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Bigman101:
Good morning nairalanders!!

Pls I need advice.. Here is my story.. I do business with my brother (selling) so because of that I come in contact with women (customers)..

But the problem is this: there is one particular young woman that do patronize us. It all started when she expressed gratitude towards me.. Since then I feel something for her, I dont know how but I really do love her, but she is married.. I really don't know how to go about this, seems like am involved emotional to her! I wish I & her could be dating ...pls advice me how to become emotional distance from her...

Pls moderators help push this to front page for more views and replies.

The story is still developing. Not interesting enough. Mtcheeew!

Seven pages so far on this thread, and with comments warning op and discouraging the idea of dating a married woman. That's okay but I have a question for you all: who are the people dating married women and men in Nigeria if all of you here are not the guilty ones? Hypocrites!

wyt:
i appreciate all contributions here. as I have infrared here, I want to be sure I am not hurting her or possibly show concern that I care. if there is actually what I can do to help her to get herself back I will but to my own detriment. she is just less than 24 yrs.
it is a bad parental upbringing. she is in my house and she hasn't do lesbo at least for 4 months now.
i will let her be if there is no way to change her or if she can not accept to change.

24 years is not a JUST! Since when and for how long has she been doing that? Since 18? 17? You will never know the truth.

Then, what make people think that they can actually change the bad or good in others? You're joking!

My advice: drop that garbage before it's too late, it's not worth it. You are here for advice but in reality, you're not actually ready to listen to the ones that are warning you.

We will be here for you two, three, four years down the line, don't worry.

FLYFIRE:
[s] This is the problem with people. A person who finds you a friend confides in you & you bring it here? For her to have opened up to you & had shared her very difficult challenges means she may have thought she had found a friend & support. Bringing this here only depicts back-stabs & immaturity. No wonder many marriages now do not last past the test TIME that MUST come upon every marriage...people joke with this very serious divine thing called marriage. OP, how will you be able to look into her eyes again knowing that you have grossly betrayed her trust. Are you here to seek for advice for your next step or on how to help her? Whatever reason you are here; you will not get the best answer. The best answer will come if you love her well enough to help her & work things together trusting God who gives abundantly when we ask.

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What is that you put up there? She shared her challenges with him? She should go and share it with her pastor father now, or her mother or siblings! You want this our guy to start carrying someone's burden around as young as he is?
What the guy shared here might look to you like the girl's challenges but it looks to me like the Op's predicament. Do you know the identity of the lady he's talking about? If you don't, you don't have a point.

Wyt

wyt:
She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.

After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.

Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.

[s] Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers. [/s]

pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.

Too much garbage my friend. I think that's your first love, that's why you are trapped.
Go out and find yourself another gf

olaadenigeria:
And you and your families in fact Nigerians will never forget APC

It depends, you know?

Sluacoast:
"Many lives are getting better under him??" Dollar is over 510. with the way food prices are skyrocketing. Cost of living is high. Security is bad. Terrorism everywhere. So many are actually living in pain and You're here quoting trash.

Yeah, I heard you. Where does his policies leave you, better or worse?

Fahdiga:
Yorubas and Fulanis are one

Yeah, and where does that leave your tribesmen? Perfect? I didn't even know it was you I quoted until now, I thought I quoted a random contributor. Never ever disappoint me, like I always encourage you

codedcliq:
Ode ni bobo yi sha

Attention seeker. The question wasn't directed to you, why the abuse?

Fahdiga:
Didn't know that there are Fulanis in Liberia

You're a tribalist. A Yoruba man here in Nigeria smashed his own 2 years old son against the wall, killing him instantly just because he was having a misunderstanding with his wife, the mother.

insidelife22:
look without mincing words the world would have been a better place without Islam.
All the worlds renowned and most dangerous,heartless terrorists are from that sect.

Food don land for you, bigot. Boring, stale.

Afghanista is a nutcase, hard to crack. Sorry for ordinary citizens living there.

joe54:
[s] And some useless , god forsaken idiots are still supporting this failed government. [/s]

Well there is plurality of OPINION.

MY TAKE BUHARI \ APC ARE HERE TO STEAL, KILL AND DESTROY.

Contradiction

TarOrfeeek:
[s] Accomodators and their sore losership skills. [/s]

Person resign, allow am to suffer unemployment in peace. You still want to oppresse him.

Next thing now is to go and commit adultery with his wife.

Tueh

Ask your fellow Easterner what he stole from the man before you bring tribalism into this. Common sense should have told you that this guy is lying! The man couldn't be chasing him around for simply resigning from his job, no way!

Sluacoast:
That's a huge one. Over here in Nigeria. We barely experience any kind of natural disasters. Our only problem is our recalcitrant leaders. They have succeeded in ruining and frustrated the lives of their citizens. Most esp the dullard in aso rock

You were making sense until that crossed out part. Citizens' lives were already ruined and frustrated before your dullard in aso rock came on board. Many lives are getting better under him. Is yours getting better or getting ruined? Be sincere.

chukel:
lol. After saying he has no brain, you still used "probably" and also made an assumption just like him. What's the difference between the 2 of you. Since the killer is not known, people can only make assumptions which is not bad.

The difference is not the word PROBABLY as you can see, neither the assumption. Lol.

The difference is people like him like to portray their fellow Nigerians in bad light, they enjoy ridiculing the name of their country, they love dragging it in the mud. May be it has to do with self hatred that grew inside them because of the fact that Nigeria as a country really disappointed them.

The resident in my post could be American, Nigerian, Italian, Mexican, etc. He didn't need to be specific with the word "Nigerian" as a suspect. That's not good for himself as a Nigerian.

BabbanBura:
It's long i heard about him

The man don japa tey tey!

