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chatinent:
I noticed.

Because if you are not, you would have noticed that the major problem in Nigeria is food not sex.

E be like you no get sense?

muyico:
visit NOA office

What's that? NOA.. can u elaborate?

eddynaira125:
Even you get problem, instead of looking for psychologists and legal professionals to handle the issue, u Dey reason walay matter, let me inform you , no be u be first person to enter prison because of pvssy matter, take note

Baba, make I talk am again, if to say I still dey streets, I for no carry this matter come here in the first place. For street e de easy to settle fuckups. because e no de sour!

Not worth it though

Besides this is Nigeria. Lots of crimes go unnoticed and unreported

For outside world, procedure and protocol too much.. police report, mobilisation, proof or evidence of rape, kini Ko, Kini ko.

It's different approaches.

And yes, I suggested therapy. I also suggested she uses AI therapy bots. It's quite helpful if you put in the right prompts and it's private and inexpensive

Edited
She ain't worth it afterall

So my babe, confined in me that she was raped when she was 18 by her mom's apprentice's husband whom she went to stay with in other to help her baby-sit her kids for a few weeks

How did I find out?

My GF always complains of pain during sex even when adequate lubrication is applied and how sex has always been unenjoyable & painful for her.

And me, I be person wey done date lots of babes right from my UNI school days so Ive experienced such issues especially with girls who have vaginismus.

One of my barnies then in UNI got so tight and rigid anytime sex is being initiated to the extent that penetration was impossible in bed.

It got so bad I had to ask her why she's so tight and impenetrable. That was when she told me to check up on the condition - vaginismus.

She also told me she was raped as a teen.

Fast-forward ⏩ to my days after UNI.... I also met and dated a gorgeous 23yo babe and sex was hurtful for her.

In fact, you can feel her body and legs literally shaking like she's having a tremor right b4 penetration. I thought it was because its been almost a year she had sex last but then she always complained about pains during sex.

Along the line of our discussion she opened up to me that she was raped too while in school. And since then sex has always been painful for her especially when a rubber is used.

After my encounter with these 2 women who were rape victims it was easy for me to spot the response to trauma in my current GF.

Before she opened up to me, I didn't just ask her if she's been raped b4.. no!

I asked her out of curiosity how her first sexual experience was? She didn't want to continue the discourse but I pushed her on a bit and that was when she spilled the beans 😔

I asked her if she told her Mumsy about it and she replied in negation. She couldn't tell anyone as most rape victims do.

She was in shock I guess.
And she felt no one would believe her as she followed the man to the hotel... You know... That moment when you blame yourself for not seeing the signs of an impeding danger ⚡

She felt her parents won't support her and she was scared the man's marriage would fall apart.

Guy, I was mad 😡💢
I mean, this is a babe I'm planning on seeing her parents if things go well btw us... now I have to deal with the consequences of another man's crime and uncontrolled libido ..

The man is in Lagos. Works in Mandillas and he took advantage of her.

I feel like taking up the case but I'm confused about it. I don't think she has healed 1 bit from the trauma as she shows signs of PTSD during sex.

If na when I still dey street we for waylay the man do am strong thing o... But I have left that lifestyle.

Pls how do we go about this guys?
Like, I feel like she's damaged product and I don't even know if this case will fly if we report it 2 years after it happened?

Advice needed pls 🙏

What do you expect when you give a hungry man guns and ammunitions?

Him go use the guns take full him belle first

Like you can't compare both crimes. If SKULL M1NERS de yab drug pushers for this forum I go just de laff. One literally involves unaliving someone because of his SKULL the other just sells narcs

Both crimes are miles apart in terms of consequences

Sha knack b4 anything

Not so sure about Bill but I'm sure there is a strategic warfare ongoing on all food producing states... Benue, Ebonyi, some parts of Enugu (especially the farming tribes), Kaduna, Borno, etc.

