That means you are also a narcissist because only narcissists do this, and only foolish girls stay with guys like that
Ladies know your worth and do not allow men belittle and degrade you, when you know he has other women, be gone.
Even you giving this advise cannot apply it. As long as a relationship still meets any lady's major objective, she will still find reasons to stay put with even the devil.
Is your mom the child’s mom? Don’t let your children grow up resenting you because you robbed them of having a relationship with their own mother. No one owns the children in a divorce. Your children are human beings and not furniture.
Op you sound controlling. You need therapy. The fact that you think you should be able to tell your wife what to do is disturbing. If you advise your woman in love and guidance she will listen as opposed to you telling her what to do as a robot.
Why does she have to understand you? why can’t you also try understand her? Life has 2 sides, you need to compromise and meet halfway..
You have a typical mentality of a feminist that make you all fail in relationship or marriage. You don't want anyone to control your excesses, yet all of you are dying to have a husband.
A husband is called a groom for a reason. His job involves pruning the wives excesses and conforming her with the vision and direction he wants the marriage to go in the interest of the home. This will also help in protecting the wife from dangers and temptations which they are naturally not equipped to contain by themselves, thereby saving the man unnecessary crisis management.
If you don't anticipate being controlled or corrected, then no need getting married because it will always end in divorce.
Bro you made life together with your wife, a beautiful child, put your differences aside and try to nuture it together. Don't give up just yet.
Put in effort even if it's onesided from you. Make her fall in love with you.
When you get her back, don't try to 'control' her because she'd put up resistance. It's not about feminism. It's human nature to react like that.
So the man should fight for the marriage involving a disinterested partner. Are you so naive that you cannot interprete what that attitude coming from a woman in relationship means? Children everywhere.
madridguy: 1. Peter Obi lied that President Tinubu paid for 1411 people to go for #COP28 with government money. Only 422 of the delegates of Nigeria were publicly funded.
2. That was not my voice promising 'religious war' against the Muslim Ummah on the Yes Daddy audio and I will sue Peoples Gazette. Nine months later, he had still not sued PG.
3. Peter Obi claimed there are 20 million out-of-school children in Northern Nigeria. That is a lie.
4. The timing of Lagos demolitions is wrong (Yet Peter Obi personally led a demolition team to demolish illegal structures as Anambra Governor).
5. He claimed his budgets as Governor weren't wasteful, but he budgeted more for his office, than for health in Anambra.
6. On November 22, 2023, Peter Obi lied that he accompanied the President of America on a trip. That was a lie. Official records on the White House website indicate otherwise.
7. He claimed that the US President pays for his own food, but a search on the White House website indicates that the White House food budget covers most of the costs of the US President's meals, although there are some that the President pays for.
8. I employed 60% of Anambra people in IBL Brewery (IBL employs less than 0.06 of Anambra’s population).
9. Out of 150 players in the American NBA, almost 100 are Nigerians.
10. I did not leave debt in Anambra (actually, he left debt, according to the Debt Management Office).
11. Tinubu sent out WhatsApp messages against me that I would destroy Lagos (actually, the blast was sent out by Powell Glad Legbe, an Obidient).
12. Nigeria exported less than $30 billion in 2021 (Nigeria has exceeded $30 billion in exports for over a decade).
13. I am the first Governor to be impeached and reinstated in Nigeria (actually Ladoja was the first).
14. I have never been involved in corruption (according to the International Consortium of Investigative Journalists, Peter Obi corruptly ferried money out of Nigeria and stashed it in secret accounts).
15. My investment in SABMiller is now worth $100 million (actually, the Obi government’s investment of $12.24 million is now worth only $5.38 million)
16. The Governors of the Southeast founded ESN (actually, ESN was founded on December 13, 2020 by Nnamdi Kanu).
17. I have only one wristwatch (Peter Obi has been photographed with multiple wristwatches).
18. I don’t fly private jet (pictures don’t lie!). Obi was pictured alighting from a private jet.
19. The British government apologized to me after retaining me at Heathrow. Inquiries from the UK High Commission in Abuja indicated no such apology by the British Government to Mr. Obi.
