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Came across this article on the internet today,

A new term has arisen to describe the social phenomenon of the so-called "marriage squeeze" for African American females.[6] The marriage squeeze refers to the belief that the most eligible and desirable African American men are marrying non-African American women, leaving those African American women who wish to marry African American men with fewer partnering options. According to Newsweek, 43% of black women between the ages of 30-34 have never been married.[7] Explanation of this phenomenon is threefold. In part it may be due to relatively fewer European American men being willing to marry African American women, as a result of the lingering effects of social ostracism to which past white American men, who have historically pursued relationships with African American women, were heavily subjected.[8] - although today one in five white Americans would seriously consider marrying across the color line nonetheless.[8] It may also be the result of a desire among African American women to marry African American men due to lingering concepts such as racial loyalty, black solidarity, and the internalized stereotypical belief that non-African American men would not find them attractive.[8] Lastly, there is a desire among educated women of all races to "marry up", although rising income for women has lessened this factor.[9] Another confounding factor for African American women may be the disproportionate mortality rate between men and women in the black community: there are only approximately 85 males for every 100 females by the time they reach their child-bearing years.

Interracial marriage disparities for certain groups

A similar trend can be seen in the UK . According to the UK 2001 census [12], Black British males were around 50% more likely than black females to marry outside their race, whereas British Chinese women were twice as likely as their male counterparts to marry someone from a different ethnic group. Among British Asians (South Asians, not including Chinese), Pakistani and Bangladeshi males were twice as likely to to have an inter-ethnic marriage than their female counterparts, while Indian and "Other Asian" males were more likely to have an inter-ethnic marriage than their female counterparts by a smaller percentage.

What do yall think about marrying non black people or is this an issue for African American woman?

@9ja4eva. . .

you talkin to me or who,

@Bolarge and ALL. . .

The truth of the matter is that a playa can do what he do cause he is allowed to. . .by his woman  (all playas have a main girl/guy) and the other woman, In fact the other woman/women will make up lies etc to help him do his thang. . .now occassionally we run across a real slick brotha that has multiple chicks but like someone said this don't last long cause there is only 24 hrs in a day and he gotta make time for sleep,(or his play machine wont work right) so that cuts into his playing time and depending on how many ladies he juggling. . .lets just say his time is short. . . but the key to his game lasting as long as it does is that he tells them what they want to hear. . .  See I you have to make each one believe they are your only one. . . this is easy to do. . .if you are creative. . .

Here are some of the easy signs. . .
Cant be reached. . .at the usual times with too many excuses explaining this or that
Change in routine/behavior (time and clothes wearing makeup if she didnt before etc)
Friends(cover buddies)become very important in terms of amt time spent wit them
Always on the go. . .Cant stay in one place for too long for fear of getting caught
Cant get hard or not interested in sex (tired arses Bodi no be firewood. . .prick no be gas pump either) _{my poor attempt at pidgin}
Cop an attitude and always saying "girl why don't you trust me, or "What you don't trust me now"

The list is ENDLESS. . ._{like this note. . . long o!}

**oops this maybe the wrong signs this may be how to tell when your man/woman is cheating**

Hey where is everybody at, it is this thread that made me join nairaland, Because I like her have friends that speak it, and want to learn, found this thread when i was googling Nigerian pidgin english, would love to learn more, as well as Yoruba,

I'm in a town called Bury St Edmund, about 2hrs away from London, I think I may have to go to London to see more people of color, but I'm about 30 minutes from Cambridge,

My mission and what i came to do is covered, i was referring to fun,

Here in England, finally now what do i do,

Wow, I had forgot I even put this posting up, thank you all for all the warm welcomes, unfortunately I'm about 2 hrs away from London, but only 30 minutes for Cambridge,

IN MARCH I"M MOVING TO ENGLAND,  TO WORK FOR THE AIR FORCE, LOOKING TO MAKE SOME NEW FRIENDS AND PASS THE TIME UNTIL I GET SETTLED,