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so sorry for what you are going thru, this is my own input,

u guys have been married less than 2 years, the first few years are most time tough as you have to understand each other.
He seems to be insecure and probably finds you intimidating as you are intelligent, ambitious, go getter….
But you have to remember he is the head of the house, you have to respect him and treat him like a “king”. Ok I know it sounds silly and the marriage has come to how it is but things can still change for the better…, if after you have made a lot of effort in treating him as a good wife would and he still acts like a jerk then sorry to say you have to walk away , but this is after there is no hope but I believe there is when you pray hard.
I might be stating the obvious here but try and be a lovely wifey, and do the normal stuff… entice him with food… be loving, try and establish a friendship again. Try and have fun, be friends again like the good old times.
Look good, keep the house neat etc make him feel welcome from work etc. you may have tried all these things but please keep on keeping on. Most of all respect him, elevate him…. You can be a very successful woman with authority, power at work or business but at home, you are the wife and let him see that.
You may be more mature and smarter than him but still let him be the man in the house. When things change for the better, he will even seek your input on important things as he knows you are smart.
In regards to him cheating, whao, this is another big one. Have a nice chat with him, tell him you r willing to forgive him and you want to start over. The STD issue is deep. I am so sorry you have to go thru this… I pray that he will come to his senses and realize he is destroying his own home and risking his family’s health with his childish behaviour. Please protect yourself and go for tests…
Trust is another issue, he says you don’t trust him. Well I don’t blame you when the trust issues is in relation to his flings. Trust in relation to his judgements is another thing. He may feel “stupid” having you as a wife, but again you have to elevate him and make him feel good….
You guys dated 4 years which is a long time. I believe you know each other to an extent… personality wise, he knew the type of lady you were and most have liked your qualities, the issue now could be that he doesn’t feel he is the head of the home. Hence, him stating you don’t respect him…. And now he is getting that confirmation from his family who don’t really know you…. To be honest he needs to grow up and he shouldn’t involve his family in his affairs. You can’t do much about it.
It is normally the woman that does the hardwork in keeping her home by the Grace of God, I just hope and pray that he changes and your efforts won’t be in vain.
I know pple have advised you leave but please don’t throw in the towel yet. When it is time to go nobody will tell you, you will leave, you r a strong woman. I know you still want things to work out and I hope it does.
Wish you the best.

thanks sam u will be contacted shortly.
design 5 thanks for the input,

Hello all

Will like to know the estimated labour cost of plastering a building ( 6 unit of 3 bed flat) - standard flats, all ensuite,
It is located in Lekki.


Thanks

I have a Daf 85 (right hand drive) and a forty feet flat bed in Ibadan, both from the UK and have never been used in Nigeria. I will like to lease them – the head and flat bed
Deposit of 1m naira is required upfront, whilst a monthly installmental payment of 500k will be paid for 8 months. This amount to 5m naira for the whole purchase.
Note: the cost of conversion, maintenance, registration will be borne by the lessee and ownership transferred completely to the lessee at the end of the 8th month after all payments have been made.


Also i have 4 other flat bed for sale as well,

WHY RENT WHEN YOU CAN BUY!

Ebonyeyes:
Hello ant01, My friend is just like you, she is quite slim now with a cute shape and eats like a horse but I keep telling her to regulate her diet now and try and learn what is good and bad because she will explode after child birth but she will not listen.

I have to work hard to maintain my figure and Exercise is what I use, I also eat moderately, no junkified foods. I cant advocate kettlebells enough, since I started using them in December, Im fitter than ever abs and all.

Girls dont be afraid of weights you will not look like hulk hogan in drag . Thankfully I know more about how to keep the weight off now that I am young and hopefully will follow through till my grave

Hi Ebonyeyes,

I actually saw the advert for kettlebells today and thought here we go again another gimmick, i might get it now though,
Things are going well, am just 5kg away now! getting there,

joxiri:
@amt01
I understand that careers in africa summit is very good, when is their next summit

the next summit is in may, but you have to register asap it is an only invitation event, based on your application - cv, you will get invited by companies for interviews,

markos:
currently working on an SAP inter-company project due to go-live in May, lots of data to be configured from SD, FI and CO-PA, working for a small company so they utilise every SAP experience you have, if you happen to be multi-skilled, believe small sized companies will take advantage, sometimes i find it difficult switching from SD to FI to CO-PA, controlling, MM,although it gives you an advantage to see the whole picture, it does not make you a master of one module, has anyone experienced this?? any multi-skilled SAP consultants in here??

@Markos
on my last project i supported end users on fico, sd, mm and copa, i may be of help, but it has been a while as i am preoccupied with my kids
, am also thinking of getting sap access b4 i enter rat race again. lol

i agree with joxiri, , but if he chooses to stay then cool, but on your cv you have to spice it up, as it is kinda equivalent to customer service advisor, you get me.
you can also search for 9ja jobs from here, there is a website careersinafrica.com you can visit. There is a summit coming up in may. The website will give you all the details. i have been there 3 times and got offers with top companies in nigeria on all 3 occassions but couldn't travel for one reason or another, give it ago,

joxiri:
@ poster
this job your friend has got with lloyds tsb call center is it just an admin job
cos i dont see how your friend will gain experience from working in a call centre when he does not exaclty need a degree to work in a call centre

beans, beans, and more beans!

during my development years, i had beans everyday! I am 5feet 11 and a half, my brothers are both 6ft 2 and above, we all ate everyday. my sister hated it and never really ate much, she is the odd one out at 5ft 6,

i think beans had a lot to do with it,

am kinda in the same boat,
trying to lose weight, just had gave birth 4months back.
i still have 7kg to lose to get back to size 10 - 12. although i look ok as i am 5'11.5 and weigh 77 kg but i cant fit into most of my cloths!

i have lost 15kg so far.

