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Helpfromabove1:
U hold my blogos , i hold your blogos

Leave my blogos make I leave your blogos

Techpik:
Happy Sunday guys, this have accusation of labeling me yahoo guy in the compound have happened on many occasions during compound meeting, side talks etc.

But I’m not to be sincere I’m a freelance website developer working from home, I have worked for lots of people even on this nairaland, within Nigeria and abroad at the comfort of my home.

What use to trigger this labeling is because most of my neighbors go out in the morning and come at night and I’m always indoor (at home) living good.

So this have been causing side talks and even confrontations from some neighbors.

Most times I have been explaining and try to prove to them, that I’m a freelance website developer that I worked from home.

Before anybody will think the same on nai.raland, you can check me on google Techpik and all social medias and my site.

You will even see good reviews from people I have completed projects for.

I also need your advice guys, to deal with those neighbors.

oz4real83:
that looks like pottage with vegetable and it is very rich especially when you cook it like my wife who goes further to add dried fish and shrimps, how is it poverty food? All because it doesn't have the appearance of fried rice or jollof rice that physically look attractive? The way some people talk is disgusting

Dijita:
Are you saying a student graduated from university in 1985 and this is all the proof you can monster. No picture in graduating gown with some of his class members.

kpankpangolo:
She always caught my eye whenever I tuned in. Anyway, good luck in the real world.

Akalia:
Who wan even travel to Qatar?? Nothing dey Qatar for international hustlers like me.

OLAADEGBU:
DAILYMAIL.CO.UK

franchasng:
Don't let anybody deceive you, there is nothing as valuable as having your own family (wife/husband and kids). If she was living with them, this wouldn't have befell her.


As a lady, no matter the success, you need a man. It is better to be once married with kids and divorced than to die single and never married with kids.

Okoroawusa:
And you don't even know if the person is Igbo like yourself. What's wrong with you people? You are making Igbos look bad with this your tribal bigotry

RealityKings:
It works here too. It works upside down

Olanre05:
We have the educated worshippers too, who also worship their Pastors.Call them Daddy and Their wife Mummy. But they can’t respect their husbands and wife’s at home. Sick Mentality!!!!

I thought you loved me… you used to be so charming and nice to me, texting me almost every second of the day…..oh babe, you’re so nice, you’re beautiful, we are so compatible. Come meet my mom. Two months into the Relationship, Boom. The real narcissistic personality comes out. They are not able to regulate their emotions any longer. They become very angry quickly especially when they’re not getting their way, they become very hypersensitive to criticism. They literally doubts you on almost everything leaving you feeling like you’ve gone crazy.

Narcissistic partners are very captivating at the initial stage of a relationship and with time, the relationship becomes very challenging, how well do you know your partner? How well can you tell if they have these traits? Accordingly, There are certain things to look out for in your partner to conclusively tell he or she is narcissistic.

The term “Narcissism” is most times used in recent years without understanding it’s indept meaning. Let’s look at the meaning of narcissism.

What is Narcissism?

Narcissism as otherwise seen as Narcissistic personality disorders (NPD) by psychologist is defined as a trait that solely relates to insecurity, a pattern which is characterized by lack of empathy, controlling, arrogant, inability for one to manage any kind of disappointment, chronic validation seeking, feeling entitled, grandiosity, extremely self centered with some degree of selfishness. Study shows that there are 4 types of Narcissism and not all Narcissist are the same. For the purpose of this topic I may not want to go into that. Alot of people have either found themselves in relationships with such partners or encountered people who exhibit these tendencies.

Who Is A Narcissistic Partner?

Narcissistic Partner is an insecure person in a relationship who seem very charming and nice at the start of a relationship but later becomes that person who lacks empathy, feels entitled, always expecting special treatment to be given to them but nobody else, they’re very concerned about their appearance, very prone to throwing tantrums, with too much sense of self importance, they get angry very quickly especially if they don’t get their way.

How Well can you tell if your partner is a narcissist?

