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Romance / Re: My Experience With A "Virgin Hunter" by Aminzy(m): 11:11am On Jan 02, 2017
Finnish what u start now . . . . . . . . . . I couldn't believe I comment on this post.. . . . .My first comment ever since I join this community

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Religion / Surat-l-kahf(al-khidr) by Aminzy(m): 10:39am On Dec 30, 2016
Surah Al Kahf, which we are encouraged to recite every Friday, contains four main stories for our reflection and guidance. These are
The Companions of the Cave, The Companion of the Two Gardens, Dhul Qarnain and Al Khidr.
Who was Al Khidr?
The story of Al Khidr occurred during the prophethood of Musa (AS). Musa (AS) was one of the mightiest messengers of Allah, but had a humbling experience on his lack of knowledge after his encounter with Al Khidr.
By all accounts, Al Khidr was extremely wise and pious, and was granted knowledge from the Kingdom of Allah. Some scholars speculate that he was a prophet, however, there is no conclusive evidence in the Qur’an or Sunnah on this.
The story begins with the assertion by Musa (AS) to his people that he was the most learned amongst them. As a result he was immediately reprimanded by Allah, and in fact Allah corrected him and told him that there was someone more learned.
Narrated Ubai bin Ka’b: The Prophet (SAW) said: “Once Musa (AS) stood up and addressed Bani Israel. He was asked: “Who is the most learned man amongst the people?” He said: “I am the most learned.” Allah admonished Musa as he did not attribute absolute knowledge to Him (Allah).”
So Allah inspired to Musa (AS), “At the junction of the two seas there is a slave of mine who is more learned than you.” Naturally, Musa (AS) was curious to meet such a person and said: “O my Lord! How can I meet him?” Allah said: “Take a fish in a large basket (and proceed) and you will find him at the place where you will lose the fish.”
Musa (AS) was determined to meet this learned person, even if it involved years of travel. So he set out along with his (servant) boy and carried the fish in a basket until they reached a rock, where they lay down and took a nap. Without them being aware, the fish miraculously came back to life, jumped from the basket and took its way into the sea. When they woke up, they continued the journey without realising that the fish was gone.
Of this, the Qur’an says:
But when they reached the junction of the two seas, they forgot their fish, and it took its way through the sea as in a tunnel. So when they had passed further on (beyond that fixed place), Musa said to his boy-servant: “Bring us our morning meal; truly, we have suffered much fatigue in this, our journey.” (Al Qur’an 18:61 – 18:62)
There the (servant) boy told Musa (AS): “Do you remember when we betook ourselves to the rock, I indeed forgot the fish.” Musa (AS) remarked: “That is what we have been seeking.”
So the pair retraced their footsteps, until they reached the rock and found Al Khidr there. Musa (AS) greeted him and confirmed that he was Musa of Bani Israel. He then added: “May I follow you so that you teach me something of that knowledge (guidance and true path) which you have been taught (by Allah)?” (Al Qur’an 18:66)
In his wisdom, Al Khidr recognised that Musa (AS) would lack the ability to be patient, so he replied:
“Verily! You will not be able to remain patient with me, O Musa! I have some of the knowledge of Allah which He has taught me and which you do not know, while you have some knowledge which Allah has taught you which I do not know.”
However, Musa (AS) was not to be deterred, so he said: “Allah willing, you will find me patient and I will not disobey you in any order.” (Al Qur’an 18:69)
Al Khidr permitted Musa (AS) to accompany him, but on one condition: that Musa (AS) was neither permitted to ask Al Khidr about anything that occurred, nor to intervene, until Al Khidr himself mentioned or explained it to Musa (AS). Musa (AS) agreed, and Al Khidr allowed Musa (AS) to travel with him.
Three Strange Incidents
One day, a ship passed them, and they requested the crew of the ship to take them on board. The crew recognised Al Khidr and gave them passage for free.
While they were in the boat, a sparrow stood on the edge of the boat and dipped its beak into the water a couple of times. Al Khidr said: “O Musa! My knowledge and your knowledge have not decreased Allah’s knowledge except as much as this sparrow has decreased the water of the sea with its beak.” This incident is a reminder to Musa AS how insignificant the amount of knowledge we have, and no matter how much we know, our knowledge is so limited compared to Allah’s SWT. Therefore we are to humble ourselves and always seek knowledge and comprehension from Allah SWT.
Then Al Khidr did something which was shocking to Musa (AS). Before disembarking, he plucked one of the lower planks of the boat out. Musa (AS) was angered by this and asked:“Have you scuttled it in order to drown its people? Verily, you have committed a thing Imr (a Munkar – evil, bad, dreadful thing).” (Al Qur’an 18:71)
Al Khidr reminded Musa (AS): “Did I not tell you, that you would not be able to have patience with me?” Realising his mistake, Musa (AS) said: “Call me not to account for what I forgot, and be not hard upon me for my affair (with you).” (Al Qur’an 18:73)
They continued travelling until they came across a young boy. He appeared to be beautiful and handsome and was playing with other children. To Musa’s (AS) amazement, Al Khidr enticed the boy to a private area and killed him. Appalled, Musa (AS) asked: “Have you killed an innocent person who had killed none? Verily, you have committed a thing Nukr (a great Munkar prohibited, evil, dreadful thing)!” (Al Qur’an 18:74)
Again, Al Khidr reprimanded him, saying: “Did I not tell you that you can have no patience?” (Al Qur’an 18:75) Realising that he was again in the wrong, Musa (AS) promised: “If I ask you anything after this, keep me not in your company, you have received an excuse from me.” (Al Qur’an 18:76)
The pair continued on their way, until they came to a town where all its residents were extremely stingy. They were hungry and asked the townspeople for food, but from house to house, they were refused.
Then the two men found a wall on the verge of collapse. To Musa’s (AS) puzzlement, Al Khidr repaired the wall, even in his hungry and tired state.
Unable to contain himself any further, Musa (AS) said: “If you had wished, surely, you could have taken wages for it!” (Al Qur’an 18:77)
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Religion / Letter To Muslim Sisters by Aminzy(m): 10:53pm On Dec 28, 2016
Dear sister who is planning and wishing to go to Jannah.

