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Liar -in -Chief

'It’s not the bureaucracy, it’s not the police, it’s not the
politics but what is corrupt is the financial capital'

Britain is the most corrupt country in the world,
according to journalist Roberto Saviano, who spent more
than a decade exposing the criminal dealings of the
Italian Mafia .
Mr Saviano, who wrote the best-selling exposés
Gomorrah and ZeroZeroZero , made the comments at the
Hay Literary Festival . The 36-year-old has been
living under police protection since publishing
revelations about members of the Camorra, a powerful
Neapolitan branch of the mafia, in 2006.
He told an audience at Hay-on-Wye: “If I asked you
what is the most corrupt place on Earth you might tell
me well it’s Afghanistan, maybe Greece, Nigeria, the
South of Italy and I will tell you it’s the UK.

“It’s not the bureaucracy, it’s not the police, it’s not the
politics but what is corrupt is the financial capital. 90
per cent of the owners of capital in London have their
headquarters offshore.
“Jersey and the Cayman’s are the access gates to
criminal capital in Europe and the UK is the country that
allows it. That is why it is important why it is so crucial
for me to be here today and to talk to you because I
want to tell you , this is about you, this is about your
life, this is about your government.”
Prime minister David Cameron faced growing calls for
the UK to reform the offshore tax havens operating on
its own Crown Dependencies and Overseas Territories,
as Britain hosted an Anti-Corruption Summit earlier this
month.

The UK ranked 10th in Transparency
International’s Corruption Perceptions Index 2015 ,
which measures the perceived levels of public sector
corruption worldwide.
Mr Saviano also weighed in on the EU referendum
debate, arguing a vote to leave would make the UK even
more exposed to the organised crime.

Source : http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/roberto-saviano-britain-corrupt-mafia-hay-festival-a7054851.html

Boko haram government in the making

Kai ear inpection is pantastically dangeras. Bubu I no dey hear word again

They gave you 18mb for twitter

Chukuli

Most of the profits you see glo declaring are proceeds of theft from subscribers. The other day a whooping N150 was deducted from my balance that I subscribed to glo magazine which I know nothing about. I called their CC and was told it is not refundable and should text a code to a particular number to cancel the subscription. I did that and 1 week later another N150 was stolen from me again by that fraudulent network making N300. This time I went to their friendship center and asked them to refund the stolen money but all my explanations fell on deaf ears. That was how I abandoned that fantastically fraudulent network and I learnt they are getting worse and worse by the day. They go to CNN to advertise deceiving people and thriving on propaganda like that All Promises Canceled party.

Trust me, that is really funny

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Have you ever looked at your nipples and wondered if
they’re normal? It turns out, they come in all different
shapes and sizes. What’s more, they can bring you
incredible pleasure, help feed a baby, and even tip you
off to some potentially serious health problems.
Seriously, they’re amazing. After reading this, we
promise you’ll have newfound respect for this body
part. Here, everything you need to know about your
nipples.

1. They Can Span Several Inches
The size of a woman’s nipples and areolas can be as
wide as a half-dollar or smaller than a dime, and either
way is totally normal, says Alyssa Dweck, M.D., ob-gyn
in Westchester, New York and coauthor of V Is for
Vagina. Gain weight or get pregnant, and they can
balloon even bigger, she says.

2. They Come in a Range of Colors
Pale pink, brick red, dark brown: Nipple pigment has to
do with a woman’s ethnic background and the hue of
the rest of her skin. Just as nipple size changes when
you have a baby, so does nipple color, and that shift in
shade is often permanent. “It’s the result of hormone
surges during pregnancy,” says Dweck.

3. They're Capable of Mucho Pleasure
Nipples are an erogenous zone for many women, and a
2011 study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine backs this
up. Researchers using MRI imaging found that when
nipples are stimulated, a pleasure center inside the
brain lights up the same way it lights up after
stimulation of the clitoris and vagina.

