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We know Nigeria's bleeped up. We know our police force is pitiable. But come on,there has to be something we can do.

I usually can't empathize with prostitutes who willingly went into their line of business. In this case,i don't even care whether she went into it willingly or not.

The fact is;she's under-age. I can't get past that. She's underage,and she shouldn't be where she is-whether she chose to be there or not.

2buff:
^^ Many have died and found themselves in a terrible place because of unforgiveness.

I still think there are some things that can't be forgiven.
God knows we're imperfect. He does not expect us to be perfect in forgiving others.

Don't see anything in pet names cos i use them a lot for everybody without necessarily meaning it.

Guy friends,cousins,brother,etc etc all get called by my pet names for them. It's usually something generic;sweetie,love,baby etc etc.

I have this friend who i always call the loff of my life,the only meat in my stew,the only Smirnoff in my fridge,the last 10k in my account etc etc.

2buff:
For the sake of your eternal souls . . . forgive EVERYONE regardless of what they have done to you!
You can still withhold your trust from them as they have proven themselves untrustworthy. . . but you must FORGIVE!

Why? Forgiveness is overrated,IMO.

And forgive EVERYONE regardless of what they've done to you?
It's not everything that should/can be forgiven,and i don't see why i should bother trying.

Okay. I vexeth not

@Id,


Google? Kini meanin e? Are you saying or are you trying to say that i can't speak Yoruba without googling it? Upon my Yoruba blood?

Insult upon injury. .
Wo,Wo,Wo. .
Mo fi Olorun be yin,e ma provoke mi
Oju mi ma red oh. .

I'm Omo Eko and O'bviedo i.e i'm from Eko and Edo
My Bini is better sha

Buh my Yoruba isn't that bad naa
At least you have a general idea of what i'm trying to say

lol i'm not harsh oh. I'm a very affable person,buh i have this imaginary line in my head,this limit,and when i get to that point,nothing,not even a blast of dynamite will get me to cross it.

Him believing his friend or whatever shows he doesn't trust me. No trust,no relationship. Pere.

And then for him to come back after 18 months? Chances are,i'd have moved on with my life by then. Life's too short to waste on useless elements who have trust issues.

Who's to say he wont disappear for 2 years if we have another misunderstanding when i'm married to him and pregnant with his kid?

Mi o r'aiye drama.

I would not go back to him.
I would not forgive him either.

I don't know why everyone is always advicing everyone else to forgive. Resentment is good for the soul in some cases!

So he will now come and tell me,oh i'm so sorry,i love you,i want you back,blah blah blah? Shiooor. He will only dive rock.

Idowuogbo:
omo your yoruba get accident o , but i understand your igbira sha

Kini igbira? Anyway,mo digress. .
Bawo ni aiye e?
Actually,mo fi ba e soro.
Won ni bobo yi ni mo fe toast in yoruba,so,mo need advice.
This is how i'm thinking of doing it:
Bobo ni,o fine gan. Mo fi ba e soro wi pe,actually,mo like e. Mo n'ife. Infact,mo fe ran e tokan tokan. .
How do you see it?

Idowuogbo:
, found u

Ogbe ni. . Se iwo ni e? Oju e scarce oh

[quote author=Orton1_0 link=topic=664339.msg8294853#msg8294853 date=1305059252] [/quote]

190:
who u dey kiss  

you this flying wall gecko  

How e take consain you?

haha

[quote author=Orton1_0 link=topic=663053.msg8290786#msg8290786 date=1305019655]Atreides how you dey?
Whatsup wit you?[/quote]I dey kampe. .
How you?
E don tey wey i see ya brake-lights sha

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=663053.msg8289832#msg8289832 date=1305007772]Aww, my precious chile. Momma Chimette loves you baby. I mean it. [/quote]*cyber hugs momma Chimette*
I wuff you too momma! And you know i says it as i means it

And what if you have been letting them down easily and they've still refused to take a hint?
What if you've tried and tried to be nice and they still don't get it?
If telling someone 'thank-you' when he says 'i love you' is gonna drive it into his head that i do not feel the same way,nor will i EVER feel the same way,then i'm gonna say 'Thank-you' or 'Okay' or 'That's nice'.

