₦airaland Forum

Tonto has gone through transformation and this is pure happiness and I wish her the best of God's blessings. This is what is called pure love and humbleness.Tonto just hang in there and please try to limit your appearance on media for now.

Same media can run you down.As a married woman, limit your private life within the comfort of your home as some people who are praising you would be waiting for any negative news and I pray no negative news would pass through your door step.

Juzzybabe:
Not yet dear.

You are better alone than to stay in that abusive relationship. I am glad you left. Just relax and rebuild your life as an abusive relationship is a Time Bomb that can explode at anytime.You have a life to live and just think of your daughter and how to give her the best within your reach.

Stay focused the best is yet to come and shall surely come your way.

Origin:
Good development.

First tag and keep evidence- Have you ever noticed how every criminal caught has the same type of gun and bullets laid out as evidence?

Please gun control is key- I heard rumour once that a white visitor to Nigeria brought along a gun. How that passed immigration, custom, airport or ports is beyond me but if he uses that gun to kill, how do you track it ( I'm yet to see a white criminal paraded)

I pray the police force will get a sound leader that can revamp it because the major part of detecting modern crime is forensics and use of technology.

That is just a dream and not a reality with the kind of officers they have.They only needed to improve their pocket to the detriment of those who pay them=Tax Payers.A situation you will be asked to sign a written statement under duress?I dey laugh.

StoneLucifer:
Tomorrow when thieves or armed robbers are caught, u will suggest that they should be handed over to police, instead of the mob killing them..Is'nt it so

Exactly. They are heartless and should not be given that room to escape because our legal system is bad.

These guys are deadly and never give most of their victims any second chance. Most of them rape, rob and kill some of their victims.

Any of them who rape and kill their victims, if caught, should be given instant judgement by the public.That is my judgement. Look at the guy who raped a nursing mother and killed her in the presence of her 9 months old child should not be given an instant judgement? I said, they should not be given any form of second chance. I will even suggest that the person should be killed by either clubbing him to death or by cutting him into pieces with a cutlass until pronounced dead.

What I hate in the industry is that when one of them dies, you see them showcasing themselves off and trying to see a way to impress people instead of helping theirs when they needed them most.

These set of artist that visited this veteran, are even the best among them all and no doubt they did. Those arrogant ones would only wanna show their cars, bags, and worthless things on their Instagram.

God will keep you long madam

Love Machine:
How can they utilize it?Besides the police don't have maintenance culture.

That will enhance their performance towards getting more egunje.

Danfuster:
I swear...i have to be filthy rich, not just rich. If this dude can land dam like this..

She looks like someone on weed.

MsGlobalwonder:
coming from a man (presumably) ; i'm proud! thank you for reminding us there are good,responsible and reasonable men out there. God bless you

I am a man and I dislike any form of abuse. For God's sake, a ladies are a helper and no matter their negative action, one should be able to manage them.

No two perfect people on the face of this earth. Either way, people should learn to be tolerant of each other.I still believe that our Nigerian women are more tolerant than their foreign counterpart.Most Nigerian men still carry this attitude outside the country. I knew of a Nigerian guy we stayed in the same neighborhood in Atlanta, he still exhibited same attitude and his girlfriend called the police on him, I had to intervene to get him out.

In fact, I encourage ladies to walk out of any abusive relationship for real. Love is not blind. You must shine your eyes when choosing a man.

got it

yes

MsGlobalwonder:
i'm never gonna be surprised about anything in this life again. afteral, here on nairaland, some deluded folks were supporting lekan shonde for killing his wife. so, ur phantom analysis dont come as a shocker. also, it's either you didn't read her post and her subsequent rejoinders or you are related to her husband or you are a potential wife beater/killer or one already. two main issues are prominent here: 1. attempted murder... yes, he pummeled her while 8months pregnant and several times before and after that. she could have bled to death or lost the baby or both. 2. since she put to birth, he has never supported his child financially. if you followed @juzzybabe 's replies; u'll know he is doing that to ''punish'' her not because he doesn't have. he flaunts his riches and lifestyle to her face.
but no, you conveniently left the main issues and found a way to blame the victim!! typical... very typical. he calls her parents harassing them and disclaiming her as his wife, she should keep praying the ''war room' way abi? when he has obviously moved on? smh! he has the option of supporting his child financially or denouncing ownership since he already denounced the mother as his wife. you dont know the trauma she has gone through, please leave judgement for Almighty God the Chief Judge himself. quit being a judginus/judgina. she sought for legal help, if you cant help, jejely waka pass. cheers.

In fact, you shouldn't have wasted your time responding to MRBrownJ for his comment. He is not better than the guy himself. No normal man would beat his wife who is pregnant no matter what. If he is not ready to be with her, why not allow her go. Is marriage a Do and Die affair?