4. Nipple Orgasms are Not Fiction
The same 2011 study that showed a link between nipple
stimulation and the pleasure center of the brain also
raised the possibility that nipple stimulation alone could
result in orgasm, something sex researchers previously
estimated that only a “small number” of women could
experience.

5. They Sometimes Come in Threes
It’s not uncommon for a man or a woman to be born
with three nipples (or four, or five, or seven, as one
2012 study details). These extra nipples, known as
“supernumerary nipples,” resemble a mole or mark.
They never develop into actual breasts, and they can
show up anywhere on the body, according to the
National Institutes of Health .

6. Nipples Are Supposed to Be Bumpy
Look closely at your nipples and the surrounding
areolas; they kind of resemble the bumpy, crater-filled
surface of the moon. “Those bumps on the areola can be
hair follicles, ducts, or oil glands that produce
lubricating fluid," says Dweck. "It’s totally normal to
have them."

7. But Sometimes a Bump Is Bad News
A rare form of breast cancer called Paget’s disease can
present itself as a red bump or rash on the nipple or
areola, says Dweck. “It’ll look like an angry skin change
that doesn’t go away,” she says. If you spot this and it
persists for a few weeks, have your doctor take a look.

8. They Don't Love the Gym
Working out is super-healthy for your body as a whole,
but it can be rough on your nipples, which often get
dry, chafed, and even bloody as they rub back and forth
against your sports bra, says Dweck. Dabbing on some
petroleum jelly before a treadmill session will soothe
irritated skin.

9. Nursing Can Do a Number on Them
Soreness, pain, cracking, bleeding—these are just some
of the consequences of having a hungry newborn
attached to your nipples several times a day, says
Dweck. These symptoms tend to disappear as a new
mom gets the hang of it, but if your nipples continue to
suffer, get an assist from your pediatrician or a lactation
consultant.

10. They Can Leak Milk
Nursing moms, you might want to keep an extra blouse
in your purse or glove compartment. It’s a totally freaky
phenomenon, but many breastfeeding women have
found themselves suddenly leaking milk as soon as they
hear the cry of a random infant or baby nearby, says
Dweck.

11. Discharge Can Be a Warning Sign
A little discharge that comes out after you’ve squeezed
your nipple is probably no big deal. “But a white,
creamy discharge that’s released on its own could be a
sign of a non-cancerous growth in the brain,” says
Dweck. Green or black discharge can tip you off to a
benign duct problem. And bloody discharge might mean
breast cancer. If you experience the latter, bring it to
your doctor’s attention.

Source : www.womenshealthmag.com

Research looked at cities which were not at war and
were populated by more than 300,000 people.

Venezuelan capital Caracas has been revealed as the
most violent city in the world - with 119.87 homicides
for every 100,000 residents in 2015.

With 41 cities on the list, Latin America is home to the
most on the planet, while Brazil alone has 21.

The highest increase in violence since 2014 was in San
Salvador, El Salvador. The murder rate there increased
by 81% in just one year, from 61.21 homicides per
100,000 inhabitants in 2014 to 111.03 in 2015. The
Central American country of just six million people has
seen gang-related violence push death tolls to similar
levels as seen during the country’s civil war in the
1980s.
While the majority of cities are in developing or semi-
developed countries, four cities were in the United
States: Detroit, Baltimore, St Louis and New Orleans.

