₦airaland Forum

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
When we met I was selling pancakes as an hair dressers apprentice , using a damaged button phone (giving damsels in distress)

He didn't know anything about me , he's not from here , he moved to my town last year , even with how he was acting at first I knew he knew nothing about me , he used to talk to me like I was unexposed and local , it was people that knew me that would tell him who I was but even still , if he had grown up here , I would never even give him a chance , the men here have approached for that status thing and its always so obvious.

If I tell the other men I'm hungry , they'll give me a history lesson about my dad , thats why i only date outside ,but with him its as if I'm his child, he sees me as his innocent and sweet person, he's always thinking and making provision with the little he has , most times I don't eat till he's back from work so that we can eat together , even if there's food , I'll wait so that we can eat everything together , it feels good sha.

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
I met my current boyfriend last year still here in my hometown , but I didn't accept him until march because I needed time to move on from my ex (we broke up because of distance).

I love this new guy and he loves me too we've been together since march and although it started off rocky , its become more stable and its getting serious.

He's been itching to meet my family officially but from where I'm standing that's a bad idea..... My mom is materialistic and artificial , she doesn't believe in humble beginnings and I don't want her to get involved and make him feel bad.

He's orphaned and fends for himself and me , he's very kind and understanding and he cherishes me , other men that came want me for stupid reasons and most of the men here are not single , you'll be a side chick to a man that can't give his wife money to make her hair (waste of sin) ,

But my bf is like my best friend he's my type and I'm his type, young , handsome , hardworking and caring , I love that we both look very good and I usually imagine having a baby with him, that will look just like him

I recently got pregnant without realizing it on time but whilst treating a suspected infection I put myself and my pregnancy at risk and we were adviced to terminate it , it was life threatening and I was bed ridden ,I had him with me from start to finish , helping me go through this hard time ,both of us were emotionally ready for the baby but God knows best(maybe next year)

My mom says he's a nobody because he's orphaned , didn't further his studies after waec , does hard labour and he's not from our town .

My father also had no opportunity to further on time and I wasn't born with a silver spoon , it was after I had grown a bit that we became highly privileged , and got wealthy.

I didn't earn my life , I was blessed and lucky to be the first graduate in my family but none of this is his fault , but my mother thinks I should bring home some big guy that drives a car and has a degree.

if he didn't care about my family ,I won't be bothered yet, but he said he's tired of hiding and wants to reach out but I'm scared it would go wrong because I know my parents.

What can I do ?

DevilsEqual:
When u talk like this, you overrate humans(male/female)....mere mortals

Since I got to understand how attraction works and how almost impossible it is to self-influence other people's attraction to you, I stopped worrying about all these


So if I get rejected by the other gender, it has nothing to do with their being classier, and they'd still not be attracted to me if I became a Gov

FRANCISTOWN:
Then your eyes have seen evil niyen.
Guys please don't mind him o. Broke people can never be truly happy. I remember when I was broke. I was always angry for no reason. If person greet me I fit stone am.

Zaheertyler:
I learnt one or two from this gracias

Balablue64:
normal normal life is fuc,ked up and selfishness is the way to go.
The very day you decided to adopt a Nigerian girl and call her your wifey you have signed up to bear and take responsibilities for your action.

Chuknovski:
i will recommend you give it somtime, since she admitts to been temperalmental, she may change, speaking from experience i used to be very hot temperd i could quarrel even trump to his face, i dont mince words when angry, but today with my womans patience, advice, and prayer, today am a changed man, HALLELUJA

Blackman5844:
I really appreciate your honest response.

EmperorCaesar:
This one is longer than Pauls epistle to Titus

In seven months, you've been played more times than Asake's Album

The rate at which women go about torturing young guys these days is a insight into what to expect in the future...These generation has the weakest men in Nigeria history... By 2070, stay at home husband would have become norms here in Nig

Namaster:
First of all, my advice is NOT for OP because he seems determined to be a WOMAN WRAPPER.

Listen guys:

A woman CONFESSED to OP that he was her second choice and he's still acting all confused and dazed.

The girl told literally told him that she thought her ex-BF wanted to rekindle their failed relationship. And that's she LIED to him and STOPPED having sex with him.

This EVIL girl used God to lie to the OP. That some pastor or prophet had a vision that she shouldn't have sex for now and the fOOL believed it.

Meanwhile, she was getting VIGOROUSLY dicked down by her ex-BF while confessing to OP that no one has ever loved her the way he did.

OP is a FOOL for love. Don't be like OP.

Another thing to take note is that whenever you feel jealous, NEVER let any useless girl convince you that you are insecure or immature.

