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This is not a joke and it is not normal
if it is a regular occurence, it is strange and a real spiritual problem.
i know of at least two ladies who had this problem.one was a spinster and the problem scared away many suitors while the crisis lasted for many years. she was cursed by a lover she jilted many years ago.
she eventually wedded at 40 plus when the problem was solved through divine intervention.
the other lady was married before the problem began and it almost ruined her marriage as her husband abandoned her.
she received healing via divine healing too.
whenever you pee,whats the reaction of your partner?
How can a full grown lady pee during love making?

Dont try it.
She will use you and dump you.
Her husband must be impotent and its a plan known to him.
If you do it,you will regret it in the future.

To some men,it is believed to be safer in the sense that a married woman will be more discreet about it than a spinster.
Also,she will by all means avoid unwanted pregnancies unlike a spinster who may deliberately get into it and keep it.
Many who do it seem to enjoy stealing and eating another man's fruit

you are the one who is in error
you are the one who has refused to leave them.
you are the one who did not totally break with them when going into marriage.
you are the one destroying your own marriage.
where is your marriage vow?
shows that you merely vowed without the intention to abide by it.
i pity your wife.

I married the right person despite the marital challenges i have.
If you believe that you have married the wrong person, it simply means that you are also a wrong person to your partner.
So, you need to check yourself and put right what is wrong in you as a first duty.
Then you will see your partner as the right person.
As simple as it is.

I want to encourage you to learn from my experience.
i have been married for 12 years and have a daughter aged 11.
My wife has a very low sex drive and intimacy occurs once in 2 weeks that is 25 times in 365 days for the past 12 years and the situation has not changed till date and there is no hope that it will change now that am 45 and she is 42.
And there are periods that no intimacy occur for as long as 8-12 weeks at a stretch because she is not feeling like it.
It was 5 yrs into the marriage that i began to have extra affairs to fill the gap as you did.
I quit those flings 2 years ago and have fully adjusted to my wife's one intimacy round in 2 week routine.And if it does not fall on the day(s) she ovulates,then there is no chance for conception and this probably explains why we still have a child in 12 years.
I wish i could have it like twice a week but what can i do than to adjust.
though its painful despite the adjustment,its my marriage and my cross to bear.
But despite the pain,i am happy with her and we have a cordial relationship
So you are obviously luckier than me. its different strokes for different folks in marriage.
Pls take it easy.learn self control in sex and consider her health to be able to live and care for your children.

I suggest that you do not tell her cos it may break your marriage if she cannot absorb it calmly.
i had extra marital affairs in the past because my wife had a low sex drive. when i repented of it and turned away from it, i did tell her and she was calm about it but it did not improve her sexuality anyway, so i was back to square one.
But i had a clear conscience before God and before her.It may not work that way in your situation.

Now that you are guilty of the flings, stop it immediately.Confess to God and ask for His forgiveness.He will forgive you but you must not go back to commit adultery again.If you do,It will condemn your eternity to Hell if Jesus comes to find you in that state.

2ndly, you need to learn self-control.You are highly sexually active as many men are but it seems to me that 3-4 intimacy rounds per day is too highly outrageous.That will be about 90 intimacy rounds in a month.Haba!
Are you both engines rather than flesh? Dont you have a job?You have to learn to adjust otherwise you will both look like 70 yrs old when you are 50.Though there is no standard number, i believe that twice weekly is OK.
But how do you expect a woman with 3 kids in 4 years to still have the energy and the drive for 3 intimacy rounds daily.Do you want to send her to an early grave?

Then talk to her and try to reach a compromise about how often and when to have intimacy but dont over do it.Excessive sex is injurious to health in the long run.
Take it easy o!

Divorce is never an answer.it is strictly forbidden (see Genesis 2:24 and Matthew 19:4)
Marriage is sacred and important to God who created it.It must not be broken,no matter the circumstance because it is an everlasting bond and a blood covenant between the man and his wife.
Marriage is fragile and can break at any time if not carefully handled by the partners.it is not to be treated with levity.it takes two to build a successful marriage and just one person to destroy it.
God instituted marriage but that is not a guarantee that it will be from troubles and challenges.Problems will surely arise to test your faith in that marriage.But you have the assurance that God will still the storms if you are his child and a heaven focussed xtian.
The devil does not want marriages to succeed and he uses marriages as a spring board to destroy men.if the devil wants to get you,he will first attack your marriage to use it to pull you down.this is why you should be prayerful and conduct your marriage in line with the word of God:the man to love his wife and the wife to submit to the husband.Men, listen. if u cannnot love your wife as a first duty,dont expect any submission.it wont work.
If your marriage is troubled, go to God the creator in prayer if you are a sincere xtian and believe that God can solve every impossibility.
what is the foundation of your marriage?if it was built on pre-marital sex or accidental pregnancies,there will be trouble and loads of it and you have to confess to God and ask for His mercy to forgive you and to heal your marriage.
If you divorce your wife or husband,it can determine your eternity and send one to Hell.
Divorce is painful and the price is too heavy to bear.
If you seperate either in the name of divorce or whatever name you give to it, the Bible expects that each partner should remain alone for as long as the other is alive or to be reconciled to the partner.(see 1 Corinth 7:11)
Only death can bring a marriage to an end.
So if you seperate,get ready to condemn yourself to a life of celibacy.
if you truly love your partner as God loves you and gave His life for you,you will forgive yourselves and give the marriage another chance to forge ahead.
Dont ever think of seperating from or divorcing your partner.Solve whatever is the problem between yourselves.
That is my contribution.