At least those ones are better than saying 'And what do you want me to do with your love? How does it affect me?'

Besides 90% of the guys who say that to me don't really mean it

Lol why would i get pregnant?
Am i mahdd?
My options if i got pregnant:
1-Decide to Get rid of it.
2-Deal with the emotional and psychological trauma of killing my flesh and blood
3-Die in the process.
Option 2:
1-Keep the baby.
2-Drop out of school
3-Watch my stomach swell to ten times it's normal size.
4-Split my pelvis during childbirth.
5-Go through labor and quench of pain.
6-Die during childbirth.
7-If i don't die,get a job to take care of my baby.


If by some miracle i was able to give birth successfully,
Do you have any idea what it means to bathe a baby,change it,feed it,clothe it,deal with it when it cries? I babysit a lot,so trust me,i have some idea of how much of a responsibilty kids are for two full grown adults,not to talk of a teenager doing it alone. And then think of long-term;paying house rent for it,school fees for it,hospital bills etc etc.
Let me be very honest with you-at this stage in my life i am very selfish. I'm most concerned with me. The first thing i think of is me,my life and my future. Do i have the emotional maturity to deal with aliving,breathing being that'll be totally dependent on me? Will i be able to handle putting the needs,wants and desires of my baby before my own? Honestly,i don't think so.

I repeat: Why would i get pregnant at all? Am i mahdd?

In my first post i said i had no beef with the whole if-you-get-pregnant-you're-on-your-own thing because it made sense to me. I'm not bothered by that in the least because i don't plan on getting pregnant anytime soon,so e no consain me.
I'm not concerned with the society in general's pressure when it comes to that.
My parents didn't need to drum that into my head because i've always been very conscious of my future and the way i want my life to go. That consciousness affects the decisions i make,whether my parents are there or not.


What does bug me is how overprotective parents can be of their daughters,even when they're not that overprotective of sons.

Well it would be nice if he does it maybe occasionally or something,but i definitely wouldn't be comfortable with any houseboy-like man.

I'd rather do the cooking and have him hang out with me in the kitchen sometimes than have him cook for me all the time. That might be weird.

Because we don't feel the same way ni,or we don't wanna say the words.

I do it sha,buh only to those random toasters who just can't take a hint.

Why are you still calling a woman who's married and pregnant?

Lol who said anything bout feminism?

I'm not a feminist.
Men and women are not treated as equals. Should they be? That's a whole 'nother discussion. I suppose ideally,they should be,but the fact is-they're not. Generally,women are not the same as men physically,and we're definitely not treated the same way. If i like,i can bang my head against the wall,but it won't change anything,so why would i bang my head against the wall? I like my head the way it is

My point is,we are under more pressure than men in the family setting,and while more guys might be under more pressure than girls in some fields,some of us girls are under just as much pressure. Not just about morality or whatever,some of us(myself inclusive) are under educational pressure etc etc.
Again,i don't think it's whether i'm a boy or a girl-it's more like a function of the parents i have.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=661744.msg8282020#msg8282020 date=1304890593]That was an interesting story!
[/quote Story story,Sto-oory!
Once upon a time!
[/quote]

I don't think there's anything 'cruel' about what the guy did.
From what i understand,they were in a no-strings r/ship(or better still,arrangement) and he never made any commitments to her. She went ahead to have feelings for him-that's her problem,not his. She knew exactly what she was getting into and yet went into it anyway. Now that it's blown up in her face she comes here to talk,maybe wanting people to make her feel better about herself and tell her the guy's a jerk. I'm sorry,but i'm just not seeing it.


I do admit that he could've been a bit more tactful about it. The whole fb thing seems in poor taste,but then again,if she hadn't been giving him free sex in the first place,he wouldn't have had the opportunity to post that in the first place. Either way,she risked something and got what she exposed herself to.

Who says ladies don't face educational pressures?

