@Poster,
Keep on moving. Get on with your life. She NEVER liked you in the first place.

My sister, na wa oooo.

Really this ur relationship is not perculiar but those that ended was due to inaction, mostly on the part of the ladies. As a guy, I would wonder why my gf dint tell me what was going on even after asking her severally. Now u said ur bf is aware but he's not doing anything about it, rather its as if he placed a wager with his friend. In my candid opinion, I dont believe he thinks highly of you. Why would he turn u into a sorta prize that he has to compete for with his friend. In other words, his friend's toasting wont stop and will even intensify. Not sure how long both of you had been together but face him squarely this issue and let him know you dont like his friend's behaviour. You have nothing to fear anymore, at least he knows now. So no friendship to destroy. If he still thinks of you as a fifa world cup trophy and u still decide to stay, good luck!

@Ifedisky,
I TOTALLY agree with u. You will be surprised that some ladies (after months of "toasting" them) have absolutely no personality that u would wonder how, on God's good earth, u spent that much time chasing after her. Then I realised that really, most of these gals hardly say anything during the "toasting" period other than "I'm not interested", "leave me alone", "I say NO, na by force" etc.

Ujujoan:

Women: Never beleive him he says he loves you . . . . Wait till you see!

Men: Never take her love and devotion for you for granted.

@Ujujoan,
Are saying that if man tells a gal that he loves her and she doesnt believe, that the man will walk out of the relationship?

sleekdoc:

Forget these girls o, , 90% of them have a price, always looking for the B.B.D(bigger better deal).
You can always differentiate the good ones with simple tests,play the bad money minded ones before they play you, love the good ones for keeps and dont let go cos they are in very very high demand, due to their very very short supply!

@Sleekdoc, correct yearn, my brother, correct yearn.

@DaPheonix, which kinda ring? Wedding or engagement?

DaPhoenix:

death @ "They only care 'bout themselves & how they feel. . ." We are not the ones who impregnates someone else and runs away because we want to take responsibility.

Neither are we ones that intentionally gets pregnant in other to trap someone else.

@Poster,
Honestly, I dont think talking to her will change anything. From the way u write, u seems to like her a lot, even if she's had done something wrong to u, will u act the way shes is right now, considering how close it is to ur wedlock? Comon, a girl that is abt to get married and is serious abt it, will b in ur house almost all the time planning the occasion. Believe it or not, wedding days are the most important days of ladies; lives. I have 2 elder sis and they are both married, I know their state of minds 6 months to the dates. I dont think i hv seen them happier. If uu want to know, ask ur girl what she has been doing in preparing for the wedding and u might b surprised the answer will be nothing. Talk all u want, I dont think shes ready. Now dont get me wrong, not that she doesnt like u, it may just b shes not ready. Its left for u to find out which. Good luck, bro.

If u werent married, i would hv said no big deal since no guy can say he wants to marry a gal on their first date. But u r married and single guys like myself feel cheated when u deprive us the company of single chics. You see, we cant go after married ladies and the single ones are being gradually coerced by the married guys. Life harsh ooo.  

lovline:

yes it can trap a responsible man

@LovLine, I agree with you. An irresponsible woman can trap a responsible man with pregnancy.

@EmilyOne, spot on. With the everyday job loss, economy downturn, why wont a girl look for more than one source of money. She definitely wont want to put all her eggs in one basket. What if the basket gets sacked, comon cut the ladies some slack. Them go chop too.

@Poster,
Forget it, let the chic go. As crazykid said, even if the girl no hear from the bobo in 2 years and he guy comes back with plenty dollars, trust me, she might even forget ur name. The path is rough, tread carefully.

@Poster,
Get a teddy bear. That way, you are not lonely and not in a relationship either. Talking about eating your cake and having it.

Patwhizkid, chei!!! u harsh ooo. U know the guy from somewhere before?


Siena,
If ur younger brother (thats if u r more than 20 urself oo) come meet u say make u advise am how to go about getting a car, what will u tell him? Advise him about insurance, right? Or u simply hand over ur folks title deeds to him, I guess thats a better idea.

@SeyiBrown, I totally agree with you. I find it so difficult that a guy (naija guy for that matter) will leave a job in the UK and come back to naija because of a girl, even if na girl wey dey serious with you. Haba!!! U na sure the poster get better job sef? Washing plates na job ooo. Abeg, post better topic.

@Poster,
I'm a little curious about ur "problem". How come u cant speak english bt u can write so well. Ok, maybe someone wrote the post for you. If thats the case, ask the same person to write the lyrics, u cram the wordings and simply recite them. Else, keep sending text message.

@Poster,
I believe this shouldnt be an issue for debate or suggestions. Comon, its glaring like daylight. If his number is saved with "sweetheart", I'm sure ur guy no for tell u. A different name entirely, thats bad. WITH A GIRL'S NAME, your guy is not important to this chick, if u will call her that. Tell ur guy to move on. End of matter.

Alfchye, story don finish. You have said it all. Posting closed.

Henchman, Bill Gates? Comon, all u need to say is that u've heard that name before and the chick is ready to spend the weekend in ur house. Seriously, all u need is giving the gal the impression that you've got dough (even when u dont). Its getting crazier everyday and it seems the ladies are trying to outdo each other.

@Poster,
I guess you wont need any advice if she calls ur pal's name in the middle of some hot lovemaking. Move on, this is almost over. Just dont let her have the final say. Good luck.

Henchmark, I totally agree with you. You need to meet a female corper at your work place and u will be amused how fast they throw themselves at u. Maybe the economic situation has something to do with it, i dont know. I work for a multinational company and men! its bad. These gals sleep with anybody they "perceive" can guarantee them a job (even if its on contract basis). And if they know u are not married, you are done for. By the way, its not like the married ones are free ooo. To marry now na JAMB ooo.

@seun001, i agree with u, E be like say e dey sleepwrite.

Coolejjy, u must have shown some gasted (yish tendencies for this guy yo step up to you. Anyway, e don happen, so if you are really not interested (and not playing hard to get), then start looking for another school 'cause if u like turn sherlock holmes and gather all the evidences, na u sabi, he MUST get u one way (either ur ass) or the other (or ur grades). Go apply for ur transcript and go another school. If u no believe, go ask girls wey lecturer don chase before.

Eyo, na wa ooo. If u dey think of woman (or shld I say girl) like this at ur age, what would u be doing in about 6 yrs. Ol'boy, go find something more useful to do.