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Romance / Re: My Experience With A "Virgin Hunter" by Aminzy(m): 11:11am On Jan 02, 2017 |
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Religion / Surat-l-kahf(al-khidr) by Aminzy(m): 10:39am On Dec 30, 2016 |
Surah Al Kahf, which we are encouraged to recite every Friday, contains four main stories for our reflection and guidance. These are The Companions of the Cave, The Companion of the Two Gardens, Dhul Qarnain and Al Khidr. Who was Al Khidr? The story of Al Khidr occurred during the prophethood of Musa (AS). Musa (AS) was one of the mightiest messengers of Allah, but had a humbling experience on his lack of knowledge after his encounter with Al Khidr. By all accounts, Al Khidr was extremely wise and pious, and was granted knowledge from the Kingdom of Allah. Some scholars speculate that he was a prophet, however, there is no conclusive evidence in the Qur’an or Sunnah on this. The story begins with the assertion by Musa (AS) to his people that he was the most learned amongst them. As a result he was immediately reprimanded by Allah, and in fact Allah corrected him and told him that there was someone more learned. Narrated Ubai bin Ka’b: The Prophet (SAW) said: “Once Musa (AS) stood up and addressed Bani Israel. He was asked: “Who is the most learned man amongst the people?” He said: “I am the most learned.” Allah admonished Musa as he did not attribute absolute knowledge to Him (Allah).” So Allah inspired to Musa (AS), “At the junction of the two seas there is a slave of mine who is more learned than you.” Naturally, Musa (AS) was curious to meet such a person and said: “O my Lord! How can I meet him?” Allah said: “Take a fish in a large basket (and proceed) and you will find him at the place where you will lose the fish.” Musa (AS) was determined to meet this learned person, even if it involved years of travel. So he set out along with his (servant) boy and carried the fish in a basket until they reached a rock, where they lay down and took a nap. Without them being aware, the fish miraculously came back to life, jumped from the basket and took its way into the sea. When they woke up, they continued the journey without realising that the fish was gone. Of this, the Qur’an says: But when they reached the junction of the two seas, they forgot their fish, and it took its way through the sea as in a tunnel. So when they had passed further on (beyond that fixed place), Musa said to his boy-servant: “Bring us our morning meal; truly, we have suffered much fatigue in this, our journey.” (Al Qur’an 18:61 – 18:62) There the (servant) boy told Musa (AS): “Do you remember when we betook ourselves to the rock, I indeed forgot the fish.” Musa (AS) remarked: “That is what we have been seeking.” So the pair retraced their footsteps, until they reached the rock and found Al Khidr there. Musa (AS) greeted him and confirmed that he was Musa of Bani Israel. He then added: “May I follow you so that you teach me something of that knowledge (guidance and true path) which you have been taught (by Allah)?” (Al Qur’an 18:66) In his wisdom, Al Khidr recognised that Musa (AS) would lack the ability to be patient, so he replied: “Verily! You will not be able to remain patient with me, O Musa! I have some of the knowledge of Allah which He has taught me and which you do not know, while you have some knowledge which Allah has taught you which I do not know.” However, Musa (AS) was not to be deterred, so he said: “Allah willing, you will find me patient and I will not disobey you in any order.” (Al Qur’an 18:69) Al Khidr permitted Musa (AS) to accompany him, but on one condition: that Musa (AS) was neither permitted to ask Al Khidr about anything that occurred, nor to intervene, until Al Khidr himself mentioned or explained it to Musa (AS). Musa (AS) agreed, and Al Khidr allowed Musa (AS) to travel with him. Three Strange Incidents One day, a ship passed them, and they requested the crew of the ship to take them on board. The crew recognised Al Khidr and gave them passage for free. While they were in the boat, a sparrow stood on the edge of the boat and dipped its beak into the water a couple of times. Al Khidr