Ever noticed your partner liking and showing so much care at the beginning of the relationship and later declines as the likability decreases, they only tend to appreciate you when in need? They become highly self centered, Your value comes when you’re able to meet their needs, they get hurt and lash out easily, their only concerns are their goals and reputation, lacks empathy whereby your significant other should be loving. They are all about knowing how you feel about them. all about themselves. Desperately needing validation and adoration, Very controlling, watch their reaction toward criticism, do they over react? Are they very manipulative and defensive? Do they make you feel bad for ever speaking up? Are they the type that’s always on the “ I know more than you” side? Feeling too important, acting like they know more than their partner while their partner is always wrong? Projecting everything they can back at you leaving you feeling You’re not enough, Are they ready to sacrifice anything on the platter of their ego? With too much sense of entitlement? These are signs you should look out for in your partner, if you find these traits in them, it’s safe to say they may be narcissist.

Ultimately, Being in a relationship with a narcissistic partner takes alot of work and patience because they make you feel very special until these feelings start to shift , as soon as there are some stress in their system, maybe things not going as planned, work day didn’t go the way they want, kids behaving badly, they become manipulative, Gaslights you, egocentric, extremely self centered and you begin to blame yourself for their actions, you devalue yourself, you loose focus and self esteem.

Narcissistic partners projects issues or fault back unto their partners, they say things like, “you made me do what I did, you didn’t allow me to finish what I had to say, you interrupted me” . Once this happens, you may not want to confront them any longer, they dismiss you with that, they make you understand their point is more important than what you had to say. The point you’re trying to make at that point doesn’t make any sense. They make you look like you’re the controlling one while they are ,trying to make you feel you’re the one with the issue here, and you’ll just pull back and begin to apologize. This is exactly what they want ,they want you to feel you’re the one with the problem and not them. If you try to point their mistakes or remind them, maybe they forgot to pay some bills they promised, they will be like” because you’ve done it before, please face your problems.

People in this relationship always feel they’re not enough“ If I was enough, he wouldn’t cheat on me, if I was enough, he wouldn’t insult me, if I was enough, he would be present when I needed him, if I was enough he wouldn’t do this and that” These aching feeling of not being enough is one of those Signs you’re currently in a relationship with a narcissist, you keep making excuses for them , hoping they’ll change, but no matter how you try, they just make you feel you’re never enough. Oh please, just stop this, the truth is that it has nothing to do with you, they just can’t regulate their self esteem, they’re are now insecure, they now feel entitled, broken inside, they tend to protect it by all means, they feel no one is better than them.

Unfortunately, people with narcissistic personality often see nothing wrong with what they do, as such there’s no point for change in them, in as much as a narcissist cannot completely change, there are certain things they could do in hope to recovering such Relationship. Narcissistic partners should break out of the norm and focus on showing more empathy for others, they should care about how others feel, they should drop their ego, Stop thinking they are better than others, they should welcome critics as a step to their growth and reviving a narcissistic Relationship.
Source:
https://flipmemes.com/2021/06/25/narcissistic-relationship-how-well-can-you-tell-if-you-are-dating-a-narcissist/

omoredia:
These girls go just claim feminist lesbians and this matter will die a natural death

Lawly:
Don't say what you don't know. I graduated from that school after 5 years of study. It's a custom that the hitmen in particular of any cult are usually targeted in their final year whenever are preparing for their exit such as writing their final papers bcs after that, they might not see him ever again to make him pay blood for blood for others blood he shed. It's usually a normal thing for final year students in cults writing their final exams

Judolisco:
not peculiar but na like cultist headquarters together with auchi polytechnic... Throughout my 5 yrs for sch plus 2 yrs msc... Ino sabi one cultist like dis for sch

Judolisco:
like dem find am come exam hall? My medical doctor friend dat graduated almost 15 yrs ago dey always tell me about uniben.... Say na deadly sch

Revolution2022:
Mugu horseband

GOFRONT:
Someone cannot go and visit a colleague in peace again.


