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I already answered that 190. If you don't believe me,go suck face with a cobra. I ALWAYS wanted to say that!

Next ish;if i decide there's no need to keep him around,should i tell my sisters or is there no need to let them know about it since it'll be over?

@Iya Basira,this is so weird. . You're saying the EXACT SAME THING a friend of mine said(i.e the IWAB syndrome-she used that EXACT term!).

She's much older(i have friends who are older than i am with 15 years and more),married with kids sef and a friend of the family(which means she's tight with my parents as well),so when i was talking to her about it i had to be hypothetical(although i think she suspects it was me i was talking about).


The thing is i've never had a problem with peer pressure before(ok i have but it hasn't affected the decisions i make-i'm usually the one influencing others,not the other way round)so i don't see why it should bother me now. Yeah,i want a boyfriend but she told me to ask my 'friend' whether she wanted a boyfriend because she was ready(emotionally & otherwise) for a r/ship or because everyone else was in a r/ship.

As for the G thing i figured if he hadn't changed in the one year i'd dust my feet and forget about the whole thing.

And yeah,i did think it was a bit weird. The fact that my sisters and i are close and everything doesn't mean my life should be a reflection of theirs. How can the first guy i'd be in a serious r/ship with be someone who once liked my sister? What kinda swear is that?
Is it too much for me to want something apart from them?


Your reply is one of the few on this thread that's making me think.

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=672650.msg8384494#msg8384494 date=1306249044]huh? Brit accent in lagos? [/quote]
It could happen

M M M:
atreides
ok am happy now,
but what re u doing with dat guy dat says he luv u in his signature?

Which guy? [quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=672650.msg8383231#msg8383231 date=1306238196]Atreides (f). sweeery, is this topick about moi? [/quote]*in a strong Brit accent* Corky lav,have they let you out early then?
Thought those bloody blighters had more sense!

Ask my daddy?
Do you want me to die ni?
He's verrry over-protective!


P.s-@MMM,it's not like we're spending that much time together or anything. It's mostly when he calls or when he comes over to the house(where everyone else is)

M M M:
atreides why re u do dis 2 me ?
Anyway, how re u? Ope u re fine n good.

M M M my love,what did i do?
I'm fine sha. You nko?

190:
[color=RED]

1000% ON POINT

THIS DUDE HAS SAID IT ALL

I JUST HOPE MY SIS HASNT SLEPT OR ALREADY STARTED KISSING HIM [/color]

190:
[color=RED]

1000% ON POINT

THIS DUDE HAS SAID IT ALL

I JUST HOPE MY SIS HASNT SLEPT OR ALREADY STARTED KISSING HIM [/color]

I haven't.

You're not wrong-He is Bini. . I was just wondering how you guessed;i mean there are lotsa people in Benin who aren't Bini.

And nope,he hasn't gotten me a bb. The only man that can get me a bb is my daddy. Besides i don't even like bb sef. It's too common. . One woman selling rice on my street has a bb. Bold 2. True story!

I wouldn't collect one anyways. I don't like collecting expensive gifts from guys that are not family. I always have this feeling that most of them have ulterior motives

190 i have not gone for him oh.
I am not going for anybody in the next one year.


I feel like i don't have a right to talk about the G thing because we're not into any thing so i have no claims on him. That's why i don't talk about it.
It's like since he's just a friend and i tell him to stop,if he does stop he'll prolly be expecting us(as in a r/ship) to start.

P.s-How did you know he's Bini? Lol

jay bee:
d freebies it seems
Red flags from all possible angles.
Dude does't even respect your sisters and neither do u. so what they never actually dated, are u the only girl he can now find in town?
Some things are meant to be outta bound mehn.
It's funny how the G boy thing is not even enough grounds for u to say mba.
Na real wa

i didn't say yes.
I said i'm not doing r/ships at all.
He said he's stopping the G-boy thing. Whether he will actually stop it is another thing entirely.
I don't think i have the right to tell him to stop it because i'm not his gf or whatever so i have no claims on him. Whatever he wants to do is his business.

I told him not to talk to me about all those love stuff because it makes me uncomfortable.
I do respect my sisters. I told him that if he's serious about what he 'feels' for me he should go and tell my sisters of his intentions and hear what they have to say because i'm not cut out for any hidden-under-the-mango-tree thing.
My relationship with my family is one of the most important things to me,and so if he does go talk to my sister,i'll see what happens then.

At this point he's just a friend. An actual relationship with him seems abstract.

@Richkvunt,you see how much more sense you make when you try to be logical?

I can be rude when people jump to crazy conclusions that have nothing to do with what i'm saying.