20. Peter Obi claimed NEXT was dissolved. Investigations revealed that the UK government did not dissolve the company. Rather, it was punitively struck off after failing to file annual returns.
21. Peter Obi claimed that apart from Venezuela, Nigeria is the only OPEC nation not meeting its quota. That is a lie. Data from OPEC's website shows that no OPEC country meets its production quota.
22. He said Nigeria has 60% youth unemployment. However, according to the National Bureau of Statistics, this is false.
Reno Omokri.
You will labour in vain in attempt to destroy Obi's reputation because of 2027. He will surely be standing taller than he did in 2023 and the masses will still vote for him as they did before.
Just advise your drug-peddling president to get his acts right and fix the economy. Therein lies his respite, not in fruitless propaganda
englishmart: Learn a skill, and develop yourself and your grammar, especially. An articulate carpenter stands more chance than a more experienced carpenter.
I cant agree more. An articulate person that is interested in carpentry can brand himself and even employ an experienced carpenter to work for him for just a tiny fraction of what he gets as reward for his respectable brand.
FreeStuffsNG: Umahi is already looking ahead of 2039.
He knows that his people don't have the strategic and political advantages of the 3 majority tribes of Hausa, Yoruba and Fulani so if he can get his base with APC, he can now present it as a basis for negotiation and collaboration with at least 2 of those 3, especially the Yoruba in Southern Nigeria, who have the majority power , votes and population to determine where the pendulum swings in every democratic Presidential election in Nigeria. Democracy is a game of numbers. Check my signature for free stuffs!
It is a shame that you sleep, drink and eat tribalism. Tell me how an average yoruba man is enjoying Tinubu's government more than their counterparts in other ethnic groups. Igbos will never bother about who is the president of Nigeria as long as he is delivering results. From the country's current economic situation, the position they took in the last presidential election has once again been vindicated just as they were vindicated in most of the past elections. Why most other Nigerians gang up to elect foolish leaders every election season, obviously to spite Igbos, and then turn around to lament poor governance afterwards should be the discussion.
ILoveNG: I remember my late grandfather once said "it's the behavior of the guest that will determine the behavior of the host"
A wise man he was
Nobody is anyone's guest or host. You are not housing or feeding anyone in Lagos. So perish that thought and continue doing your worst using instrument of government. One day, we shall look back and announce the results.
EZENDIZUOGU: Your best gift to them is to bring back their mother home, nothing pleases a child like the meal and love of a mother. you cant play that role better than their mum, no matter the amount of gift you buy for them. My 10k advice
You cannot relate because you are obviously single or a married wussie.
PETER OBI CLAIMED HE ACCOMPANIED THE US PRESIDENT TO A HOTEL WHERE THE US PRESIDENT PAID FOR HIS OWN MEALS!
IS THIS THE IDIOT THAT WANTS TO BE PRESIDENT OF THE FEDERAL REPUBLIC OF NIGERIA?
HE'S NOT EVEN SMART ENOUGH TO LIE WITH SENSE.
VILLAGE MAN.
DISGUSTING.
THANK GOODNESS HE NEVER SMELT THAT PRESIDENCY, AND HE WILL NEVER, BECAUSE HE'S A CHRONIC LIAR.
IF HE CAN LIE ABOUT A SMALL THING LIKE THIS, IMAGINE THE HUMUNGOUS, MONSTROUS LIES HE WILL TELL AS PRESIDENT WHEN HE ACTUALLY HAS POWER TO DO ALL SORTS OF THINGS!
NONSENSE.
ONE MORE THING.
EVEN HE WON THE ELECTION (WHICH HE DIDN'T), HE WAS RIGHTLY STOPPED FROM TAKING POWER, BECAUSE HE IS A THREAT TO THE FEDERATION.
