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azraeljaheel:
I can help you revenge

How much are you willing to pay for it


200k?

use your brain now, how can I pay 200k for money that's not up to 200k

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Hi guys, I’ll make this as short as possible.
There is this babe I’m dating, we’ve known each other for about 3 years and were very close but started dating about 5 months ago.

3 days ago, I told her there is this business I want us to do together, she really liked it and she told me she wanted to speak to me about something. She sent a voice note where she said she’s likes me , my personality, and all, she sees me as someone she can talk to about any issue and all of that but she still finds it difficult to come to the realization that I’m her boyfriend and hence cannot feel that “love” for me

She was like she seems me as a very close friend and all that but can’t picture herself sharing sexual energy with me. So she finds it difficult to say She Loves me but she definately likes everything about me

She says it’s not my fault and it’s more of a physchology issue with her, She mentioned her mum and Dad are separated and with that experience, she finds it difficult to really go in love and relationships , a reason why she was single for over 3 years since before dating me.

Now a lot of things make it complicated
1. She’s definitely not cheating cos even though she’s not the type, I still made my findings

2. I’m not physically and financially bad or something, I mean

3. The relationship has been cool up until now, we shared moments, gone on outings, shared kisses and romantic moments , imagine the “God when “ couples you see on social media

Now, I am not a time waster or simp, if someone says they are not interested in me, I’ll let them go

But in this case , I don’t know what to do but I’m thinking of taking these steps

1. She said she had the same issue in her last relationship, so I’m thinking of physchological ways to help her solve it

2. I want to break up with her cos it’s difficult knowing you love someone and they reply back with they like everything about you but can feel like relationship love for you

3. I suspect something fishy is going on but I cannot pin point it.

What do you guys think? I need an outside party eye view to this

21cents:
your first point is so on point. nowadays girls are too lazy to improve themselves but wanting to settle down. asked her what she has to offer me in a probable marriage and she couldn't find any words. so small minded and no skills, no money making traits, nothing but she's crowing out loud she wants to settle down with me.

I don see the parasitic and leech mentality and figured we're miles apart na just fine she fine. I'm calling it off next month 2days to her bday. I know she'd be telling me soon to give her something for bday but I go burst her bubbles.

I think as a man, you just make your life easier by not adding a parasitic girl to your life

Guys get in here, if there is anything that must end in 2020, please let this be number 1.

This not a REDPILL thread, while I am not against redpill, I'll say I'm a realist and I believe everything should be done in the right way.

1. Parasitic Relationships

After studying most of the relationships around me for some time, I realised 80 percent of the relationships today are parasitic, and to be honest I don't blame anybody.
Nobody wants to date who they cannot gain anything from and its totally understandable.
To get to the root of this, let us consider some things, Nigeria is arguably the poverty capital of the world, with alot of people plunging more into poverty daily, everyone is looking for a way out.
That is why in Nigeria today, as a guy if you don't have money, nobody will give you a second look. But do not allow someone to drag you back into poverty.

For this thread , I'll like to concentrate more on guys. I may be doing a girls thread in the future. I'll say if you are a guy and let's say you and you babe went for a date, unfortunately, your card ain't working and you do not have cash, if you cannot look up to your babe to cover up for you at that moment, you are in the wrong relationship.

Relationships should not be a poverty alleviation scheme, you need to continue ask yourself what your partner brings to the table, and I am not talking about sex here.

In the same vein too, everything is not about money, if she cannot contribute in cash, how about in kind?

Let me tell you a major reason why I have stepped down from relationships for a while, my last girlfriend used to be my crush for years. I met her when I was in 500 level in the university, then I was a student without job, I couldn't. even boast of #2000 in my account.
I chased her for a long time back then but she didn't even look at my side.

Fast forward 2 years later, I finished school, got a good job and when she realised I was earning as little as 250k per month, she literally dragged me into a relationship, a parasitic relationship.
I thank God I was able to realise the time bomb on time, she was not contributing anything to the relationship, while I wasnt even bothered about the money, I realised we were miles apart in terms of ambitions too.

I tried to encourage her to get a job too, but what made me call her empty was when I tried to come up with a CV for her. We got to the skills part and this girl had nothing to boast of , I mean literally nothing, not even Microsoft word, or excel or maybe she had worked as a sales girl before. All she had was the course she studied in school.

I wanted to leave Nigeria for a greener pasture, do my masters , build a business and all that. She was empty, she couldn't even relate with me when I discuss business prospects with her, she was not aware of how nigerian youths are being under utilized in Nigeria. All she knew was 'how we should send messages to ourselves' , 'call each other's and all these lovely dovey stuffs that don't last.

Then, I realised most girls are like that, they are beautiful- thanks to God and their parents , know how to dress well but cannot contribute anything to move your life from point A to point B.

2. Symbiotic relationships

This type is very rare today, just like the biological term it was coined from, every body wins. While I take from you, I also contribute to you. It is the healthiest form of relationship I know and from that I have noticed, there is always mutual respect here.