My Question is how will u go to Jannah?
By the clothes you put on, so attractive! the color alone calls for Attention. When you actually know Its prohibited for you to adorn urself and walk out with clothes that offer no concealment 2 ur nudity like a goat?
Is this what you call hijab? Is that not your ear-rings you revealed ?
You tie up a scarf call pashmina and you boldly say "my hijab my pride".
And you are aware of proper hijab.
But you say "woah.., that hijab will make me sweat, no compulsion in religion"
Or "I think this top or see through top's gonna make me look completely hot". You go out dressed up like that being unmindful about where your abode and Final destination might be.
I pity that day when the earth shall consume you.
I pity you, on that day when the sun shall be place closer to your head that your brain shall turn to pap and boil with the intensity of the heat.
An unimaginable torture and agony beyond d comprehension of the human mind.
Not only the hijab was incorrect, you also bake your face like a new wife inside her hubby's vìlla.
What a perfect mary kay powder you use, hmmm. . . It sure gives a perfect smooth face.
Wow! Your lips, shining and sparkling, so you also use eyeshadow, hmm mascra really arranged ur eyebrows.

Hmmm. . . What perfumes! Smelling so sharp. And people keep on greeting you.
"Hello Sweerie, excuse me baby, wow! Baby u look awesome" then you smile seducively to them.
You think you are indeed complete?
The worst thing is, you dont conceal your secret you go ahead and upload that picture on facebook, whatsapp, twitter etc.
Your friends keep on hailing you. Saying wow! You are a beautiful to behold!
*head shaking in pity*
Oh dear Muslimah! The second half of a man's deen. Practice the correct hijab and stop this evil that will take u up In a flight and land you In hell.
Go back home and stay in your room, think about your life and know that DEATH will surely come 2day or 2morrow. Death have taken many, WALLAHI, It will take you also. How do you plan to meet Allah? How will u stand before Allah and account 4 ur actions?
Pray in the darkest corner of you house.
That is what the prophet said.
Dont walk out like a beauty contestant.
You are a Muslimah! Not like the ignorant women.
Dont go out except with the proper hijaab.
FEAR ALLAH IN ALL YOU DO.
REMEMBER THAT DAY.
Yaoma yafirul mar'u min akhihi.
Wa ummihi wa abihi wasohibatihi wa banishing likuli imri in minhum yaomaidin sha a nun yughnihi.

