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Culltist

Phewww! Finally it's ended! Wouldn't you be grateful that atleast you know what's on her mind. Much better than when you were completely clueless.

Basics007:
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2. R3d- forever, let it burn,

3. Disturbed- i'm alive, crucified, stricken.

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Like seriously babe? Is this supposed to spark some intellectual debate?

If money grew on trees, life will be boring!

I think i'll really want to talk to him about everything, cos only then can i truly move on.

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=817505.msg9692422#msg9692422 date=1323025589]You were advised here once and you threw it away why should I waste my time advising you again when you might not take it? Abeg go sort out your CHILDISH issues elsewhere[/quote]dear mynd, emotions is not a switch you can turn off and on at will, it's more complicated than that.

Cuddlemii:
That's not the point.

I advise you take goldie, slimyem and especially Mrbrownjay's comment because he diffused it all for your consumption. I was going to write something similar. For heaven sake, that guy is 3 years younger than you so obviously his thinking and exposure might be different. He might not be matured at heart. You can't tie a young guy down, he probably still experimenting or finding his bearing in life. I even think your friend has a better control of her emotions & can play the game better than you because she understands that its an understanding(u scratch my back, i scratch urs).

But u r bringing love into the mix, when u get into the room for intimacy with someone who has not professed his love for you, committed to you or told you he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, you have to leave your heart behind, psyche urself its just a di-ck and move on. Never ever go into fwb or something slightly above with someone you care about so much cos u wld get hurt. I think you are too lady like for this arrangement, just let go. I don't blame the boy cos everyone has their own style.

i believe all you all said and i'm going to break it off with him. But can i still be friends with him (not her) i enjoy conversing with him a lot as he's the only person i can confide in and really talk to. I promise never to be intimate with him again.

But can i ask a question, does the fact they waited for 3/4 months before attempting s.ex actually count for anything? Why wait for that long if it was all just a game? Why did it have to happen when he was drunk and she was sober? Why was it a very awkward and dis-satisfying for both of them (as she said) why did she tell me?

SAFO:
Amya, maybe she's lying just to break you guys up.

Has your boyfriend been acting weird lately?

i doubt she's lying. He was suppose to come see me that evening but he didn't. When i asked him, he told me he went to her house with his friend who liked her and much later, left for his house. According to her story, they had gotten high on booze and pot, started shagging he became self concious after a few minutes, dressed up and left for his house. And yeah he's been acting kinda fidgety lately i even told him he was acting strange when we went out on a drink on wednesday (didn't know then)

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
funny how you wrote "she knows we are having a r/ship", when you yourself dont even know how to categorize the type of r/ship you have with this guy. here is a simple question to you: IS HE YOUR BF?! ARE YOU IN AN EXCLUSIVE R/SHIP?

to your bestie, it may simply be that you are just fukcing this guy, just like she did back in the days. one thing is certain, THEY both see nothing wrong in "sharing a good thing", so i suggest you do the same or move on with your life.

there is ONLY one way to solve this issue (IMHO):
- dump the lot (who clearly have no respect for you) and move on with your life.

to be truth i still can't simply classify him as my BF. But we are lovers and we are exclusive. I think you are actually right in everything you said. But i'll still confront him though. Just weeks before he was telling me how he'd want to marry as i'm the best thing that ever happen to him and he knows he'll live to regret it if he doesn't. We just have this connection that is way beyond the physical we are compatible even down to the intellect. We complete each other in every way, i know it, he knows it. That explains why i really don't want to be hasty in making any decison about him

slimyem:
babe,something tells me the two are just playing you.you are probably a bet experiment.
Stop this play-play r/ship and let both of them go else you'll keep hurting yourself.all the best!

nah, i doubt that. What i do know for sure is that she used me to get close to him as she clearly knows that she can't have an independent friendship with him, he would never agree to that. So she got close to me to get close to him. If i visit her, she makes me call him to come over to her apartment where the 3 of us would chat and all that. She antagonizes me then and showers him with praise and always like to talk about that time they were still friends and the crazy things they did e.t.c

Goldieluks:
I think you made a mistake by dating your ''best friend's'' boy friend in the first place.
Maybe he still got feelings for her,and maybe just maybe you might be the one on the loose end.

They never dated. They were just good friend. If i had known they have had sexual relations in the past, i wouldn't have gotten involved with him in the first place. By the time she told me, i was far too gone.

Well this is another twist to the 'isn't it just cruel' story i told 6/7 months ago.

The story is about a guy i'm seeing. Someone who i'm 3 years older than who went on to write stuff on fb that pissed me off.

Well, i didn't take the advice most people gave about letting him go. Stupid me! Now, this twist involves another person, a girl, one of my best friends who is also here on NL. The three of us are good friends, i actually met the guy and girl the same day last year. Later that same year the girl stopped talking to him and by the end of last year she stopped talking to me for no reason.
This year, the guy and i started this relationship that made us best friends and lovers at the same time. I won't call it FWB because it's clearly above that. We became inseperable in the months that followed, even after the incidence i brought on here on NL.

3 months ago, girl comes back into our lives, and we let her become our bestie. She knows we are having a r/ship. She told me she'd had some sexual relation with the dude last year, and i just shrugged it off. Besides last year was last year. I noticed she still liked the guy, but i ignored the warning signal. This past thursday she casually told me she had se.x with him on tuesday. I've seen him two times since thursday and he just left my house now. I don't know how to ask him about it because i'm afraid if i open my mouth i'll explode.

I really don't know why both of them would do something like this, especially the witch, since she knows about our relationship. I feel hurt and betrayed.

Well,if I was a guy I don't think it would bother me much. Since my own family do not respect her. Respect is reciprocal.

@op, don't be paranoid, there could be a million and one reason why she told you to call her back. You may lose her not because she's cheating on you with someone else, but because you are paranoid and may overeact.

Cool it and take a deep breath.

Phewwww! Tough one! I'll probably take an impromptu trip to a place with lot's of sun, fresh air and the ocean . . .no, not alone of course with unmarried best friends. Then try to laugh a lot, eat alot and probably have random great s.ex with strangers. . .alone! Not a foursome! And yes in between all these, a shriek of frustration.

The OP is an undergrad for f**ks sake! Composing sentences like a retarded 7 year old probably was too much for her to bear.

Beloved OP, work on your self, work on your attitude, work on your english (written). concentrate on your studies and get a frigging lubricant!

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You'll always be safe with the garden variety type proposing. Take her out to dinner and slip the ring into her drink when she sees it, you kneel and bla bla bla. Again, you could do it more quietly by taking to some weekend trip, and whenever the moment presents itself, you tell her she's the best thing that ever happened to you and bla bla bla, then you propose. Better still you can come up with something really unique and make it a special moment for both of you.