| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by nedekid: 12:23pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Op, show her picture so we can look and analyze well. |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by FLYFIRE(m): 12:23pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
wyt:
for sure man. she was able to open up to me cos she sort of find a friend in me, but she is generally supportive This is the problem with people. A person who finds you a friend confides in you & you bring it here? For her to have opened up to you & had shared her very difficult challenges means she may have thought she had found a friend & support. Bringing this here only depicts back-stabs & immaturity. No wonder many marriages now do not last past the test TIME that MUST come upon every marriage...people joke with this very serious divine thing called marriage. OP, how will you be able to look into her eyes again knowing that you have grossly betrayed her trust. Are you here to seek for advice for your next step or on how to help her? Whatever reason you are here; you will not get the best answer. The best answer will come if you love her well enough to help her & work things together trusting God who gives abundantly when we ask. 2 Likes |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by Babyboyforeal(m): 12:25pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.
Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. She found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November.
We scheduled to get married last July but due to the financial issue and her parents saying we have to wait till she is done with school we have to change our plan but she is so bitter that she is not getting married as she planned. She will be going back to school in 2 weeks' time. since
Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.
After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.
Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.
Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers.
pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.
run for your life she is a hoe and she belong to the street and never wife a hoe |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by deltateam: 12:26pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.
Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. She found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November.
We scheduled to get married last July but due to the financial issue and her parents saying we have to wait till she is done with school we have to change our plan but she is so bitter that she is not getting married as she planned. She will be going back to school in 2 weeks' time. since
Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.
After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.
Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.
Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers.
pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.
For your mind you must be feeling like a super man. Trying to save your 'sleeping beauty' oh Mr charming. For your information, you can't make an adult change her ways, only God can. She has lots of baggages which you can't deal with. The truth is only but the surface as she'll tell what you can cope with at the moment. With time, she'll unwrap another layer. This reminds me of the legendary rat that chews your toes while blowing you air at the same time. 2 Likes |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by GLReocord: 12:28pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Is your fiancee's surname Okoye ? Just curious 1 Like |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by MondayOsunbor(m): 12:30pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
michlins:
You mean one person has all the issues you listed.
From doing olosho work, lesbian and money hungry.
Single people like me can't relate We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage. prefect recipe of disaster |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by authority2006(m): 12:30pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
wyt:
She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.
After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.
Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.
[s] Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers. [/s]
pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.
Too much garbage my friend. I think that's your first love, that's why you are trapped. Go out and find yourself another gf |
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| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by baloney: 12:34pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
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| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by IgboWarlord(m): 12:36pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.
Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. She found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November.
We scheduled to get married last July but due to the financial issue and her parents saying we have to wait till she is done with school we have to change our plan but she is so bitter that she is not getting married as she planned. She will be going back to school in 2 weeks' time. since
Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.
After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.
Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.
Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers.
pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.
Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here..Now,this is the part i don't get.She's doing her I.T in YOUR HOUSE or she's going to her I.T place from your house  ..Oboy,if its the former ehn  ..... 1 Like 
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| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by Ofadaman(m): 12:37pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
80% of woman have lesbian tendencies,just dangle the option before then, by suggesting a 3some and see how they Lap it up.
Its because of too many simps that why they've resorted to their fellow woman, you cant blame redpillers like us, how many cab we deal with,. We need the simps to Stand up to the challenge cause we redpillers and alphas are getting overwhelmed.
Thank you
Redpillers and alpher men ssociation of Nigeria, RAAN. |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by authority2006(m): 12:37pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
FLYFIRE:
[s] This is the problem with people. A person who finds you a friend confides in you & you bring it here? For her to have opened up to you & had shared her very difficult challenges means she may have thought she had found a friend & support. Bringing this here only depicts back-stabs & immaturity. No wonder many marriages now do not last past the test TIME that MUST come upon every marriage...people joke with this very serious divine thing called marriage. OP, how will you be able to look into her eyes again knowing that you have grossly betrayed her trust. Are you here to seek for advice for your next step or on how to help her? Whatever reason you are here; you will not get the best answer. The best answer will come if you love her well enough to help her & work things together trusting God who gives abundantly when we ask. [/s] What is that you put up there? She shared her challenges with him? She should go and share it with her pastor father now, or her mother or siblings! You want this our guy to start carrying someone's burden around as young as he is? What the guy shared here might look to you like the girl's challenges but it looks to me like the Op's predicament. Do you know the identity of the lady he's talking about? If you don't, you don't have a point. Wyt 1 Like |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by alexvic12: 12:42pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Youre funny!  So sex before marriage is not immorality? wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.
Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.
Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.
Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers.
pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.
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| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by Nobody: 12:44pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Omo being single is not a death sentence ,with 5k you can cure konji |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by Hassanmaye(m): 12:47pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
muller101:
Even buhari won't make such a mistake. Hahahha lol |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by jaxxy(m): 12:47pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
wyt:
one of the reasons why I am here. I really need help/advise If she has sex with u what makes u think she doesn’t with other men not just women? U just believe whatever she tells u or u have confirmed the Truth? She has too much baggage it’s up to u to decide if u can deal with that or move. She needs to find a decent way to cater for herself not depending on or lying to men. 1 Like |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by Evidenx(m): 12:48pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
wyt:
i appreciate all contributions here. as I have infrared here, I want to be sure I am not hurting her or possibly show concern that I care. if there is actually what I can do to help her to get herself back I will but to my own detriment. she is just less than 24 yrs.
it is a bad parental upbringing. she is in my house and she hasn't do lesbo at least for 4 months now.
i will let her be if there is no way to change her or if she can not accept to change. from the way you speak it seems you truly love her. If you truly want to help her take her for deliverance in a genuine church. If you dont know any,mention me and i will direct you u to a genuine church. Note: two of you must stop having sex,fornication is a sin. If she gets delivered and u too have sex again,the spirit of masturbation will come again X(times) 30 in full force. |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by nzechu(m): 12:49pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
usually I don't comment on these kinda issues cos what will be will be, and the concept of changing an adult is a near impossible task although not impossible.
but the following are my points.
1. obviously she has issues, immorality issues. but who doesn't. if u are a disciplined morally inclined person, then both of you are not compatible. its best to run. you can't change even yourself talk more of her. even if she promises to change, she might just change for a few months and then relapse, ask people who are trying to stop masturbating, porn addiction or smoking.
2. if u think u love her, then u must bring yourself to accept her, the word is tolerate. In foreign climes most things we see as immoral are becoming norms, imagine a husband bringing a man to sex his wife abroad. so are u ready to tolerate that she may be sexing other men and women. love doesn't mean forcing other people to conform to you, but accepting them. With time, they begin to change for you by themselves. so if you are not going to have a heart attack when you catch her red handed. then by all means go ahead.
bonus: you HV to appreciate her telling u all this cos trust me u wouldn't HV found out perhaps until after the marriage. By that time the heartbreak would be hurricane level lol.
pls ignore my punctuations and small letters, my fone is stressing me |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by Hassanmaye(m): 12:52pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
eastOFwest:
Follow her to make money from her olosho business until your business has been revived. After that, you can ditch her and move on with your life. However, if her olosho business is bringing in serious money, hang on with her so that you can reap more money to consolidate your business, but don't get her pregnant or marry her. You can let her take on a lesbian lover and, if the lesbian lover is cute enough, you can engage in threesomes with them and even reap more money from her olosho business as they can now do lesbian show.
Life is too short to be worrying about rubbish, so just be open minded and enjoy life with the opportunities presented to you now that you are young and strong. Trust me, one day you will get older, weaker, married with a lot of responsibilities and you will wish that you did more things when you were younger. Real bad boy |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by Softwareguy21: 12:53pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.
Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. She found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November.
We scheduled to get married last July but due to the financial issue and her parents saying we have to wait till she is done with school we have to change our plan but she is so bitter that she is not getting married as she planned. She will be going back to school in 2 weeks' time. since
Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.
After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.
Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.
Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers.
pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.