"That day shall a man flee from his brother, And from his mother and father, And 4rm his wife and children, Everyman that day will have enough to make him careless of others....

Reflect Dear Sister, take your translated Qur'an, open to suratu a'basa, read it from number 34 till the end. And Surat An-Nur verse 31 till the end.
Allah is ever ready to forgive you if you repent.
Repent pls and pray to Allah to make you a better Muslimah.
I love you sister, and i want us to enter Jannah together.
May Allah purify our intentions and increase us in faith. (Aameen )

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Education / Re: Top 10 Most Preferred Courses In Nigerian Universities. by Aminzy(m): 3:19pm On Dec 17, 2016
I thought u will not include Accounting... #Godsaveyou
Education / Re: University Of Ilorin Holds Her 32nd Convocation Today(photos) by Aminzy(m): 12:34pm On Oct 22, 2016
Congrats bro.....e no easy oooo...trekking from COA to gate.....I just got to know the meaning of better by far....e far true true
Science/Technology / Is Anybody Really Listening by Aminzy(m): 3:55pm On Apr 16, 2016
We are in the age of an abundance of knowledge. Almost anything you want to know is but a click away. Every second, millions of people are broadcasting new messages, publishing new articles and expressing new or recycled ideas. But who is really listening? It is so easy to spend hours online, reading, watching, stalking even, and not actually change your mindset or learn anything new. We surround ourselves with the familiar. We follow those who think like us, who believe like us, who act like us… Even if we follow those few special people who we strive to emulate or who challenge our thinking, are we really listening to their messages? How many tweets are really read before they are re-tweeted? Many people retweet others so that their own fan base will grow. What about those people who like others, so that they will get noticed? Or those who follow the popular, hoping that they too will become popular, whether or not they know what to do with that popularity? I follow hundreds of people on Twitter, but I don’t read 1/1000th of the things they share (if that). Even if I checked Twitter every hour, I couldn’t possible keep up. Facebook is a little easier, because I actually know a lot of my Facebook friends personally, and they are not marketers with messages to sell, although many are trying to promote their organisations and businesses. But I get an idea of what they are saying, though I couldn’t keep up with all of them either, and I certainly do not agree with all of them. On WordPress, I follow close to 100 people at the moment, and I love every blogger I chose to follow…but some post much too often for me to keep up and contribute, as well as also have a personal or even a working life! Maybe I’m just neurotic, but I like to feel like I’m all caught up, but I’m learning that I will never catch up! I guess I’m stating the obvious here. But I don’t think the problem is that there is too much information, as Libraries are beautiful and irreplaceable. The problem is really about the quality of the information and ideas out there. Publishing companies used to be the gate keepers in what information and ideas became available to the public, but with the rise of the Internet and social media, everyone is a publisher! However, I’ve often wondered, if everyone is in the choir, who’s listening? If really no one, or just few people, are really listening, do we care enough to stop and consider the value of our contribution? Certainly, not all can be teachers, not all are leaders, not all are capable managers. Do we know or care what our contribution should be?
Jesus said that we will give account for every idle word we speak (Matt 12:36-37). That’s huge! I can’t defend every word I’ve ever spoken, or shared. If we’re always broadcasting and never listening, especially to God to direct us in the things we should say and share, then we are very likely not saying anything worthwhile. I can’t stop others from broadcasting, and I can’t hinder the followers from following without discretion. But I can do more to ensure that my content deserves its space in the vastness of the online arena, even if I do not attract the following and praise of others. Maybe, the few who are really listening will get something from my thoughtful contribution in a world filled with noise. Photo credit: www.worldreader.org
Religion / Re: Is The Bible Reliable? by Aminzy(m): 10:40am On Jan 24, 2016
There re lot of contradictions in the bible,Y won't there be?........when it is nothing but a story book
Islam for Muslims / Capturing Your Husband’s Heart by Aminzy(m): 12:48pm On Jan 22, 2016