said: “O Musa! My knowledge and your knowledge have not decreased Allah’s knowledge except as much as this sparrow has decreased the water of the sea with its beak.” This incident is a reminder to Musa AS how insignificant the amount of knowledge we have, and no matter how much we know, our knowledge is so limited compared to Allah’s SWT. Therefore we are to humble ourselves and always seek knowledge and comprehension from Allah SWT. Then Al Khidr did something which was shocking to Musa (AS). Before disembarking, he plucked one of the lower planks of the boat out. Musa (AS) was angered by this and asked:“Have you scuttled it in order to drown its people? Verily, you have committed a thing Imr (a Munkar – evil, bad, dreadful thing).” (Al Qur’an 18:71) Al Khidr reminded Musa (AS): “Did I not tell you, that you would not be able to have patience with me?” Realising his mistake, Musa (AS) said: “Call me not to account for what I forgot, and be not hard upon me for my affair (with you).” (Al Qur’an 18:73) They continued travelling until they came across a young boy. He appeared to be beautiful and handsome and was playing with other children. To Musa’s (AS) amazement, Al Khidr enticed the boy to a private area and killed him. Appalled, Musa (AS) asked: “Have you killed an innocent person who had killed none? Verily, you have committed a thing Nukr (a great Munkar prohibited, evil, dreadful thing)!” (Al Qur’an 18:74) Again, Al Khidr reprimanded him, saying: “Did I not tell you that you can have no patience?” (Al Qur’an 18:75) Realising that he was again in the wrong, Musa (AS) promised: “If I ask you anything after this, keep me not in your company, you have received an excuse from me.” (Al Qur’an 18:76) The pair continued on their way, until they came to a town where all its residents were extremely stingy. They were hungry and asked the townspeople for food, but from house to house, they were refused. Then the two men found a wall on the verge of collapse. To Musa’s (AS) puzzlement, Al Khidr repaired the wall, even in his hungry and tired state. Unable to contain himself any further, Musa (AS) said: “If you had wished, surely, you could have taken wages for it!” (Al Qur’an 18:77) Written by Muslim Footsteps http://www.muslimfootsteps.com/?q=AI_Khidr 1 Like |
Religion / Letter To Muslim Sisters by Aminzy(m): 10:53pm On Dec 28, 2016 |
Dear sister who is planning and wishing to go to Jannah. My Question is how will u go to Jannah? By the clothes you put on, so attractive! the color alone calls for Attention. When you actually know Its prohibited for you to adorn urself and walk out with clothes that offer no concealment 2 ur nudity like a goat? Is this what you call hijab? Is that not your ear-rings you revealed ? You tie up a scarf call pashmina and you boldly say "my hijab my pride". And you are aware of proper hijab. But you say "woah.., that hijab will make me sweat, no compulsion in religion" Or "I think this top or see through top's gonna make me look completely hot". You go out dressed up like that being unmindful about where your abode and Final destination might be. I pity that day when the earth shall consume you. I pity you, on that day when the sun shall be place closer to your head that your brain shall turn to pap and boil with the intensity of the heat. An unimaginable torture and agony beyond d comprehension of the human mind. Not only the hijab was incorrect, you also bake your face like a new wife inside her hubby's vìlla. What a perfect mary kay powder you use, hmmm. . . It sure gives a perfect smooth face. Wow! Your lips, shining and sparkling, so you also use eyeshadow, hmm mascra really arranged ur eyebrows. Hmmm. . . What perfumes! Smelling so sharp. And people keep on greeting you. "Hello Sweerie, excuse me baby, wow! Baby u look awesome" then you smile seducively to them. You think you are indeed complete? The worst thing is, you dont conceal your secret you go ahead and upload that picture on facebook, whatsapp, twitter etc. Your friends keep on hailing you. Saying wow! You are a beautiful to behold! *head shaking in pity* Oh dear Muslimah! The second half of a man's deen. Practice the correct hijab and stop this evil that