YOU CANNOT BE A BARE-FACED LIAR, DECEIVE NIGERIANS WITH LIES, AND THEN WHEN THEY FOOLISHLY VOTE FOR YOU AS A RESULT, YOU WILL NOW BECOME PRESIDENT OF NIGERIA.
NEVER.
Your reasoning is at par with a kindergarten pupil's
This is the worst fears of the far right Politicians ruling Israel. They are literally doomed and the next phase of the war is inside Israel. Right now the body in charge of prosecuting the war and the ruling exco are at loggerheads yet Isreal has no exit strategy from Gaza. US has remained adamant that Israel must not take any inch of Palestine land anymore and the normalisation of ties between Israel and Arab countries the Israeli badly needed has now been frustrated and stopped by Hamas.
The Netanyahu administration has gained nothing and is behaving like alagbara ma mo ero. He was aggravated and he fell for it.He won a battle but lost the war.
After killing thousands of defenceless infirms, infants, babies, children and women in Palestine you think you can go to bed again? It's like expecting Macbeth not to end in infamy.Check my signature for free stuffs!
This man is very funny. See as Hamas is earnestly looking forward to ceasefire. Israel has irreversibly roasted and decimated Hamas. They will never dream of such stunt again.
As for your assertion that children, women and other vulnerables were killed by Israel, look deeply into the mirror and see a hypocrite. Tit for tat is the name of the game and two can play it adequately.
Anyone used by terrorists to shield themselves from Israeli bombardment, deserve to suffer the fate of terrorists: agonizing death.
God1000: Good news, too many innocent people have died.
It appears netanyahu government is finally bowing to international pressure, though we need more than 5 days of truce.
We need a complete cessation of hostilities, Israel should not expand military offensive into southern Gaza where it has told civilians to take shelter because they are planning to do so.
I have no problem with any country fighting a terror war, but it becomes an issue if you end up killing tens of thousands of civilians and not the actual terrorists you claim to be fighting and then disregard international humanitarian law by cutting food, water, fuel and electricity to civilian population
such collective punishment is evil and it's against christian values.
To my fellow christian brothers and sisters support the genocide, where is your good heart?
Yoruba muslim...you go cry tire. Trouble dey sleep, inyanga go wake am up
God1000: Shame on Israel,, I said it the other day and I was heavily criticized.
I'm yet to see the dead bodies of Hamas fighters Israeli soldiers killed in that hospital, they are only showing us fake weapons.
Hamas had ample of time to evacuate all those things if there was indeed an underground tunnel as Israel has claimed, there were signs and warnings of imminent Israeli assault on that hospital.
I believe CNN because they have their people on ground in Gaza covering everything, they move around with Israeli soldiers
Netanyahu has a lot of questions to answer
Akeem, a frustrated Yoruba muslim. You go explain tire
There's no region with worst state of roads like south east.
My joy is that the road is a transit route open to every Nigerian especially northerners. No be their trailers full for that trench? Any harm done on SE affects all because they cannot do without us.
henrimoto: Where is your brother's current location ?
Can't your brother make arrangements to hand-over the vault keys to the bank management. ?
The lady is already doubting the marriage. In her mind, she is like, "is this what I will face in this marriage?" No Attention!
Was it just attention that got her attracted to him in the first place? The bank job and the financial security it brings is obviously the main attraction. The groom should protect it jealously because the way it attracted the first leech is the way it will attract more and more of them. If he dares looses it to simp-ing, it will be terrible.
God1000: This is propaganda just to deceive the credulous and justify the brutal invasion of Gaza and the massacre of babies.
Underground tunnels are built in big hospitals all over the world for emergency use, as for those weapons, I don't trust Israeli military, why will Hamas leave weapons behind knowing fully well that Israel will use it to build a case against them?
The human tragedy that is unfolding in Gaza is heart-wrenching and Israel won't go unpunished.
UN should consider sending the protection force to Gaza immediately.
