@Rotimy,
I no doubt u one bit. You'll be shocked what ladies do nowadays to "survive".

BabyGirl_1:

If you treated and talked to him with respect from the on set - Sure, why not? If the man's got good character, morals AND KNOWS HOW TO TREAT A LADY, it's not about money or materials things - A man can make you feel like a queen and he may have little in his life.

It maybe condition, that's why he's taken up driving - Tomorrow, he could be something else, a man's profession doesn't define him - I know of people who worked in the city before the dot com crash and lost their jobs, now, if they had to take up driving to tie them over, it doesn't really matter.  I'll rather go for that than a man who refuses to work any day.  At least he's doing something and I believe things will change

Let me get this straight, are u talking abt being a driver in Naija or outside the country. Because if u mean outside Naija shores (but not within Africa), then maybe u can have a driver that the drivee can like for real. But in Naija, comon, make we no deceive ourselves now. ?how many pple get drivers wey dem fit marry. If you r so proud, the guy would have been called a driver - turned bf and not a "common" driver. You are living in a fantasy land if you think u will get a handsome man when u place adverts for drivers. Haba!! Women date drivers in Naija because of frustration, nothing more.

@Poster,
This looks and sound like a clear case of documents kidnapping, I would advise you seek my assistance, I'm a professional negotiator. I will ensure you dont pay very high ransom.

Ok, lets see,
Your bf gives u the creeps and you still stick with him. So what do you like about him? The sex, because obviously hes not spending his money on you. So if you are in and out for 3 years for sex, the reason you want to settle down is because he gives you good sex. Fine, but what if that diminishes. I think you dont even know what you want. A guy gives you the creeps, yet you are considering his condition of settling down. Mmmmm, be real with yourself and you will find the answer from within. Good luck

Ebony-Silk:

Bathroom shouldn't be once in a week.

Should be every other night. The cleaner it is, the less work you have to do.

And that's where most germs abound on the house, toilet should be kept clean.

The scented decor should be replaced every 2 weeks.

Ebony-Silk,
Every other night, ke? Wetin happen? Na charcoal you dey wash comot for ur body?

@Poster,
I dont think its possible. Comon, for you to get to the stage of proposing, you will have passed through the "toasting" stage, the "ask for sex" stage. These stages are far more difficult that the proposing stage. If a man has the courage (or suppressed his shyness enough) to ask a girl out, then stays the relationship long enough to ask for sex (which is the shy guy's nemesis), then i'm sure he wont have a problem proposing.

But if na the girl do the toasting, lure the guy to bed, all because the guy is shy. Then, please dont complain, just finish the good work by proposing to him.

@Kaylonda,
I dont agree. Even if true, I'm sure the guys dint tell the girls they love them. But girls will tell guys they love them and yet wont call, even though the guys ensures enough credit on the chicks' phones.

@Eyo,
Well, have a chat with her and hear wetin she go talk, who knows, maybe u did something she doesnt like.

@Poster,
Why wont a lady form hard to get when a guy go just wake up for morning, going abt his "normal" business. Suddenly he sees a lady for the first time, step up to her and starts saying he loves her at first sight!! Him na D'banj? Nonsense.

But then, some ladies take d thing too far ooo. Make guy toast girl for 10 months, yes, she no talk; no she no talk. she just put the guy for "is coming". Haba, e shanu aje. Owo oniru, owo oniyo lo fi ra aso to wo now. Have mercy.

@Eyo my man,
Do u, in your heart of hearts, believe dat dis girl thinks abt u except when she needs something? Have u thought abt wht would have happened if u hadnt given her the ipod for her b/day gift. A 17 yr old shld not b giving u sleepless nights, this is wen they are most vulnerable to lies from guys. Trust me, one bobo don pack her head full of lies so tey, she no wan hear ur voice again.

@Poster,
Stopping the cash flow and watching will happen is a waste of time, as far I'm concerned. Once u stop the flow, she will definitely leave u. Cut off from her and let her go, u don try for her. At least, make she allow another gal chop from ur money na, abi na only am dey?

notime:

seriously, why u dey mess up, u dey fall our hand, why the girl nor go bone u ? if i be the girl, i go dump u twice cos u dey mess up bad bad, kaiiii, claiming to date a girl for 2yrs and u havnt bothered to meet her. u be real nigerian maga

Agree with u.

@Poster,
What if, when u finally meet her, she turns out to be "otutupoyoyo".

Bad wife na im I fear most.

Reason: Having a bad wife will almost certainly make u poor. And she go definitely send you go hell.

Hollysmile,
U r looking for a way to get her off ur head, well, chop off ur head. Comon, the girl is not thinking of u and shes still in ur head? You want to forget her, put ur energy into something u enjoyed doing. if u two broke because of ur fault, i can understand if shes in ur head, but u broke up because she cheated on u, abeg stop this thinking ooo.

@Poster,
Be careful ooo. In fact, check properly say she no be transexual. Just kidding! Because a lady tht lets u have ur way all the time , bells ringing. On the other hand, it may be her nature but for u not to argue over anything in 9 months Something is amiss. Make she no just dey wait till u marry her before she shows u the tiger in her. She fit be those gals wey be say when they first come ur house, they refer to ur fridge as "ur fridge" . After marriage, it becomes "our fridge", and after 2 kids, it becomes "MY FRIDGE". Be careful, look, no, investigate before u leap ooo.

