OZIOGU1:
Never try it, my elder brother is going through hell right now through wife recommendation

Thanks for the revelation.

I know nothing about married life

But if you do, being recommended a wife by the people you trust and personally finding wife by oneself, which works best?

In a world full of little wife material options, which amongst these two scenarios works best?

zyzxx:
that where your freedoms lies
And about marriage save yourself from that pressure

God be with you and help you through amen

Amen

zyzxx:
I understand you perfectly bro
It's normal for her to not feel anything for you at the moment, if you want her to feel something for you or think about what you shared, don't give her the attention again, stop all communication, then she will be able to know where are heart belongs

If you are still available, she won't miss you at all. So give her some space

And about her being in another relationship that's nothing to bother about, if she is your own she will definitely come back if you are praying according to the will of God

Again just be patience, don't force anything, man-up, give her distance, then she will miss you, then chase you but if you are still around, she wont miss you
Cut all the communication
Manup!

Thanks so much. That manning up starts tonight. In fact, I want to take my mind totally off marriage and see where life leads me.

Lording123:


I’d advice you take time to heal first. Give yourself time to move on from the break up and fully detach from her.

Regarding your ex, if someone says they don’t feel anything for you anymore, you should believe them.

Regarding marriage, while I don’t know much about you, I don’t see a lot of reasons for a 28 year old man to be in a rush for one. Why not marry after you find the one for you, rather than go into a relationship because you want to marry soon?

I want to move on but it's really my biggest challenge at the moment.

Bintabisiriyu2:
Don't berate yourself, there's nothing good in marriage, just bills, stress and baggages.
And there's no Nigerian girl that is worth the time.
If truly you wan marry look for a desperate enp with a good job and marry and make sure you are using your brain and stay in control in that marriage shikena, but you won't cos i smell SIMPery in your blood.
No Nigerian girl is worth going to therapy for - therapy for what - a Nigerian girl? Okay.

If you grew up in a home that people loved each other you wouldn't be preaching against love or marriage.

zyzxx:

Give yourself time
Don't enter any relationship for now because you will make the wrong decision.
Take your time to heal, I mean heal

Just be friend with anyone lady that comes your way, else, if you choose any lady without healing, you might question yourself of not being patient and chances of getting another lady If you are patient.


Also, I don't see your relationship with your ex being over yet

Just be patient and be prayeful

I have been praying to have her back how ever God will do it. She's really the one my heart wants.

Sadly she's in a new relationship now with a 30yo pastor.

But thankfully the pastor has said intimacy will be after marriage and they are not in the same city.

We still talk on phone but she says she feels nothing for me anymore and that she's in a new relationship and can't just leave.

I am so sad that I lost my treasure as I call her. I am her first intimate partner. For 2+ months now I have been carrying a heavy heart.

IbrahimSkiba:




How I want take know? You fit get

This is scary abeg. Off mic biko.

IbrahimSkiba:
Good luck...


Before the Good luck takes effect, pray against SPIRITUAL WIFE

God forbid abeg. Which one be spiritual wife again?

I am trying to get back to attracting girls into my life but every time I see myself losing energy in returning their advances at me.

Like it's like I don't care anymore.

This is despite the fact I should have been planning for marriage now if not for the crazy breakup with my girlfriend of 3+ years.

I will be 28 in the last month of this second quarter of 2024 and I am really looking forward to getting into another relationship because I intend marrying soon.

But with this total lost of interest in girls, what could really be wrong with me and how do I improve my situation.

Please therapists in the house should help me. Thanks

Jeon:
I recommend redpill dose, but guyboss's recommendation would be better. Which is redsyrup.

Aboki, abeg move on.

I feel better lol

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IbrahimSkiba:
Nawa

I made my life's biggest Bleep up decision.

FitCorper:

That’s the word difference between quantity and quality. As a man make sure u take heed to this comment.

I am presently living in so much regret. So much regret!

If you intend marrying a descent girl and you currently have a descent girl with you but because one small issue you want to breakup with her, my bro abeg think twice.

Finding a descent girl is now as hard as you could imagine. Rather than breakup with your girl, settle whatever the issue amicably. As long as is not cheating.

Sometimes we only realise the value of what we have after we lose it.

One habit I am learning now is to know how to talk issues out amicably rather jumping into decisions that will cause me pain after.

All advice are well appreciated. How I think about it now is like I lost a loved one in a battle field

I have no choice but to move on

A pay for rant agent.

timmydrogba:


Sure Brooo. Give yourself Time.
Time heals Things. 😉

She's obviously a lucky girl. You are one of the few guys left that truly fall in love and not lust. That is why we suffer when that person doesn't work out.

timmydrogba:



Well I’m not that young. That was when I was 21 till I was 25.

We are both 27 and 29 now respectively.
You can’t understand.

Hope you're in a new promising relationship?

timmydrogba:



You’ll be fine bro.

Also ended a relationship after four years 17-21. Distance after school shit and believe me I still miss her.

I’m in Ibadan and she’s back home in delta after school shittt tho I have been to her family house once for a week back in 2018.