Having said that, the girl would grow to find out the truth in future.The man is sick and is from a family who worship money. His parents worship and support their son's action because of what they gain from him.

I thank God that the lady is gone and for the little girl, the lady should not worry because the child is not a male child in the first place. She is lucky she had a female child who at the end would be with another man and her life has nothing to do with the father who has not been responsible.

Even if the lady married him because of his wealth, does that give the guy room to abuse her? Only men who is dubious and has questionable means of livelihood that would would behave the way the man acted on his wife.

No woman would dream to be with a man who cannot be able to take care of her and that does not mean that the lady is not reasonable.So, people should not blame a lady for looking for a comfortable home. They can only be blamed when they go fetish in order to get a man at all cost.Nobody wants the least, even men.

OP, Only sick ones act that way. No normal human being would wanna beat up a lady. In the US, some states passed a law that if you cohabit with a lady for over six months, it is assumed you are married and if both decides to go their own way, they share whatever the man has. There should be equal right no matter the saying that a woman should respect her husband, thatshould not translate that the woman is weak as a result, should be abused.

Any Nigerian abusing his wife should be reexamined to find out his mental state.The issue as regards to the police, it is as a result of corruption hence their attitude.

SemuhleB:
if only there were more men like u

My sister, it is time ladies wake up to understand/discover that their destiny are in their hands. They should not hang in in any abusive relationship because it is hard to live with the nightmare once you experience it in a hard way.

They should take a walk out of any abusive relationship if they cannot work it out.Love is to be cherished and not to be mourned.

SemuhleB:
The type of men we have these days are just sickening. Its like the bad to good man ratio is 9/1. Nigerian women are really suffering and the worst part is the laws seems to favour men.

There is so much advise I could give you but more likely than not you don't have those avenues in Nigeria. That guy would have been locked up for assault. Threats and harassment are a serious thing as well and are not taking lightly.

I really dunno how some Nigerian girls deal with these beasts. The fear of Nigerian men is the beginning of wisdom.

What's worse is some losers want to turn around and blame the woman for her role in getting beaten and that no man wants a single mum. Wtf who says such things.

I have a newfound respect for Nigerian women like the op and not those silly hilly billies.

Relationships are not a do or die affair and you were sensible enough to get out on time.

I just hope you have learnt your lesson. Do you even know what your husband is doing in Dubai. Are you sure its even legal. I believe everything happens for a reason and you may just have been saved by not going to Dubai.

Well said. He could be into drugs in Dubai and could use her/put her into trouble. I hate the legal system in Nigeria and the judiciary is the worst you can get any other place in the world. The guy should have been picked up and sent to jail. How can one beat up his legally married wife for God's sake? Thank God she got out and I support her to seek for a divorce.

I hate when ladies hang in in an abusive relationship and people would be advising her to hang in there and when the beast gets her killed, they will turn around to blame same lady. Marriage is not by force and if you find any threat, take a walk.

Juzzybabe:
o yea, beating was part of it o. Especially when i was in my eight month,he visited Nigeria and beat me almost to coma,he left me bloody and was still beating until i managed to escape. when i escaped,his mum got angrier,she said i ran out to expose her family to outsiders. That made my case even worse. My dear the story is long and i cant even mention all my terrible experiences.
worst of all, he now calls my family and insults them claiming they have his child,and when they ask him what he's doing to restore his family he says its irrelevant to the discussion. I need to move on,i cant keep waiting.

I honestly feel for you and hope where you are now is a safe place. It is a pity you ended up with a devilish family whereby a mother inlaw would stand to support his son knowing fully well that you are a woman and mother too. Beating you while pregnant is the worst EVER and as such, you should seek for a lawyer in order to get a restraining order that would stop him from encroaching within your environment. Also an order that anything that happens to the child, your parents and your person, he and his parents should be held responsible. He should be meant to sign an agreement to that effect.He is mentally sick.

DonOms:
@OP: Firstly, your parens don't hate you. You just have a different understanding from theirs and none of them discussed their reality with you but acted it out, hence your confusion.
And majority of those who gave you 'tough' advice up here don't hate you either, they have just told you the truth in a harsh tone.

I don't believe you're lazy. You haven't just started to come to terms with the "survival of the fittest" race you automatically signed up for upon graduation.
So here's what you must do:
1) Stop hating your mom. Show her love because it's a privilege you have a mother under whose roof you live and eat.

2) Convert your hate (towards your mother) into passion for what you have interest in and to learn a skill (or get a temp job) that can fetch monetary gains. This will help you a lot as you go for service in the coming months and even beyond.

3) DO NOT EXPECT HELP FROM ANYONE. Don't get me wrong. You can accept help, but never expect it's someone's job to give it. This will give you a sense of responsibility that will give you the edge you need in this competitive world of ours.