will take u up In a flight and land you In hell. Go back home and stay in your room, think about your life and know that DEATH will surely come 2day or 2morrow. Death have taken many, WALLAHI, It will take you also. How do you plan to meet Allah? How will u stand before Allah and account 4 ur actions? Pray in the darkest corner of you house. That is what the prophet said. Dont walk out like a beauty contestant. You are a Muslimah! Not like the ignorant women. Dont go out except with the proper hijaab. FEAR ALLAH IN ALL YOU DO. REMEMBER THAT DAY. Yaoma yafirul mar'u min akhihi. Wa ummihi wa abihi wasohibatihi wa banishing likuli imri in minhum yaomaidin sha a nun yughnihi. "That day shall a man flee from his brother, And from his mother and father, And 4rm his wife and children, Everyman that day will have enough to make him careless of others.... Reflect Dear Sister, take your translated Qur'an, open to suratu a'basa, read it from number 34 till the end. And Surat An-Nur verse 31 till the end. Allah is ever ready to forgive you if you repent. Repent pls and pray to Allah to make you a better Muslimah. I love you sister, and i want us to enter Jannah together. May Allah purify our intentions and increase us in faith. (Aameen ) 1 Like |
Education / Re: Top 10 Most Preferred Courses In Nigerian Universities. by Aminzy(m): 3:19pm On Dec 17, 2016 |
I thought u will not include Accounting... #Godsaveyou |
Education / Re: University Of Ilorin Holds Her 32nd Convocation Today(photos) by Aminzy(m): 12:34pm On Oct 22, 2016 |
Congrats bro.....e no easy oooo...trekking from COA to gate.....I just got to know the meaning of better by far....e far true true |
Science/Technology / Is Anybody Really Listening by Aminzy(m): 3:55pm On Apr 16, 2016 |
We are in the age of an
abundance of knowledge. Almost
anything you want to know is but
a click away. Every second,
millions of people are
broadcasting new messages,
publishing new articles and
expressing new or recycled ideas.
But who is really listening?
It is so easy to spend hours
online, reading, watching,
stalking even, and not actually
change your mindset or learn
anything new. We surround
ourselves with the familiar. We
follow those who think like us,
who believe like us, who act like
us… Even if we follow those few
special people who we strive to
emulate or who challenge our
thinking, are we really listening
to their messages?
How many tweets are really read
before they are re-tweeted?
Many people retweet others so
that their own fan base will
grow. What about those people
who like others, so that they will
get noticed? Or those who follow
the popular, hoping that they too
will become popular, whether or
not they know what to do with
that popularity?
I follow hundreds of people on
Twitter, but I don’t read 1/1000th
of the things they share (if that).
Even if I checked Twitter every
hour, I couldn’t possible keep up.
Facebook is a little easier,
because I actually know a lot of
my Facebook friends personally,
and they are not marketers with
messages to sell, although many
are trying to promote their
organisations and businesses.
But I get an idea of what they
are saying, though I couldn’t
keep up with all of them either,
and I certainly do not agree with
all of them. On WordPress, I
follow close to 100 people at the
moment, and I love every blogger
I chose to follow…but some post
much too often for me to keep
up and contribute, as well as also
have a personal or even a
working life! Maybe I’m just
neurotic, but I like to feel like
I’m all caught up, but I’m
learning that I will never catch
up!
I guess I’m stating the obvious
here. But I don’t think the
problem is that there is too much
information, as Libraries are
beautiful and irreplaceable. The
problem is really about the
quality of the information and
ideas out there. Publishing
companies used to be the gate
keepers in what information and
ideas became available to the
public, but with the rise of the
Internet and social media,
everyone is a publisher!
However, I’ve often
wondered, if everyone is in the
choir, who’s listening? If really
no one, or just few people, are
really listening, do we care
enough to stop and consider the
value of our contribution?