However, some improvements were noted in Juarez,
Mexico and Colombia's Medellin, where murder rates
have fallen dramatically since the 1990s.
The list did not take into account of war zones or
places with fewer than 300,000 residents.
The full list is as follows:
50. Obregón, Mexico had 28.29 homicides per 100,000
residents.
49. Maracaibo, Venezuela had 28.85 homicides per
100,000 residents.
48. Macapá, Brazil had 30.25 homicides per 100,000
residents.
47. Johannesburg, South Africa had 30.31 homicides
per 100,000 residents.
46. Victoria, Mexico had 30.50 homicides per 100,000
residents.
45. Pereira, Colombia had 32.58 homicides per 100,000
residents.
44. Curitiba, Brazil had 34.71 homicides per 100,000
residents.
43. Porto Alegre, Brazil had 34.73 homicides per
100,000 residents.
42. Nelson Mandela Bay, South Africa had 35.85
homicides per 100,000 residents.
41. Durban, South Africa had 35.93 homicides per
100,000 residents.
40. Campina Grande, Brazil had 36.04 homicides per
100,000 residents.
39. Campos dos Goytacazes, Brazil had 36.16
homicides per 100,000 residents.
38. Aracaju, Brazil had 37.7 homicides per 100,000
residents.
37. Recife, Brazil had 38.12 homicides per 100,000
residents.
36. Vitória da Conquista, Brazil had 38.46 homicides
per 100,000 residents.
35. Tijuana, Mexico had 39.09 homicides per 100,000
residents.
34. Gran Barcelona, Venezuela had 40.08 homicides per
100,000 residents.
33. Kingston, Jamaica had 41.14 homicides per
100,000 residents.
32. New Orleans, Louisiana, United States had 41.44
homicides per 100,000 residents.
31. Vitoria, Brazil had 41.99 homicides per 100,000
residents.
30. Teresina, Brazil had 42.64 homicides per 100,000
residents.
29. Goiânia y Aparecida de Goiânia, Brazil has 43.38
homicides per 100,000 residents.
28. Detroit, Michigan, United States had 43.89
homicides per 100,000 residents.
27. Feira de Santana, Brazil had 45.5 homicides per
100,000 residents.
26. Belém, Brazil had 45.83 homicides per 100,000
residents.
25. Guatemala City, Guatemala had 47.17 homicides per
100,000 residents.
24. Cumaná, Venezuela had 47.77 homicides per
100,000 residents.
23. Manaus, Brazil had 47.87 homicides per 100,000
residents.
22. Cuiabá, Brazil had 48.52 homicides per 100,000
residents.
21. São Luís, Brazil had 53.05 homicides per 100,000
residents.
20. Barquisimeto, Venezuela had 54.96 homicides per
100,000 residents.
19. Baltimore, Maryland, United States had 54.98
homicides per 100,000 residents.
18. Maceio, Brazil had 55.63 homicides per 100,000
residents.
17. Culiacan, Mexico had 56.09 homicides per 100,000
residents.
16. João Pessoa, Brazil had 58.40 homicides per
100,000 residents.
15. St. Louis, Missouri, United States had 59.23
homicides per 100,000 residents.
14. Salvador, Brazil had 60.63 homicides per 100,000
residents.
13. Natal, Brazil had 60.66 homicides per 100,000
residents.
12. Fortaleza, Brazil had 60.77 homicides per 100,000
residents.
11. Ciudad Guayana, Venezuela had 62.33 homicides
per 100,000 residents.
10. Cali, Colombia had 64.27 homicides per 100,000
residents.
9. Cape Town, South Africa had 65.53 homicides per
100,000 residents.
8. Palmira, Colombia had 70.88 homicides per 100,000
residents.
7. Valencia, Venezuela had 72.31 homicides per
100,000 residents.
6. Distrito Central, Honduras had 73.51 homicides per
100,000 residents.
5. Maturin, Venezuela had 86.45 homicides per 100,000
residents.
4. Acapulco, Mexico had 104.73 homicides per 100,000
residents.
3. San Salvador, El Salvador had 108.54 homicides per
100,000 residents.
2. San Pedro Sula, Honduras had 111.03 homicides per
100,000 residents.
1. Caracas, Venezuela had 119.87 homicides per
100,000 residents.

Source : http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/worlds-50-most-dangerous-cities-revealed-a6836416.html

Research looked at cities which were not at war and
were populated by more than 300,000 people.