I have picked one sensible thing from your reply-you think he wants something,in this case,sex.
My only question is,he's not getting any now,and he's not gonna get any in the future. Why would he agree to stick around for a year after which he would only get considered(i didn't tell him i'd date him then,i said i might consider it)if all he wants is sex?
I'm not the femme fatale type. I don't think i'm soo attractive that the thought of possibly getting to first base with me sometime in the future would keep a guy waiting for me.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]I find it gross. Once knew some sisters who shared a boyfriend. As in when one was done with him, she decided the sister should date him, so as to keep the money in the family. Gross.

He might agree now, but what if he gets hurt or you or your sister even?
Anyway, people generally cause wahala for themselves.[/color]

EEeew. . .
That is soo gross. Like seriously? Two sisters dating the same guy? Sucking face with said guy? Eeew.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=672650.msg8369833#msg8369833 date=1306045495]Yahoo yahoo!? Maga don pay kind? Arrested ? Chatted-up your sister, now he gbaduns your paroles? You don't really like him, but he's "nice sha"??

Nuff said! [/quote]lol yeah i don't like him but he's nice in a non-threatening way. He's just normal.

Yeah he was arrested once but he was never tried/convicted for it.
He wants to work on his spirituality and leave the maga business-which doesn't have anything to do with me;he says it was a decision he'd made before i showed up(i think it'll be hard to let it go sha).

@Mrs.Chima,hiiii momma!
How's little Chimette?
And where my yams at?

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=672650.msg8369468#msg8369468 date=1306035155]From all you have posted it is clear that you have fallen for this y-boy and there is noting wrong with it if you are cool with dating a fraudsta but what i am not comfortable with is that he is in his final year and you are a freshman. People do not really know that age and class difference are two different things in which the later is just a big no no. If you accept him you have to be ready for some major trust issues, big fights cos of understandings and of course your sisters raising Hell.[/quote]Ok it's like you're not getting why a part of me wants to keep him around.

See,the thing is,everyone around me's with someone else. My sisters are both in committed r/ships,my friends have bfs,it's like everyone is with someone else and it gets kinda hard and awkward being the different one.
When i was in high school,i told myself i wouldn't date anyone and/or cross certain boundaries,and i didn't(which was pretty hard,btw,but i'm proud of myself for sticking to that goal).
Now i'm in freshman year. At this point i don't even want a bf yet because with my kind of person,the relationship will definitely be serious and i want to flex for a bit before i get to a certain age.


He's aware of this and tells me he's comfortable with waiting(so he says. I'll believe it when i see it). So the groove is,i figure if he can wait until i'm ready for a bf,then there's no harm keeping him around,right?
We're just good friends at this point.

So no,i'm not keeping him around because i've fallen for him-because i havent(i have had feelings for someone before so i know what it feels like and this is not it). He's just comfortable in a normal way,like old slippers and i figure it can't hurt to have him around for future purposes.


About the G-boy thing,he said he's stopping when he's through with school(that's what he says oh,again i'm waiting to be convinced). He's already doing his project defense so we'll see what happens.

Cheesus!!!
Richkvunt,are you afflicted with blindness? Can't you read? Or is it that you cannot understand simple English?
Where did i say he's my sister's bf? Or don't you understand the word toastee?
And where,please,in the name of all that's sensible, did i say anything about sex?


Biko nwanyi,arrange ya brain. Try to read and understand,and if you don't then get someone to explain it to you.

Oh ok.

I'm not talking about the same person. The guy in that post is her bf. They're still together.
In this post i mentioned that she's in a r/ship and that even though our mutual toastee knew that he still went ahead,thinking that he could change her mind. He didn't,and she and her bf(who i didn't really like then,and don't really like now lol)are still together.

lol nah. . That was last year!

Besides, i wasn't talking about anyone in specific-it was more about general peer pressure.

The only other guy i've talked about on Nl(in direct relation to myself) is an online friend i had who lived in Gh and who i met up with when he came to Naija

Not really. I just want to think about this very carefully before i commit myself to anything.
On the one hand,i think it's negative to encourage me to lie,
On the other,he's pretty okay in every other capacity.

On one hand there's no zing,but on the other he's nice enough,and i might want a bf in the future so why not have him hanging around? Besides,maybe the 'zing' is over-rated.

And she(my sister) never had any feelings for her so that makes it okay,right?
Then on the other hand some part of me wonders why he couldn't be someone who likes me and only me. I mean i love my sister and all but why should she be a part of my r/ship(if we do get into one)?
And then there's the fact that she has a crazy temper and is definitely going to blow up about this. .
Then there's him telling me he's completely over my sister and me believing him and then when he hangs up i start having doubts. .
Then he wants to get serious,i want to flex for a bit,he says he can wait-he just wants me to make a definite commitment,saying stuff about settling down soon and i'm like 'dude,i'm just in my freshman year!'. . It's a delicate balance managing the whole situation.