Fahdiga:
Twitter really humbled this regime

You meant to say that this administration really humbled twitter? Lol

Sanchez01:
There are bastards/black sheep in very tribe, almost every family and every ethnic group. Tricia is Igbo herself but she referred to her own ethnic group as a minority. The level of sponsored contents I have seen in this APC government is second to none. I sincerely wouldn't be surprised if word gets out tomorrow that she got compensated or paid for this opinion article.

That's because you have somehow convinced yourself that your opinion about the whole issue is the right or correct opinion. Any contrary opinion is either paid for or formed by a bastard. You need to get your head examined!

yemi2plus:
Six days and you're already advising everyone and making friends with everyone? You better mind your business.

Lol.

quinox947:
He made use of the word PROBABLY

Still far fetched. Why would he even think he was shot by a Nigerian? Anything to portray himself, his country, his fellow citizens as bad. Inferiority complex. Shame

Fahdiga:
He was probably shot by a fellow Nigerian

I know sey u no get brain at all, never ever disappoint me.

NBC Washington reports that Njoku was found suffering from gunshot wounds at about 12:20 a.m. in a car in the 3700 block of Lottsford Vista Road.

Probably, a resident mistook him for a criminal or trespasser. Welcome to America!

ignis:
The number of contract staff in the bank is very alarming, all in the bid to maximize profit for heartless management staff .

To what end? No be death the end of every accumulation of wealth?

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ezenwaez:
A lot of disengaged and exited N-Power Batches A and B Volunteers have been asking the question when will the N-EXIT program commence, some N-Power Batch A and B Volunteers are even in a state of doubt if the N-EXIT program will even commence at all.
The reality is that the N-EXIT program will definitely commence, the reason for the delay in the implementation of the N-EXIT package is because, infact as we speak a whole lot of N-Power Batch A and B Volunteers have quite a handful of issues, many of them could not even register on the N-EXIT portal when it was active, and this would be quite unfair to leave them without address those issues, as we speak the N-Power Batch A and B Volunteers having issues with respect to registration, password retrieval etc are been rectified, as long as there are N-Power volunteers having issues, it might take quite a while for the N-EXIT package to kick off.

Few months ago Nneka Ikem the senior special assistant to the Minister for Humanitarian Affairs requested for names, email addresses and other particulars from N-Power Batch A and B Volunteers having issues on the N-EXIT portal.

Yes a lot of N-Power volunteers will express their worry, that why is it taking forever to rectify the issues, remember that the covid19 pandemic really halted a lot of processes, and the Ministry is just beginning to recover from the challenges posed by the pandemic.

Notwithstanding the N-EXIT package will commence very soon, remember that this is part of this Administrative plan to secure their votes as well as lifting millions of Nigerians out of poverty, they would not want to break that promise.

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ImaIma1:
Not everyone really knows what they want. And they'll just go with anything.

How sure are you that they don't know what they want? Because I have seen plenty of women who refused to be a second wife but still serving as side chicks to married men. At least, their own case is not use and dumb. These ones knew what they want and went for it.

Foreigna2:
This one is just a fool. Polygamy doesn't stop philandering.

Does monogamy do? If the answer is no, why is he a fool? Because he didn't tell you why he decided to go into polygamy. Learn to contribute to issues sensibly without calling names.

The problem is that many Nigerians are actually educated illiterates. They passed through schools but schools didn't pass through them. They don't even understand what freedom of speech means and its limits. Do they understand libel? No! Do they understand slander? No! All what they know is just to be shouting "freedom of speech"! Many of such people are on nairaland here

blues234:
See, brother, I don't support IPOB, but you see Buhari, he is wicked If he doesn't tackle the herdsmen militia that is the genesis of this problem, then there is no need to celebrate. I wish IPOB will change their modus operandi...

Continue blaming Buhari when igbos are now the ones killing their own brothers just because they wear security uniform.
Below are some of the ESN targeted killings:

Assistant Superintendent of Police Nwachukeu Ambrose,
Inspector Ise Daniel,
Inspector Paul Ovey,
Inspector Chali Ayuba,
Inspector Akim Ngbale,
Inspector Shaibu Abdullahi,
Inspector Abia Anthony,
Inspector Samuel Gbaji,
Inspector Harun Ayuba,
Inspector Chinedu Otu,
Inspector Falere Oladosu
And Inspector Usman Abdulraheen.

Others include Inspector Anayo Mere,
Inspector Amaihian Idemudia,
Inspector Ali Abdu,
Sergeant James Okorie,
Sergeant Augustine Anyanwu,
Sergeant Solomon Oyeneke,
Sergeant Ubi Bassey,
Sergeant Loveday Obilionu
And Police Constable Kombe Joseph.

Henrick007:
Hmm

Hmm? That's all? A simple well done and thank you for your sacrifice would go a long way boost morales.
Thank you boys, stay safe.

RenaissanceGuy:
If Dangote Group were sure they'd win the case in court, they'd not bother intimidating the news company.

That editor is sure to appear in front of a judge with his evidence of that damaging news which has possibility of throwing investors into panic mode. We're talking about billions of dollars investment, you don't just release that kind of report without hard facts!

Baawaa:
Dangote is one of Nigeria problem

And what are you? One of the Nigeria's solution? Dangote is at least creating jobs, never served in any administration. We knew, Nigerians are good at pointing accusing fingers. Lol

Suspect33:
I'm still waiting to see how the office of V.P has improved the lives of the Yoruba people, bcus that's the sole reason they voted this failure of a president twice

Isn't it an irony how the self acclaimed most education people in the country were played by the perceived dumb people

And you ignorantly believed that half of the total votes in Yoruba land that went to APC was what made Buhari won the election? Your head is paining you.
And do you mind telling us how the office of the president under Jonathan improved the lives of your tribe too? Dumb people everywhere