Venezuelan capital Caracas has been revealed as the
most violent city in the world - with 119.87 homicides
for every 100,000 residents in 2015.

With 41 cities on the list, Latin America is home to the
most on the planet, while Brazil alone has 21.

The highest increase in violence since 2014 was in San
Salvador, El Salvador. The murder rate there increased
by 81% in just one year, from 61.21 homicides per
100,000 inhabitants in 2014 to 111.03 in 2015. The
Central American country of just six million people has
seen gang-related violence push death tolls to similar
levels as seen during the country’s civil war in the
1980s.
While the majority of cities are in developing or semi-
developed countries, four cities were in the United
States: Detroit, Baltimore, St Louis and New Orleans.

However, some improvements were noted in Juarez,
Mexico and Colombia's Medellin, where murder rates
have fallen dramatically since the 1990s.
The list did not take into account of war zones or
places with fewer than 300,000 residents.
The full list is as follows:
50. Obregón, Mexico had 28.29 homicides per 100,000
residents.
49. Maracaibo, Venezuela had 28.85 homicides per
100,000 residents.
48. Macapá, Brazil had 30.25 homicides per 100,000
residents.
47. Johannesburg, South Africa had 30.31 homicides
per 100,000 residents.
46. Victoria, Mexico had 30.50 homicides per 100,000
residents.
45. Pereira, Colombia had 32.58 homicides per 100,000
residents.
44. Curitiba, Brazil had 34.71 homicides per 100,000
residents.
43. Porto Alegre, Brazil had 34.73 homicides per
100,000 residents.
42. Nelson Mandela Bay, South Africa had 35.85
homicides per 100,000 residents.
41. Durban, South Africa had 35.93 homicides per
100,000 residents.
40. Campina Grande, Brazil had 36.04 homicides per
100,000 residents.
39. Campos dos Goytacazes, Brazil had 36.16
homicides per 100,000 residents.
38. Aracaju, Brazil had 37.7 homicides per 100,000
residents.
37. Recife, Brazil had 38.12 homicides per 100,000
residents.
36. Vitória da Conquista, Brazil had 38.46 homicides
per 100,000 residents.
35. Tijuana, Mexico had 39.09 homicides per 100,000
residents.
34. Gran Barcelona, Venezuela had 40.08 homicides per
100,000 residents.
33. Kingston, Jamaica had 41.14 homicides per
100,000 residents.
32. New Orleans, Louisiana, United States had 41.44
homicides per 100,000 residents.
31. Vitoria, Brazil had 41.99 homicides per 100,000
residents.
30. Teresina, Brazil had 42.64 homicides per 100,000
residents.
29. Goiânia y Aparecida de Goiânia, Brazil has 43.38
homicides per 100,000 residents.
28. Detroit, Michigan, United States had 43.89
homicides per 100,000 residents.
27. Feira de Santana, Brazil had 45.5 homicides per
100,000 residents.
26. Belém, Brazil had 45.83 homicides per 100,000
residents.
25. Guatemala City, Guatemala had 47.17 homicides per
100,000 residents.
24. Cumaná, Venezuela had 47.77 homicides per
100,000 residents.
23. Manaus, Brazil had 47.87 homicides per 100,000
residents.
22. Cuiabá, Brazil had 48.52 homicides per 100,000
residents.
21. São Luís, Brazil had 53.05 homicides per 100,000
residents.
20. Barquisimeto, Venezuela had 54.96 homicides per
100,000 residents.
19. Baltimore, Maryland, United States had 54.98
homicides per 100,000 residents.
18. Maceio, Brazil had 55.63 homicides per 100,000
residents.
17. Culiacan, Mexico had 56.09 homicides per 100,000
residents.
16. João Pessoa, Brazil had 58.40 homicides per
100,000 residents.
15. St. Louis, Missouri, United States had 59.23
homicides per 100,000 residents.
14. Salvador, Brazil had 60.63 homicides per 100,000
residents.
13. Natal, Brazil had 60.66 homicides per 100,000
residents.
12. Fortaleza, Brazil had 60.77 homicides per 100,000
residents.
11. Ciudad Guayana, Venezuela had 62.33 homicides
per 100,000 residents.
10. Cali, Colombia had 64.27 homicides per 100,000
residents.
9. Cape Town, South Africa had 65.53 homicides per
100,000 residents.
8. Palmira, Colombia had 70.88 homicides per 100,000
residents.
7. Valencia, Venezuela had 72.31 homicides per
100,000 residents.
6. Distrito Central, Honduras had 73.51 homicides per
100,000 residents.
5. Maturin, Venezuela had 86.45 homicides per 100,000
residents.
4. Acapulco, Mexico had 104.73 homicides per 100,000
residents.
3. San Salvador, El Salvador had 108.54 homicides per
100,000 residents.
2. San Pedro Sula, Honduras had 111.03 homicides per
100,000 residents.
1. Caracas, Venezuela had 119.87 homicides per
100,000 residents.

