₦airaland Forum

I was considering marrying a girl through recommendations and stuffs without true dating and stuffs. But this your story is a testament that it doesn't work out well like that. I believe you brought your wife from another town and most possibly a village because she didn't know any man and is well behaved, the reason why she's a virgin according to you. But here's the thing, she is just discovering you and it turned out you both don't match. The fact she started flings with someone else due to the nature of your job, if that there was any real connection before marriage you would have seen these signs and would have made a better decision concerning her.

One advice you got wrong on this platform is reacting quickly to your discoveries. Sometimes a man sits back and acts stupid till he gets a verified established fact before acting. The moment you saw these signs, especially the day you came back earlier to spoil her plans, you would have stepped back a bit and acted stupid to buy yourself more time to verify your suspicion, remember until established suspicions are not facts.

Reacting quickly to your suspicions damaged your relationship with your wife that was why she went from probably hiding what she feels about you to showing you and telling you to your face.

For her pregnancy you are unsure about, I will advice you to be calm about the situation, I know you're emotionally drained but a man of your age should learn to be emotionally strong as every happenings is all life lessons. Wait for her to put to birth to ascertain with certainty the baby's paternity through DNA test. Start saving for it because that will be only how you can be certain of that the baby is yours or not.

Be strong.

Ilamina:
Just watched an American movie

She told this guy to fcck her hard till she passes out

Some people are nuts mehn

It could have been much interesting if you had shared the movie name. What's the movie name?

mariovito:
The best thing in life is life.

If they gave you life

Go figure what you will do with it.

If they gave you life to come figure life out from the onset and no viable foundation to start from, they failed you and your supposed future.

Men understand this from day 1 but woman live in denial from the onset.

I'm very grateful to my parents for giving me a solid foundation. By God's grace I'm well educated and an established entrepreneur. In essence, exposure or financial buoyancy are barely my problems.

But I realized my foundation didn't train me on a truth early enough, about the advantages of having real opposite sex connections and also the advantages of early marriage.

I got to learn about these truths around my 24 and started aligning myself aright. This made me start a relationship with the view that by 28 after NYSC we'd marry if things work out but things stopped working out some months before I turned 28, even before NYSC duty called at that same age.

Now 29, I have found it difficult to settle for any girl so far, despite the fact I seriously long to marry a wife.

With all of these happenings I realized my foundation erred in this area, imagine if I had a foundation that meant I connected with a lot of the opposite sex and had the mindset of early marriage I know I would not be in this situation as I am right now.

Finding my wife has not been easy.

Bahamas95:
Smoking is one thing I will NEVER do in my life.



The worse of them all is a woman smoking, very annoying/irritating.

How about a woman being so much into alcohol?

Nigeria and wastefulness is 5 & 6. This is so sad. Their entitlements are earned and we'll deserved but the over of anything is not healthy and this is very overboard.

ChizzyBuna:
And there are also false gods parading as the most powerful God. 90% of Nigerians are worshipping a false god. Not the true God

I'm not a part of that 90%.

ChizzyBuna:
just say you are clueless and guilable. Any sweet tongue can twist the bible and you call him daddy
You better wake up and realize the illusion before it's too late.
You carry bible for head yet you can invent or produce anything significant to humanity.

While the very countries that brought Christianity to you are advancing day by day with new forms of technology.

Are you more christian than the white nan that brought you Christanity??

There's a God in heaven, the most powerful.

ChizzyBuna:
See your hypocrisy

A person living in sin has soft spot in God hearts because he brought more souls

You think God can be decieve like you guilable sheeps

This is why I said Christianity in Nigeria is a very BIG JOKE

That is why we are mere mortals. How He understands things is not like us.

ChizzyBuna:
That's why I call it smart hustling.
You can be evil fornicator and still organize large crowd of Christian, monetize and chop your millions😏

An evil fornicator that brings more souls to God than not doing anything at all might just have a soft spot in God's heart. When this evil fornicator combines it with purity, then this evil fornicator will become unstoppable in God's kingdom.

Emmy000seun:
Hahahaha 😂..where you carry this matter go bayii!!! There is reward for every passion..and now to talk of God's work, God must surely come through it's just a matter of time..if you remember Daniel start this hallelujah challenge with just himself and close associates,.but now it's global...so if he monitize his account and get paid, that's his reward for choosing to work for God..some do irrational things just to get relevant..but he choose to serve God..so tell me why God won't come for his upliftment!!🙄..mind you bible said seek ye the kingdom of God first and every other thing shall be added onto you

No mind bitter man. I agree every blessing aligns and it's only a matter of time. Are you a girl dedicating your life to Hallelujah Challenge or any other work for God for the blessing of a husband, He will do it for you. Just keep doing just that in absolute faith in Him.