Tips:
I always have breakfast, wholemeal - brown bread with egg, stew, or cereal, ( skimmed milk)
have fruits mostly carrot and banana, not a big fan of oranges and co as they have natural sugar which i noticed is not to good for me, i.e sugar,
then a main meal before 6pm, i try to have brown rice - smaller portion,

i also take green tea 2-3 times a day,
and i try to go to the gym, its a struggle so say twice a week and each visit i try to lose 300-400 calories - not much but better than nothing.
I bought a skipping rope and was doing 1000 skips a day 500 in the morning and 500 at night but i kind got fed up, i still try and skip but it is no longer consistent.

biscuits, youghurts and chocloates are a no no, gush i miss them ( i did take low calorie biscuits for about 2 weeks but i gained weight during this time, i guess i took too much cuz i always comforted myself saying they were low in fat!

men!!! i never use to worry about my weight, i was what they call lepa lol and i ate anything i wanted but now i have to count calories and stuff!

Thanks God for the babies though!!!!!!!!!!!

@ NLanders,
point of correction on above post,
currency in naira!!!!! not pounds.

Thanks.

Hi

Thanks for pointing it out!
It is naira,
1m naira upfront, 500k installmental,

Mate the truck will have to be converted by the interested party. All risks and reward to be borne by the interested party as well.
This is an offer too good to miss!
Thanks.

Hello,
I have a 26 kva perkins generator for sale.

price for quick sale 700,000 naira only.


Thanks.

Hello,
I have a 26 kva perkins generator for sale.

price for quick sale 700,000

Thanks.

@ muyo 2001

proposal for you since you manage trucks,

"I have a Daf 85 (right hand drive) and a forty feet flat bed in Ibadan, both from the UK and have never been used in Nigeria. I will like to lease them – the head and flat bed
Deposit of £1m is required upfront, whilst a monthly installmental payment of 500k will be paid for 8 months. This amount to £5m for the whole purchase.
Note: the cost of conversion, maintenance, registration will be borne by the lessee and ownership transferred completely to the lessee at the end of the 8th month after all payments have been made.

I have a Daf 85 (right hand drive) and a forty feet flat bed in Ibadan, both from the UK and have never been used in Nigeria. I will like to lease them – the head and flat bed
Deposit of £1m is required upfront, whilst a monthly installmental payment of 500k will be paid for 8 months. This amount to £5m for the whole purchase.
Note: the cost of conversion, maintenance, registration will be borne by the lessee and ownership transferred completely to the lessee at the end of the 8th month after all payments have been made.

where r u based?

please reconfirm the price!

do u have a 3 bed around vgc, if so how much?
cheers

Hey nairalanders,

Just got a quote for casting second level decking in lekki area for a 6 flat,
Any ideas what workmanship should costs?

Thanks.

Jarus is absolutely right,
well i didn't do ican, i did acca.
it is all about knowing the principles, correct application of it, this can be covered going through lots of past questions and looking at the suggested solutions. i always preach this to fellow colleagues who struggled with acca,
i spend at least 8hours in the library a day, do past question under "exam conditions", and award myself marks - not generously! then go to the areas i didnt do well in and read it up.
all is well, work hard and you will surely get there.

@markos,

indeed it was paradise on earth, stunning!
i did a few water activities, jet skiing, parasailing etc. will like to go back at some point again!
very nice pictures,

looks like you have been abroad on most of your projects and you really enjoy it,
on a project i had to travel to paris and men i didnt really like after working hours, been in a hotel all by myself watching french channels! thank God for BBC and CNN!, went with a few indian colleagues, but kept to myself after work and dinner. I guess with you guys it is different.

@ markos

good for you mate!
which Hawaian island, i was in Honolulu, a few years ago (after uni, decided to travel a bit) it was the best place ever!
r u currently on a project?

prices as at october 2009,
any chance of updating the prices.
Thanks

Thanks for contact details and quotes, will get back to you lot,

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@markos, kiwi et al,

well done guys for your contributions! u guys r selfless.
am a sap fico consultant myself based in the uk but not veterans like you guys, and currently a stay at home mum!
there r quite a few of us who wouldn't mind geting back to 9ja so we can claim back our territory lol,

To sap wannabes, wish u the best but like they have said, certification in the current market helps and also dedication and God's favor!

@kem4
thanks, very reasonable,

@kem4, nice house,
how much did your roof cost if you dont mind, including the wood planks used,
thanks

ok thanks, we have a supplier that charges us that.
point of correction, it is filling i need to fill d compound, what price can i get it for,
cheers

@ajileko et al,

any idea where i can get cheap sharp sand around the lekki region,
we have spent close to 1m filling compound, trying to sort access to road etc and it is not close to being finished!
sharp sand is costing us a fortune, we r not in the region so not sure if there are constructions work going on but i believe construction work should be going on around the area where we can get them at a very reduced rate!

Any ideas, or quotes for sharp sand will be welcome
thanks

@jamesdpath

thanks will get back to u via email.