I do think it's a plan to deplete the farm barns and production in order to keep people impoverished and dependent on crumbs so they remain loyal.

This is new info to me

You ever heard of the term, "fallacy of hasty generalisation?"

That's exactly what your premise is based off on. So the entire argument is not valid... And hence a fallacy.

Anyone engaging in such discuss is only engaged in a wild goose chase. It's just like chasing the winds because the buildup to your argument dey wrong.

I've dated a single mom once and she was 1 of the sweetest girls I've ever dated.

She was the entire opposite of even the most singular singlest single babe I've ever dated.

The maternal experience makes them mature in mind and thinking more than most babes their age... Except for some cases when she's a known hoe.

In fact, if no be say she get pikin, I for done end up with am... Like, babe was so sweet I come dey wonder wetin de occur.

She's about the only babe I've dated in my adult age that has told me she loved me. Not like I care about words but it's in the way she says it.

I could be leaving the house for work and she'll run out to the patio/corridor while I'm already at the garage and call out from upstairs telling me she loves me....

... ignoring the fact that she could be heard by others. She made life so easy for me and dating her was peaceful.

She got knocked up when she was 20. And the only reason I broke things up was that thought of her kid & also the thought of 'why she gotta end up with me??'

Else, she's a real keeper

I guess you are young na why u dey write so much epistle on single moms.

By the time u clock 30 and still in the dating pool there is no way on earth you wont date a single mom at least once.

Mercisharelove:
So when sinners meet together, they want to produce a baby?

And more, whenever couples meet they are about to make a baby, to me, I see you as a boy who just got enrolled in medical centre, I hope you study clearly and not confuse your senses.

From the write up; lust is generated by unknown forces triggered through the cells and transported through the feelings and arouses.


Or you are oblivious of the fact that a spirit is given before the bodies are formed, or you want to become another antichrist?

On the contrary, I'm not a boy and I'm actually done with medical school years ago.

Ok you actually did confirm my thoughts... You actually did say having sexual urges or 'lust' is spirit-controlled. I just needed to get that right.

I'm even doing too much replying up to this point as it's obvious you're superstitious so carry on with your 'spirit-filled' thoughts. Sorry to interrupt

Mercisharelove:
That's what you have accepted right? What about the spirit that generated the DNA, DNA you agree with me isn't visible and are found inside the cells of every living.

I don't think I get where you're getting at with this reply and I don't think I wanna go down that rabbit hole with you.

The original post sounds like u were saying having instincts to want to produce a baby is spirit-controlled

Lust is not a spirit. Having sexual urges is a basic primal human instinct. For people who have a hard time catching up... Having sexual urges is something that lies in your DNA or code of life.

It cannot be categorised bad or good.

The handling of such urges or how u fulfill such urge is what should be done properly because the results are serious and a lifetime effect when done wrongly

speedy0420:
Another funny thing I see regularly

You’ll be telling Nigerian guys the truth, and when they see that they cannot argue or counter, they automatically revert to the “it’s only money that matters” argument

And yet they wonder why Nigerian girls nowadays cultivate the gold-digging lifestyle

Cause and effect

Lol nice buildup... Nice points you scored.

in my prime .. when gym was a morning and night thing, I go just notice say people dey stare at me. Not just babes, guys included.

Sometimes I go just dey walka for road lost in my thoughts only for people stares to shock me back to reality. I go come fold my arms make the biceps dey contracted 💪 as I dey punch on my phone screen.... Then give them an extra 10 to 15 seconds.. let them have their fill as they gaze upon my muscular Herculus-like bulky meaty frame, then I leave as soon as their 10 - 15 secs is up.


Me and my guy back then, Oscar, call this the 10 second free subscription view.

Lol gym is life...

Everyone just loves a muscle tank. Both kids, seniors, and adults. Like, I get tired of being stared at.