A marriage can be successful when the couple are compatible and united. Without this, their lives will be incomplete and troubled. It is therefore imperative that every wife does her level best to learn the method of capturing her husband’s heart. Without learning this method she can never be successful irrespective of how educated, attractive or wealthy she may be. Wise people have mentioned many methods of harnessing one’s husband’s love. A woman who regards serving her husband and loving him as an important aspect of her Imaan has no option but to practise the guidelines which will be mentioned hereunder. Regard your husband as a wealthy man even though he may be poor. Consult with him in all matters and do as he advises. Never do anything against his wishes and always give precedence to the things that please him. Always be concerned about his peace of mind and never do anything that will cause him grief. Accept whatever he gives you with a happy heart. Do whatever he asks you to do in a manner that he is left without a worry. Always be happy and smiling so that all his worries can disappear merely by looking at you. Fulfil his needs before your own. Feed him as best as you can. If he cannot afford to buy clothes, sew them yourself. Try to do everything by yourself. Never ask him for something that he cannot afford otherwise he will be saddened if he cannot give it to you. If you are destined to have it, you will surely get it without asking. Do not ask him to do anything that you can do by yourself. Never tell him all your problems as soon as he arrives because his mind may already be inundated with other problems. Speak of good things while eating because when a person is happy, even the simplest meal is as tasty as the best delicacy. On the other hand, a delicious meal will seem dull to a troubled mind. When a woman begins telling her husband all her day’s problems as soon as he walks in, his eating, sitting and resting will become difficult. In fact, he may even lose his appetite. Together with upsetting him, such behaviour is also displeasing to Allaah. If Allaah grants you the ability, assist him in his work. Share his problems and console him whenever he has a problem so that the burden may be raised from his shoulders.When he is in debt, assist him to settle it by earning some money without violating the laws of the Shari'ah. If you have somemoney of your own or some jewellery that can be sold, give this to him if he needs it so that he may appreciate the fact that he is more valuable to you than these things. Never remind him about such favours afterwards and do not even make an effort to remember such things. Never neglect your duties to him and always do things that are in his best interests. Try to do all your housework by yourself. Insha Allaah, Allaah will soon show you easier days. Spend as little as possible and try to save as much as you can. If your savings are meagre, never stop saving with the thought that it is too little. Whatever you save will come in handy during rainy days because when days are dark friends are always few. You will then be saved from the humiliation of stretching your hands out in front of others. Your husband will then be amazed at your prudence and farsightedness. Sew your clothing by yourself, cook by yourself and look after the children by yourself. Reply gently when he asks a question. Be gentle when he is angry.Continue fulfilling his rights even if he is unhappy with the wayyou do things. This will please Allaah swt Do your share even though it may be difficult. Be content with whatever he is content with. Spend his wealth with care and with a conscience. Whatever your husband brings home is in your care. You may either apply your inventiveness and capabilities to make your home valuable or you could behave like a slovenly and lazy wife by laying everything to waste. Your poor husband will have no say in the matter. Your home is what you make of it. A skilled and capable wife is never distressed. Everyone seeks refuge from a disorderly and chaotic home. Although difficulties will arise from time to time, sometimes depriving you of food and rest, you must make an effort to keep the house in order because a man will not be able to bear a chaotic home for long. When he cannot find peace and rest at home, he will be forced to find it elsewhere. He may then begin to regard his home and his children as calamities. A good wife is always making an effort for her home to be an example of Jannah. Together with herself being at ease in her home, she does her best to make every occupant of the house comfortable as well. Men appreciate women who are competent and who are able to organise affairs well. It is unfortunate that many beautiful women lack these qualities and have thus become worthless in the eyes of their husbands. It should be borne in mind that most men appreciate inner beauty more than outer beauty. Irrespective of how unattractive or imprudent a woman may be, she will certainly win over her husband’s affections if she is obedient. It is not difficult for every wife to apply all the above principles in her life, thereby earning the devoted love of her husband. However, it is tragic that most women fail to understand this and wrongly think that they will be able to force their husbands into submission by behaving harshly and temperamentally. It is really the women who strive to please Allaah and who serve their husbands with love and gentleness who become the beloved of their husbands and whose husbands would give their lives for them. The husbands of such women will do anything to please them and are proud of them. Such couples are the ones who live happily ever after. Intelligent women avail themselves of such behaviour while foolish women are deprived of it. As an intelligent woman you should always bear the following in mind: Forsake your egotism and your temperamental behaviour. Do not allow pride and selfishness to approach you. Do not speak to a strange man in private. Do not speak ill of your husband in front of another. Do not breathe a word against him. Do not eat before him. Do not discuss matters that do not appeal to him. You can even win over a temperamental husband by diligently serving him. Be as he wants you to be and do what pleases him. Keep his secrets safe within your heart. Beautify yourself as he prefers. Stay away from the company of evil and ill- mannered women. By keeping all the above in mind and practising accordingly, you will enjoy good fortune and your husband will be yours forever. - A Gift For Muslim Bride By Shaykh Muhammad Haneef Abdul Majeed
