ileobatojo:



As long as it is settled in her mind and she is sure of what she's doing and the implications, then she can go ahead. If all this achieves is getting her to think seriously about the implications and be sure of her decision making instead of going with the flow (or doing it just to 'cement her postion' as wife), then it is worth something. If she can ask and answer that question confidently in her mind then they are in real good shape.

I know there is love but I said that because this is a young marriage and there are still many more potential challenges coming. If he can be so rigid and inconsiderate of her feelings in these things, we don't know how he will act in other upcoming trying situations. That's the reason I said that. Not just based on these two complaints she has. It does seem a bit harsh but it a reality that she will have to live with if things ever go south.

Rooneyboy:

I think u and candygosh are completely wrong, I for one like my space so much and I'm pretty sure I'll do same when I get married.

van bonattel:

There is no big deal in seperate rooms, because,

The man farts too much at night
The wife snores too loudly
The wife has body odour
The wife/the man dey play karate when asleep
She demands for love making everyday and the young man wants to live till 45 years at least.

baby_123: This is such strange behavior. Dear OP, ask your friend to padlock her something for the time being. She should also stay in her room and lock the door always.No sex for him for now. That marriage is not his parents marriage, and surely she did not sign up for that. She needs time to study this guy and watch him. Mental illness is very real. Something is very strange about this guy, and she needs to give herself time before getting linked for life with him. I hope for her sake she is not pregnant. Life is too short to live with someone for many years under such strict rules. Is she a child, a slave or a prostitute. In your own house, with your own man ke. That is where you have the right to be free and as silly as ever. He should even be massaging your back and comforting you on bad period days. Na wa o! This kain arrangement, I for just pack my load. This story confuse me o.

Ivynwa: . The good part of having separate rooms is that you get to have your personal feminine stuffs and get to handle some feminine "timing thinz" with some privacy. I will prefer that separate rooms scenario and that doesn't mean that I and hussy can't lime all night long till the morning comes on my bed or on his or can't be with each other any time of the day on any of the two rooms we find ourselves. When I was young and visits a cousin of mine, I noticed that she has separate bedroom from her husband and they are still very happy.

baby_123: This is such strange behavior. Dear OP, ask your friend to padlock her something for the time being. She should also stay in her room and lock the door always.No sex for him for now. That marriage is not his parents marriage, and surely she did not sign up for that. She needs time to study this guy and watch him. Mental illness is very real. Something is very strange about this guy, and she needs to give herself time before getting linked for life with him. I hope for her sake she is not pregnant. Life is too short to live with someone for many years under such strict rules. Is she a child, a slave or a prostitute. In your own house, with your own man ke. That is where you have the right to be free and as silly as ever. He should even be massaging your back and comforting you on bad period days. Na wa o! This kain arrangement, I for just pack my load. This story confuse me o.

The guy is 100 percent sane, its just his personal decision.

U advising her to padlock her legs for how long

All because d man says he wants his space.

candygosh:

I tell you she doesn't have a corner in that house let alonr space.

Don't be surprised if another woman shows up claiming to be his wife with kids.
You nor knw say some marriage na fake abi.
Just shine ur eye. I don talk my own.

chaircover:

WONDERFUL!!!! JUST WONDERFUL

chaircover:

oga which space?

He doesnt need to get married naw . . he can employ a cook who will cook & go and give him space. He can enploy a cleaner, who will clean & go and give him space. He can even find himself a baby momma outside and he will still have his space.

. . .but no, he wants to have his cake and eat it. He wants to enjoy the advantages of being married but he doesnt want to make any sacrifice on his own part. why doesnt he open joint account with his cook or cleaner?

Today is Sunday so I will not give any bad advise but I def know what i will do if a man only comes to my room for sex. . . . . when rabbits have not gone extinct

staicey: Seriously, If thats what he wants, then she should allow it. Why should this be a subject of worry?
I thought marriage was all about trying to see reasons with your partner, so both can work it out. Besides, having a separate room doesnt mean partners dont love each other. So, what the heck?

ileobatojo:

That's what I'm saying!

Thanks for bringing up the mental problem part too o. I read some posters saying they would do the exact same thing because they need space and I can't help wonder which mental issue they have. There's probably something at least mildly off mentally.

And I'm not trying to be rude or insulting o.

Rooneyboy:
He didn’t stop there; he told me it was a taboo for him to share his bed with a menstruating woman or a nursing mother. He also said by his upbringing, a serious minded man doesn’t allow a woman near him all the time. Finally, he told me that he would be the one coming to my room whenever he has the urge to make love.

It is so confusing. Another thing is the issue of joint account. He wants us to have a joint account. I don’t want it due to the experiences of my friends. He is equally adamant about it. I am honestly getting fed up with all these challenges. We dated for two years. I never knew he was this rigid and so traditional.

Shollypopz:

bwahahahaha ......What advice could she possibly want?? Was she blind, deaf, brainless and dumb when she was dating the guy?? Getting separate rooms is not necessarily a big deal if done for the right reasons.

Shollypopz:

The husband in this tale is either a joker, a ritualist or a staunch chauvinist!

Rooneyboy:


I see it differently,

"More respect and love tends to exist if they both stay differently "

van bonattel:

There is no big deal in seperate rooms, because,

The man farts too much at night
The wife snores too loudly
The wife has body odour
The wife/the man dey play karate when asleep
She demands for love making everyday and the young man wants to live till 45 years at least.

andromida: Stranger than fiction. Imagine the audacity! demanding joint accounts after tactically separating himself from her. Locks everywhere to keep who out? strangers? why didn't he discuss all these with her and see if she would have bitten the bullet. He should have looked for a woman who is like him, who likes her "peace" away from him. Advice your friend to avoid having babies for now until she is comfortable with whatever is going down that is if she ever will be. He conned her mehn!

Winneygirl:

Obviously!! That is Y she is complaining. She is soo in love and d respect is swelling her head, she just can't help but complain.

"Oya go to Ur room".

That is wat U tell children!

P.S: Na where She go carry dis stone-age man from?

van bonattel:

There is no place in the story where the man commanded her to her room, well you are right the woman should walk away if she is not comfy wif the sleeping arrangement. Another divorce, we are counting how many homes you people have broken with your advice.

ileobatojo:





Or addicted to online dating, p*orn or e-s*ex. You know lots of "space" is needed for this.

van bonattel:

The girl dated this guy for 2 years and afterwards decided to marry him, if he could please her for 2 years, why not now.

ileobatojo:

Yes, why not now? I mean she clearly is very pleased with him right now isn't she?

van bonattel:

Did you conveniently leave out the p*rn part of where I quoted from?

van bonattel:

Why didn't she ask him in the begining?