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There is a book I will like to recommend. It helps to deal with the most feared issues/tasks in ur life. It is 'Eat The Frog', by Brian. I will update this thread with lovely n thought provoking statements on how it relates to sale or any endeavours we may want to undertake.

Ezechinwa: Oop God bless you for creating this topic,... believe me I have never seen a dull individual, infact they dont exist..... let me tell you why, we all have a brain and although the storage capacity varies between individuals, but a brain still has the ability to store and retrieve information ( primary purpose).... you mentioned factors like,
1.Enviroment
2.genes
3.brain development etc
these factors are just advantages but believe me the main attribute is " Hardworking mentality"..... for example,

i used to be this playful, careless kid and i hated mathematics , infact i was among those carrying the classroom, i realized that i couldnt read a book without falling asleep, my father was very dissapointed in me paying huge amount of fee but poor grades..

this happened till primary four, i realized that my problem was not because i was dull but cus i didnt put enough effort to my studies, so i dropped my old friend and made new ones with the seal to be the best...

i went to the bookshop i bought a very comprehensive math textbook, and becus i bought it myself i ensured i must read it to my satisfaction.

i observed that i was really making slow but steady improvement at the end of that term, i came third and i was like a superstar , even my class teacher couldnt believe it....

becus i changed my altitude and was tired of being tagged a failure, i applied hardworking mentality + self believe ( i can do it altitude) , i moved from a below average student to a very bright student....

If genes plays the primary role of measuring intelligence, then take someone like CRonaldo, his son could end up doing something else for a career...

In summary, what matter most is training a child to bulid a hardwork mentality + Positive altitude to life challenges, with that, he can face any problem!!

. Amen n thank you.

DAVE5: please i'd like to point out 1 thing, illiteracy and brilliancy are two diff things, one could be literate and not brilliant, while some illiterate pple as u wld call dem are exceptionally brilliant and would outperform so many literate people if given the right skill and chance...our forefather were illiterate according to our current standards but if they are given the necessary tools they would work magic

. Thank you. You will see I was asking a question in response to a comment.

shaybebaby: Please, I dislike that term" dull" and also " solving the dullness" in a child.
After all said and done, you get what you are given and as parents, your job isn't just to feed and clothe them, it's to support them and help them grow into valuable members of the society and instilling good values.
What is the point in labelling the poor mite? So the kid in question might not be academically good, I as a parent would accept that and help the child achieve, at the very least, minimum competency in literacy and arithmetic.
Second task is to expose the said child to as many varied activities as possible and observe which ones he/ she has a natural aptitude for. That is what I'd encourage alongside basic education. This would help build the child's esteem and lead to the realisation within that child that we all have different strengths and each one can be equally as valuable as the next.
After all, nobody knows whether Venus Williams is book smart and neither do we care because her father invested in her aptitude for tennis rather than comparing her to other kids and we know where she is.. Probably richer than the so- called smart ones she went to school with.
I heard that Beyoncé is not very clever and couldn't write properly until after she became famous but who cares, she's a talented singer and is laughing all the way to the bank with her millions.
Not everyone is built for a life of academia!

. An insightful post. You just provided actions to be taken and I agree with you.

ademega: . Op you kn Y

From your story, I guess it was the environment as well as the motivation. Wait, did your sister experience these very early in her teens or what happened btw you two that caused the differences ? Thank you.

nagoma: Good question Sir, but the way you framed your sentence does not show much " brilliancy" either.
I believe this is what you wanted to say ; "What major factors determine a child's intelligence?"

Thank you Sir.
As you can clearly see that I listed other factors but I wanted to know which one affects the other the most. The whole argument is for enlightenment.

Rexyl: how could doing this relate to having much intelligence? Just asking whether there are special biochemical or nutrients in beans that have to do with intelligence. I would also like to know the best preparation method to make such ingredients available.

