wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.

Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. She found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November.

We scheduled to get married last July but due to the financial issue and her parents saying we have to wait till she is done with school we have to change our plan but she is so bitter that she is not getting married as she planned. She will be going back to school in 2 weeks' time. since

Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.

After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.

Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.

Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers.

pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.

Guy, you are in for a deep shit if you proceed with the marriage. Please be guided accordingly so that you dont have regrets later on

Wahala too much ,bet you she is a lier

There is a way you can make love to her to make her cum, if she usually cum then her problem is half solved

authority2006:
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What is that you put up there? She shared her challenges with him? She should go and share it her pastor father now, or her mother or siblings! You want this our guy to start carrying someone's burden around as young as he is?
What the guy shared here might look to you like the girl's challenges but it looks to me like the Op's predicament. Do you know the identity of the lady he's talking about? If you don't, you don't have a point.

Wyt

You have not made any sense by saying this after you said you loved her. It seems you are now satisfied because you have gotten what you wanted from her which is sex. My advice is you can now treat her the way you want others to treat your own...no be fight.

I believe the gurl de find ways to get rid of u since she disvovered you were not buoyant enough!

She does not want to be blamef for canceling the marriage hence her shenanigans so that you will be the one to cancel the marriage! The gurl get sense!

wyt:


thanks a lot. note> all these flawn i just got to know them within last 8 days. the masturbation is just few hrs ago. and I have to come up here to make sure I am not doing her wrong if i let if be.
the "supportive" is more of her desire for me to succeed and nothing more

michlins:
You mean one person has all the issues you listed.


From doing olosho work, lesbian and money hungry.

Single people like me can't relate

Hahahaha! The story looks made up.

Op... sorry about this. But she has too many faults that is a big Red flag. Lesbianism And u think she truly loves u? She even indirectly opened up to u that u can’t make her sexually satisfied. She still eyes other men too for money and eyes women too Ahhhhhhh

southniyikaye:
Egungun becareful na express you dey go..

This egungun wey don go see olosho parent don reach express already...

trailer wey go jam am don dey come seff..

The op even believe the babe say she just dey collect free money from men...how can a whole man not have sense at all.....

The only way to continue with this relationship is for her to go for a genuine deliverance.

I can see that you are still in love with this gal upon all the flaws you listed.

Change your house key first. Tell her that if she can confess all these in the face of her parent you will go ahead to marry her. If not" you are done with the relationship. If she get the courage to confess to you in the face of her parents definitely she's ready to surrender everything to a reasonable point.

At times somebody like this can change for better" I believed and I can't judge anybody now because Nigeria is very hard to leave in. People do different things just to survive.

If she refuse to confess in front of her family. Let her go. When you have enough cash get another apartment to undisclosed location and find another woman to marry. A good wife still cheat at times" they will say is devil's work" these your gal carry so much burden for head the earlier you think fast the better for you.

The day my fiance asked me for 36k what of chain while am still collecting 42k salary. That was the day I told her am done with d relationship. Today I thank God I did not married her because she's still ask for financial help most times even when she don marry" holes will always remain holes"

Is her name Jumoke?

michael77777:
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if you dump her na somebody go still marry her!..



I will advice you to help her, change her to become the woman you want... (if you truly love her)



it's very rare to see a girl that will open up to you...

Follow the advice at ur own risk

Una go dey behave like small pikin without common... A chameleon doesn't change it color overnight...

Knowing this has made me deal with people the way I see them

I no dey for the matter e go change whether na guy man or woman.

If I see say u be backbiter or person were dey carry person head join together, I deal with u that way, I no one know whether u go change tomorrow or not

If I see say u dey claim too much sense, I follow u up that way... Then for woman matter , I can't start what I won't n can't finish.

Thank God say d woman I get na me spoil .... I dey mk her cum like water n na person were b say if she cum for morning in the next 5days e no concern her agn ... If no b me dey worry myself for sex e no concern her..

Atleast that give me rest of mind knowing she's not after sex

wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.

Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. She found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November.

We scheduled to get married last July but due to the financial issue and her parents saying we have to wait till she is done with school we have to change our plan but she is so bitter that she is not getting married as she planned. She will be going back to school in 2 weeks' time. since

Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.

After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.

Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.

Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers.

pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.

Thank God she confessed to you. God loves you so much. Lesbians are the worst nightmares any man can have as wife. She will never be emotionally attracted to you. She hasn't stopped it. She still masturbates to lesbian porn.
My worry is that you still appear confused as to your next line of action even after God has compelled her to reveal all this to you.