Lemme speak for myself-i definitely face that from my parents. They're like Asians-always expecting A's. As i am now,i'm in my freshman year and i'm already calculating my G.P.A and tryna estimate the grades i need to make to find myself in first class-and i haven't even written first semester exams yet! Right from high school i've always been under that pressure to make certain grades. My dad told me then that if i didn't make Waec/Jamb the first time,i would pay for my fees with my own money the next year-and i wrote all my exams and passed them once! I've always been pushed to participate in quizzes,debates,to write,to read broadly,to contest for positions of prefectship,etc.
I'm planning to make a First class,planning to start writing ICAN exams next year,already looking up Masters's degree programs etc etc,and believe me when i say everyone i know expects me to excell. If i ever made a 3rd class,my life would be over. Infact,let's not think about such negative things. . Lol.
It's not whether i'm a girl or a boy-it's a function of the parents i have.


I'll have to agree with you with the financial pressures thing though. We girls aren't under as much pressure to provide for our extended families etc etc.

I want a boy too. I can hug him,and dress him up,and kiss him all over. .

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=661744.msg8278733#msg8278733 date=1304843362]Oh! Okay chile. The mother bear came out prematurely. (putting the switchblade back in my bra)

OOh! The baby kicked! Yay![/quote]Awwww. . The baby kicked? Put your belly to the screen. Let me feel it. .
P.s-Am i having a baby brother or a baby sister

Oh and how come some Nigerian Parents NEVER give their kids sex ed?

Everything i know about sex i found out from books/tv shows/the internet.
All i ever got was 'Don't let anybody touch you there'.
When my mom'd be bathing me and naming the parts of my body;she'd be like this is your head,your shoulders,your tummy,your knees-and jump what's in between.
Even now,like a few months back when i asked my mom why she didn't have the sex talk with me when i just hit puberty,and that i needed to hear it now,she asked me point-blank;are you having sex? I said no,she said,good. Then you don't need the sex talk. . Lol.
I think it's a Nigerian thing. I never got long lectures on that because they were even more uncomfortable with talking about that kinda stuff with me than i am.

I have had to deal with overprotectiveness and a lot of restrictions,but i've never had to deal with all those if you get pregnant you're dead/don't sleep with boys talk etc.

Hahahaha. .
Mama Chimette! Mama Chimette! Mama Chimette! How many times did i call you?

Today is Sunday oh. Argueth not.

P.s-I think he was talking to the O.P,not me.

There's more pressure on girls than there is on boys. Trust me,i know.

Have you ever heard of a father who's over-protective of his son? Not likely.
But if it's a daughter-haaa,that's definite. I'm living proof. My dad has gone through my phone before without my permission/knowledge-something he wouldn't do to a son.
My dad hates all guys,and especially guys that are interested in his daughter(s). I don't see him hating all girls that will be interested in his son.

Being a daughter with an over-protective father=No social life. I doubt sons have that many restrictions.

Getting pregnant=the end of the world for girls,which,let's face it,is pretty reasonable;females are the primary caregivers,males are not,and every girl who gets pregnant has to deal with the responsiblity of it. I don't even have any beef with this particular belief. I'm not getting pregnant anytime soon(like why would i get pregnant? Am i mad? Do i have any idea how much work it is to take care of a baby?)so i am not bothered by the double standard of how a woman who has a baby out of wedlock is viewed as a slut or at least a loose person and then a guy who does it isnt.

Girls are under pressure to get married,while guys can marry at any time-simply because she has a certain age limit(the big 3-0?) after which it'll become difficult for her to find a husband.

So yeah,girls are under more pressure than boys. That's a fact. An annoying fact,but well,we gotta deal with it. Things've been this way for a long time and i imagine they'll remain that way for a long time to come.

He's very dependable.

He's one of the people i can call up this night for something that i need to do tommorrow and he'll be there. He's always there.

He used to like sagging like a mad person and parking/packing/worreva idk if that's the right spelling.

I've cured him of it.

This guy is confusing me.
First he says he's feeling slightly guilty,next he says he doesn't feel any remorse. First he doesn't want to destroy his relationship with his pal,next he doesn't care.
He's done something wrong and he doesn't seem the least bit apologetic/remorseful;in fact he defiantly says he'll do it again.

So what do you now want us to do? Should we clap for you? Tell you congrats?
Enjoy yourself? Have fun? Wetin?

Get your story straight and then come and talk here.