Let me give you an example, I have a girl-friend , and while we are not dating because of religious difference and my belief that some friendships are better left as friendships. I'll say we have a very symbiotic relationship
When I spoke to her about having multiple sources of income, she was the one that opened my eye to a baring salon opportunity in her area.
She made me realise how much I could be making if I invested in that business.
On my end, I developed her interest in programming and encouraged her to participate in a lifetime training opportunity. Today she works as a software engineer and earn so much, even though she studied sociology in school.
This is just one of the examples of how symbiosis works between us.

Conclusion
I made this thread for guys because I got irritated by the constant complaints I get from guys on this platform. A guy once said he earned 100k per month and placed his girlfriend on a 30k per month stipend. Throughout the thread I couldn't see how the so called girl was contributing to his life, but he was here ranting about how she was denying him sex.
I mean, 100k is not a bad income in a country where the minimum wage is still as low as 30k, but how do you hope to lift yourself out of poverty when you deliberately invited a parasite into your life.

And don't get it twisted, guys take care of your woman , put her on a monthly stipend if you like , but make sure she deserves it, make sure she is contributing something to your life too. It's not just about being beautiful or sex or whatever , it is about helping yourself too. And I strongly believe only guys with low self esteem end up in parasitic relationships.

I'll be opening a WhatsApp group soon to see how we can encourage ourselves to do the right things in relationships. It is about doing the right thing please, not redpill.

If you are interested, drop your number and name and I'll add you.

I just had to create this thread because I was tired of stuffs I hear from men. I read a story on Joro Ig page today.

A guy claimed his gf was pregnant for another guy, lied to him about it and she aborted it. He was only able to find out months later.

Another guy here claimed he spent most of the money he made in polishing his babe until her level was more than his and she dumped him (many people here should know that story)

Where do these types of men even crawl out from for God sake.How can your babe be pregnant for another man in this life. Or how can you even claim you spent all your money worshipping a woman

Well I just have one advise for you guys. Never compromise in relationships, the moment your mind starts telling you something is wrong, please do not ignore that feeling, it's called instincts.

Always trust your instincts. I must admit my longest relationship was 14 months because I don't compromise and it has saved me a lot of regrets and simp-like behaviour.

I will not wait until you embarrass me before I dump you, and once it's over between us, forget it, even if you are queen Elizabeth, over is over

Let me give you an example of my last babe, everything was cool between us until I realise she was trying to hide something from me . Immediately I suspected this, I told her, I dont know what you are up to but whatever it is, I won't compromise when I catch you

Lo and behold , she has been going out with a guy she never mentioned to me neither did she tell the guy she had a boyfriend. Now, its not a sin to have a friend or make a new friend or even go out with a new friend either male or female

But it became a sin when I called her to inform her I was sick and she told me it was late and she was at home. Whereas she wasn't at home, she had gone on a date with this new friend of hers. The next day I discovered this lie and broke up with her immediately regardless of what had been between us.

Now while some people might say this is petty, or childish or whatever, I realise these are the little things alot of guys ignore in relationships until the girl messes them up.

I believe if you can lie to me about your location while on a date with another guy knowing well that I was sick, you would equally cheat behind me.

Now how could a guy make alot of money and spend it all on a girl and forget to take care of himself. While it's your duty to take care of your babe, I'll say take care of yourself first.

As long as we are not married yet, I'll make sure I give to my mum or Dad or siblings first if they ask before I give to you. Because I know at the end of the day, they will always be there while you might be gone tomorrow

While I admit I have not been able to keep.relationships for a long time because of these attitudes, it has saved me from stories that touch when things go wrong between us.

Another thing I'll like to address is the issue of girls who bring nothing to a relationship apart from sex. And I don't even see sex as a contribution because we both contributed to it and enjoyed it.

I remeber one of my babes back then, she is the type that always wanted us to go to the cinema today, eatery tomorrow, shopping the next day. Funny enough, she was as broke as a church rat. I see many guys dating liabilities, how can you be in a relationship and cannot call on your babe for a quick help.

Hi babe, can you recharge #2000 card for me till tomorrow? My bank transactions are not going through. This is impossible in most relationships.

Funny enough these are the types of babes that like to pressure guys. The day I asked that my ex what she was contributing to the relationship, she said 'Advice'.
I just broke up with her the day after.

So please guys, what I am preaching here is don't compromise. Dont say things like 'she kept begging me until I forgave her' , 'she was crying and I had to take her back'.

While I admit there are things we do for love sometimes , you still have to apply your senses

The end of my rant.

Let me tell you what to do.
She is over there now, she has more power than you. But you can still salvage the situation. You have to behave like a fool sometimes in order to make a fool out of a fool.

Her loyalty has been compromised, the guy has probably been shagging her, forget all those stories.

In short, my piece of advice, leave nysc alone and travel abroad. But when you get there, dump her immediately.

If you dump her now, na you go loose o

Notahing to see here

Thanks guys, Just saw her with d guy tonight again and shes claiming the guy is her friend. I'm dumping for already, will just stop replying messages and all and that's it. I'm cutting all ties

SirMichael1:
If you want my advice, remove the word simp from your post, I'm beginning to get disgusted by that word.