Dump her. NOW!

This one don done...you nor go fit undone her.
Her problem too much...if you marry her, prepare for war.
But if I be you,I no go like to go this kind war.

Hmmmm! This is serious. There's more she is yet to tell you.

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wyt:
i appreciate all contributions here. as I have infrared here, I want to be sure I am not hurting her or possibly show concern that I care. if there is actually what I can do to help her to get herself back I will but to my own detriment. she is just less than 24 yrs.
it is a bad parental upbringing. she is in my house and she hasn't do lesbo at least for 4 months now.
i will let her be if there is no way to change her or if she can not accept to change.

24 years is not a JUST! Since when and for how long has she been doing that? Since 18? 17? You will never know the truth.

Then, what make people think that they can actually change the bad or good in others? You're joking!

My advice: drop that garbage before it's too late, it's not worth it. You are here for advice but in reality, you're not actually ready to listen to the ones that are warning you.

We will be here for you two, three, four years down the line, don't worry.

Wow! You are in quite a predicament here. I think you need to postpone your wedding indefinitely. You don't need to break up with her. All you need to do is to stay with her, push, pray and persuade the changes you want. If you do it right and she wants to change on her own then you support her with every fibre of ur being.
The challenge I've got in all you've stated is her greed. You can't satisfy her sexually so she masturbates instead of her teaching you how to satisfy her. Finances are down hence she resorts to cheating. She's definitely far more sexually savvy than you are and boy you need to get off your high horse and learn. Wash plate, find/ask/discover her pleasure points that will be very instrumental to her climaxing. No matter how lesbian she maybe she can always sing ooh la la when you do it right. Besides they don't have dicks, you've got one and you are willing to go down. Wash the plate well. Two fingers, tongue all join. She'll never leave once you can wash well.
Like I said what should bother you is the lack of contentment. If you've learnt to satisfy her sexually and intellectually and she's still having cravings from her same gender or she's not stopped her online olosho then my brother push for a breakup. Let her do the breaking up and act hurt. Life's too short to live in deceit in perpetuity.

wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.

Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. She found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November.

We scheduled to get married last July but due to the financial issue and her parents saying we have to wait till she is done with school we have to change our plan but she is so bitter that she is not getting married as she planned. She will be going back to school in 2 weeks' time. since

Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.

After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.

Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.

Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers.

pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.

Okay but I'm speaking in terms of masturbation being responsible for many failed marriages, I agree homosexuality is more deep but they both destroys marriages. That is the point I am trying to make

WATCHMANX:
Truth is homosexuality is a far more serious and deeper spiritual issue compared to masturbation. They are never in the same league

@ wyt, Let's put aside her flaws and focus on her positives.

1. She is open transparent and honest.
This is a huge positive.

2. She discovered you broke and still wants to marry.

3. She is generally supportive, which means she also like a friend.

4. She acknowledges she is attracted to women, but she still having sex with you.

5. So you are fornicating with her so you have no moral ground to judge her masturbation.

OP, whilst on surface it may seem a risk to marry her , remember that nobody is perfect and you only know her unpleasant side because she told you.

Whilst some of her activities is not ideal , her good qualities are very rare.

But you have to make that decision for yourself .

Take N20, buy sense of N10 And buy water with the change. If you drink finish call me, leh me come and slap slap you! Stupid....

michlins:
You mean one person has all the issues you listed.


From doing olosho work, lesbian and money hungry.

Single people like me can't relate

You forgot to add masturbation

The op is asking "how can I stop her from all these immoralities?" Yet, the op is sleeping and co-habiting with her, even though they are yet to be legally married. Is that not immorality in itself?

@op, let me tell you the honest truth: Bro just japa for your own good. Don't learn from your experience, it could be too late. Learn from the experience of others bro. That's true wisdom.

What that lady need now is not marriage. She needs deliverance/rehabilitation because she's in a serious psychological, emotional, mental and spiritual mess. Even you need to repent from fornication.