My mum single handedly took care of my 3 siblings high institution bills without asking my dad for a penny. And also was the one that got my first properties while I was entering the university.

Tenrack:
Have you gotten a solution yet?

Not yet.

For your previous message, how do I get you involved when you're probably not in the same state as myself. I'm in Eastern Nigeria.

I'm at the point in my business that accounting has become a big challenge.

Patronage is high that keeping track of debtors and other financial details have become a problem.

How can I solve this situation please?

Kaczynski:
So literally linkedln 2.0


where is the fuarking innovation in this


I pity the vc that yaff waste their funds investing in this junk


thanks to him VCs no longer invest long term in genuine startups out there

There's a difference.

With LinkedIn, you position for jobs.

With his innovation, I think you apply for multiple jobs and show what you're made off.

Work hard and pray hard to be blessed with an idea and the right people and resources to execute it.

CodeTemplarr:
Even two best of friends, if they do business without a guiding standard they will have issues either over decisions or task sharing or money or outputs. Marriage is o different.

You're wise.

Poor emotional intelligence. I'm also guilty of having a poor emotional intelligence. God help me.

kppo:
Traditional issues are spiritual issues. He needs to handle it spiritually. It's called 'spiritual warfare'. Here are some bible verses he should consider:

[[Numbers 23:23 KJV]] Surely there is no enchantment against Jacob, neither is there any divination against Israel: according to this time it shall be said of Jacob and of Israel, What hath God wrought!

[[2 Corinthians 10:4 KJV]] (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds

[[2 Corinthians 5:17 KJV]] Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

[[Isaiah 54:17 KJV]] No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD.

[[Luke 10:19 KJV]] Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you.

[[Matthew 17:21 KJV]] Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting.

[[Isaiah 10:27 KJV]] And it shall come to pass in that day, that his burden shall be taken away from off thy shoulder, and his yoke from off thy neck, and the yoke shall be destroyed because of the anointing.

[[Matthew 11:28 KJV]] Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

Thank you for this.
Do you mean he shouldn't go the spiritual traditional way in tackling the Issues and how should he make use of these Bible verses you gave?

For years my brother's life has been going in a circle, he just isn't making any progress at all. He will be 34 next year. But there's this thing.

He just called me now to repeat what he has been saying for years, that he has been revealed to 3 different times since 2012 that he has an AGWU (an Igbo related juju) planted for him in the village.

He has tried relating those to my parents all these years and given our strong Christian background, we have brushed it all aside as nonsense. Now he has involved my maternal uncle who has advised him that as this is a traditional matter he should go the traditional way. My brother called me to tell me all of these going on for years.

I'm so confused as to the right advice to give to him, I have already advised he use the man of God that first revealed this to him years ago that he brushed aside. I'm so confused and really want to know if traditional should go with traditional as my uncle advised?

I tell you, this is so funny. If it is genuine, this should be the most awkward first time encounter ever.

Perhaps I asked the wrong section of Nairaland. Crazy!

Fellow forum people, happy new month.

I have been thinking lately how much should be budgeted for marriage for one hoping to marry in the next 2 years.

If you're conversant with your tribe's possible marriage costs, like the traditional dowry rites of your tribe, the wedding costs for both traditional and religious, and lastly, the reception costs, kindly share.

I believe I am not the only one that will be enlightened from your contributions. Thank you.

How someone's wife will be ugly and lazy but so disrespectful to the husband. And another's wife will be so beautiful and hardworking yet very respectful and loyal to the husband.

You need to move on. You're interested in him while he isn't interested in you. That makes the interest unequal. Until it becomes equal with a person, marriage/love is deceiving yourselves.

What do you know about selling of plastic drinks like this?

tunapawizzy:
the way ladies demand for this skin-to-skin ehn, you now begin to wonder, abi HIV is exaggerated ni?...abi na only me dey fear HIV for this world? abi other people get some update wey dem no share with me?

I don't know why they prefer the skin to skin a lot. I tell you, literally all the girls I have done this with eventually starts demanding for skin to skin.

It's still your gender that will want unprotected knacking from men. In my history of knacking, all the girls prefer the unprotected ones. They are the ones that will plead for a skin to skin.

As a man, I think we get to a point we start craving for everyday companionship from a babe. I think at this point is an obvious signal that it's time to marry a wife. Mehn, whatever it is, I think marriage is good to get this everyday companionship. As long as you're getting this, then no regrets.

ZaraArewa:
Smiles
You do you know?
You just described me

You must be easy to get lol