Don't leave home now. NYSC will evict you anyway. Just get busy in your current environment and make yourself relevant. Things will get tougher for you from now but see it as a learning process and make the best of it. The best advice for you isn't 'grow up,' it is 'rise up.'

Well said herein. This should be the best answer op needed in order for him to grow up. Life is tough. He should thank his God that his parents are alive.The advice not to go to PH was a very reasonable advise from his parents.You can ONLY trust yourself in life but can learn to study people in order to understand who they are.

Op, never give up on your mother. You can call her and open up this issue in order to know her mind than trying to hate her. For giving you education, that is the best legacy for your person and in future, you will come to terms with her.You can never have another mother in life.

Unless stiffer penalty are melted to these animals, we cannot be able to achieve any success towards abuse of minors.

There should not be any form of bail for people who abuse children. They should be kept in the prison custody until the court determine the number of yrs for them to spend.

Granting them bail and giving them minor jail terms encourage people who abuse children to keep doing same.

If the law should be tagged at 10 yrs, then people would wanna stay off abusing minors.

VillageParrot:
http://www.signalng.com/breaking-market-women-bodija-jewelry-diezani-reacts-aljazeera-report/

Madam, haba, you know you are not clean. Why must you start making noise over issues like this. shot up your mouth because you are not clean.

Your records are not hidden. You first declared that you have cancer and instead of you to keep your mouth shut, you still have the mind to start defending your already messed up character.Note that you do not have any sort of character left. Buhari need to get you back to give account of your stewardship to the country. When you were in power, you never for ONE day declared that you have cancer. Immediately your asssss got blown open, you declared that you have cancer. My prayer is that you MUST not dies until you clear your self by returning the public money with you person.

Hearme:
Great achievement by the Officer. If this was the same College PMB went to, how come some wise people are castigating him
for qualifications.

My brother, don't mind them. For anyone to pass through that college with Powell, it is ONLY fo---ols that speak bad about PMB. American War College is not a child's play.Let them go and try it.

Most Nigerians don't reason well.Anyway, that is politics of the blind people.

Good.A lookalike of Late Idi Amin Dada of Uganda.

Who doesn't know that Kemi Oluloye is sick, is yet unborn. She needs psychiatric evaluation to determine her state of mind or equally move her to Yaba psycho home for keeps.

greggng:
Visit prophet tb jushua. I believe she can be healed and both of u can marry and ve lovely children with good blessing from God. Don't give up

OP, The only True way for you to receive healing for her.Go to T.B.Joshua and your case will be over.

junketer:
The power of money. There is no way this beauty would marry adams if not for money. There is no love here abeg. I don talk my own. Ka chineke mezie okwu.

You said the truth herein.

It would have been better if Oshomole married "Go and Die ' woman whereby people would see love there.

Oshomole went and bought the lady for real. The lady knew that only money made her to be in that marriage.

That goes to show the extent a woman can go to marry anything.Money answereth all things. With money, you can bring down 98% ladies down. Let me allow the 2% for the real decent ones.

junketer:
The power of money. There is no way this beauty would marry adams if not for money. There is no love here abeg. I don talk my own. Ka chineke mezie okwu.

You said the truth herein.

It would have been better if Oshomole married "Go and Die ' woman whereby people would see love there.

Oshomole went and bought the lady for real. The lady knew that only money made her to be in that marriage.

What a wasted children and brother. If you cannot struggle and work for your money the way you father did, then you are not supposed to be known as MKO Abiola's children.

Coming to demand for presidential entitlement now goes to show how broke they are and should be ashamed of themselves.

MKO worked for his money and you his children should dust your fvcking assssssssssss up and get something meaningful to do.

JaredNormak:
What the fûck are you? An arse fûcker? Fûck off, dude!

You don't have to blame the guy, he is one of them. They got what they wanted.Man fvcking man and died in the process of processing his fvcking assssss.

The guy mouth dey smell hence the lady's reaction.You can see the expression on her face.

That is why the worst decease on the entire face of this earth can only be found in the Northern part of the country.

Wicked souls who are ONLY thirsty of blood.

How dear you give a man who raped a minor an option of fine? That goes to show that our judges are insane and unprofessional/corrupt. With this judgement, a wealthy man with cash can rape a minor and pay his way out of prison.

Only a judge that is a rapist too that would pass such judgement. Just 5 yrs for rapist and an option of fine is uncalled for.

May the female generation of that judge be raped by rapists too.

Someones's signature could be forged in his absence. Well, he knows better.If his plan was to join ISIS, he will suffer it for the rest of his life.

onojaduru:
What a life!Few weeks ago pple were shouting how u killed ur wife.Nobody knew u will die so soon.RIP

How can the man Rest In Peace? He has has murdered peace here and beyond. His Suffering has just started.

sick woman. Only a fool would wanna take her words.