Islam for Muslims / The Most Important Characteristics For Which A Woman Should Choose A Suitor…. by Aminzy(m): 10:01am On Jan 22, 2016
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Salih al-‘Uthaymeen
(rahimahullah) said:
The most important characteristics for which
a woman should choose a suitor are good
character and religious commitment. Wealth
and good lineage are secondary matters. The
most important thing is that the suitor should
be religiously committed and of good
character, because the woman will not lose
anything with a husband who is religiously
committed and of good character. If he keeps
her, he will keep her on reasonable terms and
if he divorces her he will release her with
kindness. Moreover the one who is religiously
committed and of good character will be a
blessing for her and her children, and she
will learn good attitudes and religion from
him. But if he is not like that, then she should
keep away from him, especially some of those
who are negligent about performing prayers
or who are known to drink alcohol – Allah
forbid.
As for those who do not pray at all, they are
kuffar and it is not permissible for them to
marry believing women, and they are not
permissible for (believing women) either.
What matters is that the believing woman
should focus on good character and religious
commitment. As for good lineage, if that is
present too, then it is better, because the
Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) said: “If there comes to you one
with whose religious commitment and
character you are pleased, then give (your
daughter or female relative under your care)
in marriage to him.”
But if they are socially compatible, that is
better.
[Fatawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah (2/702)][i]Shaykh Muhammad ibn Salih al-‘Uthaymeen
(rahimahullah) said:
The most important characteristics for which
a woman should choose a suitor are good
character and religious commitment. Wealth
and good lineage are secondary matters. The
most important thing is that the suitor should
be religiously committed and of good
character, because the woman will not lose
anything with a husband who is religiously
committed and of good character. If he keeps
her, he will keep her on reasonable terms and
if he divorces her he will release her with
kindness. Moreover the one who is religiously
committed and of good character will be a
blessing for her and her children, and she
will learn good attitudes and religion from
him. But if he is not like that, then she should
keep away from him, especially some of those
who are negligent about performing prayers
or who are known to drink alcohol – Allah
forbid.
As for those who do not pray at all, they are
kuffar and it is not permissible for them to
marry believing women, and they are not
permissible for (believing women) either.
What matters is that the believing woman
should focus on good character and religious
commitment. As for good lineage, if that is
present too, then it is better, because the
Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) said: “If there comes to you one
with whose religious commitment and
character you are pleased, then give (your
daughter or female relative under your care)
in marriage to him.”
But if they are socially compatible, that is
better.
[Fatawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah (2/702)][/i]Shaykh Muhammad ibn Salih al-‘Uthaymeen
(rahimahullah) said:
The most important characteristics for which
a woman should choose a suitor are good
character and religious commitment. Wealth
and good lineage are secondary matters. The
most important thing is that the suitor should
be religiously committed and of good
character, because the woman will not lose
anything with a husband who is religiously
committed and of good character. If he keeps
her, he will keep her on reasonable terms and
if he divorces her he will release her with
kindness. Moreover the one who is religiously
committed and of good character will be a
blessing for her and her children, and she
will learn good attitudes and religion from
him. But if he is not like that, then she should
keep away from him, especially some of those
who are negligent about performing prayers
or who are known to drink alcohol – Allah
forbid.
As for those who do not pray at all, they are
kuffar and it is not permissible for them to
marry believing women, and they are not
permissible for (believing women) either.
What matters is that the believing woman
should focus on good character and religious
commitment. As for good lineage, if that is
present too, then it is better, because the
Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) said: “If there comes to you one
with whose religious commitment and
character you are pleased, then give (your
daughter or female relative under your care)
in marriage to him.”
But if they are socially compatible, that is
better.
[Fatawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah (2/702)]

