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Uchesis: There was dis gal in her late 20's in my neighbourhood some yrs bck. She was damn ugly, skinny, dirty-looking, and shapeless. She was a virgin then.

I guess u guys already knw y...

Our virginity sometimes is due to lack of opportunity.

yertyr: then bath regularly with green soap.

tashanja: I hear it can be caused by too much twerking

heed101: Z d OP Kim? Cos

nony30: Abeg they should leave Lola alone!most of our girls do Įt in hiding or else where.

baybiemee: mine was a couple of years back, i was in the market wen my skirt unhooked and dropped to my ankles, i sharply pulled it up dat very second and continue walking leaving behind a trail of laughter

mima2012: I fell off my Seat on my wedding day

madridsta007: Been following this post since it started, but I haven't had the chance to comment as I would have because of work. I've had watery eyes at the stories (will I say testimonies of ladies) here, and I wonder, are men so callous? But I know men could be callous, but not all men are callous.

A piece of my advice:

1. Once you have crossed that age of 18, ladies please be aware that legally, you are responsible for whatever happens to you. It's the cold truth. If you walk into a relationship and the guy beats you, the law sees it as your fault. If he molests you, cheats on you, if he goes out with you 10 years and dumps you, the law sees it as your fault. Be guided.

2. Many ladies are too eager and quick to jump into a relationship. Sometimes I wonder if it is a competition somewhere or some bet they made with a third-party. Please realise, the primary person who suffers or enjoys the relationship is you and not the third party. Use your head and brain to go into a relationship and not your heart. Relationship is about handling emotions, more often than not. Your heart can be broken, your head can not.

3. What is the best time to go into a relationship? Hmmm... When you feel you are ready. Physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, materially too. Don't jump into it. While you are waiting, do something to improve yourself. Concentrate on your education. Learn a craft. Join educational and social societies and improve your leadership and interpersonal skills. Travel the world. Enjoy your career. Improve your personality. Focus on impacting your family and your generation. The guy will come, this time around he is rarely attracted to the body, but to the real you.

4. When he comes, first thing first ensure you both set your goals. Time's short, don't give your 5 years to a time waster. Please, please, no sex. A guy that ask for sex, isn't worth your time, he will never change. Once he gets it, he'll hop away to the next available girl.

5. Girls please be aware that we guys are very cunning. They'll do what they can to get you. Ensure you stay as 'Miss Independent' to them- never depend on guys, at least not now. The time will come for that. I tell ladies that whatever character or trait a guy displays now, be aware that its been his behaviour since childhood. A guy that disrespects his mum and beats up his sister, will end up beating you. Don't ignore the warning signs, run away. A guy from a dysfunctional home background will molest you at one point. Don't give him 'time', please run. A guy that sleeps around, and when you catch him, he begs you and says 'baby I won't do it again'- please run.

6. Sorry if I sound harsh guys, I have to be truthful. Ladies, know what his goals are. I know ladies are driven by material things, but please in order not to become a victim along the line, please stop looking for 'material guys'. Material guys never make material husbands. Quit the search for rich, tall, handsome, sexy, well-travelled and connected guy, he would use you as a material, a dispensable material. Instead your concern should be his character, his life vision, his passion for The Lord, his motivation, his potential. I am not saying that you should look for an 'ugly' guy, but do not make handsomeness a focus.

7. I respect ladies that are virgins, I respect guys who are too. When people say, there are no virgins, I laugh at them, as there are. I am one too ( lol, I like boasting about it). For ladies that are virgins, please on NO condition should you open your legs to a guy or get intimate with a man unless he is your husband. Ladies that are not, the same advice applies. If he loves you, he'll wait, if he wants it badly, he'll put a ring on that finger.

8. When the relationship starts, never ever ignore and abandon close friends and families. You'll need them always.

9. Let your relationship be defined. I don't think anyone should be in a relationship unless it leads to the altar. If it doesn't lead to it, then you are wasting your time my sister. He should tell you his goals. And you guys should have a goal-fit. He should lead you to know his close friends, families, wider friends and associates. He draws you inside his internal circle. Show you are dependable, show you are a good adviser. Warning, do not show disdain or petulance for anyone he calls a 'Childhood friend' or a 'Family'- to him those ones are indispensable, while at the moment you are dispensable.

passionate88: virginity doesn't make u a gud wife material, character and intergrity does.... I had a story I'd ve liked to share wit d gals bt I'm kinda busy at the moment..

cowgurl: Dating some dude shouldn't be a gurl's priority, she should instead focus more on finding and developing herself.
...she's scared and worried that if she does not say yes to the dude bugging her ears with lies right now, she might not find another-a brainwash lie, not true.
respect yourself, know whatch yhu got and be yourself where/when ever, and trust me, every other things will surely be added unto you.

secondly, go to bed with a guy because you want to, and not because he wants you to and yes, a BIG SHOUT OUT to all tha virgins out there-don't let any arsehole treat you lesser than you deseved.

hello poster, great thread by the way.

AmBeautiful: You are not my type!
Idowuogbo fits better
I would still sue you though, dont distract me!
And stop derailing this thread

AmBeautiful: You are not my type!
Idowuogbo fits better
I would still sue you though, dont distract me!
And stop derailing this thread

omega25red: how are men the worst? am i lying from my assessments?

if a stranger gave you a kiss wouldn't you slap the piss outta me?
if i gave you a thong you know the rest
don't women wear weaves because they are trying to emulate some idea of who they think is the ideal beauty?
and if i gave you a punch, wont you report me to your fam and have em whoop my azz?