₦airaland Forum

Phabulous4:
Christian brothers, let’s better open a WhatsApp group to address this issue once and for all, cause we are many in this predicament, more than you think.

Funny thing is, mine is not even working currently. We moved back to Lagos last year October when I secured a job with a multinational and had to close down her shop. I foot the bills 100%, including tips.

I do my office wears laundry outside, but my laundry man traveled to the village in December and never returned. The other laundry woman on my street was a mess and almost ruined all my whites. So, my wife bided for the contract, and I gladly gave it to her, paying her the same rate! Even though the detergent and starch come from the monthly upkeep I give. At least just so she could have a her own money!

I’m planning a ₦ million setup fund for her by January so she can kick-start her business. She want to do the laundry business on a commercial scale. I have no problem with that.

One thing I’ve come to realize is: we didn’t get married just to have sex as often as we wanted. Christian brothers, guided by moral values, are mostly at the receiving end of this shortcoming. Mine was no sex before marriage, but out first year of marriage was a bliss. The fire dwindled as soon as we had our child.

If we can accept this fact and relieve ourselves from the resentment and frustration of being constantly denied, we’d live longer.

I don’t even ask very often anymore, my appetite has greatly reduced, and the drive declined.

Like you, we got married in August 2020 and we’ve only had one child, who is about 2 years plus now. I’m not planning for another, anytime soon. We are all happy! lols

Help your wife to stop that work she’s currently doing. Or doesn’t she also want to stop and why? Because unlike you what I enjoy is my wife undivided attention and devotion. she keep the home front tight and I'm happy and grateful for that. The sex!!! God will help us with that. lols!

I wish you well bro, Also wish we could connect thou!

ibechris:
Get someone to help in the house chores...don't kill your wife all because of personal desires.

I have a wife who has been working since 15years,I literally help her out in virtually everything.

I employed a nanny that i pay on a monthly basis...just to help her ease the working stress and this nanny, takes care of the house cleaning,children's clothe,their feeding when they come back every afternoon and so many others that I may not have mentioned here.

Help that woman,I mean your wife. When I noticed similar thing from wife in the early time of marriage I had to do this to unburden her,we used to share one car,I bought her a car too.

Man,assist her...she is human being too.

Winneygirl:
So you cannot sit with your wife and map out how to get a different job?
You cannot review her CV with her and look out for more flexible jobs?
You think she likes working herself to the bones? How much do you have to give her to start up a business?
Do you know how much capital is needed to adequately start something viable? What of the time needed to grow the business?

Instead of being practical and taking the right action to safeguard your family income, you are here moving funny.
If your income alone was enough to keep your family afloat, she will not be working so hard.

Look inwards. Be practical and start looking for a more flexible job for her.

Ahmed0336:
Oga lemme be honest with you, once your wife starts to notice you no longer beg for sex and you're always happy, that's when things will fall back in place.
I don't have to tell you what to do.

dawnomike:
Sorry about what you're going through... I can understand how frustrating it can be.

Please, don't get pissed off just yet... If it's an option, get her a housemaid to help out at home.

Secondly, any weekend she is not working... you guys should hang out like the old good days. If possible, leave the kids with your parents and go lodge in a good hotel.

Also, sit down with her to have an open discussion on the need to save your marriage...

I believe she starting a business is a good opinion... But remember, it is not everyone that is cut out for that.

I wish you the best in your marriage... Please, try to safe it!!!

Educationalserv:
marry Second wife problem solved
you be African Man don't let Europeans used religion to make you unafrica

Cubanaigwe:
I don't even know what to say

RealityKings1:
Nice

jehovalives:
pls my baby too breaths like she's gasping for air when I lay her flat on her back did u get any solution yet?

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Nmanuanu:
My driving started the day my driver left to run his personal errand. He promised to get back in time but he didn't show up. After several calls, he eventually told me he cant come back to the island. CHAI!!!! I had never driven a car, or had driving lessons but I know I learn by watching and observing. Also, in preparation for a day like this, I had watched several youtube 'how to drive an auto car' videos. so I closed from work, got in the car and started moving (it was already past 8pm), I got to the gate and the security men with so much worry in their eyes asked if I could drive and I confidently said yes and dey asked so you can drive without light by this time of the night? I got the message and managed to turn on the light. I kept to one lane and people kept horning at me. I noticed I was always moving to the right, so whenever I hear the horns I straighten my tires. I also never used the traficators because I couldn't let my hand off the 10 and 2 position. I drove from VI to anthony that night. it was an out of body experience and I have driven myself since then (8 months now), never been hit or hit anyone, and my passengers always commend my driving. I will get my license soon.