Source : http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/worlds-50-most-dangerous-cities-revealed-a6836416.html

vjsmiles:
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If everyone is a cheat like you, who do you think will border to invest time and effort to develop app that you people would want for free. Are you currently working for free without pay? You should be ashamed of yourself for publicly urging people to cheat.

That cellophane must be fantastically dangerous

APC is a fantastically fraudulent party.

Who the increase epp?

Last year many Nigerians died stoning imaginary devils in Saudi Arabia and this man wants people to die again stoning imaginary PDP enemies. Reserve those stones for your APC Boko Haram boys.

He has Lie d his way to the event

ijaw1stson:
Because the blood of paternity that binds us together supersedes whatever differences that might divide us.”

Na them and who blood bind? Abeg nobody carries bomb in my family o.

The cows are moving to Aso rock to greet their oga for keeping quiet while they kill and maim.

When is that my certificate-less friend from daura ever going to write a book?

When I read their body language, I know that network is doomed to fail. If they truly want to serve Nigerians who are dissatisfied with what they are getting from the other competitors and remain in business then they must have to restrategise and come down to earth where we are.

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Panel: you must appear on Thurs
I won’t come, says Judge
‘My trial won’t disturb Senate’
Senators may have set the stage for a major
confrontation between them and the Code of Conduct
Tribunal (CCT) over Senate President Bukola Saraki’s
trial for alleged falsification of assets.
The Senate Committee on Ethics, Privileges and Public
Petitions yesterday summoned CCT Chairman Justice
Danladi Umar over allegations of corruption against him.
The invitation, coming on a day Justice Umar said
Saraki’s trial will run daily, appeared a new twist to the
matter.
In a letter signed yesterday by the Clerk of the
Committee, Freedom Odolo,the Senate asked Justice
Umar to appear unfailingly by 2pm on Thursday.
But Justice Umar replied the committee that he has a
court sitting on Thursday and throughout the week.
He said he would not be available until after the court
sittings, which is on Saraki’s trial.
The invitation letter was delivered to the CCT chairman
shortly after he ruled that the tribunal will be sitting daily
from 9am to 6pm.
The committee said: “Your letter with reference number
CCT/HQ/ 126/S/ 111/ 515 dated 1st April, 2016 in
which you requested for more time to enable you attend
the hearing was received.
“After due consideration of your request, the Committee
rescheduled the hearing to give you at least two weeks
from the 4th of April when you should have appeared.
“Accordingly, you are now required to appear unfailingly
as follows: Thursday, 21st April, 2016, Meeting Room
120 New Senate Building, National Assembly Complex.
Time: 2pm
“Please, remember to come personally along with 12
copies of any written submission you may wish to
present.”
A source said: “The battle line is drawn between the
Senate and the CCT chairman. Some Senators are angry
over his decision to allow the tribunal to sit from 9am to
6pm.
“They saw the CCT Chairman’s decision as a plot to
deny Saraki any opportunity to preside over the Senate
plenary throughout his trial.
“Now, these Senators have also launched a counter-
attack against the CCT chairman by revisiting the
outstanding petition against the judge.
“Shortly after the CCT chairman decided to be sitting
daily till 6pm, a letter came from the Senate Committee
inviting Justice Umar on the outstanding petition against
him.”
But a source in CCT said: “The judge has asked the
Registrar of the tribunal to write the Senate committee
that he has a court sitting on Thursday and throughout
the week and won’t be able to honour the summons.
“The CCT Chairman’s letter was sent last night to the
committee.”