If he had written Sea foods, would have understood his point better because of the chemical composition of it-Omega-3-which is essential for brain development. Anyway, he is still right in another way.

I appreciate the responses so far and honestly some are just brilliant while some are somewhat okay. Much as I respect people's opinion, I really want clarification for those who opined that God is. The whole point is to channel a course for those who want to have bright kids and a solution for those who are in this situation(dullness of a child). Believe me, I know a dull kid in a family where others are bright and I just can't imagine the pain these parents are going through.

Thank you moderator for this.

Caveat: I don't want insults or e-war on anybody religious opinions pls

bunmioguns: I will say GOD

. Could you expatiate please?

bigfrancis21: Intelligence is naturally hereditary. It is dependent on two main factors - nature and nurture. First, nature provides the genes for intelligence. Intelligent children often tend to come from intelligent parents. however, the environment or 'nurture' in which the child grows up in determines how well the gene manifests or how well it is inhibited. It is all part of the nature vs nuture phenomenon in biology.

However, there is a trait called smartness very vital to succeeding in life and there's a difference between intelligence and smartness. Smartness, on the other hand, is a trait that can be learned. While intelligence or 'book smartness' is required for academic success, it is not a guarantee of economic, social, mental success in life. In school, intelligence reigns, and in the actual world smartness reigns.

To succeed in life, one needs smartness in addition to whatever level of intelligence one has, a phrase called 'street smartness'. I have seen averagely intelligent people in school turn out to be very street smart on the street and successful in life because they were smart enough to realize the important thins of life and know how to pull one or two strings together to succeed in life, and, on the other hand, I have seen intelligent people in school who turn out to be awkward and less street smart in real life outside the 4 walls of the university. In addition, I have seen people too who are both intelligent and smart at the same time.

. Brilliant!

davno: Psychology research has shown dt d bulk of a child's IQ comes from d mother. Going by this, regardless of how intelligent a man is, if his wife is a dunce then the kids stand a very high chane of being dunces.

On d other hand, if a man of low intelligence marries a woman with a high IQ, the children more often than not turn out to be very intelligence.

Bear in mind dt a high IQ is like an empty container. It is simply a high capacity for brilliance. Therefore u decide what to fill d container with.

D child can be taught to become a brilliant musician, a brilliant doctor, a smart thief or even a very intelligent murderer. That's why some kids come straight from d village and within a few weeks outsmart their classmates who have been in d school all along.

On the other hand, u can take a child with low IQ to d best schools and he will come out a disappointment.

My advice is for men to marry brilliant women or trust in God for any change they desire.

. Thank you for this information. Once heard of this before and now I am reading this. A food for thought indeed!

KanwuliaJara: Hiahhhhhhhn!
I don turn 'OJUJU CALABA' for NL wey my appearance go cause 'heart-beat-skippin'?
Thank my H-Agnostic GAAAAAAAAAAWD my husband nor dey feel intimidated o!
Where I for see 'Usban' marry for Nigeria?

Muchechecheche

I do not read the opinion of others before I post o.
I only read the TITLE OF A THREAD or A portion of the original post and HIT MY 'SEND' BUTTON!

Sooooooo. . . Yup! Many will share the same opinions on any given subject marra!

. Hahahahahahaha! Honestly, I relieve myself of stress or bad mood with ur posts and sometimes, I just smh. Thanks for ur comment.

KanwuliaJara: A COMBO of nature and nurture!

. When I saw ur id,my heart skips for micro seconds,lol. On a serious, you share the same opinion with her. Here is one of her responses: We talk of nature and nurture,nature is powerful compared to 'nurture' wc has ability to influence nature that is what u are talking about.

thorpido: It's genetics as the major factor.

Other factors include nutrition in-vitro and after birth.
Environment
Training

. If genetics is the major factor, then it is right to say other factors can't make significant improvement. Is it right also to fault the parents for this problem? And lastly, why do we have exceptional kids even when they are from poor parents or illiterate ones?