Certainly, not all can be
teachers, not all are leaders, not
all are capable managers. Do we
know or care what our
contribution should be? Jesus said that we will give account for every idle word we speak (Matt 12:36-37). That’s huge! I can’t defend every word I’ve ever spoken, or shared. If we’re always broadcasting and never listening, especially to God to direct us in the things we should say and share, then we are very likely not saying anything worthwhile. I can’t stop others from broadcasting, and I can’t hinder the followers from following without discretion. But I can do more to ensure that my content deserves its space in the vastness of the online arena, even if I do not attract the following and praise of others. Maybe, the few who are really listening will get something from my thoughtful contribution in a world filled with noise. Photo credit: www.worldreader.org |
Religion / Re: Is The Bible Reliable? by Aminzy(m): 10:40am On Jan 24, 2016 |
There re lot of contradictions in the bible,Y won't there be?........when it is nothing but a story book |
Islam for Muslims / Capturing Your Husband’s Heart by Aminzy(m): 12:48pm On Jan 22, 2016 |
A marriage can be successful when the
couple are compatible and united. Without
this, their lives will be incomplete and
troubled. It is therefore imperative that every
wife does her level best to learn the method
of capturing her husband’s heart. Without
learning this method she can never be
successful irrespective of how educated,
attractive or wealthy she may be.
Wise people have mentioned many methods
of harnessing one’s husband’s love. A woman
who regards serving her husband and loving
him as an important aspect of her Imaan has
no option but to practise the guidelines
which will be mentioned hereunder. Regard
your husband as a wealthy man even though
he may be poor.
Consult with him in all matters and do as he
advises.
Never do anything against his wishes and
always give precedence to the things that
please him.
Always be concerned about his peace of
mind and never do anything that will cause
him grief.
Accept whatever he gives you with a happy
heart.
Do whatever he asks you to do in a manner
that he is left without a worry.
Always be happy and smiling so that all his
worries can disappear merely by looking at
you.
Fulfil his needs before your own.
Feed him as best as you can.
If he cannot afford to buy clothes, sew them
yourself.
Try to do everything by yourself.
Never ask him for something that he cannot
afford otherwise he will be saddened if he
cannot give it to you. If you are destined to
have it, you will surely get it without asking.
Do not ask him to do anything that you can
do by yourself.
Never tell him all your problems as soon as
he arrives because his mind may already be
inundated with other problems.
Speak of good things while eating because
when a person is happy, even the simplest
meal is as tasty as the best delicacy. On the
other hand, a delicious meal will seem dull to
a troubled mind. When a woman begins
telling her husband all her day’s problems as
soon as he walks in, his eating, sitting and
resting will become difficult. In fact, he may
even lose his appetite. Together with
upsetting him, such behaviour is also
displeasing to Allaah.
If Allaah grants you the ability, assist him in
his work.
Share his problems and console him
whenever he has a problem so that the
burden may be raised from his
shoulders.When he is in debt, assist him to
settle it by earning some money without
violating the laws of the Shari'ah. If you have
somemoney of your own or some jewellery
that can be sold, give this
to him if he needs it so that he may
appreciate the fact that he is more valuable
to you than these things. Never remind him
about
such favours afterwards and do not even
make an effort to remember such things.
Never neglect your duties to him and always
do things that are in his best interests. Try to
do all your housework by yourself. Insha
Allaah, Allaah will soon show you easier
days. Spend as little as possible and try to
save as much as you can. If your savings are
meagre, never stop saving with the thought
that it is too little. Whatever you save will
come in handy during rainy days because
when days are dark friends are always few.
You will
then be saved from the humiliation of
stretching your hands out in front of others.
Your husband will then be amazed at your
prudence and farsightedness.
Sew your clothing by yourself, cook by
yourself and look after the children by
yourself. Reply gently when he asks a
question.
Be gentle when he is angry.Continue
fulfilling his rights even if he is unhappy
with the wayyou do things. This will please
Allaah swt
Do your share even though it may be
difficult.
Be content with whatever he is content with.
Spend his wealth with care and with a
conscience.
