GurlFriend:
I see a bunch of threads here created by guys who see nothing good in the women folk, but if I start writing about the evils that men commit, the mods may move the thread to the literature section.

My Experience

I am pretty, well kept and groomed and at an age where although I may not be a spring chick, I am still young enough to attract attention from guys in their early 20s who have no qualms about toasting their elder sister's age mates. I have had my fair share lovers but I am currently sworn off men till such a time I recover from the trauma of my latest experience in the hands of the 'ejaculating gender.'

My now ex, let's call him Kingsley was supposed to be a godsent. He is fair, heavily bearded, handsome and a single father. He is also terrible in bed. TERRIBLE. He doesn't last more than 4 minutes, and once he reaches the four minutes mark, he spurts his disgusting seed into the condom and goes limp for the rest of the time with him. Even if I squeeze and massage his small member like bitter leave, he will remain limp like golden penny noodles.

That did not stop me from giving two years of my life to him because I genuinely loved him and felt I could cope with the terrible sex; man shall not live by nacks alone. I had met his family, he had met mine, we were literally 5 and 6. We fixed the wedding for January 8 next year. I'm looking at the stupid IV as I'm typing this.

So we closed for the year at my work place on December 24th and I decided to spend the evening with him. We had agreed that no more nights over till the wedding since it was barely a month away, so we might as well start living right before God. None the less, I had closed by 2pm, I didn't look forward to spending the whole evening in my hot apartment alone so I, against better judgement went to his place and let myself in. His line of work doesn't give him the luxury of closing early like me, so the apartment was also empty but he has a generator and AC.

I settled in, began watching movies on his laptop. I don't know the devil that pushed me to leave the film I was watching to start snooping through his files. In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.

He has this folder in his laptop called 'Don Quixote.exe' which I see all the time. I asked him what it was some time back and he casually said they are program files and if I mess with them, I will disorganize his laptop. The same devil I had earlier mentioned pushed me to open Don Quixote, and behold, what did I see?

Gay porn. Man nacking man. Woman nacking woman. My fiance is gay, I think. Or bi-sexual. I don't know. My hands are shaking again.

I'm so hurt. Photos upon photos of homosexual and lesbian contents. But this is not where the story ends.

After the initial shock of these disgusting photos, I was confused, shocked, disappointed. I quickly shut down the laptop, prepared dinner (Indomie) and cried myself to sleep on the bed because I'm a very emotional person. I took Lexotan so I could sleep.

Around 10, I think, Kingley came back. He didn't know I was in the house because I left the lights off. He, however didn't come back alone. He came back with a guest. A male guest. I know this dude is his lover because I know him from the office and I have always been suspicious of his sexuality. What kind of masculine man wears purple skinny jeans and wiggles his bum when he thinks no one is watching? I also saw a TikTok video of this guy dancing, wiggling his bum and twirling his dreadlocks?

That is the colleague Kingley brought home by 10 in the night.

Anyway, Kingley walked into the bedroom, saw me and the guilt written all over his face made me ask him who was in the parlour with him after hearing another male voice. When he couldn't give a coherent answer, I went to the parlour and saw Uncle Purple Skinny jeans. Now added to the gay porn I discovered in his laptop, you will not blame me for having a meltdown. I yelled, screamed, cussed, threw his ring into the toilet and flushed it. I ordered Uber to my parents house that night and spent 25th chopping breakfast with tears.

Two years, with a bi-sexual man. Or maybe he is gay himself. I don't know. He has been begging me not to expose him to his family, but it's too late. I have told my family and they intend to formally let his family know that their daughter cannot marry a 'confused' man, as my father says.

What do men want?! Two years of my life, plus all the wedding expenses, gone down the drain. I am so heart broken and humiliated.

I don't want to say men are scum because I have a wonderful father and loving brothers, so I will leave it. I'm done with men.

I like the last sentence. Thank you

Abujason:


Na who send you?

Abujafather

People no well oh...

North Central.

God pass them

Wait, who be the guy again? Na Mr Abuja?

Bunkbars:
Please stop this, someone just shared his pain. And all you could do is laugh at him and tell him to go and hustle, You should be ashamed of your self, if you think its not only men that have problems, share your own na, who is stopping you, A problem shared is heart solved. Please stop typing like someone that is frustrated about life and lacks love, it will only render you bitter,depressed and unprogressive. Women are love and they show compassion even when men don't, i don't understand how a young girl like you, as young as you are, would be having such bitterness and anger. Show compassion let good things come to you. I have observed a lot of bitterness on this forum, and am confused if its poverty or just idleness.

Wisdom too much for your head

JustMe407:


Thank You so much. Tithing doesn't necessarily mean giving to the Church right? I can give it to individuals who are in need?

