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That's ok. . .long as he knows that I am a queen. . .

See the children are what the mother is. . .so we safe there culture preserved. . .

Dont mean it in a mean way but I took a job over that requires me to be here at least 2 yrs. . .

spoilt:
@ameromoge
when you say stuck what do you mean? by recruiting i mean im playing cupid !

No worries Davidylan. . .I'll just take Seun advise and turn to white men. . .they are plentiful in the UK. . .

spoilt:
Ameromoge are you taken? " i'm recruiting"

Not taken. . .But stuck in the UK for 2yrs. . .recruiting for

spoilt:
i know i was rambling quite a bit and being very cynical in all my previous posts. but i want to thank you again for putting this matter in a way that was so much better than the disgusted angle i was coming from. the whole matter is just getting downright ridiculous. i'm not racist at all and i love all people. i have great black female friends. very educated, well spoken, cute, respectful and everything but it almost seems like they are invisible to our men and unappealing to men of other races who can never appreciate black skin and beauty like you rightly noted. this topic just touched on a raw nerve again. .

This is exactly why started this thread. . .because I think black men need to re-evaluate the potential damage they are doing to "the black family" etc. . .

davidylan:
Everybody just dey talk "i'm taken" . . .
May God help us.

Not all of us are taken. . .davidylan. . . but currently I am exclusively dating only white men. . . _{joking. . .I love my black brothas}

spoilt:
you nailed it. yes. you did! thank you.

thank you, just trying to convey your thoughts and feelings on the matter. . .

Seun:
Some black men are strong, and some black men are weak. That's what I'm trying to say. It's an individual thing.

oh seen. . .

Seun:
There is no "they". There is "you", there is "me", there is "that girl" and there is "that boy". Stereotypes are bad!

. . .

they = black men

The strength and determination they represent is unmatched to any other. . .I just wish they could see eternal hope and strength within us,

babyosisi:
And secondly the average black woman is secure in herself that she does not need a white man to catapult her into a higher albeit imagined societal status.

Can I get a "second that motion". . .up in here. . .

Plus aint nothing like a black man, Mmmm Mmmm Mmmm

Seun:
If black men are turning to white women, then black women can equally turn to white men. Where's the problem?

the problem is this my gracious ruler of nairaland,

No other man can appreciate the uniqueness and beauty of a Black women. . .Very few white men find our physical characteristics appealling. . .We do not fit their image of beautiful. . .

babyosisi:
My sister ameromoge,I love you.
That submission was classical.
There is nothing to add or take away.

thank you girl,

@ziddy this is the first time that in the many threads we have shared. . . that I must disagree with you brotha. . .what spoilt says and experiences is a reality for black women everywhere regardless of the continent,

I think you misunderstand her. . .what she is trying to convey to you and the black men on this thread. . . is that given the black man's history and circumstances we (BLACK women) have waited. . .we have never in drobes turned our backs on black men the way that yall (BLACK men) have done us. . . Not certain about other countries but i do know in the states that educated. . .well-to-do black women out number men. . . they are plentiful, with all the characteristics that davidylan and all other balck men seek, however we lack one quality, characteristic we were not born white.  This is not fiction or fantasy. . . and yes legally you have the right to marry whomever you choose. . .but the bigger picture is this what about our black families. . .how do we instill the traditions/culture into the next generation when they no longer have strong roots to hold on to. . .and typically continue to move further and further away from their blackness. . .

There is no other culture more open and forgiving than ours. . .we accept others despite the hurt they have caused in our past and continue to do in our present. . .no other woman can ever love you in totality like a black woman. . .

She has been where you been. . .side by side with you and even when you left her behind for a so called better life. . . if and when you return she takes you back with open arms. . . ready to raise your children and instill values and morals that surpass any other. . .this not to say that we are better than any other woman but that we are your other half. . . your neck if you will. . .when the world degrades you and call you names as your neck I help you hold your head high and give you the strength it takes to face this cruel discriminatory world another day . . .

I nag you because I care, because I want the best from you. . .because this is what I pledge to give you. . . I wont allow you to slip because the world wont and I will only be doing you a disservice if I don't tell you the truth regardless to how much it hurts. . .

As the mother of civilization. . .do you know how it aches my heart to see you turn your back on me. . .to throw away the beauty and hertiage we created. . .

And if you want freedom of choice I have afforded you that as well. . .I have given an array of colors and textures to choose from (there are black women as fair as Ms. Jolie to as dark as Ms. Whoopi) why must you treat me as if I am not good enough to be your queen. . .

I think I will end here and allow you digest what I am saying and pleading to you. . .

I AM NOT A RACIST BUT CANT YOU SEE. . . YOUR INVOLVEMENT WITH HER IS DESTROYING THE US IN WE. . .

dinner m:
its a man's world afterall

which speaks to the reason why the world is in its current condition. . .

[quote author=Red_Lips link=topic=51574.msg1089964#msg1089964 date=1178226256]whitelexi writes like those Geico cavemen.[/quote]True. . . true. . .

Let me make it simple. . .

It is about black men. . .both African and African -American men marrying non black women. . .leaving black women in a marriage squeeze where they are not getting married for the three reasons identified in the article. . .

My question is. . .is this really a problem for Naija women. . . or just Naija and other Black women abroad i.e. in the States and the UK?

Which leaves me wondering what the fascination is with being with women of other races. . .

@whitelexi please. . .it is not equal rights that did it. . .before we point the finger we must first look at self. . .ask yourself how long would you put up with the typical treatment that men give women before you decide enough is enough and assert yourself, need and desires. . .

Men are not the only humans that have wants and needs and just like when you are not satisfied with something you respond to it either by making a change or letting it be. . . compromise or whatever. . .

Respect is earn not given. . .and even if respect is given once lost it needs to be earned. . .

In my work I see loads of stuff but the one thing that strikes me is that women typically take men back after an affair. . . but men typically can't. . .

Why is it so hard for a man to forgive a woman after she cheats on him?

behaviors mental personalities. . .that are turn off's

lazy
alcoholic
dumb
did i say lazy
unambitious
lying. . .dishonest
abusive emotional or physical
playa playa
narsacisstic
free loading
I am certain there is more just cant think of them right now. . .

Men who need a bra
feminine men (not gay tho) just feminine
acne period, but bumps on the back of his head/neck
hairy backs
dirty finger nails
bad teeth actually any oral hygiene problems
short
skinny
and all or most of the things the other ladies have said,