I stand with the people of Palestine
Yoruba muslim mumu. Why stand with Palestines? Try another posture because standing seems not to be working.
yinkus6750: This is serious. Adopted daughter from generation of Jezebel. Slept with father and son. But, who the hell is leaking this at such a period Mr Ibu is struggling for his life ?
The woman in that audio convo obviously did. Didn't you hear how she was leading Mr. Ibu on in the conversation, asking and answering the questions herself while Ibu kept mum.
seeme2: Igbo people refuse to give up. Thesame propaganda that led your grandparents and parents nowhere. See what your grandparents did to your parents. You are bent on doing thesame yo your own children? Too bad.
Your evil forebears starved innocent children to death during the war and here you are making mockery of them by circulating their malnourished pictures all over the internet. Your children will suffer more than those in the picture you posted. Amen
Terrorists and terrorist sympathisers deserve the same fate. When "infidels" are killed, every of them shouts Allahu Akbar, when the infidels fight back real hard, pictures of dying children float all over the screen. No emotions to waste.
amstamon: Rubbish! What's she insinuating? That the groom is a woman beater or has an history on woman abuse?. Check very well, e go either be say the bride stubborn gan that her ex dey beat her or the mother herself has suffered from the father abused hence her rubbish yarn. Well, such speech cannot happen if its my wedding or else I'll caution her immediately as e dey hot before she'll start giving some guests a bad impression about me.
If i were the groom, would have subtly given it back to her there and then by way of asking her to balance the caution - her daughter should also be advised to respect your husband. The marriage is already starting on wrong footing. You know what ladies are capable of doing when they think you are helpless. That's why it is always good to marry from your class or below. Such shits only happen when you marry from a family that think they are doing you a favour.
akinsmail51: Hadith on a person who divorced his wife by three pronouncements and intended to remarry her.
BULUGH AL-MARAAM HADITH 1004
'Aishah reported, "A person divorced his wife by three pronouncements. Then another person married her and he also divorced her without having consummation. Then her first husband intended to remarry her. It was about such a case that Allah's Messenger was asked. Whereupon he said, 'No, until the second one has tasted her sweetness as the first one had tasted."
Related by Bukhari and Muslim, but this wording is related by Muslim.
Explanation by Shaykh Al Uthaymeen
“A person divorced his wife by three pronouncements." He meant three consecutive divorces in one utterance because this was considered one divorce in the era of the Prophet.
Wherever you come across "A person divorced his wife by three pronouncements," this indicates one divorce after another.
So, there are many narrations like (divorced her three divorces).
It was mentioned earlier that the latter husband must consummate the marriage.
So, if he made the contract, but without consummation, then divorced her, she will not be lawful to the former husband.
"Has tasted her sweetness."
Does sweetness indicate ejaculation or just having sexual intercourse?
The right opinion indicates it is just sexual intercourse.
So, she is lawful to the former husband despite the absence of ejaculation because sexual intercourse itself is enough as the Prophet said, "Sweetness."
Although, ejaculation is more assuring.
Therefore, we can say she is not lawful to the former husband until the latter husband consummates the marriage.
However, if he divorced her without having sexual intercourse, despite having privacy, kissing or hugging, she would not be lawful to the former husband without the consummation
Another point: Whose intention is to be taken into account: the wife's, the husband's or the guardian's?
Jurists said, "Whoever has no right to breakup, his intention has no effect."
So, the husband's intention shall be regarded because he is the one who is entitled to divorce, the wife's intention has no effect.
In the case where the wife said, "I want to be divorced," and the husband answered, "No," his intention is effective.
Some scholars said, "Both the wife's and husband's intentions are to be considered."
However, it is clear that the husband's intention is effective and the marriage tie is in the husband's hands, but the wife's intention is regarded because she may try to break up by anyway.
She can annoy him. If he said to her, "Make me a cup of tea," she may make something else or she may say, "I will not make anything."
When they are in bed, she may make troubles in order to make him divorce her.
Some women challenge their husband.
She may tell him, "Are you a man?"