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Education / Re: Waec Result 2012 by Aminzy(m): 9:26pm On Nov 20, 2015
which year nd wat type of exam
Politics / Re: HID Awolowo's 94-yr Old Brother Weeps Uncontrollably As He Arrives Ikenne(pic) by Aminzy(m): 7:10pm On Nov 17, 2015
DlawTECHY:
When you lose a loved one. It really hurts.
The pain is unbearable, i feel his loss.
She was a great Gem and a true Nigerian mother.
Papa she was a good woman. Please wipe your tears for God does not want her to continue to suffer the hardship that accompanies end time.
God needed an Extra angel and he called Mama.
Does that mean those angels were humanbeing before?God is in control.
Literature / Re: How A Girl"s Visit to My Room Changed my Life ( Short Story) by Aminzy(m): 8:30am On Oct 18, 2015
if house dey burn,rain dey fall,I will wait for d next episode
Politics / April Fool by Aminzy(m): 11:22pm On Mar 31, 2015
Tomorrow is April 1st
Imagine you wake up tomorrow and Jega said
that all the result we've being receiving since
saturday is APRIL FOOL... What will you do
Islam for Muslims / Re: 5 Hacks To Be A Better Daughter by Aminzy(m): 8:49pm On Mar 27, 2015
kemiola89:
It is a religious duty for every Muslims be it male or female to respect and care for their parents.