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| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by ledaman: 12:54pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
To be sincere Bros you guys are not on the same page, why because she's a lesbian, she is a hoe that extort men for survival. Well, if you truly love her tell her the truth to stop the way ward activities and manage with you or you change your Bearing. Good luck. |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by murphyung(m): 12:56pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
shawante:
Abeg who is he leaving her for? You don't throw away a cloth because it is dirty. Rather you wash it. The situation at hand isn't as bad as dumping her. |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by infogeneral: 1:04pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Having seen the red flags, if you forge ahead you'll most likely regret it. |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by KayCee92(m): 1:12pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Lol.... Men, they just don't learn. Haaba na oga. This one no be remedy matter na Usain Bolt stuff |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by Prime1(m): 1:14pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.
Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. She found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November.
We scheduled to get married last July but due to the financial issue and her parents saying we have to wait till she is done with school we have to change our plan but she is so bitter that she is not getting married as she planned. She will be going back to school in 2 weeks' time. since
Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.
After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.
Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.
Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers.
pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.
You are wasting and destroying your life if you continue with that lady. She is only telling you because she wants pity. She is a fraud and she is playing the fraud game on you You will only give yourself a mental breakdown later if not careful. Get a matured woman who will love you for who you are. Most importantly, love yourself. Think about yourself in a marriage with less problematic issues. 1 Like |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by nokspos: 1:16pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Let me advise you , marry that lady, you see those things she told you , every ladies does even more. You see all these guys telling you not to marry her, their girlfriend does more. Love is trust, you already know her weakness and she's a trustworthy person, if she tells you she want to stop , then she mean it, if she tells you she want to masturbate, then she mean it. but you see all this hypocrites on nairaland forming assistant Jesus Christ , they use Love Machine not just small ones , big gbola Love Machine and they will be forming mfm member. Masturbation is not that bad, if you guys eventually have long distance for 1 year, that's what you both will be doing to keep the sex life. You will even call her on video call to open the thing for you. Na so... and as for the lesbianism thing. almost all ladies are lesbians, it won't harm you, she won't bring you bastard child, and you might be lucky she will invent her friend tomorrow for a party while you will be the judge, what else do you want in a wife bro? As for the fact that she doesn't cum when you guys have sex, its because of the masturbation she's still doing , just ensure she abstain from it for like two weeks , then you guys should have sex after that two weeks, she will not only cum , she will squirt. wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.
Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. She found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November.
pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.
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| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by Viking007(m): 1:19pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
michlins:
You mean one person has all the issues you listed.
From doing olosho work, lesbian and money hungry.
Single people like me can't relate  |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by Awise09(m): 1:19pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
I have discovered that most people now just get married without spiritual cleansing later leads to problems in their marriage later on, all you need is to take her to re[b][/b]al man of God for total deliverance from spirit of whoredom,even you that has sex with her. |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by Awise09(m): 1:21pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
I have discovered that most people now just get married without spiritual cleansing later leads to problems in their marriage later on, all you need is to take her to a real man of God for total deliverance from spirit of whoredom,even you that has sex with her. |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by colossalll: 1:25pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.
Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. She found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November.
We scheduled to get married last July but due to the financial issue and her parents saying we have to wait till she is done with school we have to change our plan but she is so bitter that she is not getting married as she planned. She will be going back to school in 2 weeks' time. since
Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.
After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.
Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.
Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers.
pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.
Do not mislead yourself with the illusion called love, as a man looking to have a peaceful marriage or relationship, you should look for good virtues (genuine and not pretence) in a partner. It's these virtues that will be your consolation when you face the challenges that come with marriage/relationship. The love you think you feel is mere infatuation, lust and self gratification that comes with dating a bad girl, they can be exciting, intriguing or fascinating, but they usually don't make a good life partner. 1 Like |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by antimason(m): 1:28pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.
Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. She found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November.
We scheduled to get married last July but due to the financial issue and her parents saying we have to wait till she is done with school we have to change our plan but she is so bitter that she is not getting married as she planned. She will be going back to school in 2 weeks' time. since
Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.
After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.
Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.
Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers.
pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.
the issue is sexual addictions are hard to forgo. But maybe with constant counseling on her part she might be saved. Never knew women masturbating too |
| Re: Help, My Fianceé Masturbates by Divoc19(f): 1:33pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
What if she didn't confine in you?
The devil you know is better than the angel you don't know.
There are always issues in marriages, you're identifying your own earlier.
Anybody can repent of bad behaviour, if she loves you why not continue?
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