Sorry if i'm rambling. I just feel like i'm being pulled in so many different directions now. .

@Nat138, G-person = G-boy = Yahoo Boy
He got arrested because of the G-boy thingy but he's not the 'bad boy' type. He's stupefyingly nice.
Oh he's a final year student but we're in diff departments so we don't really see in school.

rokiatu:
So what is the problem here? Are you also into him?

I'm not into him.
I don't like him per se,but i don't dislike him either. He's nice enough,in a normal sort of way,and i figure i'll want to have a bf soon enough,and when i do decide to have one,he'd be alright. I figure it wouldn't hurt to keep him around until then.

My ish now is,despite how nice he is,i'm getting some weird vibes. Like tacitly encouraging someone you claim to care about to lie to people she cares about is negative,isn't it?
I'm not very experienced in the relationship thingy. I talk a great deal,but i really don't have that much practical experience so i don't want to make any mistakes.

P.s-190,you this Instigator,listen to me very kia-fully.
190,
190,
190,
how many times did i call your name?
DO NOT derail this thread or aswerigawd i will kill you in hot blood!

Ok so this is something that's happening to me. I don't really talk about my personal life much on here,but one of the good things about Nl is it's anonymity. I know i'll get a lot of crazy replies, but i figure i'll get some good advice too.

So anyways,this is what happened ; i have two sisters,and they school here in Benin with me too. They're older than i am so they were already in Uni while i was in high school. There was this guy who tried to chat one of my sisters up. He knew she was in a relationship right from the start(because she told him so),but he felt that he could change her mind. He got her(well to be fair,her and my other sister-they're twins and he kinda became friends with the whole family)lots of stuff,took them out,got her gifts-he even knows her shoe size! Everything he got for her he got for her twin. Everybody knew he was interested because he made it very obvious that he was crazy about her.

She never said yes to him even with all the stuff he did for months on end. It got to a point when she got uncomfortable with all his declarations of love and shenked his side. He finally agreed to not talk to her about his 'feelings' anymore and remain friends(because he's a nice person-just a bit deluded).


And then,i came along. We were friends for a bit and then a month or so after i came for school he started talking to me too. He said he was completely over her and that he'd moved on. He said he liked me too,etc etc. I don't like him that way-i mean he's nice enough but i don't really feel anything 'extra'. Yeah,i'm young but i have had feelings for a guy before so i know what it feels like. That's even by the wayside;because at this point i don't think i'm ready for a relationship(and he's all 'you're wife material',which is scary,lol,because i'm not marrying anybody soon).
He begged me not to tell them because he said he didn't want anyone looking at him funny or thinking he was trying to use me as a substitute.
When he calls he asks me to tell them that it's someone else.
When he sends stuff over he wants me to tell them it's from someone else.

It almost feels like he's trying to drive a wedge between us,maybe? We're extremely close and we have no secrets. Why does it always feel like he's trying to get me to lie? That's negative,isn't it?


My question is this;isn't it a bit creepy for a guy to toast one sister so extravagantly and then go toast another?
Some extra facts:
1-My Older sis warned him(and all her guy friends) off me before i came(y'know how older sisters are so protective and all),saying that no matter how mature i sounded/behaved/looked,i was still a kid(not that i am,by the way),and he agreed to stay off.
2-He's a G-boy.
3-He's been arrested.

Isn't it creepy for a guy to toast two sisters?

P.s-Sorry for the loong post. I just wanted to give out enough details.

Yeah i can definitely marry an older man.

Infact,i don't think i can marry a younger man.

or maybe i'm the one who's not been on here for a bit

Ok.

Haven't been seeing you on here in a while

Did we chat in your dream?

I'm fine sha. You nko?

Uhm i think scars on a guy are kinda hot

OP,this isn't news.

When i wrote WAEC last year i saw it in person. Some people in my high school were getting the exam questions as early as 5a.m the day of the exam.

At first i didn't believe it-i kept telling myself it was fake and i didn't bother to look at it,until i glanced through what people said were the questions to Physics Theory. When i went into the exam hall and saw the EXACT SAME questions,i was in shock.
It wasn't easy to not cheat sha. Especially when blockheads all around were finishing answer sheet after answer sheet,and me who actually read coudn't do the same.

It's real terrible. Made me(and all other hard-working students,i imagine)wonder;'What's the point in suffering to read when one random dunce's gonna see the questions beforehand and probably score higher than you? What's the bloody point?'