@post, very inspiring! I especially like the communication part. Having a long and healthy conversations helps us maintain a stronger relationship with them.


Rabbanaghfir Warhamhuma Kama Rabbayaani Sagheera...
Amin ,even d noble prophet said :Al jannatukum ta'ta aqidami umuatikum.
May almighty Allah guide us
Islam for Muslims / 5 Hacks To Be A Better Daughter by Aminzy(m): 4:29pm On Mar 27, 2015
5 HACKS TO BE A BETTER DAUGHTER!
Family and Health Islam for
children Muslim children
Prioritise your parents over other tasks
Source : ProductiveMuslim / 03 Oct 2014
Firstly, we should acknowledge that as a
Muslimah, our first and foremost role is to
worship Allah but then immediately after
fulfilling these obligations, serving our parents
is the best honour we can have
. Allah says in the Qur’an:
“And We have enjoined upon man goodness to
parents. But if they endeavor to make you
associate with Me that of which you have no
knowledge, do not obey them. To Me is your
return, and I will inform you about what you used
to do” [Qur'an Chapter 29: Verse 8].
Allah has endowed upon women so many
challenging yet rewarding roles, but we often
overlook that being a good daughter is one of
the best ways in which we can worship Allah
– whether you are a married woman with
demands from your in-laws or a single
Muslimah who is looking to get married –
remember that you can live your life’s true
purpose by looking after your parents.
As a working Muslimah, I have been fortunate
and blessed to have parents who have always
supported me in my work endeavours;
however, I realise that some of us can take
our parents for granted and this can lead to
us neglecting our duties towards our parents
even though we may not have intended to do
this. So, here are a few hacks I have adopted
to fulfil my obligations towards my parents:
1. Prioritise your parents over other tasks
One of the biggest lessons I have learnt as a
Muslimah is that despite the demands on our
time from work, personal goals and other
aspirations – we must do our best to
prioritise our parents over other less important
tasks. It isn’t easy! However, making sure you
are flexible and checking in with your parents
before making other commitments outside of
work life can really help you manage your
family tasks and fulfil your duties to your
parents. I often block out time in the weekend
to see if my parents need anything and follow
up on any outstanding tasks. It also helps to
have an understanding employer who will be
able to understand that your family comes
first so there may be times where you need to
prioritise them over work.
2. Communicate regularly
I find that there’s nothing better than a cup of
tea with my Mum or chat with my Dad on a
quiet Sunday to build a positive relationship
with your parents. It’s very important to have
open and honest communication with your
parents, and I’ve been fortunate to be able to
have a very close relationship with both of my
parents. Even small chats and giving your
parents time can help them to realise that
they are not taken for granted – as parents
get older all they want is your attention just
as you wanted all of theirs as a child!
Something as simple as going for a walk in
the park or sitting in the living room talking
about life in general regularly can remind
them that they are still the most important
people in your life as you get older and
preoccupied with other commitments in life.
3. Be patient and good to them
I’ve met many sisters who have challenging
family circumstances, some have hopes and
dreams of accomplishing certain goals or
careers in life which their parents do not
support whilst others find themselves
constantly battling the expectations their
parents have of them whilst trying to practice
Islam (trust me I know it’s a long battle!). We
may fall into the trap of shaytan – talking
back to our parents, arguing with them when
we disagree on a matter or even saying
hurtful things to them. But we must remember
that Allah says in the Qur’an that even when
our parents do not not necessarily see things
the way we do, it is important to still be kind
and good to them. Sometimes I have found
that all it takes is a kind word to acknowledge
that your parents want what is best for you so
we should strive to obey and please them
unless their orders go against a command of
Allah. Ultimately, none of us can be perfect
daughters (as much as we may try to be!)
because perfection belongs to Allah alone. We
can however do our best to please our parents
with good words and kind treatment.
4. Give them quality time
One hack that has helped me recently to have
better work life balance is to schedule outings
and quality time with my parents. This could
be something simple and low-budget by taking
your parents to the mosque, having brunch in
your favourite cafe or scheduling a shopping
trip to treat them. This should be time where
you give them your undivided attention and
make them feel like they are worthy of your
time no matter how busy you may get in life.
After all, your parents most likely spent most
of their lives sacrificing and giving up their
own time and desires to care and provide for
you. Spending time with your parents,
especially if you don’t live with them, is
something you try to do even if it means a
regular phone call to let your parents know
that you are thinking of them and that you are
there if they ever need you. This is a huge
positive booster in being a good daughter.
5. Shower them with gifts and du’a
There is a profound hadith which highlights
how we will never be able to be truly grateful
for everything our parents have done for us
especially when we were younger. To this day,
my father will ensure all my siblings are given
an equal share in anything he buys. It is then
only befitting that we do our best to attempt
repaying them by gifting them with things
they like – cooking them dinner, buying
clothes, flowers (I love to buy unique roses for
my mother) or spending on them by taking
them on a trip to ‘Umrah or to Hajj – a
journey of a lifetime.
Finally, the best thing you can give them is
your prayers, as Allah says we should always
recite: “My Lord, have mercy upon them as
they brought me up [when I was]
small” [Qur'an Chapter 17: Verse 24]. We must
remind ourselves that making du’a for our
parents is one of the best actions we can do
for them whether our parents are still with us
today or have departed from this world as the
Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) said: “When a human being
dies, all of his deeds are terminated except for
three types: an ongoing sadaqah (charity),
knowledge from which others benefit, and a
righteous child who makes du’a for
him.” [Muslim]

