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i think it's sad some people praise european features, what is special about a pointed nose? Me i like strong African nose!

Be proud of your own culture and people.

Nneka123:
Op, How did you discover Nairaland?

google, i use to view threads on here a lot i just never posted or made an account.

chigoizie7:
Lolz, pastor fire, I reject it in jesus name, shout Amen.

To be sincere, I be male ashawo,as in, a fucklicant. I no sabi phuck like the type u like ooh.

But na true I talk, 80% of beautiful and endowed young gals, end up messing themselves up all in the name of pleasing the society. If u be fine and sexy gal, no allow that to enter ur head, if not, the only thing u will get is many d!cks going in and out of ur puissy


Because, guys will capitalize on ur beauty to wash ur brains with hypo mixed with jik, den u will be feeling fly.

And guys will be ramming into ur puissy like a piston of 911.that is on top speed. B4 u know it, u will be, "ooh, that gal? Bros forget that b!itch, she is an easy lay, many guys don phuck phuck her tire, unless u wan still go collect ur own ooh" and u will still be there thinking that u have value.


By now, u re relegated to the group called "achikota ekwee onu".

what does"achikota ekwee onu" mean?

eyes and smile!

me

hottest111:
Mtcheeew..post ur picture first before we can continue dis discussion * walking out *

Magician1503:
Make we see your face first na

maverickdude:
WAP..we ar nothin buh pencil in d hands of d creator

Nairalanders..we ar nothin buh mumu in d eyes of op


#superstory ,post ur picture

i'll post it but go easy on me, i said im pretty i didn't say i was beyonce. I think im ok

So Nairalanders! i Need advice oo!


I'm Nigerian, but i'm very Americanized..(came to America when i was small).

People tell me i'm a very pretty girl, and most of my friends say it won't be hard for me to get married...BUT i can't seem to get a boyfriend talk-less of marriage. At 23 i've never even had a serious boyfriend and i don't know why. i'm starting to wonder if there is something seriously wrong with me that i cannot see.

Here are the things i think may be the problem (based on my opinion and what others have told me):

a) I'm not always super approachable. i'm not mean at all but i don't go out of my way to be talking to everybody. But i always dress well, i smile and act friendly and i'm not mean to people. But my friends still say because guys may be intimidated when they see a pretty girl who has a stuck up appearance they won't approach her. I have pride but it's not arrogance.

b) I'm still a virgin. I get scared when it comes to sexual things because my biggest fear is to lose my virginity with a man that will only leave me or doesn't truly love me. So when i'm dating a guy and he tries to make things sexual i always cut that very short!. My friends say this may be a turnoff to guys because you have to tease them and give them something to hang on to because men are very sexual. (Like i won't even kiss you until i really like you.) BUT my father raised me to never be ashewo! So i try to keep myself as pure as possible for the right person, so sometimes that gets in the way of the natural flow of things.

c) I'm stubborn o! Like sometimes i like to form *Hard-to-get* I was always told as a woman you should never be too easy for a man, that you should let him chase you. And this is usually what i do. And i also don't always show my emotions. Like if i'm starting to really like a guy i'm very scared to express it. I always hold back unless he professes his love for me first. I feel like if you show too much emotion too soon you can scare men away so i let him lead on how much emotion to show.

d) lastly I only like to date Nigerian guys. But i live in a city where there are very few of us. My friends say when i move to a city with more Nigerians the suitors will be rolling in but idk. I still cant help but feel like maybe something is wrong with me.


Words of advice will be appreciated<3

if anything i think virginity is UNDERRATED, in this sex filled world it is sooooo hard for a woman to remain a virgin, especially if she is beautiful and has a good personality. it's not easy at all!

yes a virgin that cannot cook, is lazy and disrespectful will make a lousy wife, just like a non-virgin woman with those kind of qualities would also make a lousy wife. But a woman that is a virgin, that is beautiful, respectful, loving, hardworking, and can do homely duties would make an excellent wife, just like a non-virginal woman with those qualities would also make a good wife.

Virginity is not overrated, it is a beautiful thing. It s like icing on a cake...a delicious cake will be delicious regardless, but if you could get it with icing wouldn't you prefer that??

