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I think the "before" is better!

U should thank God for my English now, its getting better!

Atleast u could read and understand me!


Rooneyboy, abeg sorry for messing up this thread!

Shollypopz: ^^u need an indefinite article - 'a'
".......a scene"

#Smiling#
U have made more that "a" scene swthrt!

Why is she covering the oranges again......she should allow them to dangle freely for eyes' popping advertisement!

Rubbish.....2 singles within 2 years with indecencies!

SMH!

Shollypopz: You need to calm d heck down and make sure u know enough b4 spilling crap. Go back a few pages and find my darn comment

No be only Rules and Regulations, why can't he create his own constitution.

There she goes again.....honey, can't u just explain urself without making scene!

Let me reserve this space!

Shollypawpaw, I have heard u o!

Can u now contribute to this matter on ground!

Just don't be an onlooker!

What do you want the wife to do?

So, u actually knew u were the one ranting!

I guess you are very comfortable with the "freedictionary"'s meaning!

Go get urself another dictionary to check, that's for the kids!

You do not need to call me "silly thing" yet!

Relax!

Let's not derail.....and besides, I'm yet to see ur contribution over the risen matter on ground here!

CNN80: I'm really sorry. I thought we were having a discussion. Apparently I have offended you. I will leave you now.

Brother, that's not meant for u!

CNN80: Ok, I didn't understand this post of yours but are you saying that the husband is giving rules and regulations? Of course he is. And are you telling the wife that she should obey them? Of course you are. And what does that say about the husband? And what does that say about you?

My piece of advice is meant for the "as wise as the serpent, and as gentle as the dove"

We would never blend if we don't share the same philosophy over issue like this!

U wanna keep your home, just act LIKE a "FOOL" sometimes!

U wanna lose it all, ENGAGE!

SMH, what's that one ranting about?

CNN80: RULES and REGULATIONS? COMMANDS? Are you kidding me? Are we talking about a marriage or a military dictatorship? I can't believe you actually typed this. And then defended it.
Are you married? Maybe you should go home, give your wife rules, regulations and commands and then wait for her to kiss your royal tushie.
What happened to sitting down and coming to a mutually agreeable compromise? What happened to being sensitive to each other's feelings? You have some valid points but being saying these things, you have just invalidated all your points.

Can u simply tell me what the man is/was doing?

-"Don't come to my room."
-"I will call you when I need sex"
-"You don't have to sleep in my room, you have yours."
-"Lets have a joint a/c"

From this kind of man? I think it is!

It reminds of a time when we had to touch faeces in the middle of the night, and went back to sleep without washing off....the last guy packed the left-over of the faeces!

Many stories!

What about fetching of water with teaspoon to fill a bucket metres away!

Had to fan a senior blokous till day break!

P being kited on the first day of arrival!

For some, its fear of the unknown!
You can simply imagine what happens to one when doctor starts calling some medical jargon living in one's body!

Mine is fear though, just wanna believe that I'm alright and always good to go, plus the fact that I'm always careful of my hygiene (especially from food to sport)

Its good one "MUST" do it to be "SURE".

I remember years back when my Dad went for OVER-ALL check up. NOTHING was found....I congratulated him....the man is also very conscious of his hygiene.....it makes me feel PERFECTLY alright too!

Hmmmmm!

I have said mine, the woman should react if she wants out of the marriage....as simple as A-B-C, and what I'm not supporting.

Divorce is not in my dico!

Repent, make up your mind, and go for DELIVERANCE.

U BADLY need that last one....u need to break lose from every binding force.....u have since been sharing the same spirit with them in oneness......"And the two shall become one"


After those, go MARRY!

Go straight to the question my friend!

Back or front!

LOL!

I'm doing it at d moment sef.....reflex and bad habit to curtail.

Tobiegal dey vex with me big time o.

I know my piece of advice is gonna be a very hard and bitter pill for some NLers to swallow, but its the basic truth.

The wife needs to calm down, and not reciprocate, or else things are gonna crumble totally...the two shouldn't go gaga over the same situation!

One needs to be calm for the other for things to work out well!

My oga at the top, this ur siggy is as old as NL o!

chaircover: Not looking too good & something is wrong somewhere. Both parties need to be honest with each other on why they got married and their expectations of marriage.

When the husband is not even listening, let alone of discussing!

Rooneyboy: Ayobase, thank u very much for ur advice, I believe it will do a long way .

We pray so IJN!

Two 'wrongs' can never make a -'right', so also two 'rights' can 'never' make a wrong.

As far as this case is concerned, the man is doing the 'wrong' thing (he considered it the 'right' thing though), and the woman trying to do the 'right' thing (which is gonna be termed 'wrong' by the husband) is gonna bring HEAVY clash in the home.

Two 'wrongs' can never make a 'right'

What you need do is making sure you accept your husband's RULES and REGULATIONS!

Make sure you are always there for him, get his food prepared at the right time, set out time to attend to his laundry, don't argue with him, watch his favourite programmes with him as often as you can, send him msgs at reasonable intervals (like asking him what he is gonna like for dinner, how much you love him, and the likes), and above all, ALWAYS PRAY FOR HIM AND YOUR MARRIAGE!

The fact is this, God respects the wives more than the husbands in any marriage...the success of a marriage is determined more on the wife, likewise its failure!

About the joint a/c issue. Try to cooperate to an extent (maybe a certain percentage of salary every month). I wouldn't advice you to give in all. Be wise in this regard!

U wanna catch the monkey, then you are gonna need to be like a monkey.

Man is known with his ego, trying to break it is gonna cause more harm....allow him....let him have all the scenes to himself....nobody is gonna tell him before he starts asking questions from his wife about some certain things when the chips ae down.....and the you wife should always be ready to give SOUND and SPECIFIC ANSWERS....don't talk much!

Above all things, the husband is the head of the house, yield to his COMMANDS (its not hard at all, just take off your pride...its for your husband u love so much) and be more LOVING and CARING than ever.
PRAY FOR YOUR MARRIAGE.

U can do away with my pieces of advice if u want your marriage to pack up, or you want out, or you want your man to bring in another woman!

BE PRAYERFUL, ALWAYS PRAY FOR HIM.
AND ALSO DO A PROPER CHECK ON YOURSELF TO BE SURE U AINT DOING SOMETHINGS WRONG AFTER YOUR WEDDING!

God bless you!

Change is constant....flexibility is essential!