Whatever your husband brings home is in
your care. You may either apply your
inventiveness and capabilities to make your
home valuable or you could behave like a
slovenly and lazy wife by laying everything to
waste. Your poor husband will have no say in
the matter. Your home is what you make of
it. A skilled and capable wife is never
distressed. Everyone seeks refuge from a
disorderly and chaotic home.
Although difficulties will arise from time to
time, sometimes depriving you of food and
rest, you must make an effort to keep the
house in order because a man will not be
able to bear a chaotic home for long. When
he cannot find peace and rest at home, he
will be forced to find it elsewhere. He may
then begin to regard his home and his
children as calamities.
A good wife is always making an effort for
her home to be an example of Jannah.
Together with herself being at ease in her
home, she does her best to make every
occupant of the house comfortable as well.
Men appreciate women who are competent
and who are able to organise affairs well. It
is unfortunate that many beautiful women
lack these qualities and have thus become
worthless in the eyes of their husbands. It
should be borne in mind that most men
appreciate inner beauty more than outer
beauty. Irrespective of how unattractive or
imprudent a woman may be, she will
certainly win over her husband’s affections
if she is obedient.
It is not difficult for every wife to apply all
the above principles in her life, thereby
earning the devoted love of her husband.
However, it is tragic that most women fail to
understand this and wrongly think that they
will be able to force their husbands into
submission by behaving harshly and
temperamentally. It is really the women who
strive to please Allaah and who serve their
husbands with love and gentleness who
become the beloved of their husbands and
whose husbands would give their lives for
them. The husbands of such women will do
anything to please them and are proud of
them. Such couples are the
ones who live happily ever after.
Intelligent women avail themselves of such
behaviour while foolish women are deprived
of it. As an intelligent woman you should
always bear the following in mind:
Forsake your egotism and your
temperamental behaviour.
Do not allow pride and selfishness to
approach you.
Do not speak to a strange man in private.
Do not speak ill of your husband in front of
another.
Do not breathe a word against him.
Do not eat before him.
Do not discuss matters that do not appeal to
him.
You can even win over a temperamental
husband by diligently serving him. Be as he
wants you to be and do what pleases him.
Keep his secrets safe within your heart.
Beautify yourself as he prefers.
Stay away from the company of evil and ill-
mannered women.
By keeping all the above in mind and
practising accordingly, you will enjoy good
fortune and your husband will be yours
forever.
- A Gift For Muslim Bride By Shaykh
Muhammad Haneef Abdul Majeed |
Islam for Muslims / The Most Important Characteristics For Which A Woman Should Choose A Suitor…. by Aminzy(m): 10:01am On Jan 22, 2016 |
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Salih al-‘Uthaymeen (rahimahullah) said: The most important characteristics for which a woman should choose a suitor are good character and religious commitment. Wealth and good lineage are secondary matters. The most important thing is that the suitor should be religiously committed and of good character, because the woman will not lose anything with a husband who is religiously committed and of good character. If he keeps her, he will keep her on reasonable terms and if he divorces her he will release her with kindness. Moreover the one who is religiously committed and of good character will be a blessing for her and her children, and she will learn good attitudes and religion from him. But if he is not like that, then she should keep away from him, especially some of those who are negligent about performing prayers or who are known to drink alcohol – Allah forbid. As for those who do not pray at all, they are kuffar and it is not permissible for them to marry believing women, and they are not permissible for (believing women) either. What matters is that the believing woman should focus on good character and religious commitment. As for good lineage, if that is present too, then it is better, because the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then give (your daughter or female relative under your care) in marriage to him.” But if they are socially compatible, that is better. [Fatawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah (2/702)][i]Shaykh Muhammad ibn Salih al-‘Uthaymeen (rahimahullah) said: The most important characteristics for which