₦airaland Forum

stag:
I am trying to wrap my head around this. It sounds a bit confusing.

You agree men are heads naturally & in same vain refuse any man to be your head.

I think that it may have been less confusing if you didn’t agree men are heads naturally.

Not everyone's brain is big enough to understand what I wrote up there.

IamPlato:
Annwrites! Thanks For That

Don't mention.

People wouldn't worry so much about genotype if it wasn't such an issue.

The chances of an AS and AS couple birthing SS is 50:50.

It's simply genetics. Mendel's law of independent assortment.

It's the same chance of birthing a male or female child.

True, back in those days couples never checked before marrying, but the mortality rate was high. The ignorance of our people then always made them tag the sickness behind those death as something else except an unexplained genetic condition.

AS and AS can have healthy children. Some people have been lucky but that doesn't mean it's not a dangerous game of chance. The only sure way to birth healthy children may be through IVF and not many people can afford it.

As odd as it may sound, those healthy children must have come only from a healthy hereditary line.

If you are contemplating breeding with an AS and you are also a AS, please speak to a doctor. Surely, you don't want to birth an SS child that constantly live in pain and keeps asking you why you were cruel enough to birth him or her.

PS. You should read more on genetics.

This is very low for an historical site.

kpolli:
Typical answer, wasn't expecting you to show me what doesn't exist

Lolz ...

You shouldn't even be demanding an answer from me in the first place

That daddy freeze is right and backed up with the scriptures is my own truth.

Enjoy the rest of your night.

kpolli:
Show us the scripture that says he is right. PS Don't post bits of quotes to form a scripture

I don't even have time to do that.

Whoever needs answers should find time to search the scriptures on their own.

But Daddy Freeze is right.

The scriptures cannot lie after all.

If your dad used his fourth child as his next of kin, that is questionable. Howbeit, I assumed he trusted his judgement that's why he took that decision.

On to the important issue, your mum. If your mum has other source of income, that's good.

If you and your other siblings earn something substantial, that's good too.

I feel you should let your brother be.

What if your father never left anything before death came knocking, won't you all still have a responsibility to your mum.

My mum always tell me that once one parent are aged, the children should take their parent as if they are one of their own children.

In this case, take care of your mum needs as regards your capacity and let your brother be.

larryking540:
People day chose again sofer say the Bobo get camery, and he day dress like big man, ,,he is OK..na to give am wahala make he quickly engage u

Even the bobo sef should be smart.

Many women are now marrying for money.

larryking540:
love is like a chain ,this is d reason I said so,
The other day there was a thread that was posted saying some ladies /girlfriend don't ask their boyfriend if they are saving or have a saving account, and now after marriage u will see those same ladies complain that they don't know how their husband spend money, ,,everything is a chain wat u fail to correct during dating don't expect any change after marriage cus marriage is just a name and a date after dat day everything goes to normal again

True.

In other words, people should choose their spouse carefully.

flyca:
We think alike sooooooo much!

Lolz....

That has to because you are very observant and close to your mum.

My mum tells me things I don't even know and understand.

But naturally, its because you are intelligent.

larryking540:
I understand not everyone wants to stay submissive in marriage but a husband can't not do all the catering for in d hux and d wife working or not working she go day open eye for am , like say na e younger brother she day talk to,
Any way na d leg way man give e woman na so she go use follow u
Peace

A man who wants a submissive wife must be seeking for a dependent women.
It's a win win situation.

So such a man shouldn't complain.

larryking540:
Building a house as a female isn't a crime? Single or married but doing it codedly while ur husband goes on debt just to feed d family and cater for d need of the hus is wat we call wickedness in d highest order,

There was a story of a woman in benin who built a hux and she and d husband moved in unknowingly to the man dat the wife is the owner of the house they were staying and the woman was also collecting rentage from the man all unknowingly to the man, but trust God nothing is hidden under the sun for ever, and 80% of women with this mentality they have will do the same just a few will open up,

Be friend at day time
And be lovers at nite,
Marry someone u understand not becus all my friends are married I too want to quickly get married, ,,,cus na there all dis problem for day start

Truth is, I can't ever do this to a man who loves me, respect me as an equal and lets me in on how he spends his money.