Op, Maybe you are the type that say no to "checking a partner's phone inbox"

One guy somewhere might have dripped a location for her for a sexcapade.


Trust your instinct. Instinct is Spiritual, He hardly lie to us.

Emeskhalifa:
Ohh... Once a soldier, always a soldier

izonborn098:
You're a fool for accepting a cheat back.. She don't have ur time mumu

tundetech4:
https://www.pulsesports.ng/football/story/im-a-beautiful-woman-and-i-want-to-start-a-family-super-falcons-star-cries-out-2023082308464711589

pongwa:
I think you are the bad friend. He referring you for the job you are enjoying higher pay means he is a true friend. If he doesn't want the best for you he wouldn't do that. You have wronged a good person, you better restitute or èlse karma is gonna knock at your door soon

slawomir:
Damnnn niggar
They didn't storm the church
Wrong and unquantized report

I'm in Benin city anyday anytime twice on Saturday...infact okhoro, upper lawani and eweka in Benin city is where I grew up in my family house

The headlines is misleading

They trailed his car
For your information it might have nothing to do with church things although the man is a pastor
It might be cult related fight because 98 percent of people here in Edo sate are confirmed and rugged including pastors, lecturers, politicians, native doctors and police officers
I sound funny right...but that is the truth

Bro relax..I'm a Bini by tribe. I Stay in Benin city...I know what am talking..every house hold or nuclear family in Benin city got more than six rugged people in it...not to talk of the extended family...even Edo girls love it..during my schooling in university of Benin I know more than ten uniben security personnel that are black axxe...yesterday I went to uselu to drink beer with my friends I was unable to spend more than 2 hours there...

Bvlgari:
Pls nairalanders, what is the
important of this hole pls?

LegendHero:
I saw this from Gtbank. This make perfect sense.

So that means instead of using Sendwave, World Remit, and etc. You can now use Gtbank.

I usually use “Send” app from Flutterwave and good thing about them is that they can do the reverse option from “Naira” back to “Dollar”.

Good one from GT but not yet complete if you can't swap naira back to Dollar.. The only PERFECT platform which I used within a twinkle of the eyes done with my transaction is PAYDAY. Their rates so low. You need experience this and you will NEVER thing of GT again. Signups here: https://payday.onelink.me/I2bz/MARE0P

Gtbank currently only offer “Dollar” to Naira. I hope they also start the reverse soon.

Source: https://twitter.com/gtbank/status/1673614141314007040?s=46&t=oGAxjhiGeufNKlYA6fDTyA[/quote]Good one from GT but not yet complete if you can't swap naira back to Dollar.. The only PERFECT platform which I used within a twinkle of the eyes done with my transaction is PAYDAY. Their rates so low. You need experience this and you will NEVER thing of GT again. Signups here: https://payday.onelink.me/I2bz/MARE0P

klimkid:
My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now and it's about time we start planning on getting married.

One thing I no for sure is that she loves me and I do love her too. Recently, she told me that her mom went to some churches and they told her it won't work, about 3 pastors. But my girlfriend told her friend to tell her pastor to pray about it.

So he prayed about it and he gave us feedback after 3 days and he said the marriage will work, he said I will give my girlfriend peace, take care of her and make her happy.

There's a woman that prays for me here in Lagos, she said there is nothing wrong with both of us. I also called my Rev. Father and he said that nobody has the right to say the person is for this person or the marriage won't work.

He said marriage is a decision both of us will take and pray about it.

He said hence we love ourselves so much, should leave it for God and continue with our relationship.

Guys, have you experienced this before? What do you think? I am confused.

backnbeta:
Sad!


You think he deserves it because he's Yoruba? Do you know if he supported Tinubu or not? But then you don't care...one enemy down, that's what it is for you. I'm really shocked at your response

Wodu89:
Caution yourself. It's a public forum and everyone is free to express themselves.

Strafudeen:
Bros he was, was your father invited?