Good day, you are doing a good job here please help me with any NGO job that has to do with Agriculture be it internship or full time.

Your mum advised you with the wisdom of elders but you didn't listen.... 70% of what you are facing now is because you are living alone...this is just the beginning. Is when you now want to get married you will know how far

Me is the added cost and expenses am even worried about....as for those things u said she said when she visited the last time, are you sure it's not your husband that told her those things..

gunuvi:
Mine is 280k
Executive Director of a national NGO.

Sir help a sister find somewhere for me in your company

generationz:
Are my eyes deceiving me or the guys with the first few answers joking?

You mean some schools still pay secondary school teachers 13k in 2020?

Local woman cannot can.

Lol, dey there..my first salary was 12k as an assistant veterinary doctor in a popular farm in Kano

bytehead333:


The standard of living in Sweden is higher that's it.

omo snow wan kill me for here since morning.

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Hmmm

BiafranBushBoy:


Expensive and your wp after school isn't even sure.

Finland, Estonia, or Hungary

For Finland I have tried applying for a university but their admission process has closed...please do u know of any university there where they English courses are taught that their admission process is still open

SaintHilary:
Australia
New Zealand
Finland
Sweden

In that order...

Thank you

BiafranBushBoy:
Avoid Sweden at all cost.

Thanks sir to think I was even considering there

Please between the above mentioned countries which is best for relocation... I also plan to work and study there and also have 2 kids( both below 5 years)

Seems like you have always wanted to divorce her for a separate reason not for this...

Wicked witch..... Abeg Nairaland mods should investigate this account...cos if anything happen to those children Police will arrest you ... Witch... OK to show you how wicked you are ...why must you inform the wife when you were busy frolicking and eating her husband's money did u remember her... Wicked witch

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SecretSpy666:
I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.

In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

Now my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....

You are an inspiration to so many please help me find a job in Kano even if na teaching

You people keep helping the so called scammers but us the genuine people who need your help nobody has noticed us... I have been asking for a job for the past 1month but nobody replied me

I want to seek for a divorce and I also want to know my rights

psalmsmiles:
Cardi B spent a few days in Victoria island and she feels like Naija is a great place to be. By the time she passes thru Yaba, Mushin and Ajegunle, gets pickpocketed, scammed by numerous Yabatech guys and gets hit by a hit and run rickety driver, nobody go tell her to return NY sharp sharp

Please be a good ambassador of Nigeria, has it ever occur to you that she might be reading this comment

Please go ahead with your initial plan

thorpido:
Hmmm.I hope the bolded isn't true.The monikers that contacted me had female names on their bank accounts(Iya Tola was not one of them).
Anyway,scammers do not know their losses will be greater than whatever 'gains' they may think they have gotten.Even their health will suffer for it.

Sir I sent u a pm

Samiking:
Even if it is security job?

Am also interested

Hmm......

Rajman45:


Abeg.... Wher diz one happen?

Why are you asking

My current salary is below 30k, I need any kind of job that can pay higher than that please. I'm very industrious and can work with little or no supervision.

TGM2015:

Are you sure, it is not the same spiritual attack on you that is affecting your husband? Or better still making both of you hated each other?

To your sickness, I will advise you to check on the link below and take note of the "Who is most likely to get postpartum psychosis?" section of the link.
https://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mental-health/problems-disorders/postpartum-psychosis

If it turns out that the sickness is natural and possibly with family history, your husband may be right by his outburst. My only issue with him is, it is either he is not mature enough to handle martial challenges or he didn't have enough knowledge and understanding about your condition. But his main issue is the feeling of collaborative betrayal by you and your entire family, though he may be wrong.

Now the solutions is for you to know the real cause of your sickness. Is it historical (family related) or not. Can it be spiritual attack or some previous disorder. Either way, help your husband to recover from his feelings of being betrayed (which may have been intentional or not). If you feel, in all honesty, you had the hint that such can happen, then you need to ask for his forgiveness. If you think your family could have known, apologised on their behalf and give him time to heal.

If after all efforts and pleading that are done in all humbleness and sincerity fail, please move on. Additional information which is not to scare you is that you can hardly find a man/family that will accept you with that condition except they are keep in dark. Unfortunately, you have a higher risk of goings through the same condition on your next birth except it is an attack.

