₦airaland Forum

bukatyne:
That entitlement mentality stems from the fact a lot of parents actually sacrifice all they have to train their kids.

A lot of parents didn't have enough to 'save' or 'plan the future' after training their kids so they naturally expect that kid to become their pension in old age which is setting the kid up for failure and parents for disappointment.

Today, parents realize the mistakes of parents of old so they plan their future in addition to caring for their kids today.

Lower birth rates and higher earning power also helps.

thank God u spoke about birth rates.

some parents (& even youths) don't plan before giving birth to kids. they have that perception that all u need do is give birth, and resources from "God knows where" will be available to train the child(ren).

if only birth rates can be controlled, this problem will be solved.

how many families have u seen that have one or two children and yet are very poor?

Karleb:
You've made sense but how did you come to the fact that girls take care of their parents more?

check ur extended family

1. look for ways to help one or more of ur relatives to be independent & reliable.

2. ur dad is surely missing his active days

3. u were stubborn.
u choosed to burn ur baby pics, don't blame ur parents for ur damn act

do u wanna/intend/desire to get married to two wives?

if no, go and sleep

keep ur plans to yourself

it is good, keep it up!

see how selfish u are

kemicalreact:
You too noticed? This one still added 8 more million

u notice pass me.

e even notice da price difference

da average Nigerian parent have da "entitlement" mentality that they deserve whatever they demand from their children (when they become adults). this is the reason why most Nigerian parents don't plan for their old age. they will only plan to be liabilities to their children at that stage.
you will hear them say: "i birthed u & trained u so it's ur duty to take care of me at old age". it is worse among the mothers who think they deserve all just because they carried u in their womb for 9 months .
am not saying they shouldn't be taken care of,
but they should also plan for that stage of their lives so that their children can have more focus on their nuclear families (which will likely be at its growing stage).
this is one thing I love about the westerners. they plan for themselves ahead.

children (especially guys) should also plan to take care of their parents. it is a proven fact that the Nigerian girl show more care for her aged parents than her brothers. this is unfair. we get carried away by hustles, buzzles & co. but when they die, we will spend huge amounts of money to bury them. that is selfishness.
a lot of aged persons would've remained alive if a quarter of da amount spent on their burial was given to them (at a particular time) while alive.
I've seen lots of guys living big while their parents lacked care. everyone only waits for Christmas. it is more like show off to me.
it's 365 days, & u are only there for 12 or 21(max).

everyone should buckle up

oya go throw party naw.

see wetin make u dey disturb our sleep

when I saw ur moniker,
i nodded.

abeg go see a doctor now

and so?

this same house again?!

softeeg:
the guy is handsome, he should have been ugly instead

ewo!

y u be like dz naw?

thank God for healing you,

may your healing be permanent in Jesus name

she get long throat

u see person wey get ur time - ur head don dey big,

when u go jam da one wey no go send u - u go kom here kom dey cry.

what be dz!

if concortion dey hungry u to eat, u better go meet native doctor

keep and maintain a small circle

Bkayyy:
Who is feeding you with lies?
What is the essence of marriage if you exclude sex? Or do you want to dictate to married couples what they do in the other room?

go and get ur facts right

Bkayyy:
Nne if you are really Igbo (you know these days even Igbo phobic individuals bear Igbo names) you don't have to apologize or seek approval from anybody to practice your lifestyle because ancient Ndigbo allowed women to marry women. The practice was abolished by the missionaries.

the ancient act of women marrying women wasn't for lesbian reasons.

2dice01:
Will Smith
Or
Jeff Becoz kinda Money

u know

MhisTahrah:
Money cannot guarantee a good spouse. Don't get it twisted.

did u ever hear bill gates complain about his wife?

dear lawd!
see how cosmetics have damaged her skin

just have lots of money,
she will be good

Dtruthspeaker:
I am unable to clearly tell if you are being sarcastic, if it is so, then could you share why you think my opinion is wrong?

don't get it twisted,

u ain't wrong

anyone that can describe hunger have never really been hungry

Muna4real:
Agbani derego (miss world 2001)

She is the first Nigerian to win the crown. Her win changed the perception of black women in the world. She is still the face of African beauty in Nigeria

we bin dey wait to see whether u no go mention her

u are just giving seun and his crew more money.
i(and lots of others) ain't gonna click that shitty link

u need cele deliverance

Dtruthspeaker:
In fairness and natural justice, such sweet words to my ears, so let's go.

First, the concept of idi-igi and ori-ojori are admirable attempts by the Yoruba Peoples to do that which is right and good to deliver good justice to all who require it.

Therefore, idi-igi and ori-ojori are not the only good way of resolving the dispute, there will always be other good and fair means of resolving any dispute.

Secondly, On "How about a situation whereby the Two Women who had Children for the man had left him so long time before He Dies." Natural Law is a lover of Reasonable Freedom and the exercise of freewill, therefore, it will never Compell anyone to remain in any marriage, neither will it punish anyone for departing from the marriage.

Under Natural Law the purpose of marriage is for all the good that can come out from companionship, thus if the companions no longer want the companionship, then they shall be free to leave, without Any Wicked Consequences.

Thirdly, On "the two women was never Legally Married to the Deceased man". Under Natural Law, where a man cohabits with a woman, as husband and wife, They Are indeed husband and wife. For save for the soothing of the families affected by the Union, A marriage is formed immediately the couples Consent to cohabit together as man and wife and they Represent Same to the Whole world. (Consent makes the Law).

So under Natural Law, there is no requirement for a formal celebration of the marriage, for immediately the couples cohabit as husband and wife, Marriage is Presumed and Upheld!

Fourthly, On "He died a Single father.Leaving 4 Children behind ,3 Males from first woman ,One female from the second woman," since the women exercised their right to leave the marriage, from the period of their departure, they can not be said to be entitled to any benefit arising and due to the man since they have also relinquished their liability owed him (He who does the work, must get his wages).

However, when it comes to the fruits (children) of the marriage, different natural laws come into play.

Children are a product of the conscious act and will of a husband and wife. And children come with a liability first placed on the couples themselves, such that even if the couples, uncouple, the liability still remains.

Therefore, once children are born, burdens are placed on the couple, for it is against Natural Law to unreasonably place burdens, created by some persons, on others (society,). For it is another Rule of Natural Law that All persons must be catered and cared for.

So even though the couples are separated, they are both still responsible for the good welfare of their children.

And this is why it is immaterial that "the man died a single father". The man till his death remains liable and responsible for the good welfare of the product of his activities, both he and the mothers of the children.

So, what is the good judgment on how his property is to be shared? The Just and Right and Fair Answer is EQUALLY!!!

For all the children, are children of equal standing and class, None is Higher than the other, in that they are all Equally owed the Natural Law duty of care and good wellbeing as a right from their father and a Gift From Nature.

under natural law, u really talk sense