Kids will be like, "uncle can I see your muscle?" I go now blow my biceps muscles for them. Them go happy

I walk by and I see other guys straighten up automatically lol. It's a big flex.

I remember walking into a lecture hall from the back door and was scanning the class in search of my guys only to notice that about 5 babes wey sidon directly opposite me de look me seriously.

As I scan the room my eyes move go their side all of them just bend head immediately begin look their books. Lol..

To enter public transport nko?
Women go just dey lean on you even if enof space dey on the seat. I actually stopped lifting and started doing more aerobics and boxing to stop gaining bulks.

I was getting tired of the stares. It's draining

If na NGN Tiktok account just forget it. Except you want to use the old guaranteed way -- which is to grow the audience and sponsorship will come.

Let's say na person wey dey US or away open the account and give you the logs or you send them contents which they post on your behalf e for easy. Else , it's pretty hard as you have to depend on gifts which Tiktok takes more than half the value when you convert to fiat money


So your choice. You either get a Yankee Tiktok account and repost the vids. Or you stick with organic growth ..

I Should drop more contents on e-commerce 🤔

For example, I have accounts with less than 1k likes and followers making more money than accounts with hundreds of thousands of followers just by reposting physical products at cheap rates and doing direct response marketing.

So its a rabbit hole that goes beyond just monetisation. You need to have a workable funnel

Sonnobax15:

Awwwwwwwww . Why she come dey cry nah??

For her mind--"Thank you God for sending this mugu to come to my rescue"

Guy you be full. Like she wasn't empty in the first place. Bro get some chill like say your blood dey hot. **Pun intended** 😂

Cooking is a life skill. Like swimming. How on earth do you live in a world filled with more than 80% water and you can't thread water

I Understand that this is just caps but a man isn't just Alpha or Beta. Masculinity isn't just Alpha or Beta there are other shades to it

I agree and disagree to some

Bullfallo:
. I bought it 1800. It look like i was cheated ??is this the one?

That's a good one. Draws like ogbono will make it less painful and more enjoyable for her 😉

Lol believe this at your own peril.

Left for me, they are on an espionage mission. The Russians have been romanticizing with a lot of W.A leaders so far especially Niger and Nigeria.

He has to be there to make sure all is in tact within the military.

telleyway:
I'm not an expert in app development, but you can't find a drag and drop platform or framework for your app development. Here are the reasons:
Mobile apps are user specific than WebApps. That means it's near impossible for you to use same template for two apps, they may be similar but never the same.
Yes there are platforms like bubble, softr and lots of them that you can use for your no code app development, their billing is monthly and in dollars which is way more costly than what you are running from.

Okay thanks for your suggestion I'll check them out now now

Also let's say I want to go into app Devs.. is it a high-in-demand skill and what do I need to know to get started?

Tech bros, what do you think? I need suggestions...

I've really been interested in developing my own apps but I dont want to go into the stress of learning to do it from the dev ops angle. I'm looking at avoiding the coding side of the backend.

I'm looking at designing a Fintech app like Cowrywise or Piggyvest. Or, an app where people can learn how to do digital marketing online (with subscription modes)

Maybe not so complicated as Piggyvest but close... you get the idea, right?

Okay so, I want to know if there's any drag and drop mobile app builder out there I can begin to familiarise myself with.

I also want to know what minimal coding experience I need to have to make this work better for me. For example, I don't need to know any coding to work with WP... The only code I know are the ones I need. Nothing extra ..

I had met with a app developing service provider and they told me it's not something I can fully outsource especially since I'm working on a shoestring budget.

Any help will be appreciated 👍🏾👍🏾

Imagine say you buy food and drink and music for the guy wey de bang your wife-to-be

And this shit go dey happen steady

Some guys no really send. My friend in Uni is friends with his ex and her husband knows him. So it's personal

overseasnbeyond:
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This is just the beginning of hardship because how ??

