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MizMyColi:
I would write a rejoinder, but Tallesty1 has said it all.

Nice points OP.

Looking forward to it. Thanks

Tallesty1:
Relationship these days is just like gambling. Many will still fail to learn after reading this because they are only interested in what their itchy ears want to hear. Anything outside that is like pouring water on a stone.

First thing first, dating a lady or guy simply because you love him or her is the height of foolishness because relationship these days is no longer hinged on love, rather it is hinged on convenience.


Secondly, love at first sight is a scam. Personally it takes me weeks or maybe months to approach a lady for relationship, not because I am scared or anything but because I don't want to pour fire on myself. Learning and understanding a person takes time and it is better done when the person has no idea that you are interested in him or her. Get to know them.

When you approach a lady and she accepts or when a guy approach you and you accept, don't just allow the initial feeling to clog your reasoning. Take time to study him or her. Ask them their likes and dislikes and things they can never tolerate in a relationship. If their likes are your dislikes then your flat azz is in problem.

Finally, if you are with a new person, try to make him or her your good friend so that when the relationship steps on aboki man's poo, the friendship will be there to clean it up.

...And the tallesty1 has spoken! you sabi

MRBrownJ:
@Austyn44
although you are absolutely right, you have to remember that all what you wrote demands TIME, and therefore when you spend quality time with someone, you will unknowingly, and sometimes unwillingly, fall for that person (even though they may not have all what you require/desire in a partner). women are more prone to that because they are driven by their emotions, while most of us men would use our brains to evaluate such situation/partner.

but then again, would you say that women are wrong to let their emotions take over? if you feel that you love someone, shouldnt you disregard all the red flags in order to live that "love"? are you willing to settle for less in any way? would you say no to love because your #1 to #5 was not present?

i think that, as much as your points are like the "blueprint" on how to put all the chances in your corner to possibly have a successful union, you sometimes have to accept that nobody is perfect, and a 3/5 is "manageable".

Bros. Am happy you took out time to contribute. You are right, it takes time to know someone and emotions can easily cloud our judgement but I believe focusing on the bigger picture and the future is a way to choose reasoning over emotions most times. Afterall emotions themselves sometimes behave like chemicals changing when exposed to different conditions.

Btw, how did you come to have such good understanding of relationship? You are good!

As usual Mr ronald4lif never disappoints. Your contribution was wonderful. Thank you bro.

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Me: Babe, I thought you are a Christian?

Babe: yes dear...

Me: so what just happened?

Babe: it's the devil, Pls believe me.

Me: how am I sure is not the devil that is talking now?

Babe: nooooo! It's me

Me. Ok. As a Christian, Pls explain with the aid of a diagram how Jesus died for you, am ready to die for you but you don't want to die for me. Submit by 8.00am on Monday (3 pages)

The result will determine what happens next.

Blue brothers

Why is a great body more expensive than loyalty?

MRBrownJ:
brotha Timbuktou
even a woman with money should value a man without any, whats good for the goose is good for the gander, but as i have said countless times here on NL, the "no romance without finance" mindset has got to GO!!!!! and only we men can get rid of it.
listen, there are gazillions of women out there that are throwing totos at us like frisbees, yet we still have so many desperate men out there who will gladly lower themselves to satisfy these criminals called GDs. the mind of these women (along with the society that breeds them) is the problem here and only us (men) can fix it. if they get turned down over and over again, i assure you that there will eventually be romance without finance, as it should be.

what is the norm, really? do you think it is normal for a woman to value you as a prospect for marriage, depending on whether you have a fat wallet or not? that is these broke aasss women's norm, in order to find a quick and easy way out of their miserable lives. we (men) have to rise up and bring OUR norms to the table, and if you dont get toto to mount because of that, then go see ashewos for relief, lol!

if women dont want to deal with you because of your wallet size then you should not make any adjustments whatsoever in your life, and instead, you should seek to associate with better people in your life.

having money is not a "quality" that women should seek in men, and if they are, then these women are liabilities. here are the QUALITIES that the responsible women should seek:
- LOVE
- RESPECT
- TRUST
- INTEGRITY
- MORALS
- CLASS
- MANNERS
- COMMON SENSE
- CHARACTER
- PATIENCE

with all the above in hand, you cannot fail in life/love!

Nice one bro

justmag:
OP is absolutely right! Everyone should read this. This makes alot of sense. The better you kno the person you are with...the greater the lifespan of that relationship. Too many people assume they are in a great relationship with or without titles of bf and gf. The terms and conditions should be well established, and this should be followed by a good level of understanding. Don't assume you both understand each other when all you are doing is guessing games. Evolve people! Evolve!!

