when Nigeria/Nigerians stops rubbishing itself.

Christianity Etc › Re: “We Should Spend Less On Ourselves And More On Others” –T.B Joshua Tells Pastors by AKobo4urthought: 10:02pm On Dec 07, 2012

dady12: to identify a real man of God is to look to their teaching,the money this man ve spend on the needing is more than the so called private jet,did this man not having money to buy a private jet?the answer is simple as he cares for the needing, not our so call political pastors that call a private jet a necessecity why the needing are dying, other pastors should emulate him tb joshua so that poverty can be eraducated from nigeria,because of jet people are calling on the federal government to be taxing churches and mosque,[size=16pt]what a lesson from a private jet![/size]

LWKMD!!!!!!!!!! u are one funny person. I dnt usually laugh at people's grammatical errors, becus I myself make dem. But u my friend made me laugh.! grin

Health › Re: Itching Balls For Months Now by AKobo4urthought: 9:23pm On Dec 07, 2012

soe: U guyz ar wicked oo..haba...pls ma broda...dis tin wey dey worry u no b problem walahi...if u hav faith,just go to any mosque area and purchase zam zam water of any qty, use it to wash ur private part and also drink som of it...if d problem continues...call me a fool.

pendusky: Listen carefully!go to pharmacy and buy
'Benzyl Benzoate Application' Moko products...'whitish cream' its in a 2inch bottle... Wash d infected area with detol, if u can make small cuts on them better... Then rub the BBA on it...warning... You will cry ooh! Its 3days u wont see em again!

When its done come back and thank my friend! If u need 2 c d bottle jst IM Me...

nnafather: Cut the damn thing off and be free joor!

Baby mama: Sounds like excema to me
Wash the area well and dry thoroughly
Get a 0.2% hydrocortisone cream and rub in area about twice a day for about 5 days till the itching subsides
After that acute phase is over,after you shower,use a good lotion to moisten your balls
Excema shows as patchy dry itching skin so you need a good layer of oil to keep the symptoms down
It never goes away completely and has its flare ups
Stress or dry weather and some foods can make it worse but it can be managed
You can even use some small cooking oil to rub on your balls many times a day to moisten it and prevent the dry flakyness
My baby daddy gets them on his legs in the winter and that is how he manages it.

Above all see any doctor or a dermatologist preferably for a diagnosis and proper care.
Other conditions like ring worm are also dry and scaly and itchy and the treatment is different

Spoken like true Idiots.!.

[size=19pt]@op [/size]
[size=34pt]GO SEE DOCTOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!![/size]

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