When he says, "Yes," then she may add, "If you are a man, divorce me."
So, he may nervously divorce her.
Also, the man may be indebted or needy, in which case she may offer her money in exchange for a divorce.
Anyway, this opinion is strong if we know the bad intention of the wife who caused troubles to be divorced in order to reunite with the former husband.
So, we shall prevent her from marrying him because she prohibitively tried to reunite with the former husband.
She is not allowed to disobey her husband or violate his rights.
Now she may be sorry for losing the latter husband.
What if the judge wisely said to her, "It is obvious that you desire to reunite with the former husband and you seek a middleman, so you are not lawful to reunite with the former husband?"
I think that she will be sorry for the latter one and try to reunite with him, at which time he would express how late her decision is.
Then she will be left hanging.
Anyway, the husband's intention is fundamentally considered and the fact that it is based on the husband's intention is strong opinion.
We said, at the time of the Prophet, Abu Bakr and the first two years of Umar's reign, that three divorces in one utterance was regarded as one divorce.
But later in Umar's reign, he said, "Verily the people have begun to hasten in the matter in which they are required to observe respite. So if we had imposed this upon them, and he imposed it upon them."
What, is the meaning of, "They are required to observe respite"?
There is no problem if they divorce one time.
If you divorced one time, must you reunite with your wife?
No, but because of the ignorance some people, they say, " I can divorce her three times in order not to reunite."
We say that if you divorced one time, you are not obliged to reunite with her.
You can let her off until her prescribed period is finished and then you can reunite with her as Umar said, "If we had imposed this upon them."
And he imposed it upon them. This is an authentic narration that is related by Muslim.
Some scholars said, "Because the scholars believed in this point of view, it became the consensus."
Some scholars said, "Divorcing three times in one setting makes the woman irrevocably divorced."
Other scholars maintained that the consensus is in the opposite direction on the basis of Hadith of ibn 'Abbas which is related by Muslim, Ibn 'Abbas reported that the pronouncement of three divorces, during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger and that of Abu Bakr and the two years of the caliphate of Umar was treated as one.
So, there are three lifetimes: the lifetime of Allah's Messenger and that of Abu Bakr and two years of the caliphate of Umar
They said, "If we narrated the consensus, on what basis would we base the consensus?
It is on the basis that divorcing three times in one setting is treated as one.
The preponderant opinion is that the pronouncement of divorce, whether three times or one time in one setting, is considered as one.
For instance, one may divorce his wife and then remarry.
If he remarried, his wife will return to him.
And then he divorced for the second time, he can still remarry.
If he divorced for the third time or he said to his wife, You are divorced," and then she spends the prescribed period.
Then he remarries and then divorces and then she spends the prescribed period.
Then he remarries her and then divorces her, thus the third divorce is the irrevocable one.
She said, "A man divorced his wife thrice."
The thrice divorces indicates the irrevocable one.
This Hadith indicates that if the woman is divorced thrice, she will not be lawful to the former husband, except after lawful marriage to and consummation with the latter husband.
It is important to be after the lawful marriage because the consummation with the latter husband is not allowed but after lawful marriage.
Thus, lawful marriage and consummation are necessary.
"Until the second one has tasted her sweetness."
"Sweetness" here indicates consummation.
Some scholars said it indicates ejaculation and that if he consummated without ejaculation, she would not be lawful to the former husband.
Consummation, regardless, is what is meant here, even in case of no ejaculation.
And if he had sexual intercourse with her, she would be lawful to the former one, provided that the marriage is lawful.
However, if it is a Tahlil marriage, she will not be lawful, even if there was consummation because the Tahlil marriage is invalid and ineffective.
Culled from THE BOOK OF MARRIAGE PART 1 FROM THE EXPLANATION OF BULUGH AL-MARAAM by Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih Al Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him)
Islam no dey joke with fu-cking. Everything is regulated. Abeg hhich sex styles are approved in Islam so i will counsel Usman my neighbour. His own don too much for our yard.
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