Hello Nairalanders,
I hope this is the right place to discuss this? Although, I feel this should be because I will get the right responses.
What is/are responsible for a child's brilliancy?

I had a discussion with someone who was complaining bitterly about handling a dull child. My reasons are:
- Poor development of the brain during conception in the womb
- Poor nourishment during the formative years especially lack of protein.
- Hereditary.
- Environment

But she disagreed with first two listed and opined majorly on heredity. So my question: Is it impossible to produce bright kids even when the parents are not bright? Is the gene the major determinant of how bright one can be?

I know the genetic make up of an individual varies and it is not the same.
In summary, I just want to know if anything can be done to help a dull child and if there are ways to even prevent producing them in the first place?

Very useless freak. Op you get time or U r feeling so lonely? Na wa Ooº°Ú Ú°ºoo. On a serious note, this is dangerous for your sanity .I hate it when someone calls me repeatedly without using their head.

Is funny that a lady is saying this when majority of them seem to be less interesting to chat with. Most times, you guys just sit back and wait. Secondly I think some or most ladies are just selfish with their time n intelligence except if you are either dating them or they are getting smtin from you. This is an experiment I carried out and the result was positive. Caveat: my opinion.

Am so proud of my people's choice of who should lead them for the next four years. The truth is no government is perfect but for every government policy or vision, it will either turn good or bad for the people. The power to make a government accountable belongs to the people and until we do that, we shall still be concerned about party affiliation rather than the individual performance devoid of any divide. I support APC for their political progressivism. Up Aregbe.

A case of using a stone to kill two birds. Who embraces Ebola patients gracefully if not that there are other very important reasons attached to it. I still give it to US because they will be investing both financial,intellectual n personnel to a cause: saving human lives while having the sole right to do or otherwise. Lol.

ifekemmy: Ki leleyi

. Eja osan.lol

^^obviously you should not complain since you are enjoying the benefit of hearing each other voices. Can't you just be using etisalat. Load 4k n dial *344*.... but you just need to cut it down. Na wetin,lol.

alutacontinua: Now, somebody is talking
I wouldn't be thinking marriage with a man that is still testing me

. So you will marry a man without knowing his strengths n weaknesses when real shit presents itself? Anyway, that is why courtship is important. You can only speak for yourself in which I support your position on this issue but for the op, there is obviously sometin hidden she didn't disclose . For me, I didn't see anytin wrong in what he did.

Billyonaire: OP; I hope you find any of these uaeful:

1. sell out the bad debt to loan collectors at 13% discount and let them retrieve without your involvement.

2. Arrange with a senior police officer preferable a DPO to retrieve the debt with a promissory note to offer him his cut. Make sure the debtor is arrested on a Friday afternoon and let the DPO purportedly travel on Saturday without anyone to sign the 24hrs free bail bond. Trust me people will rather pay debts than sleep in jail.

3. Take the debtor to court and get exact date of repayments

4. Disgrace the person involving all these steps above and your money will be out.

Do not be scared of repercussions in life. Life is what we make It. All die na die.

. Good advice and I liked the fact you realized there would be repercussions. What is the point when one's life is threatened? Anyway, is a choice.

The truth is the people you trust the most usually do it. Presently in a similar situation n I am helpless about what to do. Just hope n wish for the best while cutting your loss. I have a cheque with no date on it. I only need sm1 who works in a diamond bank to help n I am done.

Yes Ooº°Ú Ú°ºoo . Up germany

Penalty may finally decide the champion. Hmm, let see if Germany will justify their possession this time around. These germans are tall Ooº°Ú Ú°ºoo

No! We are getting there soon.

This ball possession by the Germans will do them no good without a goal.

Germany is winning this match. My money must grow tonight. I don't need any virtual machine to tell me that.

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Messi go happy die tonight.

This is a big disgrace for South America football. Up Germany

Germany is winning this world cup. Up German machines.