Thanks bro. Nice one

Relationships these days have evolved from a selfless and unconditional loving one to mind games and manipulation of partners. A situation where each party wants to trick the other into becoming what he/she wants while remaining resistant to any change. You hear things like my babe doesn't want to change? Are you APC? And before you know it your relationship ends as if it works with tiger head finger batteries.
In view of the above, I will like to borrow a leaf or two from my business class to be applied to relationships. 
Take a few minutes to think of the tedious process involved in getting a job with a very good company, all the series of tests and interviews and signing of contacts one has to undergo before becoming an employee of such firms. If only it will stop at that but no! The process continues as your performance is constantly evaluated and most times test and interviews are written to get promoted. 
If either as an employer or employee, one will take the stress to go through these processes to get the right employee or job then shouldn't we be more careful in getting in to relationships and "relating " well in our relationships so as to avoid ending up in "situationships"?
Here are a few things I think we should take note of in our quest for a good relationship
PLEASE NOTE that these are not in any way laws or must dos but my opinion 


1. Due Diligence: a process of assessing your "toaster" or the "toasted" to determine compatibility not necessarily similarities cos sometimes opposites attracts. The same way investors like Warren Buffet won't invest in an company without determining how viable it is so also should we evaluate the person we intend to share our life with.

2. There should be a proposal and an acceptance. Eg. We have been friends for quite a while, I will like us to take it to the next level. Would you be my lady? This is to avoid disappointments ( a situation where expectations are not equal to reality) and assumption of a relationship status that is not shared by both parties. Where a "friendzonee" guy thinks he is in a relationship with "friendzoner" lady.

3. State your dos and don'ts from the beginning such as no Sex, no wife or husband duties etc as it will serve as the terms and conditions both parties have agreed to live and love by except of course it is reviewed and changed by both parties later. 

4. Both of you should sit down and do an evaluation of the relationship either quarterly, biannually or once a year. This evaluation should include :
A. How have your partner performed so far on the scale of 1 to 10
B. What are the things he/she is doing right and the things he/she is doing wrong?
C. Are you better off as a result of the relationship? ( spiritually, physically, socially, financially, emotionally, academically and so on). It's called the value added question.  
D. Have you made your partner a better person and in what ways? This means you have actually studied your partner to know his weaknesses and care enough to help him or her work it through. Things like helping her work out/ registering her in a gym to manage her weight or helping  him to plan and save his money.
E. Agree on the changes needed to make your relationship a better one. Maybe more dates, romantic moments, daily devotions together, etc
The evaluation process ensures communication and makes sure both of you are on the same page cos everyone wants and can become a better lover.

5. Review your terms and conditions and make sure you live and love by them.
Finally Do as you want your partner as you want them to do to you

All these are to be done from a caring and loving perspective and not to be used as a manipulative tool or pressure mounting exercise.

Thanks for Reading. Awaiting your inputs. 

uau:
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Austyn from Minna Centre

This warning will scare 95% while the remaining 5% will be like...

12 years a slave comes to mind...
but I guess it's none of my business

Talk about crossing the offside line. Nairalanders claiming linesmen since 18th century

After 2 days, you start behaving like a rabbit. Sleeping with your eyes open

Is this end?

I prefer the slim girl.
REASON: check both of them out after 1 or 2 kids: the slim girl will be on auto cruise. #futuristic

Diplomacy! Diplomacy! Diplomacy! Team Phleg

I wish Patience Jonathan was an English teacher too

Finally!!!

God have mercy!!!! Funny in a wired manner

with my eyes only shall I see them but the son of man will neither date or marry any pot bellied lady. Imagine guy with 6 packs dey waka with chic with amusement park

temigracie:
...If its someone I hate or dont have any feelings for......I ll simply walk away....


But if its from someone I like, I ll keep quiet and warn him not to try that again.....


.....but deep in my heart, I ll wish he ll do that again........

Girls confusing and sending mixed signals to guys since the days of eve.#niaja traffic wardens. *sips my Lipton tea and continues reading "when no means yes by king Solomon" page 13,594.

OP add finger and toe nails to the list (not fixed nails o). How to spot a dirty girl. Guys thank me later.

Welcome to prison break season 6 (naija verson) starring abdulScofield, oluwalincon and chukwusucre.

Nice tips. Tnx op