Source: http://thenationonlineng.net/sarakis-trial-senators-summon-tribunal-judge/

See what APC has forced people into

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When a relationship is brand new, loving your partner comes easy. You’re still hyper curious about each other and growing as a couple every day. But eventually, you’re bound to encounter some roadblocks that will test your love. 

Below, marriage therapists share seven major challenges every couple faces and how to navigate them. 

1. You learn your partner can’t really be your everything.

We expect a lot from our partners: They should be our soulmates, our BFFs, our sounding boards, our financial and career advisers, our sexual partners and our parenting partners. The truth is, though, it’s nearly impossible for any human being to meet all of those demands, said St. Louis-based therapist Angela Skurtu. 

“Those needs can be addressed by a variety of people, including yourself,” she said. “For instance, if you’re an extrovert married to an introvert, chances are you may need to have a few extra friends to hang out with other than your spouse. That doesn’t mean you can’t go out with each other as well. It just means that you have to find another way to meet your need for extroversion.” 

2. Your phone will come between you and your partner. 

When you first started dating, your phone was a welcome middleman in your relationship: You’d text each other through the night and send cute heart-eyed emojis throughout the day. But the longer you’re together, the more likely it is that your smart phone will get in the way of your connection as a couple, said Andrea Wachter, a psychotherapist based in Northern California. 

“It’s so easy in our fast-paced, plugged-in culture to lose touch with the connection we once had in those early days of dating,” Wachter told us.

To prove to your partner that face time with them in real life is more important than screen time, surprise them one night by putting your phone away and telling them you want to have an actual device-free conversation. 

“Truly focus on what they have to say,” Wachter said. “Remind yourself that if it’s important enough for them to share it with you, it deserves your undivided attention.”

3. The sex isn’t always going to be hot. 

Prepare yourself for some lackluster sex at some point: From changes in sexual desire to disconnected schedules and just being too damn busy, action in the bedroom is bound to get put on the back burner eventually. To get past a breakdown in intimacy, Wachter says couples need to prioritize simply touching each other, even if it doesn’t culminate in having sex. 

“Lack of intimacy is often a result of deeper issues,” she said. “Couples need to let go of sex as the ultimate goal and start simpler, with hand holding, kissing or a massage. The more you treat each other like friends who take the time to to know one another in all ways, the more likely you are to rekindle the spark of love and intimacy.” 

4. You’re not going to meet all your #relationshipgoals. 

You likely entered into the relationship with long-held ideas about what it means to be in love: You thought you’d never spend more than three nights apart, just like your parents, or you hoped you’d learn each other’s love language and truly act according to them.

While relationship goals are great, the truth is, some of your expectations will probably never be met, said Laurel Steinberg, a sex and relationship therapist and adjunct professor of psychology at Columbia University.

Look on the bright side, though: Some of your expectations will likely be exceeded. “You just need to keep your expectations as ‘wants’ and not ‘needs,’” Steinberg suggested. 

