There is a lady I have known for a while and we have been getting along quite very well. Everything was very well between us (that should summarize a lot).
So late last year while we were discussing and then talking about relationships, she asked me my state of origin and I told her which is Cross River state while she is from Nassarawa state. Well, she said that she can't marry or date anyone from my state.
I was quite hurt, hurt because she rejected me based on factors I do not have control over.
I mean, if she had rejected me based on character, social and financial status, I would have been less hurt. Nobody choose where they come from.
And that brings me to this question: "Are we really from where we are from?"
I ask this question because due to a number of factors like work that causes people to migrate from one region, community, state and country to another, many people are born or raise in different places from where their parents are from. Take me for example, my late dad was a police officer. Even though my both parents are originally from CRS, I, being the first born barely spent three years in CRS before moving with my parents to Delta State where I grew up. My four younger siblings were all born in Delta State.
This is very common with children of (Para) military officers. Due to postings, children grow up in different environment than where they are originally from. Now, that environment can become a part of them; the culture, languages and lifestyle would have been infused into them so much that when they become adults, they are more of where they grew up in than where they are originally from.
A person from SW whose parents bring him up in the SE can be more of an Igbo than a person from the SE who grows up in the SW or any other region. I hope you get the drift?
So, with the above explanation, what makes a person, where he comes from or where s/he grows up in?
Let us discuss.
Rocktation, farano FP please
Na lie!!!
She has a man in her life.. She just use that one discharge you.
ZeddyR: Hi fams. I just want to share this because it might ease my pains. Please go easy on the insults that may follow. It might be a lengthy post 'cause I want to pour out my heart.
I'm a 27 years old lady. I met this guy when I was about sixteen. I particularly took note of him unconsciously the first day we met but I waived it aside. I wasn't particularly friendly at this point in my life but somehow we connected and became friends.
We both left where we met to different locations yet we kept in touch. I changed sim card severally and he also lost his severally but somehow we still get connected.
(One thing about me is that, my mind has a way of helping me to make decisions. If I do contrary to my mind's suggestions, most times I regret it.)
While this was on, I had some suitors, but then my mind won't let me marry. Whenever I want to say 'yes' to anyone, it becomes a battle in my mind. Reminding me about the other guy who didn't even ask me out until I turn down the proposal. There's this peace that comes with saying no.
Then in 2018, I decided to get into a relationship which is the worst mistake of my life. My mind was against it as usual but I decided to go on because I can't continue waiting for one guy. I told him it was a no sex relationship which he agreed, I became very free with and around him. He later forced himself on me because he said I was behaving as if I'm better than him. It was a very traumatic experience because I've kept myself for so many years.
In 2019, my long time friend asked me out. I was very happy because it was what I waited for. Relationship was great, love was real despite the distance and he told me I've been on his mind all these years. But along the line, he started showing some attitudes like not answering his calls( he's always with his phone), not calling for days and when he calls, he talks very casually. I asked him if there's any issue, he said everything was fine. Until the day I called him and he was talking with a girl while my airtime was burning. I asked him where he was, before then, he'll tell me where he was without asking, but his reply that day was why am I asking. I told him to call me back when he's less busy but he didn't.
I called him some days later to talk. I told him that if he's no longer interested in the relationship, we should peacefully break up instead of becoming enemies which he agreed to. That's how we broke up without a reason.
After some weeks, I asked him for reconciliation and he told me he will get back to me. He didn't, about a month later, he started posting a girl's pictures on WhatsApp and eulogizing her. Sometimes he does this immediately I come online. I was deeply hurt but I accepted or so I thought as part of life.
The issue is, I can't forget him totally no matter how much I try. I've prayed, stopped talking to him, had relationships which didn't work out. I don't want him again but I can't forget him. I know I've made stupid decisions in the past but how do I move on from it, is it until he announces his wedding date or when?
Help me out please
The same way you feel peace when ending it with others who genuinely care about you, is the same way he's feeling peace as he's ended it with you... That thing you're feeling now, is probably how you also made those others feel.
spirul77: My international passport and voters ID were stolen on a business trip to Ghana last week, please how is it possible for me to get registered on the ongoing NIN registration ? Please anybody with better understanding on how I should go about it should enlighten me. I have just school certificates and BVN as the only means of Identification now.
ALL the more reasons you should go for your NIN enrollment, so you have another, and more valid means of Identification.
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You people's logic baffles me. You want to sell something for people, but you go out of your way to piss them off, even when they ask you politely to do better.
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Kind of sounds like you're trying to protect the "bad eggs" from being discovered. We all know how powerful social media is. It can even topple governments, so you can't say the best is what you're offering.
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