I've removed it, oya drop your advice

Nothing to see here

padi94:
It's your mind I guess

Yeah, I know . I just hope there is a way I can focus my mind on something else and all

Degrezhaa:
Oga stop masturbating

Don't be silly, I dont masturbate and even though, masturbation is not related with maintaining erection

I just

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Thanks

stupidity:
You are a learner. For you to be surprised, you never see anything yet.

Mehn , I don't think I'm a learner but e shock me bro

I just

4FACEADELEKE:
I know some parts where copied cos I have come across some of these while reading some red pill books.But Kudos to Ubunja still for bringing this out to ignorant men here.Most will never listen that's why I stopped advising men on the game,cos most of them later got what they wanted,aligned with the female folks,to stab me in the back. A manipulated man will most time will be a manipulated man,no matter the lecture

Kindly help with name of those red pill books

drezzyx:
Unfortunately this sickness called masturbation has no cure.

Who told you this nonsense?

Butterscotch92:
I know I deserve all the bashing I'm receiving here and more. But I wonder why it's very difficult for most to believe that I'm actually repentant about the whole thing. I know I really hurt my man which is part of my pain. I can never repeat such action no matter the circumstances with what I've learnt and I believe if I am lucky enough to get a second chance I'll be a much better version of myself and be forever grateful. It happened in the car because I wouldn't have agreed to follow him elsewhere by then it would be premeditated. I rejected every of his attempt to meet him anywhere else. Those were moments of weakness although it cannot be justified.

Take my advice or regret it.
The guy is right and it's best you let him be regardless of your new intentions. It's a slap on him someone bleeped his girl over 4 times, not even on a bed, it was in a car. It shows how loose you can be.
And thank God ,your man is a good man, someone like me will zero my mind on you and just be using 4 the sex benefits.

In short, move on and don't do the same mistake with d next guy

Shibaraba:
I'm here to bash and I will do so thoroughly. My name is shibaraba and I don't mince words.

Not once, not twice but thrice. Well Peter denied Jesus three times. Your man is not Jesus. And I hope he never forgives you.
How dare you.
I'm feeling his pain as I speak.
As in My personal punna somebody nack am. No be even for better hotel.... For inside car. Abasimikipanyong. Cheating is a process. What lead you to do it once it's sure you'll do it again.
Me advice for you, better continue nacking your colleague and leave your man. For if I was your man, we will keep dating till My wedding day... With another. Turn you to lord of the rings. You go turn maid, cook, driver, anything I want and I still won't marry you. For I will always see you as an okpo. And anytime you come back from an outing na soso sperm I go dey smell around you because e go be me like say you just go lick preeq finish.
No vex... Na my mind I talk. Truth is bitter. This is the truth

What is the meaning of Abasimikipanyong.

silentEXPLOSION:
IMO
He wasn't beaten.
One on one, AJ cannot withstand this guy.

Andy has quick fists but slow body movement, lethal jabs that could have knocked AJ out.

Anyways, no excuses. AJ won with sense.

#float like a butterfly and sting like a bee

So the one they fought was one on what? Idiot

I just

Na Gbagada road be that. The government is at fault too, how can you increase the height of divisions between the road without providing pedestrian bridges. The only pedestrian bridge is at Charly boy, the next one is at new castle.

Let's pray something happens tomorrow o. Else...

vingeophysicist:
you write like someone that never saw the four walls of a university .I only pity the person that sponsored your education.

I pity the idiot that brought you into the world. And the asshole that bleeped the idiot.

vingeophysicist:
What useless unilag . your written English really exposed the fact you schooled in unilag

Waited for this moment when u will run out of excuses and attack me personally. Lol, Baba is pained asf. Better live your life and stop comparing yourself to others. Ur mates abroad are making waves already nd ure here happy about smthing trivial. Something that doesn't even matter. V cleared ur doubt. Ode. Had to even google Nau to knw it actually means Nnamdi Azikwe Uni... Piss out. Continue arguing with ur forefathers.

vingeophysicist:
engineering competitive keh. Compare it with medicine. My first Jamb we where 15k plus looking for admission in medicine and surgery. Go and get the record (Nau). Around 2010

Wts Nau? Is dat a schl. And for your records, d cut of mark for medicine then was 74, for my engr course was 72(highest after medicine). I had 76.
M taking about Unilag ure taking abt Nau. Stop looking 4 excuse sir.

Nothing to see here

vingeophysicist:
did you ever seek admission in a competitive department? I guess no. Like medicine and surgery

I did Engineering. Dnt wanna b too specific but i did one of these: Mechanical, electrical, chemical engineering. What can be more competitive.
Pls look for another excuse. FYI, I finished with a 2'1.

vingeophysicist:
it either you schooled in a private University or state university where the competition is minimal.I graduated 23 but I knew what I saw to gain admission, I would have graduated at 20 if not for the money involve in private University. So you are just privilege not that you merited it.

@ vingeophysicist I graduated from university of lagos.
Entered @ 16, finished @ 21. What other excuse do u hv