Jealousy is an EVOLUTIONARY trait that evolved to help you detect infidelity and mate poachers. When you get jealous, know that something is WRONG.

Finally, men need to understand the concept of TRICKLE TRUTH.

That's what happened to OP here. Women will NEVER admit to the full extent of their infidelity. That's why they go crazy at the mention of DNA tests.

Instead, they'll feed you little bits of the truth. If you continue to push, they'll tell another truth that's not as bad as what they actually did.

Take OP situation for example:

Before she was caught, girl first admitted to helping a "male friend" to go to the market.

When she was caught, she admitted she went on a date with a guy.

Then she admitted that she went on a date with her ex.

Then she admitted to having sex with her ex.

Then she admitted to only having sex with her ex TWICE.

Then she admitted to FORCING him to use condoms.

Finally, she admitted to having sex with her ex because she was going to leave OP to be in a relationship with him.

You'll notice her admission comes in "trickles" with each successful trickle WORSE than the last.

The objective is to DOWNPLAY their unfaithfulness as something minor. And ALL of them do it.

Bintabisiriyu2:
it's not just by being cheap, if the soap no dey foam nobody go buy am, wait who did you supported in the last general election

Botragelad:
The timeless classic - the "all women are parasites" trope.

Let's start with the obvious: women are not a monolith. They have different preferences. To imply that all women prefer a "parasitic life" is to ignore the diversity of human experience. It's like saying all men are identical robots, which is clearly not the case. Does your mom prefer a parasitic life?

But, for the sake of argument, let's assume that women do prefer a "parasitic life." Wouldn't that mean that they're, you know, actually contributing to society in meaningful ways? Like, say, raising children, managing households, and working outside the home? Oh wait, those things are actually valuable and important.

And then you went with the 1% argument. Ah yes, because clearly, women's contributions are only worth acknowledging if they're above some arbitrary threshold. Tell that to the single mothers working multiple jobs to feed their families or the women who are the sole breadwinners in their households.

How about women who fought for girls' education and became a Nobel laureate? The ones run their own businesses, raise their own children, and contribute to their communities, how about that?

The next time you try to make a point, please leave the sexism and misogyny at the door. Makes you sound ignorant!

Paulpaulpaul:
I was one of the people that would say, emotional dependency is an act of love but that changed. I went for NECO marking coordination some years back where I met a man; our E.G2. He couldn't speak clearly, in fact, one would need to strain his ears to hear him.

Then, I became irritated; why would someone who had lost his voice be made the E.G 2? But I was corrected by someone sitting beside me. He told me that the EG2 man was always with his wife, they were inseparable. Unfortunately, she died. The man was so shocked that he couldn't speak for years.

So, you matter is like a pair of scissors: either way, you'll be affected. If you love her and plan to marry her; you're lucky. You don't need to say anything: marry her and make babies; those minnies would replace you ASAP.

However, if you don't love her to the level of making her a wife, be blunt with her but you would be breaking a loving heart.

ashawopikin:
This one don pass ordinary, she don jazz you bro

obinna58:
I just Dey laugh you, some girls are even will cry blood just to prove their love for you until you see them ditching you and moving like she never seen you before

udede:
Don't spoil things for your self.
Repeat after me.
I said, don't spoil things for your self.
Do the following.

Get a job if you are jobless.
Encourage her to get one if she is jobless.
Cultivate the habit of hanging out with young guys like you once in a while.


You can as well send me her number let me talk to her

BigYash:
Bobrisky wen dey prison get freedom pass op What a sofa love

descarado:
She is not pretending anything.
Haba, use Google if you can. Every action is not always about us, versus them.
It's called dependent personality disorder.
Gosh, Nigerians and quick conclusions like they are experts in such matters.

Eddodoh:
I am currently battling with one so I will use this your scope on her.

Mine even call every 10mins even when I am at work or just finished talking. When I pick d call, she has nothing to say, it's either repetition or I will be d one to force her to talk.

I felt God is punishing me using that relationship. Such a mental torture!!!!

descarado:
There is nothing to enjoy with such people. It is a form of mental disorder. I think dependant whatever disorder and oh my, you need not be in a shoe of that guy. They have problem holding a relationship cos it is suffocating. Heaven help you, you don't give them as thru want it, they will drive you crazy.

A colleague suffers from such. She has problem keeping relationship. I noticed early when she was coming close to me and will make up any excuse not to relate with her beyond work.

Her boyfriend has to go to her mum to facilitate break up. And celebrated his freedom
A lovely lady but good to like her from afar.
She was diagnosed anyway but not on medication.
Heard sometimes, it's childhood trauma.