This is the beginning of the end for most people. Life is hard for a lot of 9jarians

And we still have more than 6 years to go.
It's like a graph 📈 we are on a downward slope/curve and it'll keep dipping till the right measures are put in place. Else the graph keeps dipping

Lordswazz:
Abeg, my brother, if one is to completely avoid seasoning cubes, which natural ingredient we fit take dey season foods again to make am just as tasty?

We fit prep 1 pot of soup with like 1 cube of Knorr seasoning. The one that has 2 small cubes inside. 1 half for meat steaming. The other half for the soup.

Normal okpei or ogiri is perfect it gives your food that local dish flavour. Besides, u also have ginger, pepper and the rest all are a good substitute. Not too much pepper if t hurts your tummy for ulcer patients.

The current Maggi in my house was bought by 1 of my babes. I threw them out after she left .

It's ok in small amounts I think. I don't recommend it in

EreluRoz:
It's maggi, some people don't eat salt at all and they're good to go.

You don't eat salt but you eat Maggi. Joke of the day! 🤡😁

All those sodium bicarbonate food seasonings de cause kidney issues and BP. Make una use Google

Boss, sorry for your troubles.

Sorry. Don't take all the advice you get here on NL because they really don't understand apart from what you've told them. My advice is, don't sleep in that house tonight. That woman fit kill you because its obvious you want to throw her out.

Have you been sleeping in the house? If yes, pls stop. Have you been eating her food? If yes, pls stop.

When is the rent expiring? If the rent is due anytime soon pls leave the house and don't return. Get a room self con and move with some of your properties you need.

Then call your people. Tell them you are really sorry for abandoning them. And explain the situation immediately and ask them for advice.

Maybe you can do a group WhatsApp call.
After they advice you, you can move forward with their idea.

If you have money pls sleep in a hotel. That woman fit stab you for 9t especially as you dey sound. You sound like you not a physically aggressive enough to instill fear in her. So best option is to give yourself space to think.

Also consider telling the chairman of the umunna (kindred) when talking with your family because you will have to discuss the process of returning the palmwine she gave you during betrothal ceremony.


Since you are not so aggressive I suggest you act boldly yet calmly.

No need telling your wife and her fam your plans. No wonder they no take u serious when you said it

No need crying in front of your wife. No need telling the church or neighbours.

Why?

It makes you look weak!!

Enough of the crying. Get over the shock.
This is time to take action

No matter what you do, please don't take her back. Any woman that can have another man's kids can poison you. And u go die saraah!

How did you even find out about this? What led to you finding out?

Una dey spend on top toto sha.

But u suppose know say that babe na streets. If you believe say she loyal till that night then you really no get game at all. ..

Say u get 1 fine street girl upgrade am with money no mean say u be player. E no mean say you get game.

This guy na big ass liar. I done read this same story b4 for NL

skj1377:
EFCC is helping me with a case of N12.5meter since 2019 . That is after I had wasted N1meter with police. The guy has been aligned in court . But EFCC is best. Police are just a waste of time.

Wish you all the best in your case. It isn't eazzy

skj1377:
The N300k is too small. To get court affidavit for PND is N50k but police may charge you N150k to N250k. There is not much you can do. Even at the police station they will charge you to write statement. I think verydarkman can be of help especially since you said it's an online scam.

Exactly what my relatives who is a cop told me.
It's not worth the chase.

The first time I presented a fraud case to EFCC they didn't even let me through the front gate. They told me they don't handle such cases below like 10 meter or so

So Moniepoint is basically protecting a fraudster by chance and doesn't want to get him exposed.

G00dharddick:
Contact moni point and the account will be traced

Moniepoint seems to shy away from such cases. I have mailed them but they asked me to contact my bank. Why is that?

Why do I have to let me bank contact them when I can stand as a human for myself to state my cause?

Sterling Bank on the other hand said it's a police case so there hands no dey since we both had an agreement that didn't go thru.

I feel it's a delay tactics from Moniepoint