a woman should choose a suitor are good character and religious commitment. Wealth and good lineage are secondary matters. The most important thing is that the suitor should be religiously committed and of good character, because the woman will not lose anything with a husband who is religiously committed and of good character. If he keeps her, he will keep her on reasonable terms and if he divorces her he will release her with kindness. Moreover the one who is religiously committed and of good character will be a blessing for her and her children, and she will learn good attitudes and religion from him. But if he is not like that, then she should keep away from him, especially some of those who are negligent about performing prayers or who are known to drink alcohol – Allah forbid. As for those who do not pray at all, they are kuffar and it is not permissible for them to marry believing women, and they are not permissible for (believing women) either. What matters is that the believing woman should focus on good character and religious commitment. As for good lineage, if that is present too, then it is better, because the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then give (your daughter or female relative under your care) in marriage to him.” But if they are socially compatible, that is better. [Fatawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah (2/702)][/i]Shaykh Muhammad ibn Salih al-‘Uthaymeen (rahimahullah) said: The most important characteristics for which a woman should choose a suitor are good character and religious commitment. Wealth and good lineage are secondary matters. The most important thing is that the suitor should be religiously committed and of good character, because the woman will not lose anything with a husband who is religiously committed and of good character. If he keeps her, he will keep her on reasonable terms and if he divorces her he will release her with kindness. Moreover the one who is religiously committed and of good character will be a blessing for her and her children, and she will learn good attitudes and religion from him. But if he is not like that, then she should keep away from him, especially some of those who are negligent about performing prayers or who are known to drink alcohol – Allah forbid. As for those who do not pray at all, they are kuffar and it is not permissible for them to marry believing women, and they are not permissible for (believing women) either. What matters is that the believing woman should focus on good character and religious commitment. As for good lineage, if that is present too, then it is better, because the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then give (your daughter or female relative under your care) in marriage to him.” But if they are socially compatible, that is better. [Fatawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah (2/702)] 1 Like |
Education / Re: Waec Result 2012 by Aminzy(m): 9:26pm On Nov 20, 2015 |
which year nd wat type of exam |
Politics / Re: HID Awolowo's 94-yr Old Brother Weeps Uncontrollably As He Arrives Ikenne(pic) by Aminzy(m): 7:10pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
DlawTECHY:Does that mean those angels were humanbeing before?God is in control. |
Literature / Re: How A Girl"s Visit to My Room Changed my Life ( Short Story) by Aminzy(m): 8:30am On Oct 18, 2015 |
if house dey burn,rain dey fall,I will wait for d next episode |
Politics / April Fool by Aminzy(m): 11:22pm On Mar 31, 2015 |
Tomorrow is April 1st Imagine you wake up tomorrow and Jega said that all the result we've being receiving since saturday is APRIL FOOL... What will you do |
Islam for Muslims / Re: 5 Hacks To Be A Better Daughter by Aminzy(m): 8:49pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
kemiola89:Amin ,even d noble prophet said :Al jannatukum ta'ta aqidami umuatikum. May almighty Allah guide us |
Islam for Muslims / 5 Hacks To Be A Better Daughter by Aminzy(m): 4:29pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
5 HACKS TO BE A BETTER DAUGHTER! Family and Health Islam for children Muslim children Prioritise your parents over other tasks Source : ProductiveMuslim / 03 Oct 2014 Firstly, we should acknowledge that as a Muslimah, our first and foremost role is to worship Allah but then immediately after fulfilling these obligations, serving our parents is the best honour we can have . Allah says in the Qur’an: “And We have enjoined upon man goodness to parents. But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them. To Me is your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do” [Qur'an Chapter 29: Verse 8]. Allah has endowed upon women so many challenging yet rewarding roles, but we often overlook that being a