@Poster,
Na wa for oooo. In this age and time when pple arent just buying washing machines bt also buying driers so that their wives would have less to do when it comes to laundry. Some even buy dishwshers so she doesnt have to do the dishes manually. I'm sure u no get microwave oven, so when ur food is cold, she has to make wood fire (u no go buy kerosine stove, not to talk of gas cooker) to warm ur food. So what u expect is that ur wife go wash ur clothes, spread them outside and sit by them, waiting for them to get dry, then we go on ironing spree. You shld start looking for a marriage counsellor.

Come to think of it, r u naughts? U want her to even wash ur clothes after she's just had her nails painted, ehn? U better start investing in bullet proof vests.

@Poster,
Those of us in naija with naija passports find it almost impossible to know a gal is real or not, talkless of u wey get british passport. You think gals over there are not real enough before of ur passport ehn? Wait till u get to naija. Good luck.

EVERYONE have love in their hearts and they have to give it to someone or something, could be man, woman, cat, dog, cow, lizard etc. At some low times in our lives, we tend to reach out to this person or thing and really cant do without them. We try to "form" on this space, but we cant do without a partner, notwithstanding who or what the partner may be.

@Poster,
There is no particular age when a gal shld start dating. I believe its based on maturity. I have 18 yr olds that are more mature, in terms of relationship, dan 24yr olds. When you are capable of taking definite stand on certain dating issues, then u r good to go.

Parents against her dating?? Then they can marry then.

9iceX:

If Nairalanders could say i am a mugun, then i believe i am, But can u tell me how i became a mugun or what exactly is wrong in buying someone u love a phone?

Someone u love? Thought u said u met the gal 2 months ago? Buying a gal u love a phone doesnt mean u r a mugu, infact a guy is bound to buy a phone (and more expensive items) for the gal he lives if they date long enof. But to buy one after just 2 months and u have to plead before she collect, huh . Well, just know since u forced her to have the phone, then you are forced to ensure it doesnt lack call credit. Then, you will answer for urself whether u r a mugu or not.  

PS: That girl must be an angel, a naija babe rejected a new phone (even if na nokia 3310) and had to be begged to collect it?  

My brother, its a mystery oooo. Even when u send them de credit, some (in fact) will just text u that they've loaded the credit, to call and say thanks na wahala!

biina:

How come I am at the bottom of the list?

Nice one!!

@Poster,
Tell ur friend she's silly and should grow up. Comon, I have heard and read several reasons/excuses why pple want to or actually broke up and this is the most stupid one of them all Its inconsequential whether she dey blow the guy ooo, or the guy dey suck her p***y before or they discuss the matter before marriagge ooo, she's plain stupid. Now tell me, if she go court make dem dissolve the marriage, which reason she go give, ?

@Poster,
One statement, move on.

ariblaze:

let her win the arguments

respect what she has to say

apologize when you are wrong and when you are not

if i were you sef, apologise everyday, so that when you do wrong, she can always refer back to your apologies in the bank

offer to cook once in a while , but if you cook poison like me , a take out would be advised

go and drop her at home a times instead of paying for the cab,they just like to see us suffer

yeah keep the toilet seat up always

lol, even with all these things, you can NEVER make a woman completely happy, you can only try. Once you can make her completely happy, she's no longer a woman.

@Poster,
Its pretty sad. But like someone asked earlier, r u sure u guys r even close at all. If u r, then this is the beginning of the end. Guys in serious relationships (I mean the ones they consider as serious, not the ones considered by ladies) will definitely not allow a lady to stay in their house for a night without letting their gf know, not to talk of a week! Sweetheart, nobody is worth your tears, actually the only one worth your tears will not even make u cry in the first place. Take care.

sweetliet:

for the records he also work and i also work. the issue of spreading my legs is not even in my head right now. when a guy is unnecessaryly tit fisted, what do u call dat
"saint archilles"

Oh, so u r even working, ehn? Chei, na wa ooo. U wan make the guy spend his earnings on u while u spend urs on what? You r nt even married to him yet and u have dis kinda attitude, ehn? Men! when you enter a man's house finally, surely u go become virus.

@Poster,
Which kin annoying question be dis? Is it because u see pple post topics, u sef wan write something? What r u expecting pple to tell u? U dont know what to do? I'll tell u: Take care of the gal very well, her antenatal et al. When time reach to born, send her to the states for delivery and afterwards starttaking care of the baby's needs. Ode, mumu.

@Poster,
There are some threads I normally dont bother to reply to, mainly because they sound stupid and urs definitely fall in that category but seeing ur response to some replies, I felt compelled to reply to urs.

I have met gals that like money a lot (obviously u just increased d number by one), and 99.99% are really stupid (including u). In this age and time, you expect a guy to bear all ur responsibilities, and a university undergraduate at dat. Where do u expect the guy to get the money from, steal, borrow or bank loans? In my opinion, 4 u to even think of spreading ur legs for money (which is the same thing prostitutes do), it means u are a lady of easy virtue or u r already doing it. I pity ur bf but at least have the courtesy of breaking up with him first, spare him the heartbreak.

@Kx,
There is no point crying over split milk. I think its useless saying the guy made a mistake marrying the girl in the first place. And ur question wasnt if ur friend made a mistake marrying his wife, rather its what ur friend should do in his predicament. Really, i advise u nt to stop him from divorcing his wife. Now dont get me wrong, I dont believe in divorces, i think misunderstanding can be settled amicably but in his case, this is not a misunderstanding. His life is at stake here, his safety is no longer guaranteed. Forget about the swearing et al, nothing go happen. Good luck to ur pal.