It can only make a sweet thing even sweeter, but it is definitely not the cake.

philismary:
Somehow u resemble chioma chukwuka,I love ur hairstyle and ur make- up too,you are really beautiful.

Thank you!

She should be your better half.

Support you when you're down
Advise you when you're lost
Speak life into you and make you feel like a king.
Show potential of being a good mother/homemaker.. (Not be lazy, willing to cook and clean)
Be honest and loyal to you.
Respect you.

The role of a gf..is for you to date her enough to see if you can spend the rest of your life with her..

She should add a womanly touch to your life, when a woman is loving you right you won't feel like she is taking your money, she too should be adding value to you. If all she does is take take take, she's not a gf she's a vulture.

czarr:
....most guys who say 'I love you',so early are not genuine!
I said most!

But why do they do it?? Do some women fall for that?! To me it's annoying and a big turn off.

Now I'm a Nigerian woman all the way, but I grew up mostly in America where saying I love you is a big deal...but in my experience with some Nigerian men (especially those who grew up in Nigeria) they will just drop the "I love you's" after only 2 weeks of knowing each other..is this how guys toast you to have sex?? Do some girls actually like this?? And if so how do you know when a man truly means it when some men say it so casually??

What's the quickest you've told a woman you loved her..
Do the words even really mean anything these days..

Personally, when a guy tells me he loves me too soon I cut that off right away, and let them know not to even think of telling me such until it is something genuine and serious.

I want thoughts

Meee.

It's not something that should be broadcasted because a) people don't go around saying hey I've slept with 7 ppl in my life! It's just not something you should mention without reason because it appears as if you think you are holier than thou. If you are not promoted then keep quiet, let it be your little secret. b) when you let a man know this too soon (some men) that can cloud a man's judgement of you or his approach too you unfairly. For most men a virgin is the biggest challenge, so instead of liking you and just getting to know you the focal point is now sex or if he will be able to take your virginity. For me, that should be one of the last areas of you a man should be given the privilege of exploring. Carry on and just let his mind wonder, and even the right time comes let it be known. If he genuinely likes you it will only deepen his respect, if he doesn't it will speed up the inevitable, but the idea is to let there be enough time for feelings of like or dislike to have developed. Telling a guy after 1 date is silly...some guys initially only want sex (many guys) and then grow to love you by your personality..if you tell such a man you are a virgin on the first date he may run...while some guys will just pretend to love you because of that factor. So i say as a woman you should wait until the right time..in this day and age that is big news to drop on the man you are interested in...use it as your secret card and play it well..it's a beautiful and powerful thing but if broadcasted irresponsibly it can make you seem naive and even self righteous.

I think we should stop using the same measure stuck to judge different people...life doesn't work that way, some people get married at 30 and still get divorced 5 years later...like some people have already mentioned, it's the level of maturity of the individuals involved. Some people are ready before others. I think because divorce is now so common people think they need to do loads of marriage preparation and are waiting for "the one"...I've seen many women in their mid to late 30's desperate for any man to now come along because when they were young they thought they had things all figured out. They had all these standards of how things were "supposed to be." You can wait, but life doesn't operate on our clock, you may not have someone when you are now "ready." Theres a risk in waiting just as much as there is a risk in rushing...so I don't think there's anything wrong with it. If I met someone I could spend my life with at 20 I would take him and never look back. To each its own.

I'm a virgin because I'm waiting for true love before I have sex, but I'm no prude..and I struggle with balancing between upholding my good virtue and giving in a little, i know men need sex abs are very visual so I want to keep my men but I don't want to rush either...

Hmm I don't understand why guys assume because a girl is a virgin she must be some overly religious prude. I know girls who are gorgeous, sexy, smart and have good character that are virgins. It's almost as if guys assume that a) you must be too religious or b)something is wrong with you...and if you are neither they will dump you because they are not ready to get married..

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i don't have one...

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Maybe i'm a little confused but i feel like i was raised to believe that holding onto your virginity is a matter of pride and that men will respect you for this, but so many men now and days seem to view this as unattractive, making claims such as (they need a woman with experience). I'd like to hear your thoughts on this..


Might it be a matter of age? i know younger guys would care less about meeting virgins because they aren't really looking to settle down, but what about older men??

Is this outdated? Are men being spoiled by women who give it up so easily?

Thanks.