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Is that your website or e-mail?
I could not access it.
No phone numbers?

What are the conditions for distributorship?

Hello.i am interested.How can i join and how does a newbie start?
Can you guide me?

yes.
i did drink mine around 2005
You have to drink the first urine in the morning after waking up.Just a half glass.
it worked wonders in my system
Try it.

Met a lady on the net and married her within a year is totally un-african
thats the result for your foolishness. now you can realise the mess you got into by placing the cart before the horse.
Turn the problem to God.

MouthAction is a SIN in Xtiandom
Scripturally,It is sexual perversion
it is unhygienic and disgusting
Why will a man be licking a woman's vagina?
Pls desist from it

The fact is that most smokers really want to give up but cannot because they are hooked and enslaved to the dreaded monster, Mr Nicotene.
Their inability to quit the grave anti-social habit makes them find reasons to justify their enslavement to Nicotene.
i was a heavy smoker who chain-smoked for 9 years and by the grace of God,i finally quit on sept 15,1990 and since that glorious date, i have not touched a cigarette
Smoking is one of the most dangerous addiction a human can indulge in.There are no benefits but grave dangers to health.
Before sept 15,1990 i made countless failed attempts to stop.
Every smoker should make up his mind to stop at once and for all times and have not looked back since then.
pls stop smoking,Mr Smoker.

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John 14:6 says that JESUS IS THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE
Acts 4:12 says that there is no other way to God given to men apart from the name of Jesus Christ
John 3:3 says that we must be born again before we can inherit the kingdom of God
Revelation 21:8 says also that the unbelieving will have a part in the lake of fire

A non-christian will not go to the Heaven that the Bible is talking about.There may be other heavens in other religions which their members may find themselves.To the best of my knowledge,there is only one Heaven and no non-xtian will get there

2ndly, not every xtian will get there.Only those xtians who did the will of the Father(Ecclesiastes 12:13)(Luke 9:62) will get to heaven
Xtianity is not a religion.it is a way of life and a personal,individual relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ.It is individual and personal because everybody will stand before Christ and give his own account on the last day.(Matthew 25:32-46)
Further arguments are vain words(Ephesians 3:5-6)
The bible is very clear on who will get into heaven(Matthew 24:13)

You dare ask where you are going for not believing in God?
Have you read Revelation 21:8 which says that the unbelieving will have their part in the lake of fire?
In your own interest,repent of your folly and turn to God.
You have the chance now because only the living can repent and there is no second chance in the grave.
I can see that you have allowed the god of this world to seduce your heart away from God.
REPENT NOW or else you will bite your fingers in HELL FIRE.
where are the philosophers of this age?where are the atheists?where is Hobbes,the celebrated author and atheist?
They are burning in HELL.

there is no such thing as a reformed ogboni fraternity.
Ogboni is a satanic cult.
Its members are mainly the high,the mighty,the powerful in the society
it is an evil society devoted to the worship of satan and many modern day church clergy are prominent members there
You want to join?You are playing with your eternity in Hell Fire.You may not have the grace to get out of it.
Stay away completely from the cult.Dont be fooled or deceived.

what is going on here?
there is no basis for an argument.
the bible is the word of God and it is the final authority
Before God, Pre-marital sex and fornication are the same: unlawful sex.
Sex was created and designed to be expressed within marriage, by a couple in a lawful marital setting as God designed it to be (Galatians 1:27-28)
So, any sex outside the context that God designed be it premarital sex or sex with any other man/woman apart from your lawfully wedded partner is a SIN before God.it becomes unlawful sex whether u believe it or not.
it is not how u define it to suit your interest that matters but what God says in his word that it is.
God does not not change neither will his words go unfulfilled.
Your definition or interpretation of fornication and premarital sex outside biblical context is what God calls vain words in Eph 3:6.
We are in the last day and Jesus is coming soon very soon
Rather than face the basic issue which is how to inherit eternity, men are busy celebrating sin even so shamelessly on the internet.
Why challenge the word of God, propagating philosophy, heresy and distorting what the sacred scriptures says about pre-marital sex and fornication.?
Believe it or not,premarital sex&fornication remains sexual immorality/uncleanness before God.it is a destruction of God's temple which are bodies are and whoever destroys God's temple here on earth,God will destroy in Hell.
What u sow is what u will reap.
stop distorting God's word