God be with you and guide you to overcome your life and marital challenges.

None of my siblings has this disorder, and I had my first child Hale and hearty without any problem....my only consolation is that ALL the symptoms have stopped....

Cutehector:
But why did you keep such medical information from him before you both got married? That's not fair in my opinion.

I never had it before, the sickness was diagnosed barely two weeks after delivery

bukatyne:


If he has not verbally indicated interest to end the marriage, give it a second chance.

He has told you his pain point: he thinks your parents deceived him into the marriage.

You both need to go for therapy and clear his grievance.

You can get medical journals about your condition and connection with child birth, the symptoms and solutions. Also arrange for him to speak with your doctors on the causes, triggers, solutions and after care.

You should also be medically certified that you are fine.

Goodluck.

Thanks he Does'nt want to Hear anything about hospital cos he feels it's spiritual but what pains me is the way he sees my ailment as more or less God-given "excuse " to jump ship

I got married to my husband in 2013, we are blessed with 2kids (a boy and a girl)

In 2017, barely 2 weeks after giving birth to our son I was diagnosed with puepurium psychosis. A kind of mental illness that afflicts women that have just given birth and since it has been from one medication to another..

Now since after my diagnosis my husband has been a source of emotional, verbal and physical abuse... He blames my parents for everything as he feels "cheated " feeling that they knew all about my "sickness " before we got married and kept it from him.....

He felt I was a liability and feels he is too young to shoulder such... There was nothing my husband didn't do to frustrate me...

So around June this year I left my home for my father's house and have been there since, now since I have been there my husband hardly calls when he does he wants to speak with his children. He doesn't call my parents to ask about my well-being or that of his kids.

Sometimes I feel abandoned, now the issue is that the love I have for him is beginning to reduce, sometimes I feel like letting him go and starting all over. Other times I want to stay cos I think of my children's future.

As for the psychosis ALL the symptoms have gone as am typing this now I have a job with a small private school and planning to either proceed with my masters or start a nursing programme.

So please I need your advice. Should I let him go?

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Sir have the selection process finished

thorpido:
Is there a way I can reach you then?

I sent you an email sir

Mine is more or less of betrayal and man's imminent wickedness...
I got married to my husband in 2013 at the age of 22, then I was still in school... We ttcd for 2years before I gave birth to my daughter in 2015... In 2017 I got pregnant for my son and we packed into our new house (that's where all my problem started).... We had this neighbour that for no reason at all just hated me,...right from day one her complain about me has always been "u too dey pose".....its either you are posing with your husband or you are posing with your child or even your belle..... We nearly packed out because of them.... Shortly before I gave birth I had a dream in which I saw a cat enter into our bedroom and disappeared into my leg... The first attack happened 2weeks after I gave birth to my son then my mum came for omugwo... She was the one that took me to the hospital.... The doctor diagnosed "puperuim psychosis"...after then it has been one attack to the other... When it got to the extent that I have started talking to myself in public unknowingly... I had to run for my dear life... I packed a few of my belongings and RAN with my kids to my parent's house... Now you could ask where was my husband when all this was happening... My people instead of my husband to quench the fire he was busy adding petrol to it... He told whoever that cares to know how I was MAD... According to him he feels "deceived" and "cheated" as he feels my parents knew about my "sickness "before we got married but nobody told him about it. .. It turned to full physical and verbal abuse as he felt saddled with such a liability like me...everyday he reminded me how I was a "regret " to him and told my children how he was going to marry a new mother that will take care of them and was looking for every way possible to frustrate me out of the marriage , because He practically saw it as an "opportunity "
I'm currently staying with my parents and my prayer every day is God should give me the heart to forgive my husband....but it's not easy... Someone we ttcd together and I went through a lot for... as for my neighbour am still praying for her, my God will fight for me... Sometimes I feel like going diabolical cos all these is unfair... I come from a Good,decent Catholic home and prayerful .....just payed for my daughter's school fees (she is an ace student) and saving for my Masters because when I remember all I have passed it further motivates me to aim higher..
Still love my husband though... Sometimes I'm filled with hate for him other times I love him... As for the psychosis ALL the symptoms are gone.
Single motherhood is not what I will wish on my enemy... If you like let it be 500percent the man's fault there will always be a stigma associated with a divorcee....



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