She was a good girl and I’ll always wish her Hapiness all her life 💯


I think girls move on faster than we guys. 2024 and I still miss her. It’s crazy 😔

Yours was in your very young age bro. Mine lasted from my 24yo to my 28yo. I'm very ripe for marriage and always thought she's my wife to be.

G00dharddick:


You're a confirm simp and a pussy as$ man.

I can bet my balls that you've invested so much on that girl hence you can't move on. The girl has been busy riding various Dicks even while you were dating her hence she no send you.

WTF is wrong with you emotional pussy ass weak men?

I have never a girl running to nairaland and start writing bullshit on how she missed her ex boyfriend etc, na mainly guys dey do this thing. Grow TF up dude and stop SIMPing like a an emotional weak pussy asssss

Lol

G00dharddick:


You're emotionally attached to her, sadly she wasn't emotionally attached to you hence she found it very easy to move on, while you're still stuck thinking about her.

It'll interest you to know that while you're dating her, she already had another guy in the picture should in case anything goes wrong she'll easily move on with the guy. Dey play!

She calculated everything before it happened meanwhile you weren't smart enough to discover this.

Men don't love with emotions, you love with your senses. A girl with entitlement mentality ought to be avoided completely! Move on oga there are lots of girls outside

A sad pill that I agree with 💯

dontrulee:


You're welcome.
They're many options in front of you, choose what's best for you.
However, note that you shouldn't show dependence on a woman or feel incomplete without a woman. Women are very very easy to get but get yourself first and everything else follows

Will do just that.
Really appreciate

dontrulee:
The reality of Relationship is an imbalance. Breakup hurts but it hurts more on the person who invested more into it.
I have had several girlfriends in the past, several ex's some of which I'm still in contact with.

In relationships, you don't put all your eggs in one basket. See, the person you love or the one who loves you had a life before you guys met, they will definitely have a life when you guys part ways. Knowing this will perhaps make the heartbreak less painful and more palatable. If the love is deep and the emotions genuine, real pain will be felt, it's a process that you must pass through however the human mind is so wonderful that despite pain, you can feel happiness, you can channel pain to excitement, energy and passion.

Before I did a surgery yesterday, I received a breakup message from one of my girlfriends I very much Love, did I feel pain, yes, was I disturbed, no. Infact, I did the surgery excellently well that everyone including the patient was happy and the patient is recovering fine.

So my gee, breakup is normal, it's part of life, you don't have to forget the memories completely, focus on creating new ones. The trick is to love yourself very much so that the presence of absent of your partner if you eventually have one is inconsequential

Thanks so much doc. This will be really helpful!

candygist:


You are being emotional and not logical. I pray you dint end up with a woman that will end up using you.

What is a logical decision to you?

SenecaTheYonger:


Is it only her entitlement that made you leave her? I hope there was more bad character because you're not going to find anything close to your ex.

If you even manage to see with one without entitlement, she might be knacking her exes.

Her other flaws usually stems from that entitlement tendencies. She begin to battle anger at that moment it seems to her you won't give in to her request. She becomes cold towards you and quite careless.

chidekings:
op knew he took the best decision,but what he is feeling now is what he can't control......just take each day as they come,soon you will get over her to some extent.

You captured it exactly as I feel. Inside of me, I feel I took the best decision for my future, but presently I feel so emotionally entrenched as she's no longer in the picture of things in my life after being very much a part of it for close to 4 years.

IamDora:


What do u want actually? U said she is entitled isn't It? So breaking-up with her should've been a decision u thought over and over and over again before u had to take, isn't it?

So why the regrets here? Listen, a broken relationship will always be better than a broken marriage. How did u even know she's now into a new relationship? Obviously, you're stalking her (Either in reality or social media). She should be the one doing that, while u, the man, focuses on building and improving yourself. The worst thing that can happen to you as a man is for a lady u broke-up with to still meet u In that position she left u! (Take it from me as a lady)

If you don't move-on now, it is just a matter of little time before you get to start f**ling yourself around her, texting, calling and telling her how “Life hasn't remained the same for u since u two broke up” and would it make her feel pity for u? NO! It will only make her feel that it was the best decision she made by leaving u.. bye

You've spoken so well.

After I broke up with her, she kept calling to ask how I was doing, but the last time we spoke she told me about how she's in a new relationship now and will be moving on.

But trust, J am a guy that work very hard always and I know is just the fact I dated her for many years that is dealing with me.

We did a lot, I mean a lot together. We built very crazy memories. So I guess that is what's causing me issues.

She had her very good sides but her entitlement side is one I feel for futuristic reasons might become a problem as I have tolerated it a lot, which was the only reason I ended it.

SenecaTheYonger:
Why are you still looking for the same
Characteristics that you left?

Without the entitlement tendencies

Chevrolet076:


Na konji dey worry you. Once you find a girl you can be ****ing, all these missing her go disappear.

I sha know that I can get sex anytime I want it. That is why I am sure is not about sex.

Bintabisiriyu2:

I will give you something privately that will help you pm me

Share it here

Bintabisiriyu2:
Bro if you put yourself first before any other thing in life then it will be very easy for you to move on after a break up, but if you put your partner first then you will languish in pains after it's over while she pops champagne.

Time to man up.
Thanks bro