But if he his a reckless spender and expects me to help his life because I am supposed to be submissive, he will see all shades of the tough me.

flyca:
Don't mind what they write here, it doesn't change anything. One just insulted my father. Guess what, it still doesn't change anything.

Sucessful men go for sucessful women to build an even more sucessful homes! All these chicken-males typing rubbish here are not the type of me we are looking for. Lol

Kisses to you babe!

Thanks dearie...

More kisses from me to you.

larryking540:
Exactly becus my friend is getting married so make I quickly marry too o
Becus her level don high o na mrs so so so they day call her o

Abi..

Dpharisee:
Your mum is not a good woman I am sorry, I have an uncle whose wife is doing well and he takes all the credit, but we all know that it's his wife, she remains submissive and she doesn't need to broadcast her strugglew and efforts because marriage is not a political contest between two opposing parties.

My mum may not be a good woman to you but the truth is your opinion doesn't matter.

fastseo:
I hope you are married? Hiding things from your husband like house and other investment is not wise at all. You have to let him know he is your husband and not an enemy or village people.
The man too have to let his wife knows before getting any property or going into investment for two heads is better than one.
A man should allow his wife know how his will should look like when he dies. Even self who is the man struggling for if not the wife and children? Or will the man will his property to his brothers and family members.
We all have to chill in this feminist thing, this is the reason we are having broken homes here and there, during the days of our father nothing like broken homes but today after 3 or 4 years marriage has broken why because women are now trying to be the head of the family which naturally its not so.

I am not married but if do I will not only get married to one who I love but one who loves me right back. One who will support me and be my partner.

He has to be one I can trust my life with. So telling him things won't be a problem.

But if he changes, I change too and take my leave. Life is too short to be living with an housemate.

Feminism is really not breaking homes. The homes which are getting broken where heading towards that direction from day one.

Marriages lasted during the days of our fathers because many women were contented with being slaves. Many of them changed their name into 'endurance' when they are getting married. It was normal then.

But today, it is abnormal to many women.

Men are heads naturally but no man is my head.

fastseo:
Then why pretend that they love the man when they are not happy with the term marriage. It's better they stay single after all marriage no be by force.

Many women don't even marry for love, they just wanna bear a title. For this reason, they will remain married whether they are happy or not.

The same pressure which pushed them into getting married in the first place is what keeps them there.

That's their own problem. It's not my business.

CuntMiner:
yyou are brainless

If reasoning like this makes me brainless....


I want to be forever brainless.


What's the use of a brain that can't liberate me?

flyca:
Do you know why my parents still live in a rented apartment after 38 years if marriage?

My “submissive” mum always sort consent, which she was never given! And her bible told her to “submit”, so all her years of marriage, she submitted to the man's will. My dad? Never saw the need to buy a land, build a house, good to good schhols etc because his bible told him to be “content”.

38 years after, REGRETS everywhere. Lol

Consent my foot! I may notify you (depending on how you sail our ship) but I cannot allow you to drag me backwards. Impossible!

Annwrites, you are very intelligent
Cc: MahatmaGhandi, keepingmum

Lolz...

This is so similar to my mum except my dad doesn't have money when my mum has more than enough. He knows she won't ever turn down the needs of any of her children.

My mum finally became wise and now she has a land which she's gradually developing and is planning to acquire more this year. She didn't tell a soul except we her children.

The most annoying thing is my dad tries to take credit for every of her successful project or business but my mum never fails to remind him and his family members of how she struggled without his support to achieve them.

It is really nice to know a lot of women are realizing the anomalies in the society.

It is also nice knowing you are also one of the few intelligent ones who refused to accept the chains society prepared for women.