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Jokes Etc / Omo See Gobe!!! by Aminzy(m): 9:31pm On Feb 28, 2015
I boarded a taxi dz mawni,on getting to my destination,I realised my wallet has gotten lost,omo I was dumbfounded, if not for people's intervention.......I no go know wetin go happen ooooooooooo.Has this ever happen to you before?
Share your experience?
Romance / Re: Do Guys Like This Really Exist? by Aminzy(m): 12:03pm On Feb 25, 2015
I am one ,I am myself......Trust me
Nairaland / General / Help! Help!! Help!!! by Aminzy(m): 8:47pm On Feb 12, 2015
In a situation whereby ur lovely daughter is
on d sick bed (sickness relating to death)
and d doctor ask u to provide #500000 to
rescue her from dying,meanwhile ur old
father is also ill lying on d sick bed(sickness
attached to death) and u re told to provide d
same amount of money to rescue
him.Unfortunately,u were able to gather d
sum of #500000 after running helter
skelter,who will u rescue?and why?
Health / Help! Help!! Help!!! by Aminzy(m): 9:36am On Feb 12, 2015
In a situation whereby ur lovely daughter is
on d sick bed (sickness relating to death)
and d doctor ask u to provide #500000 to
rescue her from dying,meanwhile ur old
father is also ill, lying on d sick bed(sickness
attached to death) and u re told to provide d
same amount of money to rescue
him.Unfortunately,u were able to gather d
sum of #500000 after running helter
skelter,who will u rescue?and why?
Religion / Re: Seening A Prophet For A Wife Confirmation How True? by Aminzy(m): 8:16pm On Feb 07, 2015
acidtalk:
No.

God gave US a brain and heart so we can call on him directly and NOT through any man.

you people fail to realize these men also have problems and also sin but are wise to cry to God and ask for governess directly from God.


some people fear their pastors more than even their creator.
yea some people do nd it's not permissive
Phones / Re: This Man Nid Ur Help,nairalanders by Aminzy(m): 2:19am On Jan 27, 2015
Emeka71:
The battery is self-charging and is better for you.
Hope it won't have repercussion
Phones / Re: This Man Nid Ur Help,nairalanders by Aminzy(m): 1:28pm On Jan 26, 2015
U mean if I go there,they will help me
Health / Re: Ask The Eye Doctor Any Problem Concerning The Eyes by Aminzy(m): 11:56am On Jan 25, 2015
Help pls,what z d solution for blind at birth,no totally blind,d prrson can see but not clearly unless wit d use of glass, any solution pertaining to dis
Phones / Re: This Man Nid Ur Help,nairalanders by Aminzy(m): 11:50am On Jan 25, 2015
Lexusgs430:


Self charging battery, you should patent that battery sharply !!!!
Thank u
Phones / Re: This Man Nid Ur Help,nairalanders by Aminzy(m): 11:50am On Jan 25, 2015
Carlcaresophia:
Hi! You can take your phone to our Carlcare Service Center and ask our colleagues to check it for you. And if you need us to send you the contact information of our service center, pls tell us the city and state you're living in now. Thank you!
Thanks.
I'm in Ilorin in kwara state.
Phones / Re: This Man Nid Ur Help,nairalanders by Aminzy(m): 10:21pm On Jan 22, 2015
post=30040703:


static energy
D solution?
Phones / Re: Phone Engineers On Nairaland Willing To Assist You - Part II by Aminzy(m): 8:58pm On Jan 22, 2015
[color=#000099][/color]I'm using tecno H3
but I discovered that whenever I used up d
battery to less than 40% b4 going to
bed,whenever I wake up,d battery would have
increased it self to sumtin like 70,80 or 90%
even 100% ,please anybody to help
Phones / This Man Nid Ur Help,nairalanders by Aminzy(m): 8:38pm On Jan 22, 2015
[color=#000099][/color]I'm using tecno H3 but I discovered that whenever I used up d battery to less than 40% b4 going to bed,whenever I wake up,d battery would have increased it self to sumtin like 70,80 or 90% even 100% ,please anybody to help
Education / Re: Kwara State Polytechnic 2014 / 2015 Admission Thread by Aminzy(m): 10:23pm On Nov 26, 2014
horlarbycee:
Hi pals, i jes got admitted, pls aw am i to go abt the registration procedure?
. go to a nearby cafe nd start the registration
Education / Re: Kwara State Polytechnic 2014 / 2015 Admission Thread by Aminzy(m): 9:06pm On Nov 26, 2014
Third batch is out oooooo,I can help u to check it,drop ur information
Education / Re: Kwara State Polytechnic 2014 / 2015 Admission Thread by Aminzy(m): 8:32am On Nov 19, 2014
Any accounting student here?
Health / Re: Ask The Eye Doctor Any Problem Concerning The Eyes by Aminzy(m): 10:33pm On Nov 17, 2014
hello doctor, pls someone blind at birth,wats d solution

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