good daughter is one of the best ways in which we can worship Allah – whether you are a married woman with demands from your in-laws or a single Muslimah who is looking to get married – remember that you can live your life’s true purpose by looking after your parents. As a working Muslimah, I have been fortunate and blessed to have parents who have always supported me in my work endeavours; however, I realise that some of us can take our parents for granted and this can lead to us neglecting our duties towards our parents even though we may not have intended to do this. So, here are a few hacks I have adopted to fulfil my obligations towards my parents: 1. Prioritise your parents over other tasks One of the biggest lessons I have learnt as a Muslimah is that despite the demands on our time from work, personal goals and other aspirations – we must do our best to prioritise our parents over other less important tasks. It isn’t easy! However, making sure you are flexible and checking in with your parents before making other commitments outside of work life can really help you manage your family tasks and fulfil your duties to your parents. I often block out time in the weekend to see if my parents need anything and follow up on any outstanding tasks. It also helps to have an understanding employer who will be able to understand that your family comes first so there may be times where you need to prioritise them over work. 2. Communicate regularly I find that there’s nothing better than a cup of tea with my Mum or chat with my Dad on a quiet Sunday to build a positive relationship with your parents. It’s very important to have open and honest communication with your parents, and I’ve been fortunate to be able to have a very close relationship with both of my parents. Even small chats and giving your parents time can help them to realise that they are not taken for granted – as parents get older all they want is your attention just as you wanted all of theirs as a child! Something as simple as going for a walk in the park or sitting in the living room talking about life in general regularly can remind them that they are still the most important people in your life as you get older and preoccupied with other commitments in life. 3. Be patient and good to them I’ve met many sisters who have challenging family circumstances, some have hopes and dreams of accomplishing certain goals or careers in life which their parents do not support whilst others find themselves constantly battling the expectations their parents have of them whilst trying to practice Islam (trust me I know it’s a long battle!). We may fall into the trap of shaytan – talking back to our parents, arguing with them when we disagree on a matter or even saying hurtful things to them. But we must remember that Allah says in the Qur’an that even when our parents do not not necessarily see things the way we do, it is important to still be kind and good to them. Sometimes I have found that all it takes is a kind word to acknowledge that your parents want what is best for you so we should strive to obey and please them unless their orders go against a command of Allah. Ultimately, none of us can be perfect daughters (as much as we may try to be!) because perfection belongs to Allah alone. We can however do our best to please our parents with good words and kind treatment. 4. Give them quality time One hack that has helped me recently to have better work life balance is to schedule outings and quality time with my parents. This could be something simple and low-budget by taking your parents to the mosque, having brunch in your favourite cafe or scheduling a shopping trip to treat them. This should be time where you give them your undivided attention and make them feel like they are worthy of your time no matter how busy you may get in life. After all, your parents most likely spent most of their lives sacrificing and giving up their own time and desires to care and provide for you. Spending time with your parents, especially if you don’t live with them, is something you try to do even if it means a regular phone call to let your parents know that you are thinking of them and that you are there if they ever need you. This is a huge positive booster in being a good daughter. 