Tithing is tithing, so cos you tithe you won't help the needy.? So cos I help the needs I won't tithe?

Tithe is 10%, so what's the remaining 90% meant for?

Abudu2000:
what if one is not a church goer?

Do sadaka

JustMe407:


Hello sir, thank you for your input. Just to be clear, please what is "covenant practice"? Please answer.

Tithe, first fruit offering, charity and general giving towards God's work. Ignore all the noise about tithes and see how God will bless your hustle. I am a living witness.

JustMe407:
Well, 2021 is coming to an end in some days. And I personally don't like the way the year went for me. So by 2022, I want to put in a lot of work in my hustle and pray that it pays off.

But the issue is, how does one really hustle effectively? What are the specific things that should be done while working hard? Those that worked hard and made it, please what worked or did not work for you?

I know a lot of people would say avoid women; noted! What other thing should a young entrepreneurial minded Nigerian do in other to scale in his/her hustle.

Abeg make una answer ohh!!
Mods please help push to front page for broader inputs.

Hustle oh, consistency, patience and above all.... put God first. Never joke with tithe and covenant practices.

Oluromantic:
Your problem is you believe to much in the work of your hands. Avoid believing hardwork pays. Start believing God's favour is key. The muslims call it albarka. I'm not saying you should not work hard but don't see the hardwork as what pays but as a prerequisite to obtain God's favour which is what really pays.

Bible says, seek ye first the kingdom of God. All other things that people are dying to pursue will come to you without struggle.

Seeking Gods kingdom does not necessarily means you must turn to a gospel preacher. It means anything that makes God primary in your life. Tithe-paying, contributing in building churches, giving the orphanage, lending out your generator or other substances for a Godly gathering for free, doing things that makes God happy and pray.

You don't have to do overtime at work in hustle's name to make it. Some people even pay double tithe. That's because they don't want to struggle like others before they make it. But I'm sure you may be one of those who will castigate them and say they're gullible.

Until you start pleasing God like you don't need money, you won't have it. Money don't go to those who run after it at all. It's those who live like they don't want it that it pursues

100% on point

Numbers.... that's what matters...., ask yourself, are you in yet??

Paid my tithe 12/12 months

So this guy is actually from Edo state, funny guy

Yesterday, a colleague came to inform us that she lost her cousin in this particular attack., that was when I realise these numbers are humans. God help us.

3gpvids:
Next time use lion abeg

No venom, but I won't still dare.

Just like plugged pressing iron that is not switched on., I no dey do some kind play

Put link to vote here na..... make it easy for us to vote

Such a beautiful voice. Rest in peace.

maynia:


Do you know how many people die of malaria in Africa? god is really merciful to us.

Yea I know Malaria is a killer disease in Africa, but we are talking about a viral pandemic killing people in developed countries, yet the pandemic is not potent in Africa, no be God?

God is so merciful to us in Africa.
May God Almighty heal the world.

Amen.

This country suppose be one at all??

Moferere:
I hope sey the man go enter ring too?
Make dem beat rigwarigwa comot from him big belle

You no well

A sector that the Government is actually supposed to make income from is left to rot away, jokes apart, FCT administration is a joke

Youth for youth.... 2023

Omicron007:


Yeye Bello Paid Ass-Lickers on FP as usual.
Oluboh
Happiness32
Simeonee111
Alphafeezay


After trying in vain to embezzle Twenty Billion Naira for his failed Presidential Ambition.
Instead of this man to focus on how to liberate Kogi state from the shackles of abject poverty brooding through Lokoja, Ogaminana, Idah, Ajaka, Ibaji, Okehi, Ankpa, Olamaboro, Adavi, Okene and even Yagba, all he does is to move around flaunting cars and spewing trash on Channels TV.

Yeye Variant Omicron, did Yahaya Bello increase the bursary or not? Use your head and be productive.

For every claim they should be an evidence to back it up, but NO, we like sentiments over facts.... Kogi workers get their pay as at when due.

Marvellouzkk:

You all are just acting upon the mandate you where paid for period. Copy cats Babagida Zulum is the man and we all pray for him to become our president

Pray for your candidate, promote your candidate while I do mine. Peace

PavillionEnergy:




Believe anything that comes from Yeye Bello at your own peril.
This is a governor that wanted to use Twenty Billion Naira Bail-out funds for a failed presidential campaign at the expense of civil servants in the state.

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Bello's Data Boys are on the beat again.
Happiness32.
Simeonee111.
Alphafeezay.
Oluboh.

The above are the resident Bello Zombies on Nairaland.
I pray you guys don't end up like the Vulture Griller.

The question should be whether he paid the pensions and gratuities or not.

Be sensible and not sentimental.

Asuku, perfect gentleman!!!

This is serious,

Worst is fake and quack medical and health workers., may God Almighty help us oh.