We need no argument here.
Premarital sex is sin.
Fornication is sin.
Both are the same and mean unlawful sex.
The argument above is in its totality, vain.(Ephesians 3:6)
Whether you call it premarital sex or fornication, the Bible makes it absolutely clear that all unlawful sex ie sex before marriage/sex outside marriage/sex with any other person apart from your lawfully wedded partner is SIN.
You may define the word fornication to suit your own interest but the Bible makes it clear that fornication/premarital sex and all forms of unlawful sex is unchastity (1 corinth 6:18 & 10:.
Sex was designed and created for marriage to be expressed by a couple in a lawful marital setting (Galatians 1:27-28) .
Any sex outside the confine of a lawful marriage is SIN before the Almighty God though it may be acceptable before men.
Your definition, and how you may see it outside God's word, does not matter.
what matters and will stand the test of time is what God says about it because God does not change and his words will not go unfulfilled.
So,its God's definition that matters.
So beware so that you fall not into error because the wrath of God is coming very soon upon the children of disobedience.(Eph 5:3-6)
Premarital sex and/or fornication are sexual immorality and uncleanness before GOD and in 1 corinthians 6:9, God says that no fornicator or sexually immoral will inherit his kingdom.
We are in the perilous time already.This is why we have such vain and baseless controversies all over.
Rather than face the basic issue which is the question of how you will  inherit eternity, people are bold enough to shamelessly celebrate sin even on the internet.
Why are we challenging God's word,by distortion and heresies?
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom
JESUS IS COMING SOON!
REPENT NOW FOR TOMORROW MAY BE TOO LATE!
The decision is yours.

THE REAL THING : JESUS IS COMING SOON.
ARE YOU READY TO MEET HIM?IS YOUR HOUSE IN ORDER?
OR ARE YOU JUST POSTING REPLIES FOR THE SAKE OF WHATEVER?
RECONCILE WITH GOD NOW BEFORE ITS TOO LATE

Hello madam,
But u said that u are a xtian and a faithful one too.faithful to your husband and faithful to God,our creator.
i am a xtian man&also married and i will tell you the truth.
what u are requesting for is ADULTERY that will take you to HELL FIRE.Dont try it and dont dwell on it.
Adultery takes many forms but for want of space,i will mention about 20 as follows:

Going to bed with a man/woman apart from ur wife/husband
Touching any woman or man for d purpose of attaining sexual fulfilment
Allow any man/woman to touch u in order to attain sexual fulfilment
Masturbation
Kissing a woman or man secretly on d hand,jaw or lips
Embracing a woman or man secretly
Squeezing a woman or man's hand secretly
Touching any part of the opposite sex's body eg hand,face or back with a lustful desire
Touching any part of the opposite sex's body without a lustful desire but doing it in such ways that u dont want any one to know about it
Writing a love letter to a man/woman that u would want to keep secret
Calling a man/woman a pet name that u dont want any to know exists,showing that the relationship is cloudy
Cherishing a letter written by a man/woman but dont want anyone to know about it.
Paying a visit to any woman/man but dont want anyone to know about it
Receiving a visit from a woman/man but dont want anyone to know
Reading immoral stories
Watching immoral films
Gazing at nude pictures of men/women who has his/her body or part exposed
Deliberately looking at d opposite sex while nude or when he/she exposes sensitive parts of d body
Imagining yourself having a sexual affair with other man/woman
Speaking immoral or suggestive words to others

Your intended relationship will definitely take some of the xteristics above which means that u are going deliberately into SIN with your eyes wide open
DONT TRY IT cos you may not have d grace to get out of it.
You have a marital problem.Why dont u go to God in prayer.He is d author of marriages and the heart of your husband is in His hand.With God Nothing is impossible(luke 1;37).Nothing is too hard for the Lord to do (Jeremiah 35;27)
Your desire will only make matters worse for u b4 ur husband and before God who is going to judge us all on d last day.
Dont allow d devil to destroy your testimony.God did not say that we will have a trouble-free existence,but that we will have a safe landing if we trust wholly in Him.

You are not the only xtian woman/man in that situation.its a minor issue.Dont overreact and do what you will regret.Adultery will burn your fingers.
Take d problem to God and he will turn things around for your favour.He has never failed and will not fail in your situation
There is no such thing as an intimate relationship with a man without sex.Men are wolves by nature and only the new birth in Christ can trans
form a wolf to a sheep.
Relate with fellow xtian sisters devoted to the Lord Jesus.Dont go seeking counsel from ungodly sisters who will lead you astray.
God's warnings about adultery can be found in Leviticus 20:10;Matthew 5:27-28; Gal 5:19-21; Eph 5:3-6;Rev 22"14-15
Be warned and take the warning very seriously because your eternity depends on it: JESUS IS COMING VERY SOON !

we ought to caution ourselves and exhibit maturity.
why will a poster on this forum use abusive language on other posters?.
i believe that the purpose of nairaland forum is to share ideas and experiences;to benefit others from our wealth of information, ideas and experiences and help others one way or the other who may be in need of help that will move their lives&businesses forward.
it is disgusting reading abuses and insults here.i believe that there is none below 18 years posting replies on this forum
we should be civil in manners and attitude.
i have benefited a lot from the posts on this forum.
thank you all.