5. Your partner won’t let go of their bad habits. 

It drove you nuts the first time she stayed over and left globs of hair in the shower drain. In an ideal world, you’d politely mention it once or twice and she’d soon enough change her ways — but you’re not living in that ideal world. Loving your S.O. means accepting their bad habits, said Stephanie Buehler, a psychologist and sex therapist in Southern California. She used an example from her own marriage to illustrate her point: 

My husband of 30 years frequently eats a banana in the morning and then leaves the peel in the sink. It doesn’t matter that he trained me to put my used, wet tea bags in the trash instead of the sink because my habit drove him nuts — he still does it with the peel. This is where love comes in handy, as well as compassion. It must be difficult for my husband to remember to put his peel down the disposal or into the trash. I have compassion for him. I love him. Therefore, I continue to remind him, but I also just deal with his banana peel for him. That’s marriage right there.
6. Money will come between you and your spouse.  

The Beatles were wrong when they claimed “all you need is love.” You also need the ability to navigate some truly rocky financial waters together, said Amanda Deverich, a marriage and family therapist based in Williamsburg, Virginia.

“From what I’ve seen, financial stress is a leading cause of depression in men and depression often causes partners to withdraw and makes it more difficult for couples to solve problems,” she said.

To offset money-related stressors, band together as a team to tackle problems as they come, said Deverich. “If you don’t, one partner will become responsible for the money and that will create a lopsided dynamic that causes resentment and distance.” 

7. Monogamy will prove to be a challenge.

Staying faithful is hard work. You’re inevitably going to be attracted to other people, you’ll wonder if you made the right choice in settling for just one partner, and it’s quite likely that one or even both of you will be tempted to have an emotional or physical affair. Infidelity is more common than you’d think, said Buehler. 

The important thing to remember is that while staying monogamous is hard, it’s totally worth the effort — if you both want it. 

“You have to have an open conversation about monogamy because it is restrictive and probably unnatural,” said Buehler. “But going to work in a car every morning is unnatural, too — we still do it, though, because like monogamy, it has benefits.”

Source: http://huffpost.com/us/entry/7-problems-every-couple-inevitably-faces_us_570fd257e4b03d8b7b9fc

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When a relationship is brand new, loving your partner comes easy. You’re still hyper curious about each other and growing as a couple every day. But eventually, you’re bound to encounter some roadblocks that will test your love. 

Below, marriage therapists share seven major challenges every couple faces and how to navigate them. 

1. You learn your partner can’t really be your everything.

We expect a lot from our partners: They should be our soulmates, our BFFs, our sounding boards, our financial and career advisers, our sexual partners and our parenting partners. The truth is, though, it’s nearly impossible for any human being to meet all of those demands, said St. Louis-based therapist Angela Skurtu. 

“Those needs can be addressed by a variety of people, including yourself,” she said. “For instance, if you’re an extrovert married to an introvert, chances are you may need to have a few extra friends to hang out with other than your spouse. That doesn’t mean you can’t go out with each other as well. It just means that you have to find another way to meet your need for extroversion.” 

2. Your phone will come between you and your partner. 

When you first started dating, your phone was a welcome middleman in your relationship: You’d text each other through the night and send cute heart-eyed emojis throughout the day. But the longer you’re together, the more likely it is that your smart phone will get in the way of your connection as a couple, said Andrea Wachter, a psychotherapist based in Northern California. 

“It’s so easy in our fast-paced, plugged-in culture to lose touch with the connection we once had in those early days of dating,” Wachter told us.

To prove to your partner that face time with them in real life is more important than screen time, surprise them one night by putting your phone away and telling them you want to have an actual device-free conversation. 

“Truly focus on what they have to say,” Wachter said. “Remind yourself that if it’s important enough for them to share it with you, it deserves your undivided attention.”

3. The sex isn’t always going to be hot. 

Prepare yourself for some lackluster sex at some point: From changes in sexual desire to disconnected schedules and just being too damn busy, action in the bedroom is bound to get put on the back burner eventually. To get past a breakdown in intimacy, Wachter says couples need to prioritize simply touching each other, even if it doesn’t culminate in having sex. 