Elder0001:
Your post summed it up

You’re a very wise fellow .

Thank You.

prosnadis:
Clap for ur self...ADVISER....i am sure ur still single.

Single and having the life of a party.

I have met too many unhappy married women to understand that the only thing they enjoy in their marriage is the title 'married'.

Besides, I wasn't advising, I dropped my opinion.

martowskin1:
U need to calm down, about the bolded part.... Is a wrong move, imagine the husband doing things without carrying the wife along...

Marriage is an important institution that no matter how civilised we claim to have become, the man and the
woman knows their place

Did you read the last part of my post?

martowskin1:
U need to calm down, about the bolded part.... Is a wrong move, imagine the husband doing things without carrying the wife along...

Marriage is an important institution that no matter how civilised we claim to have become, the man and the
woman knows their place

Did you read the last part of my post?

Besides, gender roles is not my thing. My place is anywhere I choose not what religion, society, my spouse or parent choose for me.

flyca:
Your wife was first human, before being your wife. This is 21st century where women have a voice now. She is not your slave, she is your wife. If you involve her in the marriage business, she involves you. If you don't, to hell with your consent and ego massage! If you want her respect, give respect.

All those insult hold no water. Having a career, money and a voice only scares chicken-males in this era. Real men that know their worth, know the kind of women they go for.

Bye

Keep ringing it into their heads.

Many men wants their ego massaged the same way their mum did for their dad but women are changing and it scares them.

What annoys me the most is they go around saying they wish to marry a successful woman but eventually they really can't deal with fact that she is successful.

They begin wanting to turn her into an inferior being and when she stands her ground, they become all abusive.

larryking540:
See as u day talk like say na u marry d man or na d man marry u ,

These are some of the reasons marriage don't last, becus ladies like u now believe man and woman was created the same day and equal right is attached to both of them

You may disagree with my opinion but it still doesn't change the fact.

Marriage - The two marry themselves.

And yes, we both have equal right.

Not everyone wanna be submissive to stay married.

Hiring a child house help in a home with children is already discriminatory.

The undeniable truth is child labor is wrong no matter the angle one decides to see it.

If one wants to help a less privilege child, one should without making or turning them into house helps.

If a husband can buy a property in his name so can a wife.

She doesn't even need his consent or support except she feels like it.

A woman will misbehave because she has the tendency to not because of some properties she acquired.

If a husband would not let his wife know of any step he wishes to take he doesn't even deserve to know about his wife business.

This sounds like my dad except I am not the first child.

In the future, is he wishes to interact or have a good relationship with me or any of my siblings he definitely will be the one to put the extra effort.

I believe it should not be about you being expected to talk to him but him even being ready to start a relationship.

Boldwinner:
Thanks for apt response. But if you were in her shoes, would you rather choose be party to something you know is wrong by keeping quiet than express your views for the sake of your "happiness"?

I have walked in a similar shoe before and I can tell you staying quiet and giving her mum less attention could make her mum adjust and she find peace.

It is wrong. Fine. But then what is wrong or right is relative.
And if all she has been getting is insult for pointing something as wrong to her mum, then I believe its high time she applies wisdom.

Her mental and emotional health is definitely important.

If she's 20 years, well maybe she should get busy. If she's lucky to have a close relationship with some family members, she can decide to stay away for a while.

She also should stop opposing her mum except it's something that would greatly effect her happiness.

Lastly, your views maybe far from the truth. Same way her mum have no good reason to say such words to her daughter.

I understand your plight, I have seen that entitlement syndrome in different shades and I still do.

But before you decide to end the friendship, try finding out why his business isn't growing and give him appropriate advice. You also can give him some money to help him with his business. If you notice, he isn't cut out to be a business owner, you can just tell him to seek employment and if you can help him in getting a job.

If after doing any of this your friend is still stagnant and begging without a good reason.

You can unfriend him.