5. Shower them with gifts and du’a There is a profound hadith which highlights how we will never be able to be truly grateful for everything our parents have done for us especially when we were younger. To this day, my father will ensure all my siblings are given an equal share in anything he buys. It is then only befitting that we do our best to attempt repaying them by gifting them with things they like – cooking them dinner, buying clothes, flowers (I love to buy unique roses for my mother) or spending on them by taking them on a trip to ‘Umrah or to Hajj – a journey of a lifetime. Finally, the best thing you can give them is your prayers, as Allah says we should always recite: “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small” [Qur'an Chapter 17: Verse 24]. We must remind ourselves that making du’a for our parents is one of the best actions we can do for them whether our parents are still with us today or have departed from this world as the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “When a human being dies, all of his deeds are terminated except for three types: an ongoing sadaqah (charity), knowledge from which others benefit, and a righteous child who makes du’a for him.” [Muslim] 2 Likes |
Jokes Etc / Omo See Gobe!!! by Aminzy(m): 9:31pm On Feb 28, 2015 |
I boarded a taxi dz mawni,on getting to my destination,I realised my wallet has gotten lost,omo I was dumbfounded, if not for people's intervention.......I no go know wetin go happen ooooooooooo.Has this ever happen to you before? Share your experience? |
Romance / Re: Do Guys Like This Really Exist? by Aminzy(m): 12:03pm On Feb 25, 2015 |
I am one ,I am myself......Trust me |
Nairaland / General / Help! Help!! Help!!! by Aminzy(m): 8:47pm On Feb 12, 2015 |
In a situation whereby ur lovely daughter is on d sick bed (sickness relating to death) and d doctor ask u to provide #500000 to rescue her from dying,meanwhile ur old father is also ill lying on d sick bed(sickness attached to death) and u re told to provide d same amount of money to rescue him.Unfortunately,u were able to gather d sum of #500000 after running helter skelter,who will u rescue?and why? |
Health / Help! Help!! Help!!! by Aminzy(m): 9:36am On Feb 12, 2015 |
In a situation whereby ur lovely daughter is on d sick bed (sickness relating to death) and d doctor ask u to provide #500000 to rescue her from dying,meanwhile ur old father is also ill, lying on d sick bed(sickness attached to death) and u re told to provide d same amount of money to rescue him.Unfortunately,u were able to gather d sum of #500000 after running helter skelter,who will u rescue?and why? |
Religion / Re: Seening A Prophet For A Wife Confirmation How True? by Aminzy(m): 8:16pm On Feb 07, 2015 |
acidtalk:yea some people do nd it's not permissive |
Phones / Re: This Man Nid Ur Help,nairalanders by Aminzy(m): 2:19am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Emeka71:Hope it won't have repercussion |
Phones / Re: This Man Nid Ur Help,nairalanders by Aminzy(m): 1:28pm On Jan 26, 2015 |
U mean if I go there,they will help me |
Health / Re: Ask The Eye Doctor Any Problem Concerning The Eyes by Aminzy(m): 11:56am On Jan 25, 2015 |
Help pls,what z d solution for blind at birth,no totally blind,d prrson can see but not clearly unless wit d use of glass, any solution pertaining to dis |
Phones / Re: This Man Nid Ur Help,nairalanders by Aminzy(m): 11:50am On Jan 25, 2015 |
Lexusgs430:Thank u |
Phones / Re: This Man Nid Ur Help,nairalanders by Aminzy(m): 11:50am On Jan 25, 2015 |
Carlcaresophia:Thanks. I'm in Ilorin in kwara state. |
Phones / Re: This Man Nid Ur Help,nairalanders by Aminzy(m): 10:21pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
post=30040703:D solution? |
Phones / Re: Phone Engineers On Nairaland Willing To Assist You - Part II by Aminzy(m): 8:58pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
[color=#000099][/color]I'm using tecno H3 but I discovered that whenever I used up d battery to less than 40% b4 going to bed,whenever I wake up,d battery would have increased it self to sumtin like 70,80 or 90% even 100% ,please anybody to help |
Phones / This Man Nid Ur Help,nairalanders by Aminzy(m): 8:38pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
[color=#000099][/color]I'm using tecno H3 but I discovered that whenever I used up d battery to less than 40% b4 going to bed,whenever I wake up,d battery would have increased it self to sumtin like 70,80 or 90% even 100% ,please anybody to help |
Education / Re: Kwara State Polytechnic 2014 / 2015 Admission Thread by Aminzy(m): 10:23pm On Nov 26, 2014 |
horlarbycee:. go to a nearby cafe nd start the registration |
Education / Re: Kwara State Polytechnic 2014 / 2015 Admission Thread by Aminzy(m): 9:06pm On Nov 26, 2014 |
Third batch is out oooooo,I can help u to check it,drop ur information |
Education / Re: Kwara State Polytechnic 2014 / 2015 Admission Thread by Aminzy(m): 8:32am On Nov 19, 2014 |
Any accounting student here? |
Health / Re: Ask The Eye Doctor Any Problem Concerning The Eyes by Aminzy(m): 10:33pm On Nov 17, 2014 |
hello doctor, pls someone blind at birth,wats d solution |
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