When it comes to marriage decision, don't follow your heart, follow your head.

anthonyuncle:


don't wait for two weeks, send her away right now

Bros.this d problem and reasons why girls don't tell their habit and past life to their supposed husband.dont mind those saying leave her send her away.if she's their sister will there give same advise.no one is perfect.even u have ur own habit, cohabitting with a girl u are yet to marry is immorality itself.fucking her is worst dan her masturbating herself.so u both are birds of same feather.its never greener anywhere.no girl is dat pure.if she's a wife material and surportive.go ahead with her.just help her to stop d habits.give her time.and explain to her what and what u don't like.if she loves u and will want the relationship to go on.she have to stop some habits.mostly d one of presenting her aura to get money online.although I don't know d meaning of aura.but if after telling her and she's not changing then u will know it's not ur fault for walking away.and before you walk away don't do it suddenly.do it gradually so as not to hurt her.or she will see it dat u broke her heart.may God direct u on d path to take.wish u d best.

Emeka71:
Being born-again is not by force; is a thing of choice.

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As long as a man rejects the gift of God, it is these kinds of issues we will be dealing with everyday. 'Plz Nlers help me, I'm in so so so problem' meanwhile when God gives his gift u reject blatantly coming up with logical reasons

Proverbs 1:24-31 KJV
Because I have called, and ye refused; I have stretched out my hand, and no man regarded; [25] But ye have set at nought all my counsel, and would none of my reproof: [26] I also will laugh at your calamity; I will mock when your fear cometh; [27] When your fear cometh as desolation, and your destruction cometh as a whirlwind; when distress and anguish cometh upon you. [28] Then shall they call upon me, but I will not answer; they shall seek me early, but they shall not find me: [29] For that they hated knowledge, and did not choose the fear of the Lord : [30] They would none of my counsel: they despised all my reproof. [31] Therefore shall they eat of the fruit of their own way, and be filled with their own devices.

wyt


If you love yourself. Stay away from lesbian and bisexuals ...
Its doest end well

michlins:
you're discussing relationship leading to marriage with a 24yrs?


What's wrong with guys really. There are matured girls out there who have seen it all and want to settle down but you won't look for them. Then you will start complaining about her youthful exuberance.


The human brain doesn't fully develop until 24 or something. Forgotten exactly

Na wao, so a 24yr old girl is not ripe for marriage. People sef and their sense of authority. 18 is the official year of adulthood and 6yrs later a girl shouldn't still marry because she is not mature according you.

Marriage expert!

My own is that no matter how bad anyone is people change. About her masturbations that either means you don't know how to satisfy her sexually. Read up and learn if you're good she won't need mastubate anymore. As for swindling guys you need to let her know she's no different from Yahoo guys. Talk to her and let's see if she can change. There's no perfect woman out there.

wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.

Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. She found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November.

We scheduled to get married last July but due to the financial issue and her parents saying we have to wait till she is done with school we have to change our plan but she is so bitter that she is not getting married as she planned. She will be going back to school in 2 weeks' time. since

Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.

After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.

Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.

Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers.

pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.

flee

Big lie... Its a trap!
No even waste ur moni... She will cheat on u!

Pls tag me when you do

Lostchild:
wyt
My experience has thought me to care about the well being of my fellow man.

My brother; Please run for your life. You will cry in the future. This girl will make you cry.

He demon in her will possess your offspring. Please save your unborn children from the sins of the parents.


Because you I will create two thread

TheSexLover:


Follow the advice at ur own risk

Una go dey behave like small pikin without common... A chameleon doesn't change it color overnight...

Knowing this has made me deal with people the way I see them

I no dey for the matter e go change whether na guy man or woman.

If I see say u be backbiter or person were dey carry person head join together, I deal with u that way, I no one know whether u go change tomorrow or not

If I see say u dey claim too much sense, I follow u up that way... Then for woman matter , I can't start what I won't n can't finish.

Thank God say d woman I get na me spoil .... I dey mk her cum like water n na person were b say if she cum for morning in the next 5days e no concern her agn ... If no b me dey worry myself for sex e no concern her..

Atleast that give me rest of mind knowing she's not after sex

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your thought sha!


you can't truly predict a woman's mind.... know this it will truly help you in (future)..



what you are thinking about her now may not be what's in her mind...


try to find out what's really in her mind ,and stop claiming odogwu when she's thinking another different thing....


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Lastanza:


Na wao, so a 24yr old girl is not ripe for marriage. People sef and their sense of authority. 18 is the official year of adulthood and 6yrs later a girl shouldn't still marry because she is not mature according you.

Marriage expert!

the human brain is fully developed at 25yrs.

At less than 26, a woman is still intoxicated by attention and it really does affect everything they do.