“Lack of intimacy is often a result of deeper issues,” she said. “Couples need to let go of sex as the ultimate goal and start simpler, with hand holding, kissing or a massage. The more you treat each other like friends who take the time to to know one another in all ways, the more likely you are to rekindle the spark of love and intimacy.” 

4. You’re not going to meet all your #relationshipgoals. 

You likely entered into the relationship with long-held ideas about what it means to be in love: You thought you’d never spend more than three nights apart, just like your parents, or you hoped you’d learn each other’s love language and truly act according to them.

While relationship goals are great, the truth is, some of your expectations will probably never be met, said Laurel Steinberg, a sex and relationship therapist and adjunct professor of psychology at Columbia University.

Look on the bright side, though: Some of your expectations will likely be exceeded. “You just need to keep your expectations as ‘wants’ and not ‘needs,’” Steinberg suggested. 

5. Your partner won’t let go of their bad habits. 

It drove you nuts the first time she stayed over and left globs of hair in the shower drain. In an ideal world, you’d politely mention it once or twice and she’d soon enough change her ways — but you’re not living in that ideal world. Loving your S.O. means accepting their bad habits, said Stephanie Buehler, a psychologist and sex therapist in Southern California. She used an example from her own marriage to illustrate her point: 

My husband of 30 years frequently eats a banana in the morning and then leaves the peel in the sink. It doesn’t matter that he trained me to put my used, wet tea bags in the trash instead of the sink because my habit drove him nuts — he still does it with the peel. This is where love comes in handy, as well as compassion. It must be difficult for my husband to remember to put his peel down the disposal or into the trash. I have compassion for him. I love him. Therefore, I continue to remind him, but I also just deal with his banana peel for him. That’s marriage right there.
6. Money will come between you and your spouse.  

The Beatles were wrong when they claimed “all you need is love.” You also need the ability to navigate some truly rocky financial waters together, said Amanda Deverich, a marriage and family therapist based in Williamsburg, Virginia.

“From what I’ve seen, financial stress is a leading cause of depression in men and depression often causes partners to withdraw and makes it more difficult for couples to solve problems,” she said.

To offset money-related stressors, band together as a team to tackle problems as they come, said Deverich. “If you don’t, one partner will become responsible for the money and that will create a lopsided dynamic that causes resentment and distance.” 

7. Monogamy will prove to be a challenge.

Staying faithful is hard work. You’re inevitably going to be attracted to other people, you’ll wonder if you made the right choice in settling for just one partner, and it’s quite likely that one or even both of you will be tempted to have an emotional or physical affair. Infidelity is more common than you’d think, said Buehler. 

The important thing to remember is that while staying monogamous is hard, it’s totally worth the effort — if you both want it. 

“You have to have an open conversation about monogamy because it is restrictive and probably unnatural,” said Buehler. “But going to work in a car every morning is unnatural, too — we still do it, though, because like monogamy, it has benefits.”

Source: http://huffpost.com/us/entry/7-problems-every-couple-inevitably-faces_us_570fd257e4b03d8b7b9fc

APC could not just get over the nightmare that they lost those 3 major oil producing states so once again they have resorted to their cheap lies and propaganda as if they ever stood a chance of winning in any of the 3 states. Shamefully, the EFCC and DSS have become willing tools of blackmail in the hands of the evil party.

So is Punch now insinuating the propaganda party APC could have won those states? Please give me a break! APC will never find favour with the great people of the South-south.

That evil party, APC must be kicked out of the South-South.

He will visit Nigeria this April

Our shameless Minister of Petroleum is sightseeing in far away China while the the country is in a terrible mess and his kinsmen engaged in a killing spree across the country. If fuel were readily available, this same Tinubu would have been heaping praises on Mr Bubu and their clueless party and just pretend Kachikwu doesn't